Leanne Ford
Leanne Ford 2 Feb 2020

Church wedding or civil ceremony? I’m torn! Part of me wants a church...

Church wedding or civil ceremony? I’m torn! Part of me wants a church wedding but another part of me is thinking a civil ceremony at the venue we’ve chosen will be better logistically - any thoughts?!

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UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We got lucky - we had a civil ceremony at our venue which was a converted church - so we still stood at an alter but without the religious overtones. It was beautiful x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Surely it’s down to religion not logistics? If you’re religious then yes a church would be your choice, if your not then no, why would you marry in a church.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

What Claire Chapman said. Totally. It's really important to me to get wed in a church because I'm Christian. If you're not bothered either way I think that answers your own question really?

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I’m doing it all in a hotel. No travel expenses not moving from place to place

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We have chosen to have it all in one place even though it is more expensive. Logistically wise, as some members of my family are coming by plane, it was easier.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Doesn't have to church though. Can gave it done another building (like hotels - sone have the license for it)

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

If your religious and go to church regularly then yes a church wedding if not civil. Find it a bit hypocritical marrying in a church if your not religious

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We choose a church as although were not religious we preferred the setting and i find registry weddings so short and quick almost like its rushed. We was extremely lucky as the vicar was amazing and very understanding that we wasn’t religious and our ceremony was more about love and family than religion he also allowed us to skip the hymns. So its not just about religion do what feels right for you both just be aware checking parish areas and costs as we paid almost double having a church but it was deff worth it x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I would say u need to think of a lot of things. Transport to and from the church and venue for guests and what your costs will be for the church and venue. Could u get a discount or it be cheaper to have a all in 1 venue. Also think about the photographer as they might be charging transport fees for going to a second place for photos.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Depends how religious you are really. Im getting married at my venue as didn't want to listen to all the "God" waffle. If your not religious it's totally down to personal preference x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We were guests at a church wedding and the reception was about a 45 minute drive and it was fine

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

It's what's important to you. And what style you want. We're having a church wedding and not even concidered anywhere else. But I'm a practicing Christian.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We chose a church wedding, and the church where my partner was christened, my older children were christened and our little angel baby had his funeral service all in the dame chair I so it has a lot of meaning for us, plus I want to get married in gods presence but it’s upto the individual x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Logistics under one roof & guests can stay.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I would of preferred to get married in a church because I think they look beautiful but would of felt a complete hypocrite if we had done so because we're not religious. X

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

With a civil ceremony you can personalise it, with music, your own readings and own vows, in church it's organ n bells and strict religious vows

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

You can have your own music in the church too! Don’t listen to anyone says you can’t! I’m a wedding singer and I’ve sang plenty of songs like Christina Perri - a thousand years right to stevie wonder signed sealed delivered in a church! Church weddings are so beautiful!
As a wedding singer I much prefer doing ceremonies in the church/chapel than I do for a civil ceremony! But it’s completely your choice and what you want for your day x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

The venue is more convenient for people without cars and then should it rain😱xxx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Please recognise that a church is a sacred site, and not just a nice backdrop for the photos.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

My Fiancé wanted a church wedding,until we attended a church wedding and it was too religious for his liking. We're getting married and having reception at one venue. Saves on costs of transport and having to put two separate addresses on the invites :)

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I absolutely love shooting in churches, I dare say you too will love your images. I vote church..💒👰🎊🥳🤵

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Well surely it depends on whether religion is important to you 'taking vows in the eyes of God'

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

My husband wasn't fussed, but went with me for church and respected my religious beliefs. If he had been really against it we would have got married at our reception venue, nicer than a registry office.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Church weddings are very religious. I know it sounds obvious, but if you're not used to that it could be a surprise. I went civil and much preferred it

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We went for the town hall as it was half the price of the church xx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We’re getting married in a hotel, then the reception is all there and people can stay too. So much easier to have it all in one place

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

If you want a religious feeling to the ceremony but want it to be easier logistically, this is my suggestion. My fiancé wants a church wedding but I didn't so we've compromised. We're having a civil ceremony and a blessing straight afterwards at the reception venue, best of both words :)

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We had civil ceremony and blessing in church xxxxxx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

And your brother did the marriage ceremony!!! Xxx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We are getting married in a beautiful church and my partners dad is conducting the service! Yea it’s religious but that kinda what a church is all about and I’m not apologising for it 😂😂 each time their own after all xx

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

It will be a personal decision for you, try and not think about it from a logistical point of view. Are you wanting the church for the aesthetics or for the religious side? If it’s for the look, you can easily make any room beautiful and more “you” 🥰. That religious feeling might be harder to replicate out with a church.

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

I was dead set on getting married in the church my parents got married. I had my baptism, holy communion and confirmation there (although I don't even remember the last time I went to church, and I'm not overly religious anymore). It was the cost that swung it for me. The venue cost the same whether you had the ceremony there or not, then the cost of the car to get me to the church and then to the venue, then the faff of people travelling from one place to another. Worked out cheaper and easier to have a civil ceremony in the venue. Though I think I may request having our wedding blessed afterwards

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

I'm getting married in the church my parents got married in 😁

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

I'm just over 3 months away now and it's hit me how upset I am at our choice. We are having it all in the hotel, but we can have NO totally ZERO religious content, not even a single word in a song that can be considered relating to religion.
We've lost songs that meant alot to us (not for the fact they said "church" in one line.)
I am religious, but he is devorced so we didn't even try to get a church wedding. :'( I really wish we'd at least tried on the off chance someone would still marry us in a church. Pretty sure God wouldn't condem him for leaving an abusive relationship!! Not any loving God anyway.

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

We got married in the registry office. Neither of us are religious now (my husband used to be but he was also a divorsee when we married and got married in a church for hsi previous marriage) and even if we were we would never have agreed on the type of church service (my childhood church was a traditional old fashioned church which my husband hated and my husbands was a much more progressive church which I don't particularly feel comfortable with).
Our ceremony was short and sweet (very short around 20 minutes including readings) and perfectly tailored to us by our readings. We had a distance of about 2 miles between the venue and reception and while most of those who didn't drive could have walked noone needed to, there were enough cars with empty seats to take everyone to the reception and not one person minded giving lifts, even those who didn't really know each other.... Our wedding was very small though at around 35 people I can see if being more difficult with lots of people xx

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