My mum passed away 2 months ago. My partner and myself were originally thinking of doing a small ceremony in front of my mum so she could be included but with my mum gone we will have to revise our plan. What can I do in my wedding to include my mum even though she is no longer with us? Thank you
Get a picture of her on a broach and put it on your flowers x have a picture of her up at the reception xx
I got married on Saturday. My mum died just over a year ago. I wore her rings on my right hand and my something blue was a pendant with her finger print, on a baby blue ribbon. My sister then left my bouquet on her grave for me
I have a bouquets charm with a photo of my nan and grandad on it on mu flowers x
My daughter had a memory table with photos of family members that had passed
I had a pic of my dad on my flowers xx
If the venue allows it you could light lanterns x
I’ll wear a photo of my mum in a locket.
I'm getting married in June 2021,i lost my mum who was my best friend in December last year - we are having a memory table in the ceremony room which will then get moved to our reception room, it will have a framed picture of my mum, her corsage she would of had on that day and a couple of other bits xx I'm also having a charm on my bouquet with her picture in it xx
I had a photo of her on her wedding day on the front table where we got married, and my braidsmaid gave me a small picture to tie on ny flowers, it was lovely
Set up a memorial table amd a chair with her photo , wear som of her jewellery to include it in your wedding outfit x
I wore my mums sapphire earings as my something blue and i have her wedding ring and engagement ring. we had pictures of her at the reception and my venue was directly opposite the cemetry where my mum is so i popped out and visited her and place my bouquet on her grave xx
So sorry for your loss. My mum passed 13 years ago now. I've decided I'm having her favourite flowers as a single centre piece of my bouquet and I'm hoping to wear a piece of her jewelry somewhere so she's close to me. All mine and my partner's grandparents have passed so we're doing a little memorial table with pictures to have them there with us x
My dad passed away at the beginning of July, we are keeping his chair on the top table but having a little sign saying reserved for FOB whose in heaven. I’m also having a ring made from his ashes x
I lost my mum 3weeks before our wedding, it was too raw for me to have memory table. I wore one of her rings and a picture locket attached to my bouquet handle. My husband raised a toast to her in his speech. Mum had seen my dress/venue/venue and I know she was there with me. ❤
I wore my nans engagement ring on my right hand and had a frame of those who couldn't share our day with us with a message. Xxx
I had charms with photos of my gran and grandad and both my husbands grandads on my flowers
My niece incorporated a necklace that my mum had worn in her flowers
Leave a seat for her and maybe flowers and a candle? 💗
I was hoping my grandma would still be around when I get married but unfortunately it wasn’t meant to be... I plan on saving a seat for her during the ceremony and still setting a place for her for the reception meal. I was also allowed by my granddad to take whatever of her jewellery I wanted and fully intend on wearing a few of those on my day as my something old and something blue due to a gem in one of the necklaces
I’ve lost both my parents before our wedding and we are having songs that they loved so they can still be with us. One walking down the aisle and one to dance too we are also having their photos at the table x
Some people have had a chair for their loved one with a framed photo on it in the ceremony
Light a candle (her favourite colour) in ceremony. xx
Lots of people do "With us in spirit" tables for those who have gone. My partner and I are having one which will be next to the top table so they are near. Some people wear jewellery that belonged to their lost loved ones or have their favourite flowers. It's completely up to you what you do. Your connection to your mother is unique, and I'm sure you will know what the right way to connect her to your wedding will be.
I included mum in quite a few ways: I wore a pair of her earrings and her favourite necklace, had a photo of her on her wedding day next to the cake, and had her favourite flowers (yellow roses) in my bouquet (big one at the top facing me, and little ones dotted throughout) and in the top table centrepiece. Our florist also made her a button hole (or whatever they are called for women) with a really long stem and ribbon - we had it on the ceremony table then placed it on her grave afterwards. I also walked down the aisle to her favourite piece of classical music (pachelbel’s Canon)
We had a memory tree at the end of our top table with photos of all those who couldn’t be with us.
Both of my grans were no longer with us so I wore my gran’s ring and my nan’s earrings. They had also left me some jewellery which I would never wear (not my taste) so I actually sold it and used the money to buy my wedding ring. They were not only with me on the day but every day which they both would have loved.
Sorry to hear about your mum ❤️. My mam passed away 3 years before I got married. It was still very raw knowing she wasn't going to be there on my wedding day. I got a picture in a locket and had it attached to my bouquet. That way it made me feel like she was with us. My husband also included her in his speech which I didn't know about. I used my mams vail too as my something old xxx
I pinned my Granny's engagement and wedding ring to the back of my bouquet as my something old and borrowed from my Mum. My husband lost his mother a year before our wedding too so I had a necklace made for him engraved with his mother's handwriting which he wore under his shirt and I borrowed her favourite bracelet to wear on the day. Neither of us were keen to publically show anything (so as to not upset some people who were still struggling with the recent loss) so we kept these things personal to us which was the best way for us as a couple to acknowledge those individuals. There's no wrong answer to how you do it, just as long as it makes you and your partner happy. Xx
So saddened to hear of your loss💛 as a Celebrant I always ask who the family would like to have included in words memories and tribute moments during the ceremony and ofcourse gently respect the time and space for their love to be "present" with a symbolic lighting of a memory candle if wished whilst saying a little poem about love everlasting. Ashes inclusion jewellery or lockets attached to bouquets and a board with everyone's wedding pics on, is lovely but (little tip from me) don't place it in your immediate eyeline whilst saying your vows...it can be too emotional and distracting. Thinking of you both and know that their love, will be "with you" on your special day #creatingmemories 💛
Have small charm with her pic attached to you bouquet or seen into your dress lining
I got a photo locket for my bouquet, and her broach to pin it on x
So sorry about your mum ❤️ I lost my mum 21 years ago , when I got married last year I had a clutch bag made from my mums wedding jacket & I wore her veil. I also had some ivory freesia in my bouquet ( freesia were her favourite flowers) xxxxxx ❤️
I had a small picture in my bouquet along with one of my father in law. We also had a place setting for them. There was a memory table with a picture of them both on their respective wedding days. X
When I got married I had lost my mum 14 yrs previous. She had never met my husband which I still find really sad. My husband has also lost his dad so we had a candle lit for them both during our ceremony and straight after we released balloons in their memory with everyone at the wedding outside to watch. Both my mum and my father in law died from cancer so our favours were cancer research pins for everyone. They both were included in our speeches and I had a locket with a picture of my mum in it on my bouquet and my husband had the same with his dad pinned to the inside of his jacket and the day after our wedding I went to the garden of remembrance and put my flowers there for my mum. It was a hard day without them both but just know they are there by your side ❤
So sorry for your loss, I'm having bouquet charms made with pictures of the loved ones I have lost so they are with me when I walk down the aisle
Keep her chair , she will always be there , maybe not in body, but my god she will be there in soul, no mummy will miss her daughters big day x 💗
I placed a framed photo of my mother on an empty seat in the front row for the ceremony and then had it placed at the top table for the reception. That worked for as it felt like she still had a “space” just for her. There’s no right or wrong way, you’ll know what’s best for you x
My grandad was supposed to walk me down the aisle but passed away suddenly. I changed my colour theme slightly to include his favourite colour, I had the word Grandad sewn into my veil and I had his cufflinks sewn into my dress. Nobody else knew, but I did and it meant that he was with me x
Sorry to hear about your mum, I plan to have my mother in laws favourite flavours as part of my theme for my wedding so we feel she will be included x
I lost my grandma this year, which has been the hardest thing to deal with & I'm having a patch custom made in her hand writing so it can be sewn into my dress xx
Bless you, I lost my Mum at the end of April, I’m having some of her ashes put into my wedding ring and I’m going to have her wedding ring sewn into my dress somehow so she will be there with me. X
So sorry for your loss ♥️, I carried my nan and my aunt in a charm tied to my bouquet, so they could walk with me down the isle , I also gave one to my mum, sister and my other aunt, so they were with them too ♥️♥️♥️♥️
So sorry for your loss
Dad passed away just 4 weeks ago
Our wedding was postponed bk in june xx
So sorry for your loss ❤ I lost my mum 2 yrs ago and will be having her picture on my bouquet, a memory table with her picture alongside pictures of other relatives that have passed away. I will also have her urn on that memory table so she is physically there- some people may find it odd but I don't want to have my wedding without her there.
Sorry for your loss I was the same with my nan she was desperate to see me married and she died of cancer and then my granddad too passed! I wore my nans jewellery that she wore on her wedding day and also had a black cat that she had in her bouquet tied into mine! Also at the reception by my wedding cake I had a lovely picture of my grandparents on their wedding day watching and my partner did the same with a picture of his grandparents on their wedding day so they were all watching us have a good time X
I had a photo of my mum in my locket that was tied round my flowers. I also wore some of her jewellery and in the church we had a candle lite for both of our mums. Xxxx
I lost my dad a couple of years before I got married. I had little shoe charms with his photo on to make sure he was still with me when I walked down the aisle, we had his favourite song played on a harp in the church and also framed photos of him and my late father in law placed on a table and memory candles with their names on which we lit as part of the ceremony. I also had a miniature version of my bouquet made which I placed on my dad's grave. We also had a prayer said for them and other loved ones who were no longer with us during the ceremony too and they were mentioned during the wedding speeches. It was important to me to have them remembered on our wedding day.
My husband had lost his mother and he didn’t want an empty chair or anything where it maybe questioned so I had a picture of her on my bouquet and he had her wedding ring made into his wedding ring so both of us knew she was part of our day without feeling upset!
I had a sign that said because my mum was in heaven, a bit of heaven was there on my wedding day. Had it up on the top table so felt she was near me, as sure she would be watching over us. Also had an Elton John song during the ceremony as he was my mum's favourite singer, as she should have been giving me away. Hopefully you find a way to have your mum with you on your day x
Sorry for your loss. I’m doing a bouquet picture, you can get them online. That way she can walk down the aisle with me x
Sorry to hear of your loss 😢
I lost my mum when I was 11 (23 years ago) and on my wedding day 2 years ago, I had a pendant on my wedding bouquet with her photo on it and I reserved a seat for her with a sign in the church.
After the ceremony I went to her grave (got married at the church where she buried, in the area I grew up in) and I got photos of me placing my bouquet on her grave 😍
It will never be the same as having her there, but for me all the little touches made a massive difference ❤️ x
A friend had a picture of her parents in a lock that was attached to her bouquet so they could walk down the aisle with her.
Another had a picture of her Dad and a candle lit where he would have been sat.
Good luck! I hope you find a way to include her that is right for you x
What a lovely idea!xx
My niece had an empty chair at the top table . A beautiful balloon with name on it and filled with confetti . I got my wedding car to go via the cemetery to put my bouquet on grave. Hope this gives you some assistance xx
Sentiment Pendants I've been looking at these. Think the idea is subtle, respectful and beautiful
You could buy a small open pocket and put a photo of your mum inside. Some people put them on the back of shoes or tack to dress this way mum with you always on your special day xxx
Tash that is lovely thing to do xxx
You can get a memory photo locket that you can put on your bouquet or inside your dress or shoes ect so mom is with you all day. There are little table and chairs that say you may not be here but I've saved you a seat. That on a table with photo and candle maybeh
I had a lantern with a candle in it for my dad. The candle had angel wings (got them on Not on the High street I think?) with the lantern I placed a card that I wrote for my dad, and then on my bouquet as my something blue I had a picture of my dad in a charm with blue beads on it (bought on Etsy).
Sorry for your loss my friend lost her mom a couple months before her wedding, she also wanted to include her but didn’t want to make the wedding sad either , so at the meal table they had a spare chair and a name place with her name , her husband done his speech and spoke about her it was beautiful and sad at the same time and a fitting tribute
You could get married by her grave x