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Wedding anxiety

Has any one else been having anxiety about their day? I can’t stop thinking about people not turning up in the night or no 1 getting up dancing and people just being bored in general, plus I’ve had family members on my side and his say their not coming because they aren’t invited in the day (that’s a whole other story ????) any advice to calm the nerves x

31 Comments
Cerys Fagan
Cerys Fagan 8 Apr 2019

Just remember the reason why your doing it and the people who do turn up are the ones who mean the most. My dad passed away a few months before my wedding so I was super chilled about the day as I thought there's nothing that can go wrong that can compare to not having my dad there. Just enjoy your day x

Maria  Bywater
Maria Bywater 8 Apr 2019

Why worry if they dont come? If they were not there in the day you wont miss them in the evening. Also just dont worry about everyone else it's your day. I'm getting the go wrong dreams right now. Its terrifying but it's about u n your partner and the rest are along for the ride. As long as u enjoy yourself that's all that matters

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Focus on the two of you and why the day matters. You won't be able to control everyone else or even other things like weather etc so just decide to have fun whatever and make it the best day possible for you both!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Take a break and have some fun. As a wedding planner planning my own wedding I am getting all the same feelings as you even though I have seen it all vomit together and everything is always amazing xxx as long as you enjoy your day and focus on you as it's all about you xxx

Michelle Memerton
Michelle Memerton 8 Apr 2019

I’ve literally had sleepless nights! But really it’s OUR day so as long as we’re both there then that’s all that matters. Anyone else wish they’d eloped 🙋🏽‍♀️

Hayley Wright-Mitchell
Hayley Wright-Mitchell 8 Apr 2019

One tip would be to make sure you have a good DJ and a good MC. The MC will set the tone for the whole night and will know what to do to get the crowd involved. In terms of family not showing up for not being invited to the day: those that care will come. They will also understand that it’s of no offence to them, just that you may not be able to afford for them to attend the whole thing. Weddings are a time when people learn who they’re real friends are. Take solace in the fact that you won’t be surrounded by pretenders.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

You wont even care when it comes to it I absolutely promise you that i had hang ups about everything i hated the way i looked my weight i was worried about our 3 kids and it all went without a hitch i felt like it was just me and my husband on the day it was absolutely amazing everything just goes away i nearly fell down the aisle my dad stood on my dress I didn’t give a shit i could just see my husband waiting for me and I couldn’t wait to just say our vows and be his wife!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

We got married in October. We had a very small wedding, 30 people in the day (pretty much everyone we invited) and should have had double that in the evening. There were like 20 people there after approx 9pm and by 11pm there were around 10 of us. I honestly couldn't have cared less. We had an amazing day and evening and I genuinely wouldn't change anything about it.
I felt so nervous before I walked down the aisle that I could have run out of there, but as soon as I saw him there waiting for me the nerves disappeared, I wasn't even phased when my mum stood on my drss half way down the aisle tripping me up or when my uncle had a choking fit just as they said the bit about anyone objecting xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

I'm constantly dreaming my hairdresser and MUA don't turn up. My wedding is in 6 months
It's no big deal if they don't so I've no idea why I'm dreaming it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

I got married in September, & I was exactly the same.
Our wedding was small as it was, so if people didn’t turn up I was convinced it would be a disaster.
By about 8pm only about 30-40 people out of the 90 who had come were left and it still turned out amazing because they were the people
I cared about most.
The free alcohol we provided at the reception was a big help with making sure no-one was bored or not dancing x

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 8 Apr 2019

Its normal to have anxiety about it. Take a day out to relax and have a pamper to help calm you. At the end of the day you cant make people come and if they don't turn up they'll be the ones to regret it as you'll be too busy enjoying yourselves with those that did make the effort.

Marie France
Marie France 8 Apr 2019

We got married on Saturday, had a bridesmaid drop out a week before, wedding car itinerary was wrong so had to correct, lost the hair lady and I was so stressed all week. Some day and evening guests didn't make it on the day but none of it mattered. It went beautifully the sun shone and everyone had a brilliant day, it's hard to not panic because you want everything to go right but all that matters is you and your partner getting married 😊 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Just remember its your day and you are marrying your soul mate, best friend and thats what its all about. I am a total stress head about everything and i was like this but on the day i was so chilled and unlike me my mum thought i had been drinking hahahaha. Just try to enjoy it. The people who love you will be there and the ones who arent are the ones missing out. They dont make your day you do xxxxx

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 8 Apr 2019

Ok so in reality you can’t do anything about people not turning up or getting up and dancing

You on the other hand will be on cloud nine and will not even notice

Our wedding June June last year, the night before we had 6 people tell us they were now not coming, we then had s further 2 or 4 on the day that didn’t turn up or even tell us they were not coming

It was fine, we had s few calls to make to some of our friends we had invited to the evening and said, we know you were an evening guest, but if you can get here, come as a day guest, not one of them were huffy that they only had an evening invite and were all thrilled to then come to the day

Don’t panic x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

As long as you and your partner are there, with the registrar and 2 witnesses you will marry the person you want to spend rest of your life with. Everything else is a bonus

Amy Gregory
Amy Gregory 8 Apr 2019

I could have written most of what you are saying, I’ve been feeling really stressed lately thinking of what ‘could’ go wrong on the day. But as others have said, as long as you & your partner are having the best day, everything else will fall into place. If people don’t want to come out of stubbornness, then leave them to it! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

I googled wedding anxiety a few weeks before our wedding as I felt like all the pressure of it being an amazing day fell on my shoulders... it’s totally normal & afterwards you’ll realise that you didn’t have to worry X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

It doesn’t matter if your guest are having a good time it matters about if you are it’s your big day but also if you are worrying to much maybe take some time out from planing for a few days might help xx

Clare Dickson
Clare Dickson 8 Apr 2019

I'm making a photo seating plan and keep having recurring dream I've left someone's photo off!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Just get drunk every day til the wedding 🤷‍️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Don't stress: it's your day :)
If people don't turn up? Their loss, they've missed out on your big day, and you've gotten to see their true colours, and they they're unreliable.
Dancing? Just look at your newly wed, or close your eyes, block everyone else out, then only dance if you want to (or get drunk!)
People won't get bored, weddings are a great time to catch up with friends and family, if they do? That's their problem!
Family members acting like children, and not coming because they're not invited to the whole day? Entirely their choice, and it means you can either save money, or invite someone more worthwhile :)
Don't stress, just enjoy! What will be, will be, getting stressed won't change that!
Good luck :)

helen bavister
helen bavister 8 Apr 2019

It really won’t matter. I find people don’t want to be 1st ones dancing so stay in the floor until people have joined then mingle

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Don't worry about people not getting up and dancing. Very few people did at my wedding, they spent most of the time chatting and catching up with family members they hadn't seen in months or even years. The music was definitely appreciated even though hardly anyone danced, everyone was singing along at the tables instead. As for the rest, it'll all fall into place on the day, plus you're not going to notice the little things anyway.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

As long as you and your h2b have a nice day, stuff what anyone else thinks

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Four words: you can’t please everyone.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Apr 2019

Trust me, none of this stuff will worry you on the day! Just relax and look forward to it cos once it’s gone it’s gone! Enjoy the build up and enjoy the day, it’ll be perfect no matter what because you’re marrying the person you love!

Sarah Gant
Sarah Gant 8 Apr 2019

Just do what you want ok buggar everything and everyone else

Kayleigh King
Kayleigh King 8 Apr 2019

Thanks everyone for the comments this was my post am glad to know am not the only one feeling like this, I can’t wait to marry my partner we are only having a small service because we’ve got such big families it’s would of been far to much money for us, I’ve got 2 kids 1 only going to be 7months at the wedding so that’s worrying me too because she’s got a few health problems, then got family members trying to put their 2pence worth in, I know I shouldn’t be worrying about other people but just struggling to switch off xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Apr 2019

You honestly won't care on the day. I had a few glitches but my wedding was perfectly imperfect, just like me and the hubby x

Jasmine Veale
Jasmine Veale 9 Apr 2019

Just remember you’re there to get married to the person you love. Any one who you’ve invited should feel honoured to be so. So just focus on you having fun. As long you and he have fun other people will too 🙂

Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 9 Apr 2019

It's both your and your partners day. Dont worry and stress it will all work out on the day and night

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