ive recently had a huge fallen out with my bridesmaid over a post that wasn't even about her so I just cut her out my life and blocked her every way possible and i feel i am the bad person am i wrong for doing this
If someone is poisonous they are better out of your life than in. Negativity like that is not good for your own mental health. If she had approached you and asked if it was about her and gave you a chance to explain and understand, then things may be better.
She obviously wasnt that good of a friend to start with!
Be open for her to apologise and forgive in time. But dont feel bad for make a choice to ensure your mental safety x
No not at all, if she can’t be happy for you then that’s not your problem
It depends on her side of the story too. You might be, or you might not.
Have you sat down with her and spoke about it? This whole coronavirus has has a massive impact on all our lives. Maybe it's effected her mental health not being able to have contact with her family and friends and she's just abit snappy. I would speak to her it could be a misunderstanding that's blew out of proportion.
I fell out with one of my bridesmaids and cut her...downside is, she lives with one of the best men so I still have to have her at the wedding...just not talk to her lol 😂
Jeez she was going to be your bridesmaid but now you have blocked her completely - did she really do something so unforgivable?
My bridesmaid totally turned against me 2 weeks before my wedding because I wouldn't buy her new shoes. Looking back it was a blessing. Was not in my wedding is not in my life and all I year about her now makes me so glad
It depends maybe try and talk to her and find out why she thought it was about her , if she continues to be bitchy and awful then you can continue to keep them out of your lives
My best friend was going to be my bridesmaid until she insisted that her parents, brother and sister were invited to the entire wedding. Told her no but may manage in evening as we had already done wedding lists. She went off on one with me and called me all sorts. Told her no end off and she refused to be bridesmaid and hasn't spoken to me since.
Sounds like you’ve really overreacted and haven’t even tried to fix it before you’ve gone and cut her out. My bridesmaids would have to sleep with my man or kill my cat or something for me to even consider cutting them out my life 😕
I had a long term friend that I hadn’t spoken to for 3 years plus, kick up a massive sh*t fit because I didn’t make her a bridesmaid. She was really nasty to me as tried to explain to her that it was a small wedding and the wedding breakfast was just for family, but she, with everyone else would be invited to the evening reception. Cost was a massive factor as the wedding was already expensive, she got really nasty with me, tried turning the rest of my friends against me, her OH threatened to beat my OH up all because of them not being invited.
So, if she has done something horrendously bad...... don’t even feel bad about it.
I feel sad that I have lost 23 years of friendship but not the crap that went with it
If people feel a post is about them when it isn’t, then they don’t have a clear conscience anyway. If they are being paranoid and won’t accept your explanation, then I’d have done exactly the same. I got married 3 years ago and I did the same after my supposed friend who was to be my maid of honour, didn’t even visit me after I had to have surgery. Showed her true colours so she was gone. Don’t feel bad, you will realise you were right in time.
Reading these comments about such horrible bridesmaids makes me glad only my fiancé and I will be at our destination wedding! (But we are having homecoming party)...
This is why were not having bridesmaids lol too much agro
I’ve been here in a similar scenario except the bride completely cut me out. I worked out afterwards she needed to cut costs but instead of talking to me like a normal person she manufactured an argument to ‘deinvite’ me, worse was she got her OH to do it. Really hurtful and we longer speak at all. I’m glad though now, as realised how toxic she was in my life. I would suggest if you feel bad, really have a think about whether you over reacted or not. You may find the damage is done and it doesn’t matter who was wrong because she’s not interested in the friendship anymore. Can’t hurt to talk to her right? Then you will know either way.