Robyn Gregg
Robyn Gregg 14 Sep 2019

Loved one passed away

Hi everyone, I recently lost my Granda last month which was a big shock for me. He was just the most wonderful man, we all loved him very dearly and I never imagined he wouldn't be at my wedding. The wedding won't be for a few years, but every time I talk to people about wedding plans or search wedding topics online, there's always a reminder that he won't be there and it's just devastating. I'm just wondering for those of you who lost someone very close to you before your wedding, how I could make him a part of the day and make me feel like somehow he's still there with me? Your ideas would be so appreciated x

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Becca Drew
Becca Drew 15 Sep 2019

Hi Robyn, I'm so sorry to hear this!

My friend got married recently and they had a 'In Memory' table as they had both lost family who meant alot to them and they had a plaque acknowledging that they knew their presence was there. It was really lovingly done x

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Our Nieces also had a memory board which was lovely. We're getting married in May and we have chosen the Church where my partners Dad is laid to rest and where he and his Wife got married x

Lindsey Field
Lindsey Field 16 Sep 2019

Having lost my grandad over 20 years ago I was worried about how to include him in the wedding, he wouldn’t have wanted a picture or a table so we have decided to use his tartan in our colour scheme! Xx

Laura Kate
Laura Kate 16 Sep 2019

We had my grandad’s picture up on the bar with one of his glasses and had a whisky in there. Made me feel better, like he was having a drink with us. I hope you find something that’s helps you feel he’s part of your day. X

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Michelle Whiting
Michelle Whiting 16 Sep 2019

Perhaps carry something of his as your something old. I lost my nana over a decade ago she was my everything and dearly wanted to be at my wedding. I will be carrying the faux flowers she wore at my parents wedding in my flowers so I know she is there with me. Perhaps you could do something like this

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

A memory table, my friend got married last year and her nain had died about 2 years before. She had a table with her picture, her taids (welsh for grandma and granddad) as well as people from the grooms family. It was a lovely way to have them there with them on the day

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

A memory table or ladder. My husband to be lost his mum as we got together so we are going to have a memory ladder with pictures of her, and her wedding picture so she’s part of our day. We are also going to take my bouquet to her resting place xx

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Aww bless you hunni, Myself & my new husband got married on Saturday, & we brought a plaque that says Because someone we love is in Heaven theres a little bit of Heaven at our wedding, xxxxxxxx

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 16 Sep 2019

I lost my nanny many years ago and she was a huge part of my life so I bought a wedding bouquet memory charm and put her photo in it and pinned it to my dress so she was with me all day x

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Sorry for your loss. I was also devastated that my nans wouldn’t see me get married. I got pictures of them in small frames and had them tied to my bouquet so they was close to me. I then put my bouquet on her grave the day after the wedding and put the flowers from my centre table on my other nans grave x

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

I have my necklace and earring belonged to two of of my gt nans and my grandad who passed away late last year left my daughter's a ring each I am having one of these in my flowers.

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

My grandad always wore a flat cap i kept his "dress cap" 🤣 after he died i plan sewing a piece into inside of my dress beside my heart.

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

I lost my mum 3 weeks before my wedding, it was too new and raw to have memory table but my husband to be had lost both his parents years before so to include everyone and have my mum with me... I added 2 lockets to my bouquet, one with husbands parents and one with my mum in. I also wore one of mum's rings. My late grandparents were musical so I also had a paper and brooch bouquet made using my grandparents music scores/papers and nan's jewellery.

Katrina Hallett
Katrina Hallett 16 Sep 2019

I've got petals from my grandads favourite flower (from the ones he planted ) in my confetti :) there are things like photos on the flowers or a memory table that you could do x

Caroline Critchley
Caroline Critchley 16 Sep 2019

We will placing 2 places on the top table , 1 for my dad and 1 for my h2b mum with their photos next to the cake

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Candles with their names on is a nice touch for a memorium table but yeh having something of his on you or you bouquet or your husbands suit could be a nice way too.

Kathy Deane
Kathy Deane 16 Sep 2019

My grandad loved blue Roses. I had a blue rose ring attached to my bouquet. You can get photo frames that also attach to the bouquet x

Rebecca Cherrett
Rebecca Cherrett 16 Sep 2019

So sorry to hear this. A few of my friends have lost someone close before weddings. Some of the things they have done is have a small picture of them in a pendant attached to their bouquet, others have left a seat empty at the ceremony near a wall with a plaque on the wall which had a lovely poem on there for them. Others have had a little table with photos of loved ones who couldn't be there xxx

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Hi its hard to go ahead with your special day under those circumstances I lost my dad 6 months before our wedding and it was hard but he was very much a part of our day we had a memory table with his photo on beside the top table, my amazing husband bought me an ashes to glass necklace so he was with me and I had a laser cut metal photo on my bouquet so he was there holding my hand xxx whatever you decide it will be personal to you mean the world to you xxxx

Roxie Houghton
Roxie Houghton 16 Sep 2019

So sorry for your loss. Its so hard...
I lost my grandad about a month after I got engaged. I managed to find an old photo of him, and I had it in a little frame on my bouquet as my something old! I'll post a pic below! Hope you find something that feels right! Xx

Victoria Duncan
Victoria Duncan 16 Sep 2019

We had a ladder with all our grandparent’s wedding pictures and a candle lit in memory of those that couldn’t be with us

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

So many of the weddings we film have a "memory area"... either a table with photos, a tree branch with hanging photos or similar. Maybe even an item of jewlery - a watch or something - worn by a member of the wedding party.

Laurisa Kerr
Laurisa Kerr 16 Sep 2019

I got married last month I lost my nan and grandad before the wedding as couple of years back my nan suffered with dementia is I had forgetmenot jewellery and angle wings on my necklace

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

I have a charm with a photo of my loved ones on - similar to a locket to attach within my bouquet. It’s small and no one will see it, which is fine as it’s personal to me, but I will know they’re there, walking down the aisle with me xx

Michelle Ashbrook
Michelle Ashbrook 16 Sep 2019

We have a photo board with loved ones xx

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

We had a memory table at our wedding last month and had a photo of my mum with her dog, Beauty and one of my father-in-law. After the wedding I put my both my daughter's (who had been bridesmaids) posy's on my mum's grave.

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 16 Sep 2019

I am having a memory table with pics on both my grandfathers, my dad and my uncle with tealights for people to light. I also have a locket with my dads picture on that i will wear.

Robyn Gregg
Robyn Gregg 16 Sep 2019

Thank you so much everyone for your very supportive comments and lovely ideas. You’ve all given me lots of things to think about and it’s a great comfort 💖❤️

Sarah Foley
Sarah Foley 16 Sep 2019

I have bought my h2b and I a multi picture pendant as we've both lost our dad's, also going to include a picture if a dear friend of our who left money for us when he passed for us to get married. We are also going to play some of their favourite music. A memory table would be too much for us to handle seeing x

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Hi.
My Dad passed away roughly ten week before my wedding.
I had a charm on my bouquet in memory of him. My husband also bought me a rose gold necklace with a Robin on to wear on the big day, as we had seen so many Robins after he passed. I also put a photo of him and me together next to the guest book at the wedding reception. My husband wore cuff links with some lovely words in my dad's honour on them.
Although I missed my Dad so much at my wedding I knew he was with us all in spirit.
Best of luck for you big day xxx

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Olivia Grace
Olivia Grace 16 Sep 2019

I'm planning on having an "angel table" reserved for family members that myself and my fiancé have lost. There will be a table reserved for them with a candle each, a feather and a photo that shows the family member and us together. We'll also be carrying items from our family members. For me that will be my great granny's crystal necklace, my grandads owl ring, my grandma's perfume and dolphin charm (which I will be adding to a bracelet) and my cousins lipstick case

Hayley Wright-Mitchell
Hayley Wright-Mitchell 16 Sep 2019

Sorry for your loss..

I had photos of my deceased loved ones on our top table at the reception x

Natalie Lloyd
Natalie Lloyd 16 Sep 2019

Hi, we got married recently and have both lost people close to us, one being his mom. I wrote a poem that i put both at the grave and in our reception but also during our meal we had a slideshow of us growin up with the people included who was missing, we havr been told it was a nice touch to see they wasnt forgotten about. My advice is do what is you, include him in a way that represents you or your relationship with him.
Best of luck.

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

I’m having photos of loved ones on a mirror. Then some words written on the glass in memory.

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

I had a bouquet photo frame of my Nan x pinned on by one of her brooches x

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

A few years???

It is sad that the grandfather has passed, but why wait years for a wedding day?

Is it a specific venue that you've dreamed of or you are saving a small fortune for a mega party?

Monique Layne
Monique Layne 16 Sep 2019

Sorry for your loss I also had a memory table for family members I’d lost xx

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

I'm so sorry to hear of ypur Grandas passing. I lost my mum in 2016 and I got married 3 weeks ago. It was so hard as i wanted her to br a part of the planning and of course be there on the day. I bought a pendant that I put a photo of her in and my florist tied it to my bouquet with some ribbon. Only a few people knew it was there on the day and I could look at it if I wanted to. I also wore my mums favourite pendant and ring that has some of her ashes in. We also mentioned her on the order of service. In the church we had a candle at the back that the vicar lit for us and only myself and my hubby knew what it represented. We didnt want to make too big a deal of it, just something personal and in some ways private to us. We didnt need reminding that mum wasn't there in person but was there in some small way so she wasn't left out.
All the best in deciding what you do but your Granda will always be with you in your heart and will be smiling down on you always xxx

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

So sorry for your loss. My dad died in 2014, I am getting married next year. I will have something of my dad’s as my something old we are also having some music that reminds me of him. It’s really tough to do this without someone important there. Some lovely things being suggested that I also might use x

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 16 Sep 2019

I had a locket on my bouquet with my Grandad and Grandpa’s photos on it.
In addition to this, we had an easel with a board on it which had photos of our loved ones that couldn’t be there.

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

Search Sentiment Pendants on here, she does brooch and shoe pendants with a picture of your loved one

Michelle Croxford
Michelle Croxford 16 Sep 2019

My husband to be bought me a locket to have photos of my little girl in and it was attached to my bouquet... I also had forget me not flowers in bouquet and main table flower arrangement...x

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

My grandad died suddenly last year, my wedding is this Saturday and he was meant to be walking me down the aisle. I have had his cufflinks sewn into my dress and a ring pillow made out of his shirt. I also changed my wedding colours to reflect the colour of the suit he would have worn. I understand how you feel, although I'm excited for my wedding, I'm also very sad that my grandad wont be there x

Anita Elahi
Anita Elahi 16 Sep 2019

Have a look at 'sentiment pendants'. They have a page on Facebook. I have a pendant made to go on my bouquet with my mum's photo in it. Then she can be with me as I walk down the aisle and the rest of the day 😊

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UKbride Administrator 16 Sep 2019

So sorry to hear that! Planning the wedding is definitely the hardest part. My husband lost his mother a year before our wedding (everything was already booked and she was so excited). My husband didnt want the wedding to become all about this and make it a sad occasion so we chose small ways to honour her. I wore her favourite bracelet on the day and I made my husband a necklace and had his mothers handwriting engraved on it. He wore it under his shirt all day and still wears it a lot now. (Inscripture was the site. Couldnt recommend enough!!). We also made a donation to a charity that provides a short break away for cancer sufferers as a small treat to relax. This was in lieu of wedding favours. My mother in law was lucky to spend a few nights there and loved it. We simply put a sign up on the cake table with bank details in case anyone else wished to donate. Small things I think go a long way. We felt it was perfect for us.

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UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2019

I have been married before and I’m now engaged elsewhere. My aunt who was like a mum died unexpectedly 6 months before the wedding and there was a huge hole all day. I wished I had postponed everything so by the time things come around it shouldn’t be so raw for you. I have looked at a memory candle and was going to find some images of those who should be there for our wedding I feel they all deserve a mention. Some people put charms in their bouquet... I’m sorry for your loss x

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UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2019

I saw a beautiful idea on Pinterest where the couple put a picture of their family members on a reserved chair for the people who had passed away. X sorry for your loss

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UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2019

I have 2 pendant lockets with pics of my dad and grandad and I tied them to my flowers. I also had an area with photos dedicated to those who couldn't be with us on our day.

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UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2019

We had a memory tree... A table-top cherry blossom tree led lamp with charms hanging on it. The charms were little photo frames with lost loved ones pictures

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UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2019

https://www.notonthehighstreet.com/thegreendovecote/product/remembrance-gift

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UKbride Administrator 17 Sep 2019

I put my grandads wedding ring on my charm bracelet so I had part of him there with me.

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Charlotte Jackson
Charlotte Jackson 17 Sep 2019

My step mum lost her dad just a month before the wedding so she had a locket sewn into her bouquet with a picture of her mum and dad who had both sadly passed, so sorry for your loss xx

Elissa Solomon
Elissa Solomon 18 Sep 2019

Maybe something this?

When my sister got married she had a table with framed photos of loved ones who have passed away. With the saying "we know you would be here today if heaven wasnt so far away" in the middle of the photos.

When i get married next year im going to wear a flower crown of artificial roses to honor my late nana whos middle name is Rose and it was her favourite flower ( and is my favourite too)

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UKbride Administrator 18 Sep 2019

So sorry for your loss.
I've now lost both my grandparents in the last 21 months. I have a bouquet charm so they can be with me but will also be having a memory table

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UKbride Administrator 18 Sep 2019

My dad passed away 6 years before my wedding, so I had rosemary in my bouquet for remembrance and we placed a button hole on an empty seat in the front row, he was every much part of my special day

Deanna Penney
Deanna Penney 19 Sep 2019

I had mini pictures hanging from my bouquet of my grandad, who had passed away 9 months before my wedding, my nan and my great grandparents.

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Rebecca Finnigan
Rebecca Finnigan 19 Sep 2019

My partner lost his mum just before our engagement (a year before wedding) we plan to use her favourite flowers, purple lilies in bouquets and button holes in her memory. Perhaps a trinket or such incorporated into decor or I have heard of people doing memory candles

Jenna Brown
Jenna Brown 22 Sep 2019

I lost my mum and gran last year and will be having a memory table with flowers and their photos as well as bouquet charms which will have their photos in. But ultimately you carry them in your heart x

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 29 Sep 2019

A memory table for any one passed on both sides x with there pictures a candle and a sign saying as there is someone we love in heaven a little bit of heaven I is our wedding x also you can have a locket with your grandad picture attached to your bouquet so with you down the aisle x

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