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UKbride Member Request 17 Nov 2019

Wedding Depression

Does anyone just have periods of time when wedding planning where you just feel depressed at the prospect? Love my H2B more than anything and cannot wait to marry him but sometimes thinking of wedding planning sends me into pure panic followed by a crushing low mood...

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Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 18 Nov 2019

YES YES YES! Think we have all been there many times. It's just so stressful. It's such a huge project and you panic so much and doubt your choices. A lot of things are out of your control like RSVP's and it just drives you bonkers. I only have 26 days to go and it's exciting but there's still so much to do it seems never ending.

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Yup. I think it's because having people there makes it more stressful. I wanted to elope and it just be us. I have a tiny family, but my H2B has a big (lovely) family, so this wedding is kinda more for him. I just want a beautiful dress and a pretty venue. Thats all I care about. 😂

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Yes! Which is why we decided to sack off all wedding plans from 2 years and decided to do it in 8 weeks instead!

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

I still have 18 months left and mine is making me go insane it’s people sticking there nose in or saying I can’t do that and I have to invite people I really don’t want there today I sit crying thinking it be easier to cancel it all.

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

I feel like this all the time at the moment. So much to do I end up doing nothing and feeling very unmotivated.

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

I felt like this for a huge time before my wedding. I had days where I just cried and cried but as soon as we had all the RSVPs back and finalised things all that anxiety just disappeared. I even had bits and bobs go wrong right up until the last minute and it didn’t phase me. It’s really stressful but it passes and it will all be worth it in the end and you will have a wonderful day

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Absolutely it's so stressful

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

We get married in 10 months in cyprus. Have about 30 people going. We decided what we wanted early on and thankfully the wedding planner does the rest. The most stressful thing so far for me was the guest list. Just think about the day to come and it will all be worth it. Also don't even think about pleasing others.

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Yup, makes you realise how many dickheads you know 🤣🤣🤣

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Yep! I get married Saturday I go from non stressed to throwing up and crying 🤣🤣

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

omg if this doesnt happen your super human. I've just recently got married and for months we were just praying for the day to be over. Even on the day I had so so many hiccups but everything went perfect from start to finish as soon as ceremony time came. It was an amazing day and such a happy occasion itll be over so so quickly so dont stress it's one day where as the commitment between you and your partner lasts a lifetime and that's all that matters 😊

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

That’s totally normal, it’s difficult but you have to picture that brilliant day that’s waiting for you. The butterflies you’ll have going up the aisle, all the lovely things people will be saying to you, first dance, plenty of craic in the evening do...it’ll be so fantastic and it will all come together! Sending love! 🥰

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Yup! I've not done any planning for 5 months, it got way too much for me and the other half so we popped it on the back burner for a while. X

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

I'm an event planner so you would think I wouldn't feel that way but I really do haha I just think it's part of the process 😕

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Absolutely

UKbride Member 18 Nov 2019

Yep, completely understand. What helped me was writing down every job I could think of, then dividing the jobs by the months we have left till the wedding. I dont always manage to get them all done but we are making a good dent in them and I feel less our if control. Xxx

UKbride Member 19 Nov 2019

You are not alone! I can't tell you how many times I (half joking, half serious) said to Bill Murphy "Sod it, let's just elope!" but stick with it, make it your own and trust that it will be worth it in the end. It sounds corny and cliché but honestly, it was the best day of my life, marrying my best friend and sharing the joy of it all with our nearest and dearest.

UKbride Member 19 Nov 2019

No, iv left myself two years to plan so I can take regular breaks from it. I’m really enjoying it actually.. best thing I did was book it so far in advance.

UKbride Member 19 Nov 2019

I went from mega excite to nonchalant as hell. Now Its getting closer and the excitement is starting to kick in again. It's a stressful thing to do!!!

UKbride Member 20 Nov 2019

Yes, I suffer with high anxiety and panic attacks so had to take my time planning. Do a bit then not look at any wedding stuff for a few weeks. I get married on sat and everything had to be done well before so I could be less stressed at this point. It's Normal to get overwhelmed. Have a break if you can afford to and not think about any wedding things xx

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