Hi all, I get married on a Thursday next year. We picked a Thursday as it was significantly cheaper than a Friday or weekend and thought people could book the Thursday and Friday off of work and have a long weekend. My sister today asked what time it was on until as she has work on the Friday and her kids have school. I said it was on until midnight but would probably start winding down 11-11:30 (we have an adults bouncy castle and photo booth until then). She said that she doubts people will still be there for them and that I’m silly for booking a weekday. I know it’s a weekday but it’s still a wedding and we’ve given lots of people notice to make arrangements. When she got married I worked a weekend job and booked it off so I didn’t have to worry about being hungover or having to rush home. I’m now worried that guests will leave early and it will be a disappointing turnout. I don’t really know what the point of this is. Maybe I’m looking for reassurance from any weekday brides that it will be a good day and night? I know it’s about me and hubby to be and we will enjoy it regardless but I don’t want people going home at like 9pm and there just be a few of us left?
We got married on a Thursday because it was significantly cheaper. It was half term so we didn’t have to worry about school for the kids and most of our guests booked the Friday off work as well. We had quite a few stay right to the end
The last two weddings I’ve been at one was a Sunday & one was a Wednesday. Much more relaxed than a Friday or Saturday one & everyone enjoyed themselves more knowing they wouldn’t be paying over the odds for a taxi home & it was easier to book a weekday off work than a weekend.
My friend is getting married on a Thursday, I booked the thurs & fri off as soon as they came up in work!
I'm having a Thursday wedding and in the school holidays so a lot of people have booked the time off work and booked hotels. We gave them a years notice.
I'm sure they majority of people will book the Friday off too!
We are having ours on a Thursday as well. If people really want to be there they will
The risk you take with a weekend wedding is that some people may not be able to come and some may have to leave early. But I'm sure most people would be able to book 2 days off work? I'm getting married on a friday so I know some will have to book that day off but most of my guests are shift workers so will most likely have to book the day after off too. The people who want to be there and make a day of it will make the effort to book the days off. X
Ignore her she’s had plenty notice to book
2 days off I had same but at end day they go home 10.30/11 then you go up to your room
Carry on drinking with your new hubby it’s about you and him not them xx
Dont worry about it! We got married on a Thursday and the party went on until 2. Nobody left early because guests with common sense all made arrangements to be free on the Friday. On the day you will be having so much fun you won't even notice if anybody leaves anyway 🎉
It doesn't matter what day of the week it is. It's a wedding not a party so people will definitely make arrangements to be there I've been to plenty mid week weddings, and everyone that wanted to be there, made the effort to be there. And if it's what you want it's not a waste. Sounds like she might be a bit jealous if anything. But don't let it dampen your day. You're marrying your best friend and that's all that counts x
We got married on a Thursday and in Scotland people came up for a few days or just for the day itself and people stayed until about 11ish but we had our proper reception on the Saturday back home and that went on until about midnight. I didn’t find it a problem and found that people came because it was a wedding regardless of what day it was. My cousin had exams the next day and still made the trip to Scotland xxx
I’ll be having a weekday (probably Thursday) wedding! It makes so much more sense financially, and you are right you’ve given enough notice and your guests (if they cared enough) would make the relevant arrangements needed to be able to come and enjoy it properly. As you said you’ve given them plenty of notice so there’s not really any excuse. I’m sure you’ll have the best day regardless ❤️
We are getting married march 12th 2020 its also a thrusday only family that have to travel have not 100% confirmed they will be coming not really because of the day more because they will need extra days off for traveling etc i wouldnt worry if you have given enough notice most people would think ahead and book the friday off x
I got married on a Monday in half term as I work weekends. People started heading home after 11ish we did have the room till 1am but I was so tired and drunk by that time I was glad when we could call it a night at midnight. You'll have an amazing day/night.
We’re having a Tuesday wedding (school holidays too). It wasn’t anything to do with cost it was the date that was important to us. Some family have to travel but friends are all fairly local. no one has really grumbled so far (there’s still time!). No matter what you do it will never suit everyone do what’s best for you don’t let anyone make you second guess your decisions x
We are getting married on a Thursday for the same reason. If people have to leave early that's their problem to sort, not yours. Those closest to us have seen it as a great reason to have time off work and will make a long weekend of it. Regardless of who is there at midnight as long as you are in your partners arms full of wedded bliss, that's all that matters
We are planning to get married during the week, we’ll give people plenty of notice so they can make the appropriate arrangements. Don’t worry about what your sister is saying (I know it is easier said than done), your guests have had plenty of notice to request those days off or put holiday days xx
I would have booked the Friday off knowing there was bouncy castle!
Don't worry about it! We got married on a Thursday and gave plenty of notice. Those who could make it did so, some came to evening only due to the kinds of jobs they have, but that was only a handful! Do what's best for you!
We got married on a Wednesday for the same reasons you picked a Thursday. We didn't have a single guest not come, everyone booked the day off and some had the day after off as well. The people who really want to be there will find a way. Some guests who had been there all day left at around 10.30 because of work the next day but honestly I didn't even notice. You'll be too busy having fun to take stock of who's staying and who's leaving. There will always be someone who stays til the end but you won't be bothered anyway.
My husband and I were married on a Thursday. We had our reception on the Friday Evening so that everyone could make it. Maybe that's something you could consider x
I wouldn’t worry. Sure people with families might leave early. Most likely people will book the Friday off work. One of my friends got married on a Tuesday and it wasn’t half-term we had to travel up the Monday and come home the Wednesday. We left her wedding about half 10ish. Some of her guests left before that. She still had guests that didn’t leave until much later. That’s probably what will happen at yours. Just enjoy your day and your eve with your other half, that’s only thing that matters
Not everyone can get the time off if others are already booked off or it's a busy time of year (ie. we don't tend to allow staff off in December as it's our busiest month).
It's not always about not making an effort, it's about having the availability etc to actually take time off too, which ultimately is down to their boss (maybe she asked for time off but couldn't get it)
I would have booked a weekday if my venue hadn't given me such a good deal for the Saturday, the people that really care about you will make the time to be there for your special day, and even if people do leave early all it'll mean is that you can spend more quality time with the people that are there
i got married on a saturday and paid the extra expense and none of our other friends who have been married had a weekend wedding. if you truly want to attend you will make arrangements for time off. only thing that ive had a whinge about is hen partys m-f then a weekday wedding ha ha. im the only one with kids our friends group so taking 7days holiday off work is alot to ask for but i honestly wouldnt worry. most people will attend and not whinge xxx
We are getting married on a Thursday too but in the school holidays next year, the date is special to us just so happened to fall on a Thursday. No-one has really complained and people have already made work arrangements. Lots of my partners family live quite far away but they have all also booked hotel rooms for the night before and the night of to ensure they are there. We made sure we sent our save the dates out well in advance so people could make these arrangements. If its important to them they will make the arrangements. It is not a big ask really, after all it is your wedding. Do not stress about it. You will still have an amazing day/night x
We had a Thursday wedding and everyone had around a years notice. Obviously there are some that have work/holiday commitments in place but the majority were there and celebrated like crazy with us! The one’s that want to be there will be. My niece had a couple of days off school as they travelled a huge distance and made a long weekend out of it as did others. As king as you give enough notice I don’t see an issue at all. Would your sister not take some time off for a family wedding?
We got married on a Thursday and gave enough notice for people to book time off ect.. some friends had work the next day and still attended! If they want to be apart of your day they will come🥰
I think it's the same principle as if you get married abroad... as long as you give plenty of notice then those who want to be there will be!
From experience weeknight weddings die down a lot earlier than weekends.if your prepared for this and don't take offence of people leaving early youl be fine. The last weeknight wedding we went to the atmosphere was very mellow as people weren't drinking as driving and working next day. Lots of people were tired from working the morning. It was a lovely fancy place but did feel the difference
I’m a weekday bride . I wouldn’t worry people that really want to be there, we be there regardless what day. I work in care so I work most weekends and am always having to use annual leave days for people weddings, and I never complain it. Xxx
I had a Thursday wedding (August bank holiday) because the venue along was an extra £3000 to have the Saturday!
Not one person didn’t come and most people booked the time off to celebrate. Our night went on till 1am and had to kick people out!
I don’t think it matters at all a lot of people have weekday wedding days now x
I got married abroad and people booked up to 10 days off to come!! If they really want to be there they will. People with kids normally leave early anyway and that’s understandable 🤷🏼♀️. The rest of the adults will stay and enjoy themselves. X
I had a Wednesday wedding in the school holidays so children. At school wasn't an issue but every guest turned up and stayed until the end giving them plenty of notice solved the issue if they want to be there then they make the effort
We got married in a Monday, everyone invited came, however most left early. The last to leave was my mum dad and little boy at 11pm, then it was just us and my two sisters and their partners as we were all staying at the hotel. I suggested just cancelling the last hour but it was actually the best of the day, no stress and plenty of drinking and dancing with our closest!!!
I think it’s good that people have booked one day off work and you shouldn’t really expect them to book two in order to stay late. Also kids can get an authorised day off school for a close family wedding but the Friday they would be expected to be in school or the parents could be fined. I’m sure some people will stay late if they can but many won’t especially if they have kids or work. That’s the sacrifice you make by having a weekday do
I got married on a Thursday 3yrs ago. Lots of people made comments about how they wouldn’t be able to take time off midweek etc etc. However on the day we had everyone there and we had thee most amazing day!!! Just remember those that want to be there with you will be.
I’m in the same situation, but the people that want to be there will make arrangements for the Friday! Don’t worry about it!
Luckily I’m in August so then any kids won’t have school and adults can organise their holidays accordingly
Have a great day
First I am sending you a massive hug and I’m glad you’re here talking to us about it as I can appreciate that you are feeling a bit flat. Your sister may have a slight point that some may need to leave a little early BUT you have given plenty of notice and the ones that turn up on your special day are there for you and they will be with you for as long as they can be. Try not to worry too much about a timescale (we aren’t doing our vows until 4:30pm and the reception then isn’t until 7:30pm so I did feel a little like you with the whole time thing).
You will shine, your day will be amazing and once it all starts the time will fly by with lots of happy memories and you won’t be worried then on what time it is. It’s a good thing that you booked it until midnight as that way it does give people the chance to stay and mingle etc so in my opinion it’s best to be prepared rather than it all stop at 9pm and people still be there. X
We got married on a Wednesday, small family meal after then a do on the Saturday. 2 celebration days!! Good luck to you x
I suppose that’s the sacrifice of a weekday wedding. Unless it was family or a really good friend I’d only book 1 days holiday.
If your real friends want to be there they will be
My wedding is booked for a Sunday it’s tough it’s so much extra cost for a Friday or Saturday if they can’t commit to coming and enjoying themselves so be it I say x
The way I look at it, I think theres more people that work weekends now than dont, what with changing shifts and rota etc, so if your wedding was on a weekend you'd run the risk of those people not turning up, the same as you would with people working the Friday. Don't worry about it. Those who matter will be there and you'll have a fab day
I got married on a Thursday, I was worried as well that people would leave early as I'd had comments from guests saying oh why couldn't be a on friday/Saturday etc but honestly majority of people left about 11 ish, but there was a good handful who stayed til 1am, my point is if people want to stay they will, don't stress to much about it, enjoy the day and dance your butt off!! Xx
We had our wedding on a Sunday. The last person went home at half 11 and we were more than ready to crash at the hotel. Some left early to get the last train home at 10.30pm but it's their loss
We got married on a Friday so people did have the weekend. My husband's family live up north though so they all came the day before so had to take time that off to. It was school holidays so no worries for kids and teachers x
We had a Thursday wedding dor the same reason, we had a few people that couldn't come due to work commitments but the majority booked the two days and had it as a long weekend 😊 we told them way in advance so they could sort the days if they wanted to x
I had my wedding on a wednesday because that was our anniversary so made sense to me, we had a wonderful turnout for a midweek wedding and it all wrapped up around 11ish - which to be honest was fine by me it’d been a long and emotional day! People will leave when they feel like it regardless of what day it is. You’ve given them plenty of notice - my guys only had about 6 months 😂
I'm getting married on a Thursday as well and as far as I'm concerned if nobody stays then it's their problem, they'll be missing out....have fun and dont let anyone dull your sparkle on your big day xx
I got married on a Wednesday. People were still there up to about 1am! Honestly don't worry about it.
I have booked a Thursday and having the evening do on the Saturday x
We are getting married on a monday. Whoever wants to be there will make the effort. X
My mum’s wedding was a weekday. I booked one day off work and went. Stayed over so as to enjoy the night and got up at 4:30am to drive the 3 hours back to get to work on time. If people want to be there then they will be. Don’t worry about it and enjoy yourself - I doubt you’ll even notice them slipping away!
Mine was weekday people did leave earlier but it didnt bother me myself husband d mother in law and father in law nephews and best man all staysd to very end we enjoyed it x
Next time she mentions it just remind her that you have given people plenty of notice and they'll be there if they want to. You will have an amazing day and the people that want to be there will make the effort ❤️ We're getting married on a Friday and some people pulled their faces but I just ignored it as they had over 2 years notice so they have no excuse (excl emergencies) not to attend. X
I'm having a Thursday wedding too. And most people are booking the 2 days off. Quite frankly if they don't want to stay then they don't have to. I don't care if its just me and my hubby to be dancing til midnight as we'll have fun on our own. Ignore your sister xx
Hi, I got married at 2pm on a Thursday a few weeks ago and people arranged a combination of days off or working half days (worked the morning thursday, or afternoon friday). There were a few children and they either went home at a suitable time for them or stayed over and went to school from the venue. There were still people up past midnight keeping the party going. As a few people have said the people that want to be there will be, and those that dont wont, dont let it trouble you, there will be enough stress before the day and you will be surrounded by the people that matter so you wont have time to miss those that couldn't make it. Good luck!
Work is normally manageable but you may find some people have issue getting kids off for more than 1 day.
We're getting married on a Thursday next year too as it's our anniversary and like everyone else has said, people that want to be there will be there till the end. My maid of honour is a teacher, she has made sure shes off the day of the wedding and after, my nieces all have school but they've been given exemptions to have the day off, everyone has known our day for the last 18 months, so they've all made arrangements to take the time off work. People that want to be there will be, regardless of what day it is.
I went to a weekday wedding literally yesterday. Me and a bunch who booked a minivan left at 11. Most of us still had work the next day. Many people left earlier. A bunch of people were still there when we left at 11 though.
I'm sorry to say thats just the risk you run when having a weekday wedding. Some people will book the friday off too, some wont be able to. Some people will stay late and some will need to leave early. Its just the chance you take.
Edit to add: I've noticed that a lot of people have been commenting "the people that want to be there will be there till the end". I'm sure its a nice sentiment that they're trying to say the people you care most about will stick around, but frankly I think they're setting you up for a disappointment. We would have loved to stay later but with most of us having work the next day, and with travel and costs etc it just meant we couldn't do it no matter how much we cared. (And the bride totally understood and was nothing but grateful we were even there) My opinion is if you choose to save money by having a weekday wedding (or a destination wedding) you should do so in the knowledge that you will likely have some guests who cannot make it or have to leave early. People have lives that don't stop for our weddings. Thats just how it is.
I got married on a thursday and i too was a bit nervous of people not being able to make it but honestly i was 100% blown away with our turn out. Dont listen to your sister everything will be fine. Give plenty notice to everyone and itll be fine. At the end of the day you will have the most amazing time and the people who want to be there will and thats what matters 💕
We will go when the bar shut sweetheart lol speak Saturday xxx
I'm from England, we decided to have a wedding in Scotland on a Monday.
We sent out invitations a year before to give everyone plenty of notice for booking time off work.
All our close friends and family were able to book flights, hotels and take the time off work.
Basically if they want to be there, they will.
With regards to school, your sister will have to put in a request to take the kids out of school for a family wedding, it shouldn't be a problem x
I always book usually 3 days off for weddings. The day before, the day of and the day after. If as you say you've given them plenty of notice and they want to be there, they will have made the neccessary arrangements.
We are having ours on a Sunday but made sure it was a holiday Monday after so the schools would be off
Mine was on a Thursday during half term last month. People will make the effort if they have adequate time to book it off work.
We had 2 people drop out of our day time out of 70 amd that was only because his grandad was umwell and his aunt was in hospital.
We had about 200 in total at the reception and most stayed until at least 11.
It depends on your friends and family really. Most of mime enjoy a party. But i wouldn't have changed anything even if noone came ..it was what we wanted 😊
I got married on a Thursday last year, as my dream venue only had a Thursday available in August (which we needed as my husband is a teacher, so needed the schol holidays so we could go a honeymoon after it) and this was 2 years in advance, and i didnt want to wait an extra year just for a weekend date. We gave plenty of notice and all of the 100 guests we invited where able to come and stayed till the very end. People will always make the time for your wedding if you give them the notice and they want to be there xxxx
Im am also getting married on a Thursday next year and this was one of my worries too, but I've realised that although I would love everyone who has been invited to come (we have a very small number of guests) for those people who don't feel like they want or can take the couple of days off of work (despite having practically a year's notice) then it's their loss. As sad as it may be to not have certain family members/friends there to celebrate your day, the only person I know that I'm going to be taking notice of is my new husband and whether 30 people show up or just 3, it will still be a magical day. Keep your chin up lovely, it's a day for you and your new husband to celebrate coming together and I really hope it's a beautiful and memorable day for you both. 💜
We got married on a Friday everyone was against us the way we did it etc but hardly everyone turned up but the ones that are there are the ones that matter xxx
We've booked a Thursday too 😁
We had our wedding on a Thursday three years ago and everyone booked a day or two days off (depending on their job) and a lot of my husbands family work in schools and were able to get time off. Try not to let it worry you too much!! X
My brother got married on a Wednesday in September so my husband wasn’t able to attend as he’s a teacher but I think they still had most other people that that wanted, attend. It did feel like it started to wind down a bit earlier than previous weddings Ive been to as some people were working the next day, but the important part is that you and your h2b are happy 😊
So what's the question?
Your not silly at all my kids went to there uncles wedding and we didn’t get home till about 11ish and they still got up for school the next day it’s one day it won’t hurt xx
We had a Tuesday wedding. It was in Easter holidays because my maid of honour is a school teacher. There were people who didn’t come. Some told us in advance. Some didn’t. But the ones who did come made it great regardless. I was so angry the night before my wedding when a few people messaged to say they couldn’t come (don’t get me started on “late notice” after replying “yes” to the invite!!). But now I just don’t feel much about it all. We got married and I loved our wedding day. It went far too quickly!
My wife and I got married on a Wednesday last year and it was wonderful - we gave plenty of notice offered people rooms at the venue to stay overnight if they so wished and advised on the invites to book the following day off work lol - plan it right and it will be perfect! Hope it’s wonderful for you x
I'm getting married on a Tuesday next year, as its after a bank holiday, some of our friends have actually booked the week of work as it gives the. 10 days off work and only using 4 days holiday. The people that really want to be there will take advantage of having a long weekend.
We got married on a Thursday this year, not for money but because that was the day our 10th anniversary was on. We still lots of people there at the end, people probably started to go around 9.30/10 all the way through until 12 but it drips and drabs. Don’t worry you don’t notice it on the day x
If I get invited to a midweek wedding, there's no way I'm taking 2 days off work just so I can attend. It's a little bit selfish making if cheaper for your pocket but it ends up costing your guests more.
I loved ours on a Thursday... Everyone went home at 10... Was perfect... Go for it... At the end of the day with everyone going home, it let us have a night... Not a silly o'clock bedtime
Im in the same situation we booked a thursday in june as it was our engagement day so the day was special but ive questioned it a few times now as people are at work and kids still at school but its too late too change it! We gave them loads of time to arrange it though so fingers crossed all will be fine! 🤞
I have been to a few weekday wedding and there was never an issue I am also doing a Thursday xxx
We got married on a Thursday, everyone just booked it off work and kept the kids off, the ones that did leave early we didn’t notice anyway! I would t worry about it xxx
We did a Thursday and gave plenty of notice. People made arrangements and the party was still going until 3am in the bar 🤣
I'm gettin married on a thurs in July nxt yr but we're having a small family meal after as couldn't deal with the stress of a big weddin as I'm due my 4th baby a mth earlier. If they care they come and book time off uve given them notice if they cnt sort it out in a yr its there loss hun. It'll be amazing, try not to stress to much. Xx
We had our wedding in a Wednesday this year for the same reason. Invited everyone thinking quite a few would decline but everyone came and 95% stayed the entire night. People will book off time if they need to. We booked it during half term so that it wouldn’t be an issue for any children/ parents invited 😊
We got married on a Thursday and had no issues! Everyone was still partying at 1am!
I got married on a thursday & guests just turned into a long weekend! Don't stress over it x
My friend got married on a Monday 200 miles away. I booked the day of the wedding off and the one after to travel back/recover.i wouldn’t have missed it for anything. As you say your giving people plenty of notice. People who matter will book the days of without question x
We got married on a Thursday and found most people stayed until around 1030pm which was late enough really 😊
We did a Thursday and the people we cared about and cared about us, came.
Stick to it! Shes just being awkward. It's your day no one elses.
We had a Sunday wedding and quite a few people left around 9-10.30 ish but all the main people we loved partied until midnight and they had to push us all out. The people that love you will stay and make arrangements and will have fun with you x
Massive hugs to you! We are getting married in a Sunday at 4 pm in February but not half term and those that care, have also booked the Monday off and are thinking of keeping kids off school so they can stay with us for the entirety... So even have booked the Saturday off as well 🤣 Those that matter will make the time and will stay xxx
I got married on a thursday...the ones that can stay til the end/11pm do. Most people left at 10 30 and it was still lovely! Dont worry! And despite getting married on a thursday during the day we still had 180 people there so im sure people will come for you too!
We got married on a Sunday afternoon. Most guests booked the Monday off work. There were only a handful who had to leave before the end. If people want to attend, they'll make it happen. All the best for your future celebrations 👰🤵
Ours is a Thursday, no one has complained yet. Gave them more than a years notice. Had a few ask if we meant it was a Thursday but that’s it
I got married on a Friday and everyone came. Some of my family are teachers and it was no problem for them as I gave plenty of notice. My friend is getting married on a Thursday next year and both myself and my husband shall be making a long weekend out of it! At the end of the day, those that want to be there will be there ❤️ x
I got married on a Thursday 2yrs ago. Everyone came, was a great day. It went on til 1a.m and a few guests followed us and our wedding band to a club where we had booked tables til 5a.m. People will make the effort to be there if they want to be
Dont listen to your sister people will be there iv been to weddings on a wed and a Sunday and booked the time. It's a bad day when your own sister is not taking time off my sister had booked the week off for mine x you have a brilliant day and dont let anyone try and put a downer on it x
I'm going to be honest if I had school age children and it was not in school holiday then I would leave a wedding early so kids could go school the next day as I assume they missing school for the wedding itself. It is quite hard to get kids out of school during term time .
I got married last year on a Thursday, my ceremony was at 12pm and I honestly couldn't tell you what time people started to leave or what time I went to bed, everyone that came had a fab time and were thankful for having a long weekend 😊 I was always telling myself that if people care and want to be there then they will, no matter what day of the week and if they don't bother then it's their loss 🤷♀️ xx
I’m getting married on a Monday one because the date means something to us and two it’s cheaper then Friday or weekend. Those that want to leave early let them it’s your day and have fun.
Thursday bride here (we married on our 10 year anniversary!) and it was fine. People didn’t drink or booked both days off... as we were limited for numbers, and some couldn’t get the time off, we had another party to celebrate a month later on a Saturday.
Breathe, don’t panic. Everything will be fine. It’s what you make of the day that counts XXXX
I got married on a Thursday purely for money reasons and everyone showed with majority booking the next day off. If people want to be there they will make plans. My step son and all nieces and nephews had the next day off school too so everything worked out well. Try not and worry!! Xx
We got married on a Wednesday. Granted it was in the summer holidays but whatever the time of year, with enough notice, people can book the time off work and for close family like your nieces and nephews, they'd more than likely be granted some time off school to attend. If she's not paying, not her decision x
We got married on a thursday mine there were no children but going to adults , adults that matter will be there my freind got married on a weekday and I work in education I wrote to my governors to ask for the day off it was granted - because my freinds mattered to me ♥️ any freinds will do the same for you x
If I’m being honest and it was me with my kids we’d be leaving early for bedtime as kids need sleep for school x
I had a Thursday and people were asking to DJ to go on longer. You’ll be fine xxx
We had a Thursday wedding and the room booked till 12. It was perfect 👌 yes people began to leave around 10:30 but honestly even on a Friday wedding people start to leave around that time. Honestly it’s not something to worry about 😉 everything will be ok xxx
We got married on a Thursday and no one left until 11pm which was our end time x
Monday wedding for me on May the 04th, planned it for the bank holiday but they’ve changed it. I was like you really worried people wouldn’t show but now I’m like if they want be there they will!
Whilst it's nice to hope, think you have to prepare for at least some of them to leave early unfortunately (people may need to take days for childcare etc. so not be able to take 2 days). I think you would have it even if you got married on a weekend though as a small number of our guests had to leave approx. 10/11pm as they had a long drive back home, hadn't got hotels, had small children with them. Just do it on a day that suits you & those that really want to be there will be I'm sure x
We got married on a thursday but we specifically did a thursday during the summer because our friends have kids. At the end of the day most people will have friends or family who wont mind staying with the kids. A friend of mine had her kids sleep over at their school friends that night!
Best of luck.
We got married on a Thursday in November. The people that matter will make the effort to be there and book time off work. Most of our guests saw it as an excuse to have a nice long weekend. We had an extended licence til 1am and were worried people would leave early but we were packed out til the very end. Perfect day and night
My friend gets married on a Wednesday next year and I’ve made every arrangement needed to ensure I can attend, because I want to be there. People who want to be at a wedding will be there no matter what.
On my wedding, we had people from Australia visit us to enjoy our special day with us.
My cousin got married on a Thursday too. We booked the Wednesday to Friday off as we needed to travel there and back. We stayed there till about 11-11:30 ish. If they want to be there they will find a way regardless 🙂
We got married on a Wednesday and we had people make plans and travel for hours to get to us! The people who wanted to be there certainly made the effort to do so, and even though it was still a small wedding, it was perfect!
My niece is getting married mid week next year. She also lives 300 miles away. I’ve taken time off because I WANT to be at her wedding. It’s important to me.
My point is, anyone that is important and wants to be there, will make it work.
Personally I think she’s wrong. It’s a wedding something extra special. I would have booked from the Wednesday lol to start getting ready. I think plenty of people will still be there having an amazing time, just love it! Xx
To say again I got married on a friday only main family invited to wedding and close family to reception my mum and brother and his girlfriend got time from work everyone else was free
I agree with alot of the above.
If they care enough about you they will make sure they have time off.
We had a Monday wedding and most of our guests came. The ones who didn't, I didn't notice them not being there. It was an amazing day and to add to the greatness of a weekday wedding. All the shops are open from 8 in the morning so if like me, realize I have no tights!, it's not a problem as we went to the shop and got some.
We got married on a Thursday too for same reasons and everyone completely understood! Gave everyone over a years notice and everyone came. Most people booked off the Friday too and made a long weekend out if it and we all had an amazing time. If they really want to be there they will be, plenty of time to book time off so don't worry. Xx
I’m not sure that you’ll have the party you want as not many people will book 2 days off if they don’t have to 😕 the important people will though so I wouldn’t worry too much 🤗
We got married on a Monday, the people that matter will make the effort and book the Friday off too. Honestly don't worry about it. x
We got married on a Monday and everyone did turn up, but I have to say some people did leave rather early. But personally we think if tou cant prioritise our one day why have we prioritised them... I dont hold grudges but I do remember who left early 🤣
My sister got married on a Saturday and I booked the Saturday and Sunday off so I could have a drink and not have to worry about work the next day so I don’t see why others wouldn’t just because it’s during the week? Especially a Thursday as it means they can have a long weekend 🤷🏼♀️
Most schools are forgiving for like weddings and funerals of close family members.
If she can’t be bothered to book time off that’s her problem.
I am marrying on a Sunday and people will need to book a Monday off and if they don’t want to that’s their issue. If they argue that they don’t want to use their annual leave because they don’t get a lot mention it’s 2 days unlike what you will be taking for your wedding.
Remind them they can choose not to drink alcohol as well
This was my worry. We were going to get married on a Wednesday as it was 2,000 cheaper than a weekend but a really big handful of people wouldn't be able to book time off college due to exams, work commitments... We're now getting married on a Saturday as I want all of those people there, I couldn't get married without them xx
Those who matter will make time for your wedding any day any time
My cousin got married on a Tuesday... we were still there at 9am on the Wednesday 😂😂🙈
We did the same and booked and Thursday. A few people couldn't make it but most booked a couple off days of work and made the weekend out of it. You'll have a fab day, all the important people will be there. Don't stress about anything 😊
I got married on a Sunday, with many people working on the Monday. It wasn’t an issue - there were still lots of people there at the end. Also, you probably won’t have even reached dessert by 9pm so don’t worry 😉 x
If she has children they have to go to school !!
I got married on a Thursday and it was perfect. I sent save the dates 10months before so everyone knew, and invitations 5 months before and it was fine. Everyone came that we wanted there and it was perfect. If people want to be at your wedding they will book the time off! It’s not like it’s just a night out at the pub. It will be absolutely fine, don’t worry!
My friend who commented above had a week day wedding - I just booked the whole week off and tied it in with a holiday from work. If people want to be there, they will
People who want to be there will make the time, you also have given plenty of notice so again people wanting to be there would have booked the time off and/or made arrangements to get there some way or another, if she's not planned anything she's likely feeling bad/frustrated and taking it out on you , same goes for those who may better plan excuses than plan ahead. It's you and yours husband's to be day- it should totally be what's best for you two , tbhonest don't let things like that worry you, I'm sure once there everyone will enjoy it's not an everyday occurrence for them to witness you/your husband so I'm sure once there they'll soon forget about the rest of their lives and be happy and respectful enough to enjoy with you guys in the moment. Congratulations on your wedding,sounds fab already!!
I've not married and currently single (14years now), how wonderful it must be to find someone who thinks same and wish all great stuff for youse!
I chanced seen this post due to Fbook randomly showing (not clicked on any bride stuff so completely random 😂😂but hope helps🙌)
I've been to weddings on a thursday, lots of Saturdays and my brother got married on bank holiday monday. All were fantastic, all well attended and didn't wind down til the DJ stopped playing. Try not to worry x
I’m a Thursday bride too! I’m not even worried about this. If people can’t come then they may not be able to come on another day either anyway! You give ample notice for a wedding so people will book it off. Don’t worry. It’s booked now and it’ll be fab!
We booked a saturday because I knew nobody would stay had we of chosen a weekday. The Saturday doubled in price however we still went with it & guess what,most guests still never stayed until the end,infact most left after the buffet. We didn't care,because me hubby & kids danced the night away.If we was invited to a weekday wedding,work could possibly have been sorted out ages ago & booked the time off however schools are not so generous,so unfortunately I'd be leaving early too simply down to the children getting tired,this will happen but the day goes so quick so just enjoy it 😁
I would probably be one of the people leaving early due to the kids' school and if I didn't have much annual leave and had to work on Friday. Other people don't see your wedding with the same importance that you do unfortunately, I'm not saying this in a mean way but it's just reality.
I had my wedding on a sunday and a fair few people left early as they had work /school thr next day but also alot of people stayed at the venue and booked at least half the day off on the Monday! Dobt worry people will stay and your have the best time xxx
I had my wedding on a Thursday, it was perfect. The people who wanted to be there for the evening aswell booked holidays for the day of the wedding and the day after. You are getting married and paying for the privilege of others to be there.. they will be honoured to have been asked regardless of the day xxx
i had my wedding on a thursday and my family were the same i mean u would think they’d make the effort for your big day, my sister and brother ended up coming to the night do only, they had over a year to book it off and it was during school summer holidays too, some family are just never happy, do what u want and these who want to be there will, best of luck
the idea of a wedding is that it is your day, your choice. get married when you want, invite who you want and if they love you they will get there, dont worry about it, you have given plenty of notice for arrangements to be made. i hope you have a lovely day and a long happy marriage, all the best xxx
We had a Thursday wedding in August, most people had enough notice that they booked the friday off. A handful of people started dispersing from around 10.30 but most left between 11 to 11.45pm.
At the end of the day it's your wedding and it's what suits you, not everyone else :)
As long as you & you hubby to be is there anyone else is a bonus your making your vows to each other and that’s all u need hun xxx
I haven't booked a weekday I have Easter weekend Saturday 2021. But I have given people save the date cards NOW. A year and half in advance. My general advice is if people want to come they will, if they don't stuff them and enjoy your day. Xx
Don't take any bloody notice! I got married on a Thursday and everybody made the effort and took Friday off!!!
I got married on a Tuesday. Whoever wanted to be there took the Wednesday off and was still there at 2am😂😂 xx
I’m hopefully going to be booking mine on a Thursday as the date I have in mind would have been my Granda’s 80th birthday. He passed away this year very suddenly and it devastated me thinking he’ll not see me get married. So in my view this date is extremely important to me, and if people can’t get a day or two booked off work when they’ll receive at least 6 months notice...then frankly I’ll be thinking “well they obviously don’t care enough to come so who needs them?” Sounds harsh I know but I’m determined not to let anyone make me feel down about my wedding!!
I think expecting people to use two days of annual leave is a bit much.
We got married on a Sunday and a few people did moan saying they would have to leave early as they had work/kids in school Monday and I did worry at first but in the end I wasn’t bothered. Those who matter will be there and if they are not it’s their loss. You will have an amazing day with or without some people. Try not to worry and ignore negative comments. If your sister is really going to leave your wedding early coz it’s on a weekday then let her. You just concentrate on you and your partner xxx
Does it really matter who's there as long as you and your partner are after all it's about you too and no one else
Oh that's very sad I'd be devastated if my sister had that kind of attitude about my wedding. 😭
My brother got married on a Thursday and it was a great turnout. Everyone had a laugh and I don't think many people were working Friday as they had the sense to book it off.
Your wedding your day the people that matter will be there stop stressing it's your guys day nobody else's just enjoy it enjoy the run up its exciting 😁😁😁😁xxxx
I got married on a Sunday (like you, it was so much cheaper, apparently Sunday’s aren’t that popular!!) I was worried people wouldn’t stay, or it would be a flop...but it was our wedding day and I wasn’t going to let anything ruin that! As it turned out, my guests filled the rooms...most stayed till the end! Even my flower girls stayed late and thy had school the next day 😊 I realised the people that mattered were there, they took the Monday off so they could celebrate with us! The people that care enough will make sure they are there!! Please try not to worry 😊
I had a Tuesday and everyone came and it ended at midnight! If they want to be there for you they will be there x
If people want to be there they will be
We’ve booked a Tuesday wedding in May next year thinking it was half term but, later found out it’s half term the following week! But, those that can and want to be there will make the effort I say!!
I think aslong as the main people you want are there then it doesn't matter who else is there. I think a lot of people will stay as long as posts though. Chin up u want it on a Thursday so have it on a Thursday and have fun don't worry to much.
Some schools just wont allow kids to have the day off school, so parents could struggle with that....apart from that I see no problem :)