So, we have decided to go ahead with out wedding and 25 guests but now me...

You get to choose 6 guests each simple

You can't not invite his sister she's been there his entire life regardless of how close they are now.

Friends may come and go but she will always be his sister 🤷‍♀️ and hopefully your sister in law for life too

Why not just split the number and pick that many each 🤷‍♀️ then you both might have to compromise?

You have to invite his sister,unfortunately family over friends x

I thought it was 15 people to attend a wedding including you & the person marrying you?

The rules are 15 people including the couple...

We got married in August and immediate family was priority followed by very close friends. We each chose who we wanted there equally so it was fair. Xx

It's 15 people

Im not being rude here but lets be honest we all have closer friends sometimes than family... some family are only there when it suits them... depends on how close he is to her 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s 25. If that is the case in feb we will have both siblings on each side parents and 2 close friends each. Reception at later date.

12 members of our immediate family are coming to ours on the 31st of october. So sad our friends cant be there but they all understand and we are going to have a big party when we can have everyone together ❤

I wouldn't want family there who don't bother with me or my partner at the best of times, never mind when its limited numbers 🙄🙄🙄

We got married in September, having only our parents there was the best thing ever, no drama with anyone

I’ve literally just had my wedding and we only had my family there, there were none of the grooms family at all, and we had an amazing wedding!
I say you just have who you want, family isn’t what you’re born into, it’s who you chose. There are a lot of our family we don’t see so didn’t invite, but I would always invite my best friends because they are my family!
Hope that helps!

Half your guests and let him invite who he wants with his alloted guests.

Id say family comes before friends personally

They say treat your friends like family and your family like friends. I know who I'd invite 💗

Its only 15 guest. Have I missed something ?

You can have a mix of family and friends, just to point out Fiancée is female engaged woman and Fiancé is a Male engaged man as i noticed you spelt your Fiancé in the female version I'm sure it was a typo but just pointing it out to you thats all 😊

Its only 15 people atm things might change depends when youre getting married. I think the best thing is to pick 6 people each which I know is tough. Hope you can both decide and you have a great day xxx

It's his sister, unless you don't talk at all, you can't really not invite them if he wants her there

What about splitting the number of guests fairly between you?? So 12 each?

Can you not just have half the guests each then it’s up to you who’s in your half? That’s what we will do if restrictions are still in place by our date!

Need to invite his sister.It means alot to your partner.friends would understand.

I think you should both have 12 each to include and then agree on one mutually.... If your friends don't fit in your 12 then that's life but if they do then that's up to you. In my opinion if you aren't fair now you never will be 🤷🏼‍♀️

Close friends they will always be there for you.

Definitely only 15 Inc bride and groom!! Were getting married next month and that's all we are allowed!!!

In this situation can you have 12 guests each,he can use his ‘12’ to invite family and you can use your ‘12’ to invite your friends

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its about you 2 not the ppl there just saying

Choose 6 each as that's only fair. That way he gets his sister there and you can alienate your family by choosing your friends

I thought only 15 guests were allowed 🤔

I think your allowed 25 in Northern Ireland

I didnt invite some family and that was before covid 😂😂 the word family doesn't entitle them an invite in my eyes! Xxx

Yep 25 in Ireland but no wedding reception from Monday

We just had my daughter's wedding and we had only 12 guests to be honest we had an amazing weekend strange but it was lovley x ♥️

If it were your family you'd rather invite friends in place of then fine, but if he wants his family there you have no right to not let him or to tell him that's wrong. You may not be that close in your opinion but if he's saying no it's pretty final, it's his own family.

I think it's fine cutting out cousins ect but not a sister no matter how much you do or don't see them

How are you allowed 25 guests and I have to make do with 15?

We did immediate family first (siblings Inc husbands and children and parents) then did wedding party and then tried to do the rest as an equal split. We don't talk or see some of our siblings often but still would not pick friends ahead of them. If its a mutual decision (you both feel the same) then that's different. But if he wants her there then I think so should be invited!

My wife and I cut the amount in half pretty much, then "my" seats where my choice, so my friends and family.

You both have the right to invite the people in your life you feel is important.

The most fair option you can do is split the number of guests between you. You pick your half and he picks his. Thats what we did when we did our list. That way you both get who you want there xx

Regardless if you see them more or not it’s still his sister. One of you choose 13 guests and the other 12, fairest way. Imagine if he told you to not invite one of your siblings so he can have his mates (if you have any) you would be gutted x

When and where are you getting married? I hate to say this, but the limit is 15 people now, not 30 (I’m getting married at the end of the month, and I feel your pain ok this!) x

Easy said than done but try not to argue! There are so many things along the journey of planning a wedding - it’s no easy task! Like the above comment make it a fair split x

I thought it's only 15 guests now. And you choose who you want their, being family doesn't always mean you should include them in your wedding, sometimes friends are there for you more than your own family members. Remember its your day, who will make it better for you, who do you want to see there. Good luck!

Stick with parents only perhaps ? X

It's 25 guests in northern Ireland.. I believe. (I may be wrong, but sure I read that somewhere) x

Elope! We thought f**k it and decided to move up our honeymoon and get married in Japan instead

You don't want to start a marriage with an argument. If you're so determined to have friends over family then it would be better to wait a year or more when restrictions are not in place and have all the guests you want to have!

We only had 6 guests, my dad and brother his parents and brothers. We got married last Monday. It was videoed and photographed so family and friends can watch. We went for who we wanted there everyone else understood.

We had a limit of 110 and split it 50/50, it was our own choice what to do with our own half and ended up with only 90 in the end.
I def recommend taking 12 each and then you can fight to the death over the last single 😂

just remember the wedding is for both of you so maybe pick 12 each?

We have said parents and siblings only. (Between us that is 10)
People important to you should be who are there, not just because they are related

Imagine your h2b telling you your siblings couldn't go cos he'd rather his friends go, im sorry but regardless how close you are or not, family should come first

I'm in the UK and we got married Saturday so had 15.....my husbands parents where in lockdown in Wales but where given permission to attend the registry office ceremony only, so when they went 6 friends replaced them for the reception and it was perfect. My own family didn't attend , my parents chose to go away for the weekend with their friends so it was really lovely to have the people we wanted and not those we where expected to invite.

Runaway, it saves you a headache trying to keep everyone happy

Just the guests between u that u invite who u want on your list

Maybe if your willing to make your h2b choose over he’s sister and a friend it’s not the time for you to get married yet.

Half yours half his pick who you want problem solved good luck ❤️

We recently got married and actually split the reception into two, family came to the church and left the reception at 630 and then close friends came from 7pm to celebrate with us in the evening, meant we could include more people that we cared about

Stand your ground. You’ll only regret it otherwise.
Myself and other brides I know have few wedding regrets other than their guest list/inviting people out of a false sense of obligation. Good luck.

We split the numbers equally , it is a tough one, don’t let it be the cause of arguments as times are tough enough, the day is about you guys . My fiancé is a lot closer to his friends than family and while I probably am to..... I am feeling more obliged to choose family members but that’s my issue 😂 . Halve the numbers then it’s down to each of you to Pick your side. X

I'm with your husband on this one I'm afraid. Family is family! I'm not close to my brother like I used to be but if my partner turned round and said he is wanting to invite extra friends over my family then I would annoyed with him. Your friends could video call in on the day.

In some cases, friends are closer than family. I'd find it hard to chose. Why would you want someone at your wedding, that you never see over someone really special, who has been there for you, in tough times? Good luck.

Invite none and have a big after party when you can

Aw I know easier said than done but try not to let it be the cause of an argument, this year has been hard enough for us all.
Split the numbers equally and you invite your half and he can invite his. If that doesn't suit either of you then maybe just have an intimate wedding with the two of you (maybe you could have a live feed for those who can't attend?) or if having everyone there means so much, perhaps you should wait?
I'm got married in 2017 but if I'm honest and I was put in this situation I would probably wait. We wanted our day to be how we imagined it. We had already waited 10 years to get married, so we probably would have postponed for a couple more years to make sure we could safely have everyone we wanted there. Do what feels right for you both. I hope you manage to come to an agreement 🙂♥️ X

Have 12 guests each. You pick who you want for your 12 and him the same.