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UKbride Member Request 21 Jan 2020

Who will walk me down the aisle?!

My parents split up when I was child. I know there won't be a problem if they are in the same room as each other, but I'm worried about asking my Dad to walk me down the aisle. Frankly, I don't want him to, because he doesn't know me well enough, but I know he would be upset if I don't ask him. And I would be stuck with who to have to walk me down the aisle.

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UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mum walked me down the aisle.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My eldest daughter is walking me (shell be 11)

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My two boys walked me

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I had my mum, she did all the work xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My eldest son walked me xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My 2 year old is walking me down the aisle

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My stepdad is doing it for me. He's the one who knows me and my family and the one I want. If it upsets anyone then that's their problem not mine so do what's right for you xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have you considered walking yourself ??xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

You could walk down yourself

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mom walked me and my wife had her step dad. There were no hard feelings on the dads sides.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mum will be walking me down the isle x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I was the same and my mum walked me down the aisle, she brought me up

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

If you have a grandad you could ask them instead. I don't speak to my father, so I asked my mum to walk me down the aisle instead. She was a bag of nervous but so super chuffed she did it bless her

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have you got any siblings who could walk you?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Brother? Son? Daughter? Mother?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Your situation sounds the same as mine! I ended up with them both walking down the aisle - I wanted my Mum to do it and I kept my Dad happy by allowing him to take part. I wasn't over the moon about compromising that way but I'm glad I did it x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Walk by urself. My stepdaughter did when she got married.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My dad did the first time. My brother did the second time and the third time both my oldest boys did. They were 25 and 30.x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Me and my now husband walked down the aisle together. Do what makes you happiest, it's your wedding day and you shouldn't have to feel awkward or uncomfortable, especially not when walking down the aisle

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My step dad walked me down the aisle with my eldest daughter 9 at the time..... my real dad sat with the guests. He didn’t warn the right to be involved in the main event.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mum will be walking me down the aisle 😊

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Dont worrie how its affects others. U do whats best for u x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I have my dad and step dad in my life, I wasn’t prepared to choose between them or have anyone read further into who walked with me so my mum walked me down the aisle and it was perfect xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

What about getting your mum to do it?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Could you father walk you halfway then you walk the rest on your own

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

As sibling, son, good friend. Walk down alone.

There’s lots of options you just have to decide what suits you!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I am in a similar boat with my dad and while our relationship is getting better in recent years that doesn't make up for all the past hurt. He asked me out right if he was going to walk me down the aisle and I told him no. He was hurt, but it isn't about him. I may have my mom walk me down the aisle, walk myself, or as my fiance will have several best men, I may have one of them walk me

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I'm only recently reconnecting with my dad so whether it would upset him or not, I wont be asking him. My step dad has only been my step dad a few years so i don't see him as a step dad if that makes sense. I'm torn between just walking myself down (iv always been little miss independent, and it's the way I always said I'd do it since losing my grandad), or asking mum (I know it would mean the world to her, and she supported me through so much). Its your day, do what makes you happy x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Pick your dad and would be a great way to get to no him

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My brother walked me down the aisle as I hadn’t seen my dad in over 30years and he didn’t bother with us. He asked a few weeks before we were getting married who was walking me down the aisle but I’m so glad I asked my brother!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

You do what you want to do. Even though I have good relationship with my dad my eldest son is walking me down the aisle in July. My issue is with top table my parents are divorced too and first thing my mum said when I told her I was getting married was "whose on top table". To solve the issue she will cause, its just going to be me and my husband so all parents, bridesmaids, best men etc are sat among the guests. Don't let this worry spoil your enjoyment of sorting your wedding. Its you and your future husbands day you do it how you want x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have your mum walk you down the isle?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I'm not having anyone walk me down the isle and my parents divorced when I was 3....well unless I get a dog and a dog friendly venue 😂

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My eldest son walked me down the aisle, without my son it would probably be myself. I didn’t invite my dad for the same reasons. Seeing him Christmas for the first time in 10 years. My son was the perfect choice and one I’d never change x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My Step Dad is walking me down. My real Dad has made it clear he would love to, but I won’t be asking him. It’s my day. My step dad has done so much for me throughout my life and has been around a lot more than my real Dad. Try and not think about who your decisions will upset - it’s your special day 🥰

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

You can have anyone walk you down the isle. When I get married I will ask my mum if she wants to do that if not my uncle. 🙂

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Ask your mum to walk you or walk yourself down 🙂 no one owns you to give you away 😊

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

If you have a sibling ask them to walk you

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I didnt invite my dad to my wedding 🤷‍♀️ hes had no part of my life so I wasnt going to invite him for the sake of it, my grandad walked me down the isle as he has always done what my father should have, it was a toss up between my grandad and my mum though, instead my mum rode with me and my grandad in the bridal car to the church and was walked down the isle by one of the best men, go with who you feel comfortable with or if you dont feel comfortable asking someone then walk down alone, completely up to you.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mum is walking me down, she’s so excited. My dad was upset and I told him if he really wants to walk me down the aisle then he can pay for the wedding, he soon changed his mind. It is awkward though with speeches etc as my mum is very shy. Whatever you decide just make sure you’re comfortable and happy with it. Good luck xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have your mum and dad - no one will feel left out but then you have both xxxx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I would have my mum or a brother walk me down the isle

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Ask your Mum 😊

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Why not have your mum and dad

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Hey, I'm asking my Grandmother or my Maid-of-honour to walk me down the isle. At the end of the day, it's what makes YOU happy and what YOU and your partner want - nobody else xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Don’t speak to my parents so my brother is doing it for me x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I’m going to have my dad and step dad walk me down. Mum and dad divorced when I was 10, and stepdad has been in my life since 12, but dads still been part of my life too. I’ll be 30 when I get married so my stepdad will have been in my life with my mum longer then my mum and dad were married since I was born

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My real dad "sperm donor" doesn't care and hasnt ever been there for me my whole life. When I comes to my wedding day I was having my step dad walk with my but sadly he passed away. Traditionally in my family it would then go to the oldest of my brothers (luckily I have 3 of them) I dont really get on well with them so I'm asking my step dads best friend his beautiful grandson ❤

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I had this sitch and I'm walking myself 💁‍♀️

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I've had my best mate ask me, broke my heart bless her she has been my rock in my life xxx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have who you want, it's *your* day so don't worry about stupid archaic traditions that mean nothing in today's world and make yourself happy! My mum and dad aren't together and I don't have a good relationship with my dad either so he wasn't invited and I had my uncle walk me down the aisle! My uncle was so unbelievably thrilled to be asked and he was so proud! Some people walk on their own, have their mum, brother, sister, bestie, you could even just screw it and walk down with your H/B2B if they are who makes you feel happy and safe!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mums walking me my dad hasn't made the effort to meet my future husband

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I didn’t ask my dad - our relationship has been strained over the years. Both my parents were there and at the head table. But I ended up walking myself down the aisle. My parents divorced when i was 8/9 so a long time ago. Remember its your day so do whatever you want and feels right to you. X

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Similar with me. I would have had my step dad but I had my mum walk me down the aisle

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

You don't have to ask your dad just because it's your dad.
Anyone can do it.
I asked my mum because she's the only who raised me x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Walk yourself down the aisle.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Or anyone else you choose.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Or the toastmaster could do it?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Me and husband walked in together x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I didn't ask my real dad... But I've asked my stepdad as although my dad has been a part of my life, he hasn't been a huge part where my stepdad has... If my real dad is upset by this then he doesn't have to come 🤷🏻‍♀️ x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

You could ask both your parents to walk you down. Or explain to your Dad that your wish is to walk alone and maybe offer him to give you away once you are there?!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I didnt ask my dad to walk me down the isle, I just walked myself, causes less issues sometimes! I didnt meet my dad till i was 8, which is when i also met my step dad, couldn't choose between son just dis it myself. Although we ended up having surprise speeches (wasn't having them due to drama from others) and the drama still happened anyway so motto is.....do what the fu#k you want coz it wont matter anyway!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I had my third marriage in 2018. My son and grand daughter walked me down the aisle as my dad had done it the previous ones. It was a beautiful moment that I will remember for the rest of my life.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My sister's are walking me down the aisle. X

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My relationship with my dad is slightly rocky and my thinking behind who is walking me down the aisle is that I'm going to be a nervous wreck & who can I have to do it that will calm me down, cheer me up and all round make me feel special so for that reason I'm thinking my little brother. It's an old tradition based on father's literally "giving" their daughters to another family. Make it be whoever you want!!!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

What about your mum if she brought you up? Godfather or grandad xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Invite your dad to the wedding, but ask your Mum to walk with you, or walk yourself, after all it’s who’s waiting for you at the end of the aisle that matters xxxx Tradition isn’t always best xxxx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Who would you imagine walking you or do you even need someone to “give you away”?
If you didn’t really grow up with/close to your Dad then maybe your Mum could give you away? X

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My dad died when I was 1 so I've never had a dad to walk me down the aisle, first marriage was registry office and they didn't allow anyone to walk you down the aisle then, now my second marriage due in August I'm having my mum walk me down, she's been my mum and dad all my life so it was a no brainer who I asked.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Why not ask both you mum and your dad to walk you down? That way they share an equal role for your big day. Ultimately, it's your day and it comes down to what you would like xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I was in the same situation as yourself so I asked my mum to walk me down the aisle and told my dad that she was and he didn't bat an eyelid (even more reason for me not to ask him!)

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Similar situation.... my dad and my step father..

In the end we went with my dad traveling in the car and walking me to the top if the isle, my twin brothers either side of me walking me down the isle and and my step father sat at the top table 🥰🥰 phew.... lol 😂

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have your mum do it x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My friend is having no one walk her down the isle and I’m walking with my mum. Other people have had their children walk them down the aisle. It can seem quite old old fashioned and traditional so I don’t think it’ll be a problem at all, whatever you decide. I am with you in that choosing my dad seemed totally the wrong choice. You gotta do what’s best for you and leave you feeling best.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Have your mum my cousin did!!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

ask the one person who has been there all through your life ask your mum to walk you down the isle, i did but she refused as she wanted my step dad ( more like my real dad ) to do it

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My mum walked me down the aisle

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

You could ask your mum to do the honours, forget tradition, or even your grandfather

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Ask a close family friend or grandparent. 🙂

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My best friend walked herself down the aisle!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

How about both? Then you won't upset your dad but you can have your mum there as the person you want to be there (if that's the case!) Or choose someone entirely different from parents

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I had my dad and son walk me up the aisle. It's whoever you want, mum, best friend or by yourself. Enjoy your day and do it your day x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My step son is walking me down the aisle

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My 18month old daughter will be walking me down isle x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

If you love your day ask him...your step dad or partner of your mum should understand that and shouldn't be upset....good luck...xxx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My best friend is walking me down the aisle as I am in a similar situation x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Just ask ur mum.x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Unless you feel you need someones permission to marry I would consider doing it alone!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I’m having my two Sons walk me down the aisle...more fitting to me on my special day! xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

If you don't want you father to do it but you also don't want to upset anyone then why not walk down the aisle either alone or with your H/b2b? Then at least your father shouldn't be too hurt because it's not like somebody else is replacing his role and you still don't have to walk with him? X

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Your day!! Nobody else’s! Do what makes it perfect for you! X

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

A friend of mine had her real dad and her step dad walk her down the isle.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I’m having my brother walk me down the aisle as didn’t want to choose between my dad and step dad.. it’s your day, ask whoever you want to walk you down. It could even be your mum

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I asked my sister, we have always been close. I love my step Dad but my sister's always been there for good and bad. I think he did think I would ask him and was a bit upset but I think he knows the score. I suggest you pick the person who knows you best. I don't think he will be offended if he knows you both aren't close too. Also you could ask him to be grooms Man or something else to soften blow

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

My longest male standing friend is giving me away.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Ask your mum.she would be soo happy.xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Well said Sophie xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

For my second I had one of my daughters walk me down the isle and the other as bridesmaid.they where both happy.felt so much more special.my dad said he had done it once.he wasn’t bothered.still did speech.xx

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I have this same issue but have been honest and my mam is walking me down the isle. My dad was upset but when I explained it's what I wanted and it meant more to me for it to be the woman who raised me over tradition he came round to the idea and still wanted a dance which he'll get.

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Why not ask your Mum?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I had both my mum and dad walk me down as I couldn't choose between. They are separated but this was fine x

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Perhaps you could walk with your maid of honour?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Aahhh that so sad 😰😰

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I have a tough decision too...my dad has barely been around, my mum raised me and 4 siblings solo until my step dad came along, so I'm choosing my step dad, been in my life 17 years or so xx

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

My daughter was in this situation last September, her real dad was always in and out of her life when she was young and only really started trying to play dad when she was 20 plus (thinking he could right all his wrongs, but you can't get those missing years back), so she had her Step Dad walk her down the isle with me and just had her real dad as a witness, so he was still involved, but not having a major role, good luck, remember it is your day xx

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

Fuck upsetting him x bet he upset your mum when he left her to do all the work x make your mum feel proud x ask her to do it x pay her back for All her sacrifices she will have made for you x sounds like shes the only one who has the right to give you away x sorry to be blunt but sounds like the usual dad story and he chose to give you to your mother x his chice many years ago x so now your choice xxx

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

My daughter didn't invite her dad as she hasn't seen him for years so my dad walked her half way down the aisle then handed her over to her step dad who walked her the rest of the way. At the end of the day it's your choice who you want to walk you down the aisle.

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

My mum walked me down the aisle. I thought about walking down myself but it was actually a really special moment and I'm glad we shared it together. My advice would be think of who means the most to you and has raised you and been there for you and ask them xoxo

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

Ive got my step dad walking me down the isle

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

My brother walked me down.....choose whoever you feel comfy with and have known the longest xx

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

Ask mum and dad

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

I had my mum and dad walk me :)

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

Let your mum walk you down the isle
I did for my daughter as her father passed away 3 months before it was a privilege a day i will always remember xxx

UKbride Member 22 Jan 2020

Walk with your mum. My dad died when I was 15, so for me there was only her. She was there for me no matter how far I pushed her (and I did)

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Angel Knight 22 Jan 2020

I have this same situation, I'm just going to have my mum as a bridesmaid and my dad as a best man and my best friend to walk me down the isle x

UKbride Member 23 Jan 2020

Hello! 🙂 You can always ask both of them or even a best friend, brother, sister. Make it meaningful by choosing a person you are particularly devoted to. It makes the moment that much more significant.

UKbride Member 20 Feb 2020

Your day not his. Make you happy The end. X

UKbride Member 20 Feb 2020

My dad didn’t walk me down the aisle, i didnt ask either for the same reason - i ended up walking myself down the aisle. My dad was there at my day and that meant alot - do what you want and feel comfortable with its your day x

UKbride Member 20 Feb 2020

I'm in a similar boat and when my dad asked if he was walking me down the aisle I told him no. Honestly I'm probably going to just wlak myself down

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