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UKbride Member Request 14 Jan 2020

Dresses

We've told everyone we're getting married next May, but we're actually going to do it secretly in August and bypass the big wedding. I'm going dress shopping this May, will that be enough time to get a dress and have it altered by August? A beautiful dress (and a husband!) are all I want from a wedding!

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UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

We did the same back in 2016. I'd give yourself 6 weeks for alterations that's what I had x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If your ordering I had to leave 6 months for my dress to come in it depends on what you are looking for x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Go shopping now. You might fall in love with a dress that you can’t get In time otherwise

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Your family be looking forward to it though you only do this once ( my case twice ) but I did the whole not fuss the first time ( no dress though ) evening buffet at my home etc close fsmily was lunch in pub skirt and jacket suit done the works second time around as regretted it later wanted the dad walk me down the isle my eldest wants the just them and secretly gutted won’t your family be ?

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Only issue is with ordering in it can take months. Alterations are usually fairly quick if you choose a decent place

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I would go shopping now tbh instead of leaving it to may

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I tried on a dress last week and I was told to allow 6-9 months for it to be made and then another 3 months for alterations x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I'm getting married in august, found my dress last August and just had the call to say its arrived some that was 5 months. Then itll need alterations as I'm so short lol.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Go sooner rather than later, it can take time to find your dream dress, it takes up to 12 weeks for it to be ordered in, and then 6-8 weeks for alterations. You don't want to miss out because you waited!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you going to a wedding dress shop and it’s not one off the peg they will need to order in . We’d to be you can buy there and then so would just need to check with a seamstress how busy they are xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I got my dress from Wed2b. Ordered a different size than what I tried on from a different store and had it sent to the store local to me, collected it a few days later. All you need to do, is find someone to alter/do the dress fitting.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Depends on where you go. Wed2b do gorgeous dresses and you can walk out with it the same day, then if you need alterations I'd give 4-6 weeks to have those done. But definitely go sooner rather than later. And good on you and your partner for having your wedding your way 💕

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I got married in the summer and I went in February half term and the lady said I'd left it really late! Luckily mine came early so I was okay but definitely go now!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I had a dress a year before then 9 days before the wedding decied I wanted a new one got a new on and altered in that time 🤣🤣🤣🤣

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

What about your friends and family? People will be booking time off for you. Why not just be honest with them? I'd be really pissed off if a close friend or family member pulled that stunt. How would you feel?

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

It’s entirely up to you how you get married however people are going to be saving annual leave or saving for a gift or outfit for your day. Why not be honest instead?
In relation to the dress I’d start looking now incase your size needs to be ordered in or your alterations need time (seamstress might be busy and summer is their busiest time) x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Do what suits you.. if people are saving holiday for you already then that’s their problem,annual leave generally restarts the 1st of April every year so I wouldn’t worry too much about that and if these people so happen to be the people that would buy you a wedding gift they’ll also be the kinda people who get you and will still give you said gift! DO YOU! as for a dress,go sooner rather than later.. find your dream dress and marry your man!! Good luck!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

It depends on your size and taste to be honest. I'm a big girl and didnt try on a single dress in my size. Dont get me wrong.. there were plenty of big dresses for me to try on but I couldn't buy off peg. If you are a smaller girl and you're not too fussy then you can chance it but if you may need some time then I would definitely start looking. Just because you want to have a small wedding doesnt mean you dont have to have the bridal experience. I ordered my dress the 1st week in December and had to pay extra for it to be rushed through, it arrived the middle of May for our wedding the the middle of june.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Wed2B you can pick one and take it home with you in the same day x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

It depends most places it takes about 7 - 9 months to order and make your dress but somewhere lkke wed to be you buy there and then and then just get it altered to fit

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I feel like some people misunderstood the post. She’s only asking for advice on dress shopping, she hasn’t asked for the opinions on not having a big wedding and doing it in secret. There’s nothing worse than unwanted advice. As for the dress shop - I bought mine around 7 months before the wedding however it happened to be off the sale rail so didn’t need to be ordered in. But they advised me in the shop that it could take 6 months for the dress to come in if you order it so depends on how lucky you are/how fussy/and if a popular size etc. Good luck and hope it all goes to plan 🙂

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

This depends on if its in stock etc, i would be very wary of just coming home an saying we are married it was a lie not getting married next year.... you might end up regretting it.. We planned to do the same as motherinlaw was dominant and so was my mum .. we didnt tell no one we were going to elope except my brother who grassed us up.. mum wanted a big white wedding and motherinlaw wanted to be involved, the the arguments who was going to do what ensued and motherinlaw was going to have my dress as she was over the road mum got a cob on as she wanted the dress at home but that was 400 mile round trip.. in the end we said sod it lets just elope... but when brother grassed us up.. they both were in shock as to why we would do that.. so we sat down and we told them the truth.. they both said if we waited till the following year and had a church wedding they would behave themselves.. which we did so we all had a great day but we made it perfectly clear any of them going over the top we would back out and elope.. even though 2 rolls royces turned up on the day to pick me up😂😂😂 parents.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Alternations are advised 3 months before. Depends how long it take you to find your dream dress.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Custom made dresses can take 9 months to come in so check with the salon before you fall in love with a dress!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

There is a shop in Stockport that sells pre loved wedding dresses the also have a page on Facebook called pre-loved bridal Love Lace. They are the best shop The staff are really helpful and you get a discount price because they are pre-loved

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you go to wed2b then that would be enough time. If you go somewhere else you might not have much choice of what would be ready in time xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I ordered my dress 5 months before my wedding. I get married on the 31st of January and just had my first fitting tonight. I have my final fitting next Wednesday. Most places told me about 6 months but they said they would be able to get something pushed through in the 5 months for me xxx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

That’s 2 posts now I’ve seen today where brides are telling family they’re having a wedding but secretly going to cancel it and elope. If you want to do the small secret wedding that’s absolutely fine it’s your wedding, but I don’t get why some brides are getting their family and friends excited for a wedding they don’t know they’ll not be going to? 😕 I just think it’s setting people up for a bit of disappointment, they’ll get over it of course but I’m not sure it’s going to have the desired effect

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My wedding was in August I got my dress about march and April time wish I had gone round at looked at other dresses as I hated mine on the day

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I would go asap because depending on the designer and all that it can take anywhere between 6-9 months for them to get the dress

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I got married in August and had bought my dress by the previous September. It had arrived in store from the designer around this time the year of the wedding. I had my first fitting in May and final fitting in July. I’d start shopping now x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I would go dress shopping sooner rather than later because some designers can take 6 or more months to make the dress. If you go in may you’ll be able to buy the ex display dresses though and you usually get a good discount on them. Only problem would be if you found the dream dress and it isn’t ex display and you need more time to get it ordered!! Good luck choosing the dress!!! ❤️

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I brought mine on line came 2 days later and now booked with seamstress two months b4 wedding all good . Also you and your hubby to be do what makes you happy it’s your day not everyone else’s . Best of luck to you both and have a great day xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you go to Wed2be you try on and take your chosen dress home same day leaving enough time for alterations x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Unless you are going to buy off the peg somewhere like wed2b I think May is too late. Most of the regular bridal shops I went to said 6 months from first trying on to finished fitted dress with various fittings and alterations in between. I first went shopping in August and ended up opting for a custom-made dress that i was first measured for in September, I have had two further fittings and will have my final fitting in February.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I planned my wedding in 8 weeks and got my dress 'off the peg' as it can take upto 9 months to make the dress you want if it's not in your size already!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I got my dress off the rack. Took it home same day. Alterations took 2 weeks x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Do what you feel is right for you it's your day no one else's that is plenty of time to organise your dress x

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

It’s everyone to their own with weddings. I wouldn’t do it in secret myself because my family would be upset but different people have different feelings and opinions. If you can go sooner than try and do that. I was told mine will take 6 months to come and then u usually have 2 fittings at least - the sooner the better!

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Yes ! Total time for some seamstress . My wedding sat jan 25th. Found dress New Year’s Eve . Being altered this sat. Everything can be done quickly if needed . For some things it’s not cheap but the wedding service market is massive .

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

I bought my dress off the peg at Wed2Be and had it shortened by a local lady.

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

I had 4 months to plan my wedding. My dress took a month to be altered xx

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

I ordered my dress on Friday 13th Dec and it arrived last Thursday - I had been quoted 18-19 weeks as ‘worst case’ and couldn’t believe how fast it came! If you speak to the store (I went to David’s bridal) they’ll help you find a dress in your time frame, or ones which you can put a special ‘rush’ process on (but may charge extra for) x

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