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UKbride Member Request 14 Jan 2020

Im just wondering what everyone does when it comes to the bridesmaid...

Im just wondering what everyone does when it comes to the bridesmaid dresses? Is it ok to ask them to pay just wanting peoples thoughts and what you done.

135 Comments
UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I went looking online much cheaper £65 a dress I bought dresses and shawl each but they bought their shoes 👞

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids paid for their own dresses but were able to pick them themselves

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I got married two weeks ago and I choose fro my bridesmaids to wear their own black dress as that was the colour I wanted but people are different shapes and sizes and wanted them to feel comfy. It was perfect. I just bought them their crystal boquets each that they could keep.x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I went to high Street shops instead of bridal shops, same dress in a bridal shop which were £199 but in Debenhams they were £35, definitely shop around! But its your wedding, if they are happy paying then great.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’m paying for my bridesmaids dresses but they have said they’d have been happy to buy them. It depends on your situation.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’d say forget it u can’t ask then ask them to pay!!!!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My mum paid for all 4 off my bridesmaid dresses

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think if they want to pay for their own then let them. Both my bridesmaids have asked to buy their own.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’ve bought my girls dresses(very)and shoes(newlook) but if they wanted their hair & make up done they were asked to pay themselves,1 is having both done and 1 is doing her own makeup.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you want them to wear a specific dress and you’ve asked then it’s best to pay for it x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My girls have paid for all the hair and make up and dresses because they know how short we are on the budget as we had some unexpected things happen they are understanding so all depends on you.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for dresses, jewellery,shoes, they paid for make-up

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think the general advice is if you want certain colours and styles and they arent wearable for any other occassions then the bride should pay, if they are choosing or you arent fussy then they can pay. I paid for mine but any accessories and shoes were down to them :)

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’m paying for my bridesmaid dressses and shoes but Iv asked them to pay for hair and make up if they would like it x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses. I gave them a limit on dresses and shoes and if they seen something more expensive they was willing to pay towards them :)

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Usually the bride would pay, if the bridesmaids offer then maybe accept their generous offer to pay but it shouldn’t cost a fortune for other people to be a part of your wedding. I got multi way dresses from ASOS for my bridesmaids. There’s a lot of choices out there so just look everywhere basically

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I would absolutely not under no circumstances ask a bridesmaid to buy their own dress or shoes i wouldn't expect anything from anyone when organising a wedding me and my partner have decided to have! We ask them to be a part of it we pay...simple

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Personal opinion but I wouldn't ask any of my brides maids flower girl grooms men anyone to pay for anything. You have asked them to be a part of your day therefore you foot the bill be it 2 or 10 bridesmaids x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think everyone is different 😊 personally i decided i wanted to pay for my bridesmaids, im buying their dresses, shoes, makeup and hair but everyone does things differently, its your wedding day so you can decide what to do 😊

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

They paid for their dresses and groomsmen paid for their suits, everyone was happy and we gave them loads of time so they could save up if needed (in the end they were £40) I gave them all an idea of the type of thing I liked and we all discussed it. In the end settled for something not too bridesmaidy that they can wear again and 2 different styles to suit them all! Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I put £100 budget each on my bridesmaids.
I managed to get them all a necklace, a fluffy bolero thing and dress. As I wasn't picky about bags and shoes I ask for them to get their own (choose their own from their wardrobe even).

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I have been bridesmaid 6 times now and have paid for my own dress for 3 of those. If someone wants me to be such a special part of their day but money is tight I don't mind paying for a dress (if it's reasonable!!) X

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’m paying for everything other than shoes, because I don’t mind what they wear on their feet!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I got my bridesmaids dresses from Wed2Be (£80 each) and have bought their Jewellery and paying for their hair and make up but I have asked for them to buy their own shoes as I want them to feel comfortable and they can also wear them again x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’m paying for the dresses they said they don’t mind but as I’m picking the dress thought it was fair x they are getting there shoes and jewellery x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

We paid for the bridesmaid dresses and grooms party suits but apart from 2 all of them were under 18, I paid for my maid of honours dress because I knew she wouldn’t be able to but I wanted her there x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

You should definitely pay. I’m paying for everything. For me you can’t ask people to be part of your big day then expect them to pay its cheeky but it seems to be quite common nowadays x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I'm paying for dresses, hair and jewellery, they can wear any shoes they are comfortable in (dresses are long)and don't mind if they want to do their own make up xxx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’m paying for there dresses, hair and makeup but it’s up to you at the end specially if your on a bit of a budget x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I had dresses made for my 4 bridesmaids but I did tell them that they would need to make their own arrangements for hair / make up.
So we got together a few times to practise and they ended up doing their own hair and make up x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for my bridesmaid dress when I was a bridesmaid! I’ve 6 bridesmaid also for my wedding day and 5 of them are paying for their dresses! The other I’m paying for as she is doing my bridal makeup! So didn’t want her doing both! I’ll be there when they pick the dresses as it’s still my wedding at the end of the day and wouldn’t like them getting something I don’t like lol and has to be the same dress x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

We paid for our biridesmaids’ dresses, bags, jewellery, hair and makeup. One of them suggested they could pay for their shoes and I asked if the rest would be happy to (as knew they’d get more wear out of them) but as I wasn’t paying, I was happy for them to choose style, heel etc that they were happiest with. My opinion is I asked them to be my bridesmaids so I should pay; but I wouldn’t be against paying for a bridesmaids dress as long as not too much money x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses, but 3 of them offered to buy their own shoes because we were struggling to find something they all liked and were comfortable in (I had no preference, I wanted them to be happy in them all day) and they ended up being quite expensive so it really helped me out that 3 of them paid for their own. I've been a bridesmaid 5 times as an adult and I've only been asked to pay for my own dress once and I was more than happy to do that, and fully understand that budget wise it was the only way she could get us sorted with dresses that would work. I would recommend having a chat with your bridesmaids to get an idea of what kind of thing they could potentially be wearing and how much of your budget it may take up. And also to check if they are in a position to be able to pay themselves.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I had a certain budget for bridesmaid dresses, they all picked the dress (as long as it was the same colour) themselves and if it was over the budget I set, they paid for the difference :) I've paid for flowers, hair, all of us to stop overnight in a hotel the night before the wedding, some gifts.. they have paid for their own make up and are sorting their own shoes out (wear what they already have or buy something if they want, but as long as they are comfortable)
At the end of the day the decision is ultimately up to you, when I've mentioned to other friends what I'm paying for they were always shocked because they've always paid for their own bridesmaid dresses etc. Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think it's a bit mean asking for them to pay, I'd rather postpone the date if you can't afford what you really want. I'm sure a true bridesmaid would pay but I personally wouldn't like the cost to be on them.i understand hair makeup shoes accessories etc but wouldn't put the whole cost on them

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I'm going to be paying for my bridesmaid dresses but ask them to buy their own shoes (i've been a bridesmaid for 2 of my bridesmaids and this is what they have done as well)

However if you want to ask them to buy their own dresses you are well within your right to do so.
Weddings are expensive! Maybe say I would like you to be a bridesmaid, however I can't afford to buy the dresses would you be ok with buying your own, i'm sure most people would say yes xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I bought dresses, and accessories. Asked bridesmaids to buy their own shoes, it let them add their personality and if their feet hurt it wasn’t my fault 🤣🤣xxx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

What i did was paid for their dresses, shoes and hair and they paid their own make up and nails as they arnt essentials!
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UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I would ask them to pay, I have always brought my own bridesmaids dresses apart from when I was younger at my uncles wedding. if your asking them to all wear same dress and cant really be used again then I wouldnt ask them to pay for it completely maybe just thier shoes n make up n what not but we ain't all Roth Charles and if they are close friends/family they may offer to pay or understand that they may need to contribute, yes your asking them to your wedding but they should be delighted about going so it's not exactly rude of you to ask for contributions to thier own dresses. if you have 10 bridesmaids and couldn't affordn10 bridesmaid dresses do you drop people or ask them all to contribute so everyone who wanted to be a bridesmaid will be able to, there will always be one or two that think your cheeky but it's just as cheeky of them to dispute really...

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I personally don’t think bridesmaids should pay for there dresses. I think it’s your choice to have them so you should pay for there dresses. However you could get them to buy there own shoes (or use ones they may already have if they match). Just don’t expect the shoes to all match. As for jewellery you could give it to them as there present that’s what I did. Shop around dress don’t have to cost a fortune. Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Unless you're allowing them to pick exactly what they're wearing (so they can then wear it again in their own style) I think it's hard to ask them to pay! I paid for my bridesmaids dresses but used a shop that was within my budget (Chi Chi London)... I think it they offer you may have more flexibility xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses and hair done. They are buying their own shoes and if they want their makeup done. If you've asked them to be bridesmaid then they shouldn't have to buy their own dress as would they wear it again? It's a specific requirement your wanting reguarding colour etc. If you cant afford it ask them to buy the dress and you will pay them back once your financially sorted.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids offered to pay for their own

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I asked my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses but I paid for their hotel stay the night before, flowers and offered to pay for fittings and lunch. Being a bride, you have loads of unexpected costs that you don't expect at the last minute sometimes but if you do this, then it's nice to give them something extra special to say thank you and let them know you appreciate them.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I've paid for my dresses but asked them to provide own shoes and accessories (whether they buy them new or not is up to them). But I have bridesmen as well so I've asked them to buy suits and I'll provide shirts, pocket squares, ties etc

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Bridesmaids are paying for dresses and shoes, I'm paying for hair and makeup. I don't think it's a massive deal nowadays to ask for people to chip in. I am letting them have free reign over style, just asked they all be the same colour

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think it depends who you are asking, in the end I got the dresses ( a bargain £38 each) and they got the shoes, with shoes I said pick a pastel colour didn't matter which as my dress was pastel colours.

Although my sister did get her own dress!! So I think it depends on the relationship you have with each one.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Why do people ask someone to be a bridesmaid and then expect them to pay? I paid for everything, because I asked them to be part of my day. I think it’s plain rude to ask them to pay, if you can’t afford bridesmaids don’t have them!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids paid for their dress, shoes, hair, make up and hotel room. The only stipulation was the colour of the dress. Everything else was down to them xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you're OK with highstreet then I think its OK to ask as long as they can afford it. I don't think it's OK though to ask others to pay for expensive bridal shop bridesmaid dresses. Plus it's for your day not theirs so I think it's something you should cover. I bought both my bridesmaids their dresses

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I would pay for the dresses but let them get their own shoes and accessories and let them make their own arrangements for hair makeup spray tan nails etc, people are busy working etc and I'll have enough to be dealing with without worrying about making sure all the bridesmaids are identical as long as they're there and happy to wear the dress until all the formalities are over, I don't mind what they do, I'm just glad to have them X

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

In my opinion No. If you’re asking them to be part of your wedding and they’re wearing a dress you’re picking then you pay. The only thing I asked mine to get was shoes and underwear and i think they’re a very personal choice, however there was no restrictions on what they could wear, I told them to get shoes they could wear again....they didn’t 😂 but that was their choice.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for dresses, hair and makeup for my bridesmaids but they wanted branded shoes to match mine which was over my budget so they bought their own shoes (which they were fine with cos they wanted the more expensive shoes)
I think you just need to be able to communicate openly on what everyone is happy with and can afford and come to a compromise.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My wedding is very low budget and the bridesmaids know it. I have given them specifications on the dresses and they can spend as much or as little on the dresses as they lik, it's up to them

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think it’s totally up to you and your bridesmaids and I think it’s a bit mean of people saying it’s rude to ask! My bridesmaids were kind enough to offer, and I actually think a lot of people pay for their dresses these days. I know in return I will buy my own dress for their wedding day. Do what’s best for you and your bridal party!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for my bridesmaid dress for my besties wedding, but my cousin paid for the bridesmaid dresses at her wedding, as the bridesmaids were little x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

When I was a bridesmaid and my little girl was a flower girl I had to pay for all our stuff and done my own makeup and hair.
Now for my bridesmaids all they're buying themselves is their shoes. I'm getting everything else. I'll also be paying for hair and makeup too.
Seems it's a mixed bag and is personal preference/opinion. Ours isn't an expensive wedding at all. Chi chi London do beautiful dresses at great pieces so it's not a huge extra on top of our budget.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids paid for their own dresses. I bought all the little ones their outfits. What you have to remember is you can’t tell them to buy a specific dress if their paying for it

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for bridesmaid dresses but I got them from Quiz with my daughter’s student discount and bought them all shrugs but they sorted shoes (mainly because they couldn’t agree).

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you want them all in a certain dress that you have picked out then I feel you should pay. You’re asking them to be a part of your wedding because you love them and want their support, they shouldn’t have to pay out for that! Just my opinion! Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I asked my adults to pay but i also gave them the job of choosing it themselves. My only request was that they are purple and the same. My mum is paying for the flower girls and teenage bridesmaid.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My mum and dad are paying for the bridesmaid dresses were paying for the hair and make up and the only thing my 2 bridesmaids are paying for are their shoes, with the best man and groomsman all we’re asking them to pay for are their shoes and white shirt xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I personally feel if you've asked them to be a part of your day, you should pay for their dresses.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I asked my bridesmaids to pay and then I contributed a bit towards each of them! Because they were going mix and match it meant each one could chose something to suit their own budget 😊

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Mine are paying for their own they can pick their own as long as in colour scheme xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I wouldnt personally - you've asked them to be your bridesmaid, you should pay. I've paid for my ladies dresses but have advised them to wear their own shoes - whatever is comfy. And I will pay for any accessories I want them to wear

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids happily paid for their dresses shoes and hair. I paid for accessories and hand bags. Altho the dresses i chose were under £40 and could wear again. Dont let any one make you feel bad. Yes you want them to be part of your day but they will be either way they eother say yeah i dont mind paying or say no and go and buy an out fit any way. If i could have afforded to pay for everyone i would have

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Me and my husband paid for the dresses and adjustments, all I asked was they paid for the shoes and there bags xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

If you’re asking them to take such an important (and often expensive) role in your day you shouldn’t expect them to pay. I paid for dresses, shoes, hair and make up and accessories. They paid for their own nails and I said they could choose any colour they wanted x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Mine are paying for their own as getting from Amazon cheaper x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I have been bridesmaid twice and offered to pay for my own both times. Both times brides so relieved you would spend money on an outfit to a wedding regardless x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

In my personal opinion I think you can’t possibly expect them to pay for their own dresses as it’s something you’ve asked them to do x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for everything for my bridesmaids that I requested. So for example, I wanted them to wear certain shoes, certain dresses, to have their hair a certain way, to wear specific jewellery and to have flowers. So I paid for all of that. The only think I asked them to pay for was their makeup to be done professionally if they wanted to have it done, because I was happy for them to have their makeup however they wanted - to an extent obviously! If your expecting them to wear something or do something you’re wanting them to do, then j think it’s only fair you pay for it 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My friend asked her bridesmaids to pay in lieu of gifts. I would completely understand because it is expensive

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for my bridesmaids and advised they bought their own shoes so they could get whatever they wanted and could wear again. However after buying my one bridesmaid 2 dresses after her refusing to be measured as she wanted to lose weight she bought her 3rd one herself as they cost more than the dress to return and no way was I paying again!

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

We've paid for dresses as I've only got 2 bridesmaids by they're getting their footwear so they can get something they'll wear again

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, shoes etc then I'm paying for their hair and makeup. It's your wedding if you feel that you can't afford to get the dresses speak to your bridesmaids, I'm sure they wouldn't have any problems paying for themselves to be part of your day 😊 xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids paid what they could towards their dresses and their shoes. I wanted them to pick the dresses they liked and between us all we ended up picking really expensive ones, so agreed to more or less go halves! But I made it clear if they couldn't afford it, I would pay. X

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’ve never heard of paying for your own bridesmaid dress x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I've brought bridesmaid dresses but they but their own shoes and any accesories.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

We split it down the middle

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaid paid half of her dress. They're expensive and she gets to keep it at the end of the day

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

There is no right or wrong way. I bought the dresses but they paid for shoes hair etc. It all depends on your budget. Being asked to be a bm is an honour and if they complain ditch them lol

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for the dresses and accessories, but they wore thier own style of nude shoes. My father bought them both matching Swarovski bangles.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I didn't ask my bridesmaids to pay for anything. I asked them to be part of my day so didn't expect them to foot the bill x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I bought the bridesmaid's dresses and flowercrowns, they bought their own shoes as they would wear them afterwards.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids paid and didn’t mind at all as we got lovely dresses from eBay for £30. They know we are on a tight budget so was happy to help.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I av 5 bridesmaids and I'm paying for everything but the shoes xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

You ask them. You pay. If they ask you to join, they pay. Or if they say theyll pay then they pay

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I'm on a very tight budget so I asked my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses (some also offered before I even asked) but they were allowed to pick the style they wanted and I'm paying for everything else like hair and makeup, if you can afford to I would buy their dresses but your bridesmaids should understand if not and you can find some really good quality dresses for not that much

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

In my day the brides father paid for everything apart from cars, flowers and honeymoon. My dad got barrels of beer and all other dtinks from pub downstairs from my reception my mum, nan and I did all the food ourselves. My nan made the cake. Different times then.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Im buying there dresses and they will be buying there own shoes and accessories

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I've never paid for my bridesmaid dresses (4!) But I would always offer! A wedding is a lot to pay for and they get to keep the dresses as long as they're not mega expensive. Maybe ask to pay for half?

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I've not paid for either 2 bridesmaid dresses I've had but I think I had to pay for shoes both times

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

We have asked everyone (except for 2 flower girls we have paid for) to split the cost with us on dresses/suits, most already have suitable shoes they already own they can wear and im buying accessories. Everyone is more than happy to do this for us 😁

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I had 6 bridesmaids i didnt have a lot of money i got the dresses in a sale and the younger girls from a very nice shop they cost more than the other dresses. I just asked for my bridesmaids to buy own shoes and accessories though i did buy them all their jewelry as a gift each. 😊

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

no i wouldnt dream of asking them as most dresses are not really wearable after that, what i would do if you are short on budget is wait for sales etc and you can pick up some really good bargains, or look at charity shops which often have a bridal section, remember its your wedding and they are there to support you, look at other alternatives etc... look on ebay for 2nd good as new, go to dress agencies, do you now anyone who could make them.. They could buy shoes as those could be refused again and bags but for anything else then i would say no.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think if you want something really specific then you should pay, but if you're flexible then they can pay. If they're really struggling financially then work something out with them on an individual basis.

That said, I paid for my dress for my friends wedding and I'm maid of honour. However the dress was like $30 (it's in America) and it was casual enough that I could easily wear it again

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for mine because I wanted to treat them as a thank you for agreeing to be my bridesmaids. I also paid for their hair and make up (not because I wanted it done specific way, they chose what they wanted, I just wanted a nice experience of all of us getting ready together etc.). I think it’s only fair to pay for their dresses as it’s not something they will probably ever wear again. Then they didn’t let me pay for anything during the hen party and gave us very generous wedding gifts (my sister even gave me the night before wedding gifts). I had the closest people to me as bridesmaids (my sister, my cousin and my niece as a flower girl) and I wouldn’t think twice about paying for them on any other occasion either to be honest so it was only natural that I paid then.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I personally believe it depends how much of a say they get and how much they are.

For example if the bride wanted them to wear something really specific or expensive which they would probably never wear again then I'd say the bride pays.

If you are happy to just say either the length or colour and let them pick something that suits them then that seems fair.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I'd say it depends on price point tbh...when I was bridesmaid for my friend I'd have been fine paying for the dress but it was only like £50 including shoes and stuff...but the bride paid for them because one of the bridesmaids wasn't in a great financial place...

I think the safest option is for the couple to pay and will probably be what myself and my partner do unless we do allow the maids to pick their own dresses

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

My bridesmaids have paid for their dress we agreed right from the beginning that if they pay for their dress I will pay for their hair and and make up x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I brought there dresses but they can get accessories and shoes that they are comfortable wearing .

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Personal opinion I didn’t ask my bridesmaids or groomsmen to pay for there own dresses or suits. We paid. As we asked them to be part of our day! Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’d never ask someone to be a bridesmaid and ask them to buy their dress. If you can’t afford it then don’t ask them. Sorry if that sounds harsh but i think it’s the one thing the bride should buy. X x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I’m asking them to but simply because I want them to wear a style they like.

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for all my bridesmaids dresses, shoes and jewellery as I only thought it was fair as they had to pay for a holiday to Crete for my wedding. Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I've paid for the dress and she's buying the shoes and accessories. My opinion was that she's not going to wear the dress again so I'll pay for that but she can buy shoes, a bag, accessories that are her own personal taste that she could get more use out of. Not sure how many bridesmaids you're planning to have but that worked for me with my single bridesmaid 😊

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

This is purely my own personal
Opinion but you can’t ask someone to be your bridesmaid and expect them to pay. I had 2 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls and paid for everything. I have also been a bridesmaid on 3 occasions and all my outfit was purchased for me x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I personally think if you've asked people to be your bridesmaids then you should pay for the dresses unless your paying for everything else like hair makeup accessories and shoes. I paid for my bridesmaids dresses while they got everything else x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Think it's fine to ask them to buy their own dress but maybe discuss a colour so they all blend in,but still have their own style. 💗

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for the dresses and told them they need to pay for shoes and makeup they are having hair done for free I'll point out its not expensive hun I got 5 dresses for 120 quid x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

In my opinion, they shouldn't pay, especially if they probably won't wear the dress again

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Wow, some rude ways of giving your opinion on here. Don’t feel bad about asking people to pay, it’s the done thing in our social group as we recognise how expensive weddings are anyway and we would be buying a new outfit regardless of being a bridesmaid or not. Xx

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for 2 of my bridesmaid dresses as I think if you ask someone to be a bridesmaid you should do (it's a lot of money for a dress they prob won't ever wear again - even though I let them choose the dress that suited them best but the colour was my choosing), but 1 of my bridesmaid paid for her own as she'd got me to pay myself when I was a bridesmaid for her & so she was expecting to have to pay for herself at mine x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

Amy Kennedy Rachel King Kerri Ridgley you best get some extra hours in at work 😂😂😂😂😂

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I paid for my best woman’s dress, hair, makeup and accessories but she is buying her own shoes - she offered to pay for the hair and makeup but I wanted to pay for that too.
I couldn’t expect someone to pay for the more expensive items when I’ve asked them to be a part of the day in the first place

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I think if you ask, they choose...but that’s old fashioned maybe x

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I don't agree with the bridal party paying for anything. Dresses, hair, makeup, tan, nails, jewellery, shoes and any accommodation should all be paid for by the bride and groom (in my opinion). I belive people who can't afford it, should have a smaller bridal party. You don't need 4/5/6 bridesmaids, there's nothing really for them to do 🤷‍♀️

UKbride Member 15 Jan 2020

I asked my bridesmaids to contribute £50 to their dresses, which were £125 each, the remainder of which we paid. They bought their own shoes and did their own make up but I paid for their hair and bought them a necklace and bracelet to wear.

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Imo, no it's not. If you want them to have a specific dress for your day, you pay. But it comes down to individual circumstances, have a chat with them and see how they feel, they might want to pay x

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

We paid for the bridesmaids drrsses shoes hair and accessories and we paid for the hiring of the suits for the groomsmen. We didnt think it was fair to ask them to pay for it as we had asked them to be part of the day. Whatever makes you feel more comfortable, there is no right or wrong answer. Good luck and have fun finding the dresses 😊 x

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

I hate the high and mightiness of saying you must pay. If you can’t afford it, you can’t do it. Mine have paid for their dresses. I picked them, with their help, and they’re all fine with it! They’re all my friends and I had honest conversations with them about my budget when I asked them to be bridesmaids. Of course it’s nice to offer to pay for as much as you can, but as long as you don’t demand they buy really expensive things and they have the option to say no, then good friends will understand!

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

In Canada they always buy there own... 😀

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

I bought mine theirs but said they have to do their own shoes, I might have asked for a small contribution from them but I got the dresses in the sale and saved loads of cash 🙂

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Big question this!! One you don’t really think about until you’re in the situation. I have five bridesmaids and I’m paying for their dresses - personally, I didn’t feel comfortable with them paying at all. I’ve asked them to get their own shoes, more because I’m happy with them wearing whatever they want underneath but I’m also covering hair and makeup as I want to treat them for all their support on the run up to the day. 💕

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

We’re paying for dress / alterations / hair / make up / shoes - I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times and usually had to pay for something and I didn’t want mine to fork out any money. I would say usually the couple but the dress at least but everybody is different. I’m also happy for them to pick what dresses (as long as it’s the right colour) and hair etc they want

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Hello!
Bridesmaids are expected to pay for their own dresses and accessories
If you can afford to pay for the dress or a portion of the cost for each of your bridesmaids
This would be a nice gesture. 😊

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Personally, I wouldn’t ask bridesmaids to pay for their dresses. You are asking them to help you so seems weird. I paid for all 5 of mine, hair, make up and everything. If you can’t afford to do it, maybe have less bridesmaids or just say you will pay for the dress and ask them to contribute towards accessories

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

I was happy to pay about £40 for each of mine because I had 4 of them. I said I was happy for them to all wear different styles in the same colour or all the same style, it was entirely upto them. They all asked that they pay the extra and bought the dresses from b2b, it worked out really well as the youngest (my niece) had a one shoulder (I originally wanted her to be a flower girl but she's taller than her mum who was also a bridesmaid) the my two sisters wore a spaghetti strap style dress and my maid of honour wore a Grecian style dress so they all loved their dresses, they even said they'll happily pay for any alterations they might need.

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Bridesmaids paying for their own dress seems to be the norm in America but personally I find it odd, maybe even a little bit rude, like you're bestowing an honour and asking them for their help, but then expect them to pay for it too? The only way I'd find that anywhere near acceptable is if they have complete control over what they wear... I've heard many tales of bridesmaids having to pay out a couple hundred bucks to wear something thoroughly unflattering.

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

No its not..i got my maids to buy there own and im buying mine for my best friends wedding..as long as it's not 100s don't be scared to ask them as long as its plenty time x

UKbride Member 16 Jan 2020

Go Sarah Grant☺

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2020

I paid for bridesmaid dresses, shoes, accessories, make up and hair ... literally everything. And I had 6 bridesmaids!

UKbride Member 19 Jan 2020

We told the people in the wedding gang when we asked them to be bridesmaid or usher that we would love them to be a part of our day however we simply can’t afford to buy the dresses and suits as we have a baby coming , just moved into our flat ect they were all happy as we had said to everyone we don’t need any gifts we just love for them to join the day and everyone who took part were happy as we let them choose their dresses and suits in the colours of the wedding and we made sure they were clothing they could were again x we didn’t go for expensive this or that literally the girls found 3 matching dresses in new look and we added a little white belt and boom y got bridesmaids hahaha boys have also re worn their suits they chose from peacocks x we made sure there was plenty of time for them if they needed to save money ect and they were happy we told we simply couldn’t afford things x at the end of the day they were glad they could share the day with us and be a part of our wedding and being part of our next chapter x

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