I just found out three of my Bridesmaids are pregnant and will have tiny babies at my wedding. I'm sooo excited for them but I'm worried about finding dresses that they will be comfortable in and I'm worried that they won't want to be Bridesmaids now they will have babies to look after. How do I ask them if they still want to be Bridesmaids without seeming like I'm pushing them out?
There is no other way to say it than say it out right
Ask them straight out, legit be like your gonna be mummy’s I’m more then happy to keep you as bridesmaids and accommodate but will it be too much or?
To be fair do they have partners to help, don’t mean to be rude x
I have completely been in this position as a pregnant bridesmaid before. Just sit them down, cup & cake & say I obviously would love you to be a bridesmaids still however I just would like to check if you think your be still wanting / if you think your be well enough. Dresses can be altered nearer time just allow a month for alterations & try & get a material that allows a bit of extra give. Good luck xx
I’ve been both a pregnant bridesmaid and MOH with a 3 month old and I was worried they wouldn’t want me anymore but like above just ask outright, let them know there’s no pressure but you’d be over the moon if they were happy to still be your bridesmaid xx
Ask them if they are still happy to be bridesmaids with a new baby or if it'll be too much for them you completely understand. I'm sure they'll have partners who can help on the day. As for dresses, how about a style that's banded just under the bust & the rest down floaty/loose.
My bridesmaid will now have a 3 month old on the day, she told me she still wanted to be my bridesmaid. If she hadn't I would have offered to get a wedding nanny or suggest an additional family member of theirs joins for the purpose of childcare during the ceremony at least. This gives them the option to have a little bit of time to enjoy the day or state that this isn't something they'll be comfortable with. I've also accepted that this will change the dynamic the night before as well, she'll likely be breastfeeding so will need to be close by so we've booked two rooms next to each other and likely she'll stay with me if the wee one is doing well with feeds but if there's any issues she has the option of staying close by with her partner to have the support. We'll work out the finer details closer to the day but I just want her to be comfortable and not have additional stress whilst still being able to spend time with her. All that to say just have a conversation with them, let them know that you still want them to be part of the day but don't want to add additional stress on them and ask if there's anything you can do to make it possible/easier x
Get them floaty dresses or lace up backs
Just make sure the style is flattering and breadth feeding friendly and all will be good
Just ask if they are still comfortable being bridesmaid which you are happy for them to be or would they rather be guests? X
I don't think they'll be offended if you just ask them and make clear that they're welcome still to be bridesmaids if they want. Seconding the need for breastfeeding-friendly dresses though. I had a 7 week old baby when I got married. My dress was not breastfeeding-friendly, and by 7pm I was just desperate to go home and pump 😂
What are the chances of 3! 😂😂
Lovely but could be a nightmare if they’re breast feeding and put on loads of weight and the dresses won’t fit! Choose something floaty and flattering and easy access for feeding. Ask them all outright, don’t forget that they may also not want to stand around in crippling heels so soon after giving birth, Caesarian sections, etc...
Just ask the question hun yes there babies are important of course they are but also is your big day xx
I was so worried that you wanted to ask them to step down... So glad this post went the other way 😍
I'd ask them each individually, stress that you're putting no pressure on them either way but explain your thoughts to them. I'd also be tempted to come up with roles (if they want them) for if any of them decide they no longer want the full roll - eg helping you find hair/make up artist, get them involved in dress choosing - it's common now for multiple bridesmaids to have different dress styles of the same colour, organise a hen do activity (I had two hen dos, the second was more inclusive to pregnant ladies plus older relatives)
They're probably secretly worrying about this too,so I'd sit down with cake and a cuppa and reassure them you still want them but want them to be comfortable. Try to make the dresses feeding friendly if possible and might be worth checking your venue has somewhere they can feed discretely if they aren't comfortable doing it publicly
The fact they are your bridesmaid should mean your very close, so just ask them but in a kind way x
Firstly just speak to them express that u still want them to be a bm but want them to be happy/comfortable. Have a look at multi-way dresses, i got my bm dresses from the dainty yard and although non of my bm were pregnant they would b amazing for anyone who is as so stretchy/ flattering on all shapesx
One of my bridesmaid will either be three days over due, have a newborn or be in labour and miss the wedding. I still want her to be a bridesmaid and she does. We just changed the style of dress we have gone for to a multiway that fits size 6 to 16 (including pregnant people and those up to six foot tall). We have bridesmaids ranging from 5 foot to five foot 11 and size 6 to 40 weeks pregnant. Dresses were the hard part. Make up artist and hairdresser have provisionally booked her in but won't charge me if she isn't there on the day. I agree with others ask them how they feel xxx
When I asked my girls I knew one was trying to get pregnant. First dress shopping we went and only went to empire lines so if she was pregnant it would go over a bump.
Fast forward a year and BOTH now have young babies!!
We cut it fine but went dress shopping "take 2" as soon as the last to deliver felt able to start going out without baby. Still went for an empire line as she was feeling quite post baby and she'd be most comfortable in that style.
I know it wasn't easy for her because she's lost alot of body confidence but we still ended up with one of my favourite photos from dress shopping. I ended up trying my dress on again and I have one of her half under it trying to get an underskirt on, my MoH took it and I'm laughing, she's "pooofing" the dress and it makes me laugh every time I see it. My favourite photo of the whole planning and prepping stage.
I sent it to her to tell her, because she looks amazing and it's going to be a very treasured photo.
As for my MoH....wouldn't think she'd even had a baby, ppffftttt. lol.
At the end of the day, they're your friends/family and to me I couldn't have cared less if they were pregnant, had a baby in arms or leaky boobs! Unless they were due right by the wedding date I was just glad they found the time to juggle a wedding as well as babies. IF they'd be due too close then maybe I'd have asked how they felt about it. Turns out they're planning a totally adult wedding and leaving their babies at home with husband/grandma so I don't even get baby cuddles. Huuuuuuuf. I made it very clear I didn't care if they were pregnant or not (for the wedding of course, I was sending "baby making" vibes knowing they were trying...turns out the net went a bit wider than antisipated and caught my MoH too haha), wanted them to feel comfortable in dress choices and shoes etc. I've (hopefully) not pushed them to do too much over the top of being first time mums in terms of meeting up and helping out with things. (That's going to change soon girls..sorry.)
I've double checked they're ok for things and welcomed babies along to everything (MoH's slept through mummy finding her bridesmaid dress, typical male, but prior to that I did give his bottle and had a long conversation about mummy getting to wear her high heals again now while looking for a dress and he seemed very pleased with that fact and gave lots of smiles).
It's actually helped me a bit because the focus wasn't on me so much, I could think about them and their babies and not get myself stressed out over wedding stuff.
My sister in law had a 4/5 month old at our wedding. I brought dresses from next whicuni knew would suit all bridesmaids, they had a bit of stretch and the top could come down for when she was breast feeding xxxx
I had 2 who had small babies, we just left getting dresses until we knew what size they would be
When I got married, my sister in law was a bridesmaid and was due five days after the wedding, so we had no idea if she would be heavily pregnant or have a newborn. To top it off we were traveling from Lincolnshire down to Cornwall for the wedding 😂 I didn't know if she would still want to be a bridesmaid with the traveling and stuff so I just asked her. She wasn't offended. As it happens, my niece was born early and was 20 days old at my wedding ☺️ x
Lisa Lewer you know too well about this ha ha xxx
My sister was pregnant when I asked her and had a 6 month old by the wedding- I ended up letting them choose their own dresses from JJ’s house- I told them the colour and that they needed to be chiffon skirts and ideally with a bit of lace! It meant my sister could choose a dress she felt comfortable in and could feed in whilst still matching the others.
I was 7 months pregnant bridesmaid for my friend, didn't know when I picked the dress but luckily picked a grecian style that came from underneath the bust, so comfy and would cover up anything they may be conscious of x
As far as dresses are concerned, if they're still pregnant, I loved wearing dresses with my bump and to be honest, I think maternity dresses are much nicer lol. As for the babies, where are the other parents at? If they were involved in a wedding, no one would think twice about the birth parent looking after the kids, I'm pretty sure the kiddies other parents can take the majority of the responsibility that day. Gl x
My niece had a 6 month old and she was my bridesmaid. She carried her son down the aisle with us and w head a high chair instead of a normal chair so he was safe if she needed to put him down.
My sis had a 5day old baby at my other sisters wedding..the other grand parents looked after him as both she and her partner was part of the bridal party x
My bridesmaid will have a 1 month old and a 2.5 old too, gone for a dress she can access more easily n a size up so can be taken if needed, more practically I'm also doing wrist corsages instead of bridesmaids bouquet so even if hands are full she still has a nice flower!
I was due a baby the week before my sister's wedding and we all know how unpredictable babies can be. I decided to step down from being bridesmaid as it would be easier for her as she had 2 other bridesmaid but also for the fact that I wanted to b/f and if he decided he wanted feeding during the ceremony I could just do it and not worry about interrupting anything. He was 8 days old at her wedding and if I'm honest I'm glad I didn't have to worry about being bridesmaid. Xx
I was a pregnant bridesmaid at my dads wedding and they bought the multi way dresses for us all, really comfy, my bump looked awesome and so did the other bridesmaid, will see if I can find a pic xx
i would say i 100% still want you guys to be bridesmaids but i also don’t want you to feel you have to be if it is going to be too much for you with a new baby. can you let me know which you would prefer? Obviously I still want you to be but If you don’t feel you can I will understand completely x it is nice to see a post where you are excited for them and not thinking of kicking them out 😂
I suggest the 'Can I Breastfeed in it?" Facebook page for dress ideas. Probably a good idea to look for dresses with easy boob access and that are flattering on the Mum tums.
One of my bridesmaid announced her pregnancy after I had asked her. I didn't think for a second of unasking her, I know she would have said if she didn't want to do it. She's breastfeeding now so I've got her a multiway dress from Victoria Lou that she can wear however is most comfortable for her and easy access for baby!
My friend text me saying dont get being pregnant for this date coz were getting married. My response was I wont be pregnant but I will have a 3 month old. We just had lose fitting chiffon dresses, allowed for a little bit of extra weight. Partner was there in the day and my parents came on the evening for an hour and took my son home. Always ways around it and I'm sure they wouldnt want to miss out on your big day x
I had a pregnant bridesmaid and as for dresses i made sure they free from waste down. I would imsgine if they didn't want to be bridesmaids anymore they probably would of said by now
Both my bridesmaids were pregnant. They both looked beautiful in their dresses and we just made sure the dresses were floaty so they would be comfortable. Its not about what they look like, wether their pregnant or anything other than who you have standing next to you. My bridesmaids were the best! Dawn McLaughlan Kassey-Anne Couper
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I have 2/3 bridesmaids with adorable babies, one will be a year old and the other six months at the wedding - I've told them that if they want to step down they're not going to have any recriminations from me as I'm aware Parenthood, especially with newborns is really hard work however as long as they're happy to be my maids, I'm very happy to have them in the position :) both have said that's what the dad is there for and they should be able to put the mum hat to the side for 30-60 minutes :)
Both my bridesmaids were pregnant at my wedding. My sister was 7month and my friend just over 3 but wasn’t showing. she also had a 1 year old who she left with her parents in law for the day. I had the dresses both alters to match as we all decided this was the best thing to do.
If you haven’t bought dresses yet then I would sit with them and discuss it with them and see what they fee like. I went to a wedding (as a guest) and we left our 3 month baby with his grandparents. They loved looking after him and it meant we didn’t have to travel with him. Some people don’t mind but it’s best to ask them all and just be flexible if you need to be. I’m sure they will understand because at the end of the day you need to sort something out. But good luck and I hope it doesn’t become too stressful!
Just ask, as they will have new priorities, that you understand if they need to step down as bridesmaid, however you would still love them to be if they still want to. Maybe you could make the babies flower girls and page boys (as such, as they can't walk lol). Our bridesmaid had 4 month old twins, her husband looked after them during ceremony, they fed babies in between photos and meals etc, and some of our guests were more than happy to cuddle and help bottle feed xx