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UKbride Member Request 13 Nov 2019

I am getting married next year and I only have 1 bridesmaid (my cousin who I...

I am getting married next year and I only have 1 bridesmaid (my cousin who I never really see but I have always promised her to be my brideamaid). I have become good friends with a girl in the past 6 months and she is showing a real interest in the wedding and wants to organise my hen do. I'm thinking of asking her to be my bridesmaid but not sure if our friendship has got to that point to make her bridesmaid. My H2B thinks it's the right thing to do as he feels like I don't really have a bridesmaid/ friend just having my cousin. Does it matter how long you have known someone for?

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UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Spose it doesn't, but think of it this way, you'll hsve them in your photographs and probably video for ever

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I asked a good friend to be a bridesmaid and I have only known her a year and it was a brilliant decision. If it feels right then ask x

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

If she is a good friend why not , doesn’t matter how long you have known them , I had 13 bridesmaids and never again lol

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Hi I personally think it dosnt matter how long you have known each other, if you feel you have a good enough bond and friendship then defo ask her x

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

This happened to me, only knew my friend for a few months and she asked me to be part of their day, I think she will be thrilled

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I would ask her for sure

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Doesn’t matter how long you’ve known the person. I think it’s best to have ppl who you can rely on and who are willing to help you out. A good friend is best, I wouldn’t make someone a bridesmaid that I haven’t seen or spoken to in years. TBH with my wedding if I haven’t seen or spoken to someone in the last 2years family or friend i didn’t even send them an invite. Prefer to have ppl there I do see. X

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

It doesn’t matter at all, if she’s a big part in your life and a good friend then have her there as part of your bridal party,,,,, that’s my opinion

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Hi absolutely not. It’s your special day and it’s what you feel comfortable with. If your heart is telling you that she is gonna be a perfect bridesmaid then why not. It doesn’t matter how many bridesmaids you have it’s about your special day with you H2B. Friendship dosnt have to be a time frame it’s about who has been there and stayed and supported. Trust me I found out the hard way. Hope that all makes sense. All the best ☺️

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

It doesn’t matter how long you have known her for. All my best friends I have loved from the start (as in literally from the day I have met them). Sometimes you just know.

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Some of my most loyal friends and people are relatively new
In my life. Time doesn’t matter ❤️

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I only had 1 bridesmaid , my daughter ... my son walked her down the aisle before me ... I loved it ❤️

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I was friends with one of my bridesmaids for around 5 months and asked her to be part of the big day. Best decision I ever made x

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I asked a friend recently. She's been a long term friend (along with her husband) to my fiance

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

You've just answered your own question by saying you never see your cousin.......ask the girl she sounds like a good support.

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

It’s your day. Have who you want standing with you. I promised my cousin when we were kids but 20 years on things change. As it was, I had her daughter instead. It’s your day and you’ll want your closest friends with you. Ask her xx

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I asked a girl who is now my best friend after I had asked my sister in law because we became so close and I wouldn’t be with out her now she’s my absolute rock! X x x

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Doesn't matter how long the relationship is, it matters what they mean to you. Go ask her 😊

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I had a bridesmaid I had only been good friends with for 4 months. It didn't seem right to do it without her. It's more about what someone means to you now than how long you have known them.

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Not at all, I think quality not quantity 😊 x

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

No i dont think so sweetheart if u generally feel that u and her have a good friend ship go for it xxx

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Do it. I asked my best friend and I'd only been talking to her properly for about 10months

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

One of my sisters was my maid of honour and she turned out to be a jack ass! We’ve known one another our entire lives lol 😂

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I've only known both my bridesmaids for 6 months, its who you feel would be right xx

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Doesn't matter at all I've only knows my bridesmaid a yer but we just clicked instantly and it felt so right asking her

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

I asked a friend to be my bridesmaid, we had only been close for a few months when I asked her, I was planning my wedding before we got really close. I still had about a year and half of wedding planning to go. I’ve been married now 3 years and this friend became my best friend! I’m so glad that I just went with my gut and asked her to be part of my day! So I say go for it! If it feels right then why not? Surely you want someone in your bridal party your close to? I think your husband is bang on it 😍

UKbride Member 14 Nov 2019

Not at all I had 1 of my friends I knew for a year be my maid of honour

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

It’s your wedding..it’s doesn’t matter if it’s the norm, if it’s what you want then go for it xxx

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

It doesn't matter how long you've known someone, its what feels right for you x

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

Do what makes you happy x x x

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

If you feel that your friendship will last forever then go for it. Just remember they will always be in your photos. I know many that have had friends & family as bridesmaids & they don’t even speak to each other anymore.
You could always ask her to do something important on the day like a reading or a witness if you’re not 100% sure x

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

If it feels right then it's right

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

Absolutely not. I knew a girl 2 months and we became best friends. I asked her and of course she said yes! It doesnt matter how long you know someone it depends on what your relationship is like! X

UKbride Member 15 Nov 2019

I asked a friend of my husbands....... I didn't know her very well but she bent over backwards to make sure my day was special..... My sister (the other adult bridesmaid) didn't help at all....... And then without explanation, didn't even show up on the day. My husbands friend and I are now really close and my sister and I only speak when we have too. It's not about how long you have known someone, it's about the bond you have with them.

UKbride Member 16 Nov 2019

No pet all that matters is that it's what you would like.

UKbride Member 16 Nov 2019

If you get on well and you’d like her to be a part of your day then have her. Sounds like she’s interested

UKbride Member 20 Nov 2019

No. It's a bridesmaid, it's only for one day. And 6 months is plenty. I wouldn't even say 6 months is too fast to marry someone.

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