Gina McGowan
Gina McGowan 25 Oct 2020

His girls. Have any of you had to cut your guest list down because of...

His girls. Have any of you had to cut your guest list down because of covid and if so was it easy or did u find it hard. I'm scared I have to cut mine down. And who to invite then. I'm getting married 16th Oct 2021. So a bit nervous. About the restrictions.

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UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I’m getting married August 2021 and if it’s still restricted I will be postponing, I cannot cut the list without missing off important people, x

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I've already postponed mine once and said if I won't do it again, im just going to have my parents and his parents there if needs be

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I’m 1st October 2021 and I’m hoping there will not be the restrictions by then! Wishful thinking maybe but it’s a year away who knows.

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We cut ours from 120 to 25, 50 and 100 (Irish numbers) it was hard to choose some people over others but you feel better after and the guests will understand. We are hoping for 100 but we've postponed from August so hoping February will be better as a result of the current restrictions. Hopefully you can have the wedding you dreamed of 🤞

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We're getting married August 2021. We have said we can probably just about manage 30 but, any less, we will have to postpone 😪 xx

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We went from 100 guests to 14. Got married 5th Sept. We had parents, our children. My husbands Nana, Sister and Best Man. I asked my Sister in Law to be my witness as couldn't have my friend. We had other family waiting outside and a few friends turned up to watch us go in and come out. The vicar set up zoom for us so all of our friends and family that couldn't be inside with us could still watch and be part of our day. We had a lovely day and don't regret going ahead. The most important thing for us was that we got married. It wasn't an easy choice but all worked out in the end! Good luck with whatever you choose to do x

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Yep..........getting married on Friday, cut from 80 down to 12 😳🙄🙈

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We have said if ours in June 2021 has to be restricted we are still going to go ahead even if its just 30 people. We dont want to postpone again. The way we look at it we can get the main majority there and with everything that's going on surely people will understand. If they don't then that's their problem, things are hard enough for anyone getting married at the minute. Ultimately its up to you and your partner. Do whatever makes you happy. If having to cut it back is causing stress and upset then maybe see if postponing again will be the best THING. Fingers crossed things might be more normal by then for you ❤️ x

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We are September 2021 and we have got 4 versions of the guest list essentially. Our full list is 120 and then we went through and eliminated peoples in stages so first cuts we made were age under 18, second was partners we didn’t know/didn’t know well, third was those who would have to travel a long distance and then it was people we thought wouldn’t mind not being able to come. We got it down to a certain number and have agreed if it’s any less than that we will postpone. It’s around the 60 mark so we are hopeful by then it will be ok xx

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We should have been getting married this NYE, we’re now next June... fingers crossed!
We’ve cut ours from 80 to 40. We’ve literally just said close friends and family that we see on a regular basis!
Everyone has been so understanding and we’ll just organise to celebrate with different people as and when we can!

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I am getting married on Saturday have gone from 100 down to just my parents (sadly the grooms parents passed away a number of years ago)

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We moved ours from August to May and hoping we can still go ahead but with a big immediate family we want the 70 we’ve paid for - so will prob have to postpone again 😟

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We had to cut our list from 120 to 15 we’re getting married 22nd December this year. In all honesty it was easier for us to strip it right back to 15 than it was to start uninviting and choosing between guests. This way we just have our parents, kids and our siblings x

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Sounds a bit ruthless but we gave everyone we’d sent save the dates to a number (obviously the guests don’t know their number its just for us) but the number relates to the order of importance in them being part of our big day. Whether the numbers are 15, 30 or more we know exactly who can come and who can’t. We still are holding out for the 75 we’d invited but this was our way of preparing for every scenario. X

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

So I got married before covid but we have limited numbers for the venue we wanted.

We did close friends and family and in some cases no plus one.

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I'm getting married in September 2021 and I'm not planning to cut any of my guests.... I'd much rather postpone the whole thing than cut anyone.

I'm not even thinking about making a decision to postpone until Easter at the earliest......

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We planned for 150 but have written down a reduced list for 30 and 50 already. We realised the key people would be there and people will understand. We don’t want to move by 2 years (planned April 2020, then August 2020 and now April 2021)

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Yep found it really easy just immediate family went from 100 to 15 no bridesmaids or groomsmen. Made everything much simpler and cheaper tbh. 25 days to go

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We're getting married 28th October 2021 and we're not worrying about it yet. If we have to cut it down we're just having immediate family, parents, siblings, grandparents

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We got married in August, supposed to have 30 guests at our actual marriage but Good old Boris screwed it up 24 hours before. So ended up having both our parents and a witness each. You've got to be ruthless. You can't feel guilty. Just do what's best for you.

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We get married 4th June 2021 so your wedding is still a way off yet I wouldn't stress or worry about it atm if we have to postpone we will cos it means everything to us to have all our families and friends there

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We got married last Thursday and had to cut down from about 60 to 13, we found it difficult yes but also not so much, we did it as fairly as we could and had blood related close family only (siblings, parents, grandparents etc) everyone else was very understanding so they made it very easy for us but it's not a nice thing to have to do.

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We are getting married July 2021 and have found it quite easy to reduce our numbers. Originally 80 day guests and 120 evening we now have a list for 20 and a list for 30. Immediate family if 20 and closest friends also if 30

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Can I just say how incredible I think all you ladies are who are having to go through this. I count myself extremely lucky (I got married last year) and I honestly think I would’ve had a breakdown had this happened to me. The time, the money, the planning. I’m genuinely gutted for every single one of you. I hope you get the best day you possibly can. Wishing you all have a magical day when it comes ♥️ xxx

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We are getting married 3rd July 2021 with originally 75 people day 140 night...we have just redone our guest list for 30 just incase...it's a definite no for 15. We will be sad if we have to restrict it at all but will go ahead with 30 as it's our ten year anniversary the day we get married and I really don't want to have to reschedule on such a special anniversary day xxxx

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Kelsey Moseley ideas for you, need a back up plan

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I cut it down to 2! 😂 I found it really hard to just have a few so we sneak married without telling anyone... it was really good fun! We'll have the big party at a later date...

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Blimey....I wouldn't worry too much just yet. We got married 10/10/2020 and had 15 and it was lovely.

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I am marrying my best friend august 21 and i am now worrying............ will be good to see what people are doing and how far in advance are you making decision to move it???? I have a private venue and a registrar that will only change once..........

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

We've changed our wedding to Cyprus then a big party when we get home...the changing restrictions were stressing me too much

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Im getting married 2nd of October 2021 i am concerned that I'll have to cut numbers but we are still going ahead with it either way

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

Ours is August 2021 but tbh trying not to stress yet see what new year brings hoping we don't need to alter I'm thinking by this time things will hopefully be better

UKbride Member 26 Oct 2020

I dont think I can cut my list down enough as qe both have large familiea, I think postponing will be our only option. We are may 2021 😔

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

We get married in July 2021. I literally started with immediate family and partners, bridesmaids and groomsmen and had like 2/3 spaces left. Dont forget camera mean or vicars etc not employee's of the venue count in you guest total! If it is 15 we are literally down to parents, brothers and partners

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

I wouldn’t stress yourself yet as you still have a year. 😊

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

We had to cut ours down to 30 in September as that was the limit we could have. We had close family both sides and 1friend each. It’s your day no body else’s so if anyone gets funny sod them. It was the best day because it was small and intimate

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

That's my alternate wedding date! Let's hope we get the day we want 🙏

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

Our guest list originally was for 60 guests, 42 were able to attend but then we had to cut down to 30 or less so we decided on 16 in total which was our sons and immediate family only,we had a lovely quiet informal wedding which the hotel made sure was a lovely day,as our original guest list wasn't huge,we still had a lovely wedding day and couldn't have asked for more,hopefully by next year things will be a bit easier! 🙂

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

My wedding day is the same day as yours, we are supposed to be having 70 in the day and 120 in the night, I'm just hoping it can go ahead,we do have nearly a year tho 🤞😩

UKbride Member 27 Oct 2020

That's a year away, the rules are changing every week.

UKbride Member 28 Oct 2020

I initially had 80 on my list. I have now narrowed it down to 30, 50 and 60 pending what the numbers will be in June 2021. It was hard but my gran is elderly and I would rather disappoint a few extended family to have her there with me xx

UKbride Member 28 Oct 2020

We’ve booked for July but I’m waiting until next year to do invitations because I don’t know if we will be able to invite everyone that we want to🤦🏾‍♀️

UKbride Member 30 Oct 2020

I am getting married on the 8th April 2021. Postponed from March 2020. Its 8 days after the 6 months our PM has said wedding numbers have to be cut so what do we do? Need a crystal ball. 😳

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