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UKbride Member Request 25 Mar 2019

Dress worry

I get married this July and found my dress last July. Since it arrived in the shop in December I’ve had it at home as it literally needs no alterations. Ever since I keep doubting it’s the right dress for me even though I totally loved it when I first bought it. I find myself googling the dress constantly and trying to find brides in it to convince myself it’s the one. I have spoken to a couple of friends who say that they also had dress doubts and it’s normal but i was wondering if anyone else had felt this way, I’m a very indecisive person anyway so always knew something like this would happen it’s just really getting me down and know I’m winding people up with it.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I was exactly the same! It sort of takes the shine off the dress if it’s available for u to look at whenever u fancy. I even looked other dresses and nearly brought a 2nd dress. I’m so glad I didn’t, i loved my dress on the day! Hang in there, stop over thinking!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

My sister left her dress with the lady who was doing the alterations for 16 months (she got the dress before she even booked the wedding) and she still changed her mind and ended up with a different one 3 weeks before the wedding! Lucky for her this was a free exchange that the lady offered her as she closed her business.. but the point is, wherever your dress is, you will know whats right for you closer to the time xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

The only advice I can give you if you loved the dress when you first tryed it on then it'sthe one if you keep comparing to others etc you will never be able to pick a dress I got my dress home a year before my wedding and I did not look at it again until 12 weeks before the wedding if you keep looking at it you will drive yourself insane

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I had this to start with. When I then tried it on again I felt exactly the same as I did the first time I put it on and the doubt went away. Maybe try that?? If you get the feeling again you know it's the one, if not and you can maybe look for a different one xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

If it’s the right dress then you will cry when you try it on!

Rachael Steele
Rachael Steele 26 Mar 2019

I’m having the same dilemma! My sister is now dress shopping and of course I’m going with her but that means I’m seeing beautiful dresses again and it’s making me question my choice! I think mine is beautiful but I wonder if another would be more so!? I’m going to try mine on again next weekend to remind myself how beautiful it made me feel, maybe you should do the same? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Normal! I was the same. Hated my dress in the last month but in the morning I put it on and knew it was right.

Sharon Lewis
Sharon Lewis 26 Mar 2019

I got mine and gave it to s friend to keep so I haven’t seen it since 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I was the same, had mine at home for a while before our wedding and doubted it. I took it back to the shop to have an accessory appointment and then didn't try it on or look at it again apart.from my fittings. I think it's totally normal.and I had no doubts about my dress when I put it on that day xx

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 26 Mar 2019

This is totally normal. I had dress doubt and have spoken to many other brides who felt similar.

Best answer is to put the dress away, forget about it and when it comes times on the day you’ll feel special as when you tried it originally

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I’ve been horrendous. I was so emotional when I found ‘the one’ and then after looking at the photos again really started doubting my choice. I went back into to shop just to look at it and they let me try it again and I cried again. There’s nothing worse than doubting your choice. I just have to keep reminding myself of the way I felt when I tried it on. I get married in November so still got some time left yet but I’m trusting my gut instinct. You feel in love with your dress so trust that xxx

Claire Newstead
Claire Newstead 26 Mar 2019

Get your bridesmaids over and try it on again with them there and see yourself in it again. You'll fall in love all over again. Then put it away, give it to one of the girls for safe keeping until the wedding ❤ you'll always want it more once it's forbidden to look at!

Casey Forbes-bowden
Casey Forbes-bowden 26 Mar 2019

I got my dress last Feb and I get married this may.. I've always said I dout the dress but every time I put it on I loved it again... I even booked a hair trial and dress fitting on the same day (no changes needed) so just I could see it all together.... I think everyone has these doubts... If your really unsure as the shop if you can go back with the dress and try it on again.. it might help you make up your mind

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

It's just a dress, if you feel beautiful in it then it's perfect. You've had too much time to overthink it. In reality, no one really cares about the dress apart from you. Go try it on with all the accessories, I bet you'll fall in love all over again and you'll look absolutely amazing! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Same thing happened to me but as soon as I put it on 2 weeks before the wedding I fell totally in love again x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I got my dress in January from wed2b, get married next November so bought very early, but knew it was the one..... was exact design etc I had in mind, just wasn't expecting to buy so early so I keep thinking have I done the right thing, then I look at pics and just love it so I know it's the one, you know when you know (even though I'm also very indecisive)..... I'm thinking same and hoping I've made the right decision.... go with your heart..... xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Long long time ago now for me but I saw my dress in a bridal magazine (that’s how long ago it was internet was just a seed in someone’s imagination ) went into the bridal boutique and said I want something along these lines, the assistant toddled off and can’t back with the exact dress I had showed her, tried it on and instantly burst into tears, felt like a princess and didn’t try anything else on, loved it from then on and couldn’t wait to wear it on the day, I never had 1 doubt it was my dream dress ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Yes I chose my dress in 2015 was meant to get married 2016 but I found out I was pregnant so postponed it by a year. Got married in 2017 and doubted myself time and time again. It wasn’t until I was done up that those doubts disappeared. The dress that I fell in love with in 2015 was definitely the dress

Laura Mellor
Laura Mellor 27 Mar 2019

I’m really indecisive to lol. I absolutely loved my dress from the minute I first tried it on but even though I loved it and kept looking at the pictures of myself trying it on I still had a major panic that ‘what if it isn’t the one!!??’ I wasted time looking online looking for something else. But honestly nothing else came close.
Just remember how good you felt when you first put it on! Don’t waste time stressing over something that deep down you know is right, there are to many other things to worry about when it comes to wedding!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

Yes, completely. I had a dress fitting with all accessories and that sorted it. Go try it on with all your accessories, feel awesome and then put it all away until July xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

Have a trial run with your bridesmaids/MOH a week or so before your wedding. So they know how to fasten it etc & so you know how long it will take to get you ready on your wedding day. This means you’ll get to try it on again... you will love it like you did when you bought it!! X

Hayley Wright-Mitchell
Hayley Wright-Mitchell 27 Mar 2019

Yes, defo do a trial run (with hair and makeup), or as close to your final look as possible- even if you have to do your hair and makeup yourself! Just so you get an idea of how beautiful you will look on the day.. that should be enough to convince you that it’s the one! But tbh I got married 10 months ago and sometimes I wish I had a different dress.. I think it happens to everyone and I’m quite indecisive myself lol.

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 27 Mar 2019

Totally normal, it was the only thing that concerned me and I kept having freaks that it was wrong, in the end it was perfect for me and I’m sure yours is perfect for you otherwise you wouldn’t have got it ordered last year x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

I had dress doubts, all of my friends who’re married have had the exact same too. 95% of them kept their dresses, like me, and had no doubts when they’d seen it on them again. I was worried there was something better for me out there, the fear of missing out I guess. But once I saw it back on me it eradicated my fears xx

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 27 Mar 2019

Try putting it on again. If you try it on and see yourself in it, it may remind you why you loved it in the first place and ease your mind a bit.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

In my opinion, you bought your dress way to early.
You're obviously going to see dress after dress and say "oh I like that one" because you've had a year to let other dresses catch you eye.

We didn't purchase my dress until 10 weeks before our wedding day, in our defence we only had 12 weeks to plan our wedding.

Just relax, it's just a dress, you'll look amazing no matter what.
Congratulations

Natalie Rowena
Natalie Rowena 27 Mar 2019

This is happening to me, I just keep reminding myself how awesome I look in my dress with photos I have from trying it on and I try to avoid looking at other dresses

Natalie Lloyd
Natalie Lloyd 27 Mar 2019

I brought my dress in september last year and i get married in august, tbh i cant remember what my dress looks like but in my head i dont like it, i will be trying it on for alterations soon so hopefully i will love it again. But if im honest, i didnt fall in love with the dress, i never had the feeling of knowing thats THE dress, it was just a nice dress and cheap x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

you will look gr8 in it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

I'll ask this one question and your answer will tell you if it's the one...would you sell it?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

Try to visualise yourself with your hair and makeup done, flowers in your hand, bridesmaids around you in their dresses, think of all the people who are going to tell you how great you look on the day. It's normal to doubt whether your dress is right or not, but I would avoid looking up other people wearing it incase it makes you doubt more. I'm sure you'll look fab!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

Its perfectly normal, looking at other brides in the dress wont help you as it'll be you wearing it on your special day, if you are able to try it back on yourself, get a photo of you in it that you love, hide it away so your oh wont see it and use that to remind you why you picked it :)
I used to manage a bridal store and spoke to many brides who felt this way, but when they came to try it back on they fell in love all over again :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

Do u still look good in it? If so stop worrying.. if you no longer like it or it doesn't look good on change it.

Jan Haslam
Jan Haslam 27 Mar 2019

I was exactly the same darling. You know in your heart its the right dress but your head keeps plays tricks with you...hugs darling xjx

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 27 Mar 2019

I knew when I put it on and bought it and took it home. I have had my doubts over the last year but now I've put it in for it to be shortened I know I made the right choice and am getting married in 3 days. If you knew it was right when you bought it it'll be right when you get married xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

I feel the same about mine. I think its coz i didnt think "i love this dress" and think it was the one.

Jessica Paine
Jessica Paine 27 Mar 2019

I get married July and have had my dress a year now. I kept feeling unsure until I tried it on at the beginning of March (almost a year later! And had been kept at my parents the whole time!!) and I loved it!! Exactly how I remembered it.. the photos I had from when choosing it kept making me rethink. But nope, it’s perfect and I love it more now!
Just our brains over thinking it

Clarissa Betson
Clarissa Betson 28 Mar 2019

This is the problem with us having to order our wedding dress so far in advance. I see so many new beautiful wedding dresses all over the internet since choosing mine, even walking by bridal shop windows and you always compare. Just remember, you picked that dress because it made you feel like a bride, because it made you feel so special. When you put it on for your wedding day, those feelings will return and your doubt will disappear ❤

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Apr 2019

I am in the same boat! I bought my dress in November for my wedding this October and I have had a few breakdowns thinking that it’s not the one but I try it on and look in the mirror and do my hair and it makes me feel better and I love it again

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