How many of you are not having children at your wedding? Getting a lot of negative comments about this off family members ????????
Yeah why wouldn’t you? Not the night bit though. There were 9 children at my wedding, including 2 which were our own
I'm going to a wedding in November that have requested no children as they want the adults to be able to enjoy themselves. Obviously, they've said if you can't get childcare, then to bring the children but they'd rather not have them
We had just our children. All other children were invited to the evening. Do what you want it's your day xx
We didn't have any children and didn't have a problem - the parents enjoyed having a child free day & night! If they wanted to bring children to the evening however they could, just not the ceremony or wedding breakfast.
I'm having just my 2 neices and no one else as I want everyone else to enjoy the day without having kids running around, and I've got some backlash from family too
Iv allowed children just at the evening, what child wants to sit through a ceremony..?
I don't know why you woulnt want them there? They are part of the fanily as well. If adults deide not to brimg them then thats for them to decide, i wouldnt insist on it
Your wedding, do what you want! As for the comments saying I don't know why you wouldn't want them there, don't justify those with a response. You don't have to justify anything to anyone
We just had our own and my niece as she was bridesmaid and my nephew. Made it clear we didn't want children there as we were restricted on numbers as it was ! Your wedding your choice ! Xx
If all our guest had brought their children the adults would have been outnumbered! We said family members children only, but to be honest this worked out with most of our guests as they didn't want to being their children. Excuse for mummy and daddy to have a night off. We ended up with about 15-20 children there.
No kids at mine please. I use to work weddings at hotels and saw so many children screaming, crying, causing chaos due to the parents not giving them attention/ something to do. It’s your day. Your choice. If you don’t want kids stick by your guns. X
We mentioned it to people in advance- most were supportive of a night off without their kids! Some people were not so happy, and have approached this delicately. In the end I reminded people that they did what they wanted for their wedding and they should see it as an opportunity for a child free night.
We didn't have any. Totally your choice. Dont be bullied xx
We arnt having children at ours except for our own. The guests that I have spoken to are happy to come without the kids as it means they can totally relax. Plus If we said yes to kids potentially that’s another 25 guests.
We didn’t have children there would have been too many and our package was limited to guests we could have. It’s your wedding do what you want I say 🙂
We had no children to the daytime ( except pageboy and my daughter who was flower girl) said they could come to evening for disco but to be honest most people enjoyed a day and evening child free.
Weddings are expensive. Just invite who you want there. I was restricted on numbers and cant have children there. I thought it was more important to have the childs parent there. Your wedding, your choice. Save the money and just have the most important people there. Hard decision but there are people who you will want there more
We had 3 in the afternoon (grandson and 2 nephews) and 2 others in the evening. Even my family from a distance left there's with family. It's your wedding and it's upto you set the rules
Not having kids apart from my own
We had children at our wedding as we have a 2 year old daughter and wouldn't have wanted her to be alone, but found it was only family that had there children with them most evening guest came without. It's your wedding and your choice. I wanted children there as I am from a big family and children have always been part of big celebrations. If they don't like it they dont have to come.. xx
Only my brothers two children are invited, that's of they are coming as we don't know yet. And it's only because they are flying over with my brother. Apart from that our wedding will be strictly child free. Its very expensive inviting children and parents and we have limited numbers. End of. Just say it like it from start and set people's expectations. And if they don't want to come because they can't bring their children, well clearly they don't want to be there that much
We had zero children, our friends were happy to have their children looked after elsewhere as they could then completely relax x
There is no way I’m having any kids at mine, can’t stand them!
We had family kids but no one elses. We put it to other guests as "we want people to enjoy their day and not worry about their kids" x
We only had our 3 kids at our wedding (from start to finish) For a slightly less politically correct reason to everyone elses though...we just don't tend to like other peoples kids (ours are questionable sometimes 🤣) so why would we have wanted them running around, screaming and making a fuss on our day 🤷️
️ Ignore any negative comments - it's your day and your money! If people choose not to come because their children aren't invited, it won't be the end of the world! I think it's actually a bit unfair to assume that children are always invited anyway....
We are having family children only.
As a parent of 2 children I'd respect the wishes of someone who wants a child free wedding however I wouldn't attend as I have no one to look after my children and if my children aren't important to them then they're not important to me :) I've taken my girls to 4 weddings in total, throughout the ages of 3 months old and up to 4 years old and never once have I had an issue with them "screaming" or "running riot".
We aren’t having kids there. We think parents would want a day off anyway. If people aren’t happy with your choice (as it is YOUR wedding) and decide not to come then that’s their loss. But stick to your decision and don’t let anyone persuade you otherwise. X
If someone invited me to their wedding but not my children then I wouldn't go. Me, my husband and my children come as one :) xx
I'm just so thankful only 1 of our friends has a child so far
We had family children but not friends children. But if someone couldn’t come because of childcare issues then I would include the children then. But a lot of people are happy to come without the children as it’s a day off for them x
We had children from 10 days old to 12 years old, they were good as old. Adults on the other hand were far more badly behaved...
Only immediate family niece nephews and own children . If we were to invite everyone’s children our wedding budget would be through the roof and we could not accommodate our actual guests as children would be taking their spaces . I would never expect my kids to be invited to a wedding unless immediate family
Everyone chooses to do their wedding different and how they want, since i have 2 kids myself who will be attending i wouldn't feel right saying no kids allowed to my wedding and i wouldnt want to see it any other way, ive book a bouncy castle and got sweets ect and activity packs
Only my own child and my brothers kids as they were flower girls at the day celebrations. Kids were welcome at evening reception. If people have an issue, that’s their problem and they will miss out on your special day. Don’t stress about it if that’s what you want.
We couldn't afford to have everyone and their kids at the wedding/meal. They were welcome to come to the evening part. Some will be negative, leave them to it. It's your day.
Only my son and his niece's and nephews.
We've not had any comments.
Other children are invited to the evening
Im going to a wedding tomorrow with out my 2 children. We had children at our wedding but that was only because our daughter was 2 at the time. If we had got married before we had our daughter we probably would of had a child free wedding bar our nephew. On the other hand I have taken both of my children (aged 4 and 16 months) to a wedding on my ownand neither off them screamed through the ceremony and had fun.
I’m only having family children to my wedding! Me and h2b attended a wedding without our children last year and was nice not having a worry about them all day! Just remember it’s your day and you can’t please everyone! If people don’t want to attend without there children then they don’t!!
Absolutely not you chose to have children before you got married so you come as a package and the same for relatives as well with children
I'm only having immediate children x
Family children only... it would cost a fortune otherwise... flexible at evening reception.. but I think by that point most mum's and dad's will be happy to let their hair down.x
We are unsure as yet. We can't go to weddings if kids not invited because if all the family there then we've no one for the kids. It's all of us or none of us. I've been to friends weddings all day and kids been invited and not been able to go to family weddings because kids haven't been invited. However we are still thinking about kids at ours, I know the ones that have other people for their kids but if childcare was an issue then I'd say bring them. Would hate for a family member to not be able to make it because they can't find childcare. If we invite all kids though we'd have 16 all day. It's a tough one if you don't want anyone missed xx
we have family and children for day (16 kids) but have said no to extra children with eve guests and had only one decline because they couldn’t get a babysitter
My other half has children and if he didnt we wouldnt but because he does we are having them and my cousins and thats it. Its not about kids no being important. Inviting kids really fills the guest list up! We are only aloud 110 people. Children would out number the adults and it's an adult celebration
I will not be having children at my wedding.
I do however know some people hire ‘wedding nannies’ to run a play area for children so they’re safe and cared for and not around drunken grownups later on.
We are only having close family children. It’s your wedding and you are paying for it so it should be your decision! Plus we don’t have enough room for other children
I'm only having my kids, nieces and nephews. Even then I'm asking for them to be gone by 9/9.30 latest. It's nice for them to join in but in the evening I dont believe it's a place for children when everyone is drunk.
Only grandchildren coming to ours
I had loads of children at my wedding reception.... but then I work with children and many of their families have become good friends.
I’m having children at my wedding for the simple fact my nana wouldn’t be able to come if not as she cares for my uncles children. I would always allow children at a wedding but ask them to leave at a reasonable time at the reception. That’s just my personal opinion xxx
IMO it's fine to not invite children but you do then have to accept that it means that certain people may not be able to/want to come and are likely to be disappointed by that. We were looking at family/bridal party children only, but hopefully have found a way to make it work as I'd like them to be included.
Only immediate family children.. so my own kids and nieces and nephews which totals 9kids. If everyone else’s kids were invited I’d need to win the lottery to pay for them x
We just had family children. 2 of our own then 5 family kids. If we had children as well we wouldn’t have been able to invite all our friends as most of my friends have 2 or 3 kids so numbers would have been too high. Everyone didn’t have a problem with this and enjoyed a cheeky night over in the hotel child free x
My sil didn't have children there after 7pm.
We've got two children who are young and its all close family coming which majority of is kids so it makes up our numbers and there is alot for them to do such as bouncy castles and activities plus all that matters is im marrying my best friend not about who's kids are coming
We are having my partners grandsons and two younger children there but they will be leaving before the evening guests arrive x but had a lot of unhappy people because we didn’t invite their younger children until I explained the cost and to be honest I don’t want a load of kids there it’s our day x
We said no and told the parents to consider it a night off 😊 xxx
I’m only having my daughter there. No other children until the night.
I don’t want any “I’m bored” moans, no “is it nearly over” “can we go yet” and certainly no iPads on tables!!
I know it doesn’t suit some, but it’s a day I’m planning to my tastes so feel it’s ok to do so.
Ps. Children’s can come party the night away if they wish too xx
Unless the wedding was a close family member I wouldn't expect my children to be invited and if they were invited I probably would take the opportunity to have a child free night and leave them with a grandparent!! If any friends were to not invite my kids I'd totally understand that money is definitely a major factor and besides I wouldn't take them anyway
Only children there are our nieces, most of whom are our flowergirls
I’ve been to a few family wedding we’re only close family children’s were there. So the bride and grooms, siblings children and a few cousins. No-one else’s children were there as it was a family wedding
However you want the wedding it is yours and not other members of the family. I’d be happy with my partner, me & some witness. My partner wants his close family, fine so I’ve invited some of mine to. Only having a small wedding and certain I’m not listening to others who want other people invited only children coming are close family
The only children invited to ours was our son, my bridesmaids daughter and my sister in laws daughter. Everyone else understood and most said they would have chosen not to bring their kids anyway just so they could enjoy the day and have some drinks without worrying about their children.
It's your day so ultimately your choice ☺
The only children I had were my 3 children and my brothers 3 children, they were included in the 'bridal party being my bridesmaid s and page boy 😁.
It's yours and your husbands to be wedding day, if whoever doesn't like it they don't have to be there ( sorry if I sound harsh) .
Youngest at ours is nine. We don’t have many friends with kids and most are looking forward to leaving them at home!
We're having immediate family kids only because my fiancées sister is coming from London so needs to bring her little ones but that's it xx
We had a child free wedding. All our parent-friends appreciated we wanted them to have a day off and have fun.
We are being child free, most people's reactions was amazing! Night off! A few have tried to question it but we are very limited on numbers anyway but mainly as I lost our youngest child in January and my best friend who is giving me away had his first child the day before I would have had mine, I can't even see a photo without being reminded of what I have lost, small babies and bumps are super triggering and tbh on my wedding day I would rather avoid so my day can be pure joy and not the sadness for one day.
I wish those who already have children instead of questioning when they are told a couple want a child free wedding just took advantage of a day off or just accepted it even if they need to decline, there can be far more behind the decision than just money or wanting it adults only, such as the 1 in 4 brides who are privately dealing with child loss or fertility issues privately.
Just accept it's the couples choice instead of well I'm not coming then!
We are getting a carer for all the kids on the day! MiL is paying 😁
We are only having groomsmen’s kids, flowegirl is family and my closest Friends kids. 6 in total. No one else her to bring kids x
It's your wedding, your choice! The whole "children make a wedding" is absolute rubbish. I'm sure your family are more than capable of finding baby sitters. Also, don't let them say the whole "you don't care about my children, so I dont care about you". Because that's also rubbish! It's your wedding and I think sometimes people don't understand the cost!
I have 19 children on my side alone, not including friends children or the grooms family. We have said no children, no exceptions. The venue we wanted is not a place for children and we want the guests to relax and not have to worry about under 18s
We had the children to the day time but any evening guests we requested no additional children. We went with the thought that if we've got their parents to the day time then they must be close friends or family. To be honest most of our friends didnt bring their children it was just family who did.
We're not having kids at ours. We've had a couple of comments but we dont care
No kids ar ours day or night except for our 2 and my other flower girls who are my grandchildren.
It's our wedding day not a kids party so they have to suck it up! If theh dont like it dont come. Stakd your ground. You'll never get to relive your wedding day
And if that's your wish then stick to it. Good luck.
We had no children rule, we only were able to seat 60 and with family and friends there was simply not enough room...... I also wanted my friends and family to be able to relax completely and having your child there means to have to be an adult .....
We are sort of having a weekend wedding and as a full time working Mam or soon to be too i know how hard it is to find a babysitter we are saying if they want to bring them they are more than welcome too, but everyone is different
My partners kids came to watch us get married then went home at 6 (they school the next day anyway). No kids at the evening, meant people could drink and dance without having to avoid knee sliding children. If they dont like it they dont have to come xx
We aren't having kids at our wedding.... Or adults can't wait!!
We didnt and was best decision we made !! Its your day go with what YOU want. That's all that matters xx
Yep. Just our 3 kids and 4 immediate neices and nephews. No other kids. You'll get grief regardless of the decisions you make. Unfortunately once you say you're getting married people think they have some sort of entitlement to give their opinion or tell you what you should or shouldn't do. I made the mistake at the start of letting it affect me and getting upset. Now I don't care what people think. It's our wedding not theirs and they should respect your decision and not question it. Personally I love going to a wedding without my kids, can relax more!!
I get that people don't want children at their wedding but if I was to say that I wouldn't have anyone coming as most people have children and I don't want them on edge wondering about their children or leaving early to get home to the children. Xx
We didn't invite children, apart from his older neice and nephew. Its personal choice.
We feel that weddings are adult events and wanted our guests to be able to let loose and enjoy it. Also the added guests with children would have almost doubled our guest list and not been affordable.
If anyone grumbles then they shouldn't come, end of.
I'm not! it's your choice and for us it would almost double the guest list ! we just cannot afford to have the kids there too x
Ruth it's your wedding so it's your call.
Just family children at ours in the day xx
We are having children, we we are family orientated. The problem is with so many children if you have limited space is it's harder narrowing the list of invites. Some people aren't happy that there are children there! I understand both and think everyone should respect the couple's decision. It's not about not caring for the children I think it's more so that the focus of the day isn't lost and there aren't any issues. Children or no children it's always going to put someone out unfortunately 🤷♀️
We are having family children only as they are going to be flower girls/page boys. I have my cousins daughter, my other cousins son and my 2 nephews. My cousins partner has two older girls and they are brilliant with the kids so they are going to be giving the adults a much needed night off. We also have a cottage on sight at our venue that is about a 50 yard walk from the barn we will be in so if the kids get tired they can crash there
It’s up to you, but don’t tell one side no children then arrive to see the other side with children and babies! Now that’s just bullshit keep it even what ever happens
I got married in 2016 and other than my 1 niece 18 months and 2 nephews 5 and 7 I had no other kids. My friends all understood and actually seemed really grateful for a day to themselves. It’s your day, you have (and let’s face it, pay for) whoever you want to share it with you both. Good luck
Bridal party kids only at ours. Not because we don’t love others but purely numbers as a small venue x
We are only having our 18 month old son , step daughter and two god children, I spoke personally to friends with children and explained we were restricted on numbers and so we couldn’t have plus kids. My friends were really understanding. It’s your day and you should be supported in what you want x
The only children we're having is our direct family members - nieces and nephews - because they're flower girls and page boys
Adult only day and my bridesmaid has a small kid. She couldn’t care less as now she can enjoy herself properly 🥳
Nope none at all we said right from the start no children! And if people don’t like it tough it’s our big day and it’s one day people need to respect your decision x x x
I’m not! Only nieces and nephews (5). It’s expensive as it is.
Hi Ellie, it’s your wedding remember, you do what u want to do as it is your day. To be invited is lovely with or without children xx
Not a single one to our wedding
I am having a lot of kids at mine
I really don’t understand why people get so offended if their children aren’t invited. It doesn’t mean their children arnt important to them, they just want an adult atmosphere without the added expense. All the parents I know would jump at the chance for a night off!
Have what you want. Enjoy your day
Sadly the venue does not have a huge limit for numbers of people, so we’ve had to say no to kids. We gave a year’s warning to our guests though!
I'm having children til 6 then adults only unless it's immediate family that has travelled from out of town and my sister and nieces and nephews
We're always excited when a wedding invite comes through the door and it says 'no children' 😆 working with children all day and having my own 2 it's nice to have a day off! And we will only be having close family children at our wedding. It's expensive enough! X
From someone who just spent yesterday running after a 3yr old all day at a wedding, anyone who wants to take their kids to a wedding when they have alternative childcare is off their head
I think I would at least have any nieces and nephews because they’re close family. Everyone else normally the children don’t come...kids can find weddings quite long and dull!
We just had our own and our nephews there, everyone else seemed delighted they didn’t have to take their kids so they could drink and have a good time but I understand not everyone has people to help them with childcare x
I had no qualms about saying no to kids at my wedding. I also gave 10 months notice and insisted there would be no wedding presents. I wanted people to spend the money on another night with us and babysitter instead and let their hair down...which they did.
I'm having children at mine as baby sitters are hard to Come by
Im actually surprised at how many Weddings were child free, if i didnt include children half the people (friends & family) probably wouldn't be able to come. However i will leave it up to the adults if they want to bring their children or not! end of the day it is your wedding you have it how you want it but some people may not go if you don't allow children 🤷️
Kids more than welcome at ours - we’ve 5 between us anyway, so what’s a few more?!
Weddings and funerals are 2 places you don’t take children (but obviously depends on the family relationship. Family fine but random mates nah )
**Also because child get SO fkn bored , and start running
I think it depends on the relationship you have with the people with children. I couldn’t have gotten married and not had my nieces and nephews there, and if someone in my immediate family chose to not have children I’d be upset however if it was a friend who didn’t have children themselves or children in their family I would understand their decision so I really do think it depends x
I think it depends, if we received an invite from my side of the family saying no children, then we couldn't attend as my parents are the only ones who baby sit. But it if was my husbands family or our friend then it would be fine as long as my parents were available too x (my in laws are fantastic and would totally watch our kids but they live 2hours away so no feasible for 1day/night x
We are not inviting children only flower girls and page boy. We have put a kind note on our wedding invitations to state this. In a very kind and diplomatic way. Our guests have a appreciated this as they believe that this is a time for the adults to relax xx
I'm going to a wedding tomorrow and taking my 3 month old but have a babysitter for my 3 year old. Personally I don't like it when people say no children but respect their wishes. However when it's babies especially when bresstfeeding there isn't a choice to be made they have to come. I had kids at my wedding and it was lovely. We hired a nanny to watch my son and he and the other kids had a great time x
We are toying with the idea as she has a large (& extended) family and if all the children come it will add about 45 guests.
We have family children coming to the wedding and for friends have explained if they can get them looked after do so but if notndont worry as at the end of the day I would rather our friends be there then miss out xx
We feel that the adults should be able to relax and enjoy our special day with us without worrying about their children and keeping them quite and entertained. We are having our daughter who will be 14 and niece and nephew who will be 12 and 10. X
We are having children as my partner has 5 and I’ve a few nieces and nephews, it’s entirely personal preference but we’re a close family and it wouldn’t be the same without them, others guests children are invited to make it easier for them not requiring childcare and the children will all keep themselves entertained, at last count we had 30 children for the day, it’s a summer wedding so we’ll be getting a bouncy castle and some outside games for them although to be honest I’m sure plenty of the adults will be playing on them also.
I wont be having any children at my wedding. It's entirely up to you. Can you afford the extra costs of having numerous children added to the guest list? Do you want them shouting/crying/interrupting the ceremony, speeches etc? If you give everyone you invite sufficient notice, then they should be able to arrange adequate childcare to give themselves a day off.
Only having neices and nephews. Rest of kids will come in evening x
We’re having no children; your day, your choice!