Olivia mary Hobson
Olivia mary Hobson 3 Mar 2020

Hi I'm planning my wedding but the thing is I have big family and so does my...

Hi I'm planning my wedding but the thing is I have big family and so does my other half and we don't know when to what time year to set it for can help with what year best not October November or December but year with nice weather? And anyone had this problem with there been a birthday every month?

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UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

The best advice I can give you is plan it for when YOU want it, don't worry about birthdays or special occasions of other people. This will be your special occasion. If people want to be there, they'll come regardless of birthday etc

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We didnt really think about other people when we booked ours, we knew we wanted to be married in the summer so we found a date that suited us and booked it. With large families there can be so many things happening throughout the year it can be impossible to suit everyone. If people want to be there they will be there whenever you book it for

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We found a date that worked for us and bridal/groom parties with work etc. We realised after it was my cousins wedding anniversary the same day! They weren’t offended at all as they know we couldn’t avoid everything, and it means they can see all the family on their special occasion as well. People understand!

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

My cousin got married on my mam and dads wedding anniversary which is also my aunties birthday. Nobody was bothered. Pick a date that works for you xx

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

Only thing to avoid if there is already a family wedding on that day other wise pick a date that you want nothing else matters

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We spent ages trying to pick a date that didn't clash with anything and in the end picked the Saturday nearest to the day we got engaged. It happens to fall equal days in between mine and my maid of honour's 30th birthdays so expensive month for us! 😂

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

I have a huge family! But my fiancé has an even bigger family and we decided for November! Weren’t really thinking on our guests too much but we wanted a Christmassy wedding, but not too close to Christmas where people couldn’t afford to come! We sat down and done a guest list and there’s no way we’d be able to accommodate everyone so we decided 150 max for the day guests then everyone else can come in the evening! We’ve over 230 wrote down in total, but itil be more cos we’ve definitely forgot a few people 😂🙈 I’d say just pick a date that suits you and not everyone else! X

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

What date did you start dating ? We choose nearest Saturday to our first date on Valentine’s Day so we had the 11th feb but winter weddings are lovely just think of you got married November or December you won’t have to worry about decorations

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We simply went with what we wanted and it didn't matter about birthdays. We wanted to be out of main wedding season as stuff is a bit cheaper, so were looking at October to Feb. We wanted it sufficiently away from Christmas so we could celebrate Christmas and I wanted it during a school holiday. That left Feb half term and October half term. Went with October as I love the autumn colours. It was very windy and did rain, but a fabulous time was had by all!

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

Yep book a date that suits you & it’s expensive you can’t invite all unless your able to don’t feel pressurised to. xx

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We got married on my uncle’s and my husband’s grandads birthday. We sang happy birthday after the speeches 😊 xx

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We have big familys, but we have gone for the 20th june day before fathers dad, sadly my dad won't be with us, and its a nice long day light day, you got to do it to what you both like not for others, its your day that you will be celebrating 😃

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

Find a venue that you love. Then work from there. You could end up with a better venue at a cheaper rate if you're flexible on dates. It's about what works for you both. Then check your parents and bridal party/groomsmen. We also checked the Rugby World Cup dates 😂

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

You could try spring or autumn so March, April and September. Venues tend to be cheaper as it's off peak seasons. Also the day you get married can have a huge impact. Weekdays tend to be cheaper than weekends.

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

It’s just luck really with the weather it tipped it down with rain the week before our wedding in July but were lucky enough to have a beautiful sunny day on the wedding day.
Find a venue that can accommodate for all weather x

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

I got married on 15th Feb this year. We picked a lovely venue that had a gorgeous exterior but also a brill interior so nothing was put off by the bad weather.

Loads of relatives had birthdays nearby and even a 1 y olds birthday was kn the day of our wedding.

Just do what's best for you. There are some very good out of season offers between October-March time

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

My best friends birthday is the day before my wedding and my brothers is the day after (he lives in NZ though so won’t be there) I’ll make sure I acknowledge the birthdays but it’s not been a problem

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

I got married on my mums birthday which is also my aunties birthday and 2 days after mine, birthdays cant be avoided unfortunately x

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We chose a May wedding and the weather was beautiful! Bright sunshine, everyone stayed out on the patio area till late at night. X

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

3 people had birthdays on our wedding day and it was great to be able to include their birthdays in our day and celebrate together.

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

I got married in july 2018 it was beautiful day outside

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We are sharing our wedding day with my auntie -

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

We did sept.came out lovely just in time for outdoor photos.x

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

May for us... didn't even think of others x

UKbride Member 4 Mar 2020

One of my closest friends is getting married on my birthday and it doesn’t bother me one bit, actually it’s fantastic! I get to see all my friends on my birthday, we are celebrating my amazing friend and her fiancé, free food and cake, can’t ask for more on your birthday!

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

Weddings trump birthdays! Go for early summer or early Autumn. I always find it better with the weather at those times

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We've got large family and friends so we decided on August Bank Holiday 4pm wedding with ongoing bbq with salad and buffet.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I went through the calendar and wrote months with as little as possible happening in (I come from a big family) we ended up with the choice of January, July or Novemeber I think so in the end we went with 2nd Saturday in july as is was as close to the middle of the year and would more than likely be warmer c

UKbride Member 8 Mar 2020

I wouldn’t worry too much about people’s birthdays. One of our friends celebrated their 30th birthday at our wedding! As for time of year. I don’t think you can guarantee good weather at anytime of year. We got married in July and it rained most of the day but it didn’t matter at all. In fact we got some amazing pictures that we probably wouldn’t have otherwise got! Xx

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