UKbride Member Request 28 May 2019

Bridesmaid trouble

Anyone got any advice? I’m struggling to decide what to do about bridesmaids. I have already asked my MoH, I have 2 family members I want to ask and 1 other friend = 4 bridesmaids But then I also have 3 really good friends that I used to go to school with who i have remained really close to and feel I should ask. However I’m worried that 7 bridesmaids will be too many and I’m not sure I can afford to pay for them all. I know I could ask the bridesmaids to contribute but I’d feel bad doing that and I know the 3 friends from school especially already struggle financially. My fiancé also does not have that many friends to ask to be his groomsmen and has mentioned in the past he’s worried about it looking like he’s got no one if I have 7 bridesmaids.. Any advice or ideas - part of me just really wants to have all 7 but the other part thinks 4 would be better.. Thanks in advance!

Rach Sherratt
Rach Sherratt 28 May 2019

My sister had 10 bridesmaids and her husband had 4 groomsmen and it didn't look weird at all. However, my sister was very fortunately in a position to be able to pay for hair/makeup and dresses for all the bridesmaids. You know yours and the potential bridesmaids financial situations the best and if you think it will cause too much stress maybe have a think about another way they could have a more significant part in the wedding? X

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 29 May 2019

im sure if you ask them they will help with cost I was bridesmaid for my friend we payed for our shoes and dresses she pyed for hair and makeup xx she had 6 brides maids 1 moh she went firsdt then the bridesmaids walked in 2 her husband had 1 best man and 1 usher I think and it didn't look odd xx

Allyce Hilson
Allyce Hilson 5 Jun 2019

I would say choose exactly who you want to be by your side, if you’d like them to all be involved ask you best friends I really want you to be apart of my day but due to family commitments I’m having to have my family members first! So if you’d like to be apart of my day do love for you to be there is there a chance you could possibly purchase your dresses? If they are as good as friends as you say, and they REALLY want to be apart of your day, they will spare the money to be there. But just bare in mind the dresses you choose will have to be a reasonable price, as if I was paying for my own dress for someone else’s wedding I wouldent want to spend anymore then £70 on a dress xxx

Georgina Youé
Georgina Youé 9 Jun 2019

I didn’t want to rate my female friends, I have a few close friends who I would consider close enough for the role but I also didn’t want to have too many or have anyone feel left out if I didn’t ask so I kept it simple and my MoH is my best friend of 10 year so and my bridesmaids and my sister and my cousin. All my female friends were understanding and just want to be invited to the hen do and have a general wedding invite!


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