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Wedding Dress Worries

Did you all know straight away when you found the dress of your dreams? I thought I'd try a dress on and know it was the 'one' but I'm just getting more confused. Also has anyone ever gone dreas shopping on their own? I love my friends and family coming with me but also quite like the idea of spending a day looking round on my own.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I found that if i had any doubt about a dress then it wasnt "the one" ive now found it and i couldnt imagine myself in another one :)

Olivia Brown
Olivia Brown 2 Apr 2019

If you’re getting confused, take a break from looking for a little while. Certainly, the more people there, the more confused the opinions can get. Take the person you trust the most and maybe just go to two of you. I personally believe it’s too important a decision for you to not request the opinion of someone else- but at the same time, you need to buy what you like and don’t buy it for them.

Go back to basics. Look at dress silhouette charts and and think about your norms dress style if you have one. And then work up from there

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

Yes 1st one I tried on xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I tried loads of dresses that I thought were the style I wanted but decided to pick 2 that that were a completely different style, I thought I wanted an A line style dress, nothing really fitted...... I ended up realising the fitted style I thought I’d never want was actually the style that made me feel the best, I tried about 20 dresses and the last one I tried was the 1!

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Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 2 Apr 2019

It was the 6th dress I tried on. Had in my mind what I wanted originally, so when I first went I tried on a few and hated them. Tried on something I didn’t want and I loved it! I wanted straps and button back, ended up loving a strapless one with a corset back haha x

Karolina Kozak
Karolina Kozak 2 Apr 2019

I went just with my mum and little niece and loved every single dress that I tried on but was very confused because couldn’t pick which one was the best. (Must have been about 7 or 8 dresses). I then picked 4 of them to narrow it down and was going to try them all on again to see if I could make my mind up but the lady at the shop brought another one out for me to try and that was it - I just fell in love with it as soon as I tried it on and I knew instantly it was the one (even though I didn’t like it on the hanger) xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I found that looking at dresses could be quite overwhelming as there are so many styles and options to chose from. I tried on about 30 and none lived up to what I wanted although they were all nice. I ended up tracking down my “dream dress” that I’d seen a photo of and when I tried it on I realised why nothing else was right. What I would say is make sure you try on things that you don’t think you’ll like and remember that dresses can always have things added or taken away x

Hayley-Marie Roberts
Hayley-Marie Roberts 2 Apr 2019

Before I went shopping I knew exactly the style I wanted and nothing would sway me. At all. Tried a few on, were either over budget, or sizing wasn't right, little niggles. Then a lady in the shop convinced me to try a dress that wasn't the style I wanted, I had time so I thought bugger it. The second it was on, I knew it was the one! So strange, if I saw it on another bride I'd probably think nope, but I went with it and I'm so happy I did! Also, I agree, have a shopping day alone so you can really think about what you want rather than well meaning relatives/friends x

Sophie Scott
Sophie Scott 2 Apr 2019

I knew which dress I wanted before I was even engaged (there is a wedding boutique where I work and it had been in their display). When I started to try on it was the only one for me! Wish I'd seen the price before I fell in love with it though! I shall probably be selling after I've worn it :D

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I found mine online then tried it and fell in love. Feel free to browse alone but I recommend setting up an appointment and taking those who would be hurt if they missed out. This way they feel they get input and help you when you really have your mind up already.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I went on my own and found 'the one'. It wasn't a magic, bells ringing, fireworks going off moment like I had imagined - but I just knew it was the one I wanted and can't help smiling every time I think about them now. Keep trying different shops until you're happy

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 2 Apr 2019

I only took my daughter with me, taking too many people will just confuse you so take someone that will give their opinion honestly. Be open minded on style. I had decided what I wanted, tried it on and hated it. Tried other styles but wasn’t sure, the shop lady went to get a dress for me that was totally different but told me to just try it. I immediately loved it and so did my daughter, it was totally the opposite of what I thought I wanted. Use the experience of the shop people. You will know if it’s right.

Debbie de Grey
Debbie de Grey 2 Apr 2019

Mine was the 4th dress I tried on and I felt incredible in it. It wasn’t what I had in mind, actually it was everything I said I didn’t want but tried it on after bridal shop owner said to trust her. And I’m so bloody glad I did. If you have doubts you have t found the right dress I think. Step out of your comfort zone and try something different. They all look so different on and you may be pleasantly surprised by how you feel x

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 2 Apr 2019

I went with just my best friend. I didn't get any butterflies or anything like that but the thought of someone else buying my dress if I walked away to think about it made me depressed so knew it had to be the one! (It was from Wed2B)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I found mine online accidently. I absolutely knew that I wanted something really plain, just a straight forward a line dress and I was looking around at which sort of styles I liked so I could make an appointment to go try some on. Ended up stumbling on the one I bought on ebay and couldn't get it out my head. It was incredibly cheap (£44 including shipping) so I decided to risk it and if it was a disaster I could get my money back from PayPal and be no worse off. So glad that I took the risk, I knew as soon as I saw it in person it was the right one. Absolutely nothing like I thought I wanted but I adored every singe second I wore it... Was incredibly sad when I packed it away after the honeymoon knowing I'd never get to wear it again xx

Debbie Osborne
Debbie Osborne 2 Apr 2019

I am taking a break from looking as just got totally pee'd off with nothing being like I wanted...was looking with mum and maid of honour...was more worried bout what they thought I should try...I'm going looking again in summer on my own initially then when I find something I like will take them to see it...I think it will be far easier and less stressful on my own x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I tried my dress on about 4/5 times - I figured if I've tried it on that many times I must like it!! I don't believe there's only ONE dress for everyone. At the end of the day there's loads of beautiful dresses out there! You just have to find one that you like yourself in. If it makes you smile when you put it on then you're onto something.
I went dress shopping on my own a couple of times and it was fab! No one to please but myself! Once I'd found a few I liked (including my dress) I invited a bridesmaid up to have a look and that's when I decided :) Good luck and don't stress - don't please other people, you're the one wearing it!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I went in with a completely different idea of what i wanted and then tried on this one dress several times. It made me feel so good and comfortable. I was then referring to it as my dress which was a sign for me so I said yes to it. I get married in July and i cant wait to wear it. Take your time and if it feels good and right go with your gut! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I just took my mum because I thought the bridesmaids coming too would be too much.
& I went for the first dress I tried on although I tried on 3 or 4 others. There were no tears like I thought there would be for some reason. It’s the right dress because I feel and look good in it. Try on a veil with the dresses too because that instantly made a difference to how I felt - I didn’t even think I wanted a veil!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

Went in with a completely different idea of my dress and ended up crying in one I didn't even realise I loved until it was on me. The back of the dress and skirt was unreal

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

Sounds like you've done the group thing. If you're comfortable going alone, do it. Make an appointment tell the sales person what you've tried and let them make a couple of suggestions, include an out of the box idea and if it looks daft laugh about it but you never know. Knowing what you don't like is important. Not everyone ends up with 'the dream dress' especially if you're not a sparkly dress type. Good luck. Try to make a laugh of it and go for a wild card just for fun x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I went on my own once because I was nearby a shop that stocked a certain brand. It was so awkward as the sales team were so so pushy even when I had said it wasn’t for me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

Yes I went alone, and bought the first dress I tried, I'd tried others but kept coming back to that dress, I loved how I felt in it, but if I had people with me that faulted it I may not have bought it and on the big day everyone loved it and loved the surprise! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I found my dress with my mum, and bridesmaids.
I tried on about 6 dresses before and 6 after but it was the only dress I felt like a bride In and the only dress I cried in.
Plus is made my mum cry and 2/3 of my bridesmaids :)

Anna Harding
Anna Harding 2 Apr 2019

I took my daughter with me because I knew I would get a very honest answer!! My dress was the last of 9 I had tried on, I was getting fed up to be honest and was about to give up until I tried my dress on, it originally comes with a jacket, which I loved at 1st but then saw a lace top on another dress, so I tried that on with my dress and it looks perfect plus it makes it look more like a wedding dress than just a dress with a jacket!!! I can't wait to wear it in 144 days 👰💖

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

All I knew was that I wanted a 50s tea dress. So I had a browse through Lindy Bop's page and found a simple dress that I could add my own touches to. It worked out pretty well and I didn't have to go through all the stress of trying on a million dresses.

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Wendy Brown
Wendy Brown 2 Apr 2019

Bought my dress on my own this morning, completely out of the blue. Sometimes the unplanned event is the best.

Meghan McCrimmon
Meghan McCrimmon 2 Apr 2019

I found dress shopping stressful at first. I went with one friend about a month after I got engaged and found an amazing dress, but stalled n buying it because it felt too early. I then waited until about a year it and went shopping again but with everyone, including my MIL and that felt too stressful because there were too many opinions. After that I went by myself and forced myself to buy a dress I didn’t reallly love (and ended up returning it as there was a 14 day return policy). In the end I found a cute boutique, took two friends only and waited till 6 months before the wedding and found a perfect dress. Basically there is no right or wrong way of doing it, just listen to your heart.

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 2 Apr 2019

I found dress shopping the most stressful part of our wedding plans and really hated it! There's so much pressure on brides to look their best and people are so judgmental about other's wedding dresses that it can turn from something that is supposed to be fun into a nightmare situation.

I tried on 45 dresses (which I wholeheartedly don't recommend!) but never really found 'the one'. What I did find was a dress I was comfortable wearing, in the style I wanted (tea length) and which I loved the design of. When it arrived I ended up altering the top quite significantly so in a roundabout way got a bespoke dress in the end. As my dress shop said wedding dresses are made to alter and remember you can always accessorize with belts, boleros, veils etc.

My advice would be don't go into shops with too many preconceived ideas about what you want because it's very likely to change and don't be pushed around by sales assistants. If they're too pushy or making you feel inferior somehow the go elsewhere as you will be dealing with these people for months!

As for going shopping on your own I say go for it! Get yourself a shortlist together and then take others with you for a second opinion. If you love a dress and they don't though stick to your guns - it's what you want and how you feel that's important!

Good luck :-)

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Kelly Dell
Kelly Dell 2 Apr 2019

I'm planning to go alone and pick out a few then go back with friends and family for the final decision

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

As soon as I tried my dress on I knew it was for me. First one I tried as well

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

Why not make an appointment, go yourself, listen to the staff (they know their stuff) they will give you ideas you never thought of! if you find something you like make another appointment to go back with maybe one or two friends.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I’ve been married twice. Both times I only went with my Mum and also did a couple of visits on my own. I just couldn’t stand everyone’s opinions confusing me. Selfish- possibly

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

Yes I knew it was the one, no matter how many I looked at, I would always gravitate back to the same dress every time! It’s also okay to look on your own because whilst it’s nice to be with your family their opinions can also be a bit of a pain in the arse, it’s your day with what you want! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I went on my own didn't have anyone to go with anyway. At least I got what I wanted without no outside influences

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I went 3 times.
1.with my daughter and mother in law, I fell in love with a simple, flowy, made me look skinny dress...they hated it but agreed it was my decision.
2.with my grandma, aunty and uncle. I showed them the one I picked, they hated it...or I should say grandma hated it, and made me try on more until "we" found the one "we" liked. We found one. I hated it.
3. Went back on my own, found a dress similar to what grandma liked that I felt comfortable in and was still within the price she'd paid for the previous dress (she was paying for the dress so we had no budget for extra)

Moral of my story...I should have gone with my gut and chosen my own dress ALONE, or maybe with my 10 year old daughter, she's always honest in a nice way when it's things that mean a lot. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I only went to one shop and just with my sister. The staff were very helpful and we all agreed on the best dress. My sister took photos of me in my top 3 and looking at those there was a clear winner.

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 2 Apr 2019

Give yourself a break and go out again with a fresh head it can get mind boggling after a while.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Apr 2019

I tried on one x

Sharon Lewis
Sharon Lewis 2 Apr 2019

I found a picture online...... searched all over then it popped up on a selling page, never worn and my size. I’ve tried it on and I love it. I’ve put it away and stopped looking.

UKbride Member 3 Apr 2019

Yes I have. I went before hand to the bride's shop to Ry on dresses with my friend to see what I like and then I knew what suits me. End up falling in love with big princess gown from Facebook for £50. Totally opposite of what I though it would be :D

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Hollie Johnstone
Hollie Johnstone 3 Apr 2019

I went just with my mum to browse the racks and see what was out there, ended up trying on 2 dresses and fell in love with the second one I tried on. It wasn't this huge "magic" moment but I felt amazing and that's what's important... and i hated it on the hanger so was skeptical! 😂 ended up buying it there and then and every time I look at the pictures of when I tried it on I get giddy xx

Kimberley Wilson
Kimberley Wilson 3 Apr 2019

Yes when I found my dress I cried, I’m not an emotional person at all took me months and bridal shops up and down the country and I found it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Apr 2019

I went to the shop on a whim and decided to try some on. I picked 4 to try and the very first one I walked up to I tried on and I loved it. I still tried the rest on but none compared. I went back with my family a few days later and mixed my dress in with some others and asked their opinion not telling them which one I liked and when I tried my dress on they all said that’s the one. It’s weird but I felt drawn to that dress. You will know when you find it as you will put it on and no matter what anyone else thinks you will want it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Apr 2019

I went on my own as I just lost my mum and it didn’t feel right to go with anyone else. I tried 2 dresses on, 1 that I absolutely loved and 1 that didn’t like too much...as soon as I put the one I didn’t like too much on I fell in love! It’s very deceiving on the coat hanger xxxp

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