My fiance and I have recently got engaged and are starting to plan an engagement party as we won't be getting married for a couple of years. My future mother in law is insisting we invite her entire family (60+) people despite knowing most won't attend due to distance. The places we were planning to hold the engagement party can't accommodate huge numbers and we really can't afford the costs if they did turn up - do I just invite them to keep the peace and then expect this to also happen at the wedding when it will become an even bigger issue? I want to keep the peace but don't want to have to cut my close friends to fit them in and my other half doesn't really want to invite people he hasn't seen for years! I have hardly any family attending and have tried to cut mine down as much as possible but we're still way over. Any advice would be massively appreciated! Thank you
I'd stick to your guns love and invite just the initial peoe that you see and actually want there x
Invite who you want, it's your engagement and wedding at the end of the day. You don't to prove anything to anyone or let them bully you into something you dont want x
Imo if she is insisting that they are invited then she pays for them
Stick to your guns and don't invite them, it's your party not hers
Maybe speak to the mother in law to be and explain the budget and if she would like to invite them that you both can't afford it. That way if she wants them to come she can offer to help with the costs. At the end of the day it's your choice as your paying.
If your other half doesnt really want them there then leave it to him to explain to his mother xx
If your other half doesnt really want them there then leave it to him to explain to his mother xx
Honestly, I agree with everyone on here. Although you don't want to upset anyone, I'd invite those you plan on inviting to the day. I'd send out the invites and if she says we'll so and so hasn't been invited just say, "yeah we know". It's your wedding not hers m'lovely. It's up to you and you H2B x
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