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UKbride Member Request 18 Jan 2020

Hi there!! Can you post this for me or even give me advice yourself? Me...

Hi there!! Can you post this for me or even give me advice yourself? Me and my partner are already married in a secret small ceremony, but now the big one is in June for all friends and family, no one knows we are already married, we did it privately with a dying relative so they could see us wed. Anyway now our friend will be 'marrying' us on our big day, what vows could we use?? To make it sound like the real deal if you get what I mean? I'm not good with words to write my own, it's not in a church, but I still want it to sound like the real deal x

16 Comments
UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

Why not use the original vows people say? No need change them as you already married

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

Use vows said or something very similar to what you would have at a venue . How lovely your relative saw you get married . Sad but beautiful of you to do .

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

Use normal vows. All means the same in the end

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

Original vows but it will be will you still take to be your husband. So it be like a blessing. X
Google blessing bows or look on Pinterest that should help hopefully x congratulations and enjoy x

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

We used the format of a humanist ceremony but had our friends do it

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

We used a celebrant, who had a whole host of choices. It followed the same path of a wedding, no one knew. I'm sure if you googled celebrant you would find what you are looking for xx

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

We got married ahead of our wedding day due to personal reasons as well. No one knew until the day when we had put a message on the order of service. We had to as our wedding was in a church (who already knew the legal part had been completed previously). The vows and service were exactly the same just instead of signing the register we signed a certificate the church made for us to recognise the wedding. We still celebrate our wedding anniversary the day we did the church service as for us it was our wedding day! Enjoy your special day x

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

I googled and found 2 I loved and now decided on 1. Happy to pm you? Xx

UKbride Member 20 Jan 2020

You can Google the official vows and take out or replace the religious parts . :)

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Me and my fiancé are officially marrying a year in advance (abroad and visa reasons). We aren’t celebrating it really and will count our ceremony as our official day of marriage. We will be saying the things that means the most to us at heart. Repeat vows or do something less ‘formal’ ... it’s up to you, it’s your day and your guests will just be happy they could be there!

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

Use the normal vows say them again in front of everyone

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I can write something for you if you like?

UKbride Member 21 Jan 2020

I did this for my friend. And I loved it 💕 it was such a special ceremony and so many people said it was unique because they could literally choose what they wanted and not have to stick to any official rules. I believe they wrote their own script, having googled some examples xx

Kayleigh Bloomfield
Kayleigh Bloomfield 22 Jan 2020

If you still have a copy of the vows you used when you got married, use those?

UKbride Member 24 Jan 2020

Jane Laura Antrobus

UKbride Member 24 Jan 2020

I am a wedding Celebrant and conduct beautiful and bespoke wedding celebration ceremonies for couples who want something different at a location (inside at licensed wedding venue or not . Outside, woodland or their fav beach or other beauty spot.
Having a Celebrant led ceremony gives you and your loved one the choice to have exactly the content you want at the location and time you want, with or without religion or additional elements such as hand tying /handfasting- which is where “tying the knot” comes from.
Or using a stone from your fav beach as an “Oathing Stone” to hold as you both say your vows so they are “set in stone”.
Lots of other original, tradition or quirky rituals can be woven into the ceremony.
Re the vows
You could do the traditional “repeat after me” type
Then each write your own from your ❤️
to read out - but make sure your partner doesn’t see or hear them prior to the ceremony.
Celebrant led ceremonies are unique and perfect for same sex weddings, inter faith ceremonies, any couples who want something different and want their ceremony to be the heart of their day 💕🎉
If that appeals to you please PM me for a chat 😍 Jane xx
I have two websites
www.woodsidecelebrants.co.uk
or for lovers of Anne Lister, Ann Walker, Shibden Hall & all those living in the #gentlemanjack 🎩❤️
Fandom
www.listersisterweddings.co.uk

Hope you have a brilliant day x

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