Hi, my fiance and I are in the early stages of planning our big day. Due to budget we have been looking at getting married on a Thursday in November 2021. I just wondered if anyone else has done a weekday wedding and if guests actually moaned about it not being at the weekend or found guests didn't attend because it wasn't a weekend. Any advice would be great, thanx.
My friends was a Thursday in Nov everyone attended and did not moan. At the end of the day people understand you have a budget. As long as you give plenty of notice to book time off work they will come
We’re getting married on a Thursday and nobody had complained x
We had a Thursday wedding and had no complaints at all. Most people were happy to take the 2 days off work with plenty of notice ️
Our wedding was on a Monday. Everyone we I voted attended. They took the time off work, same as a weekend shift worker would for a wedding on a Saturday or Sunday. No issues at all. Xx
I got married on a Thursday and only 1 person couldn’t come due to being a teacher
Ours is a Wednesday and whilst people have "commented" my best friend pointed out, if they care, they'll come. End of
I got married on a Friday. People I wanted there all made it. Xx
At the end of the day, it's YOUR wedding. NOT THERES! Think about what you want and how you want things to be done x
I am getting married next Tuesday, nobody moaned about it being a weekday even friends that work in schools have sorted it so they can come!
We’re having a Wednesday wedding in the middle of nowhere and a lot of people we’ve invited weren’t able to make it - but we’re still so excited and know that the people who can’t come will enjoy looking at the pictures 🙂
People will moan, whether it’s to you or too other guests they will moan about it
Our wedding was on a Thursday , and although there where a few grumbles , all guests managed to attend
We got married on a Friday in october. My husband's cousins couldn't come due to work but that was it noone else complained they just booked the day off xx
I had no idea this was something people moaned about 🤣 as long as people have notice why would it matter. Loads of people work weekends now anyway makes no difference.
The people who turn up will be the ones that matter! Xx
If my friend or relative was getting married on a weekday I’d do my upmost to be there. If you care about someone you’ll try your best to make it, in my opinion! If people moan then they clearly don’t care enough Xx
We had a weekday wedding, nobody seemed to mind, quite a few guests told me it was nice to have a reason to book a couple of days off work midweek. It was so much cheaper to do it midweek that we didn't think twice about it. We knew that the people who really wanted to be there would find a way to turn up and there wasn't one person who said they couldn't make it or didn't turn up on the day.
Our Thursday wedding went well! Didn't work for all the guests and a couple came evening only but it was still a good turnout and we had an amazing day :-)
People moan even if on a Saturday about one thing or another!
If you want teachers there they won’t get the time off- other than that wouldn’t be a problem x
This is the same as us, we’re looking at a Thursday in November 2021 so interested in seeing the responses 😊
We got married on a Wednesday and didn't really getting anyone moaning about it. Everyone we invited attended, apart from one couple who said they were coming but never bothered turning up.
we married in june on a Thursday the ones that wanted to be there made sure they got it off work x
Mine is on a Thursday, I'm thinking ah long weekend if people moan about it then they dont have to go
I travelled to a wedding in Sweden, people will travel as far and for whatever day if they want to be there. I also run weddings as a job, I’ve done weddings on all days of the week, i don’t personally think it makes a difference! Xx
We're getting married on an August Thursday...summer hols so should be easier on those with children. No ones moaned...atleast not to our faces
We are getting married on a Thursday and not one person has moaned about the day. Ultimately your loved ones are just happy to be involved in your big day
Get the save the dates out early and you’re laughing xx
Cant help with who comes and says anything because we haven't had ours yet but we are getting married on a thrusday in March 2020 we booked last year due to a significant date and budget tbh if people don't come its there loss invites should give enough warning to make arrangements
I’m having a Wednesday wedding as it’s the day we started dating so its a special day to us.
I just think if people want to be there they’ll make the effort
We are getting married on a wednesday in August this year and we have only had 1 person not be able to come....but only because he cannot get there easily x
Sounds like you’re giving plenty of notice for them to stick in a days holiday or 2 at work. If they wanna be there, they will
We're getting married the Thursday before Good Friday, so tying it in with a bank holiday weekend. That way, people travelling any distance can still have a decent weekend and not worry about getting back to work later in the week.
I think that if you give them enough notice that will be no problem and if they have an issue with taking a holiday day for it then they aren't with having there
we are getting married on a Monday next August and everyone has been great about it and can make it a long weekend before going back to work!
I'm getting married on a Thursday, people that want to be there will be there 😊
We're getting married this Friday. Save the date cards went out early so people could book time off if they planned on coming. Your nearest and dearest will be there I've attended a Monday wedding before and wouldn't have missed it go for it!
I'm getting married in August 2021 and it's on a Wednesday I'm only having a ceremony and wedding breakfast as I don't want an evening reception and we are working on a budget as well xx
Where I work, we host around 315-320 weddings a year.....that’s a lot of weekday weddings. I also got married on a Monday. A great excuse to not have children at the day! As long as guests have notice it’s generally not a problem. It’s an honour to be invited to anyone’s wedding so most will try & get the day (or 2) off! X
We are getting married on a Monday. All the wedding suppliers double check the date when I give it them lol we are only having close family and friends there. People that won't care what day it is. If someone moans remind them it's your wedding and they don't have to come 👋👋👋👋
Your giving plenty of notice for people to book a day off so there’s no reason why people should moan. We’re planning on having a Thursday wedding. We let my son pick the date just after his GCSEs next year 🥰
Good luck xx
I got married on a Friday no issues from guests at all x
Maybe teachers could find it a problem but then there will always be a reason some people are not able to make it.x
We are getting married on a thursday in july. Give people enough notice to book time off work/ know when wedding is xx
We have recently booked our wedding for July next year and its on a Thursday!
Just 30 guests and all but 4 will be travelling up to Scotland (from Lancashire, inc me and and hubby2b) we have told all our guests already and some of them are going to make a holiday of it and stay for a few days before and after. No one has mentioned that its on a Thursday! Majority of them are pleased they will get a few days off work.
Dont worry about it. We didnt even think twice about it being on a Thursday and neither should your guests xx
We were a Thursday wedding, everyone had nearly a years notice so there was no issue. A lot of them made a long weekend out of it.
On the down side it didn’t make any difference to the cost though!
We're getting married in May this year, on a Thursday. We sent the save the dates out really early and made sure we wrote Thursday on those so people didn't just assume it was a weekend lol. So far the vast majority of people have said yes. At the end of the day, most people understand that you have a budget to stick to and if they really want to be there, they will be there xx
I quite agree with those people commented if the invited guests have plenty of time to take their days off on your wedding day why worrying about it is true its your wedding day and it will be yours and future hubby or wife's big day not them isnt it
A friend of mine has suggested to us that its an idea to get married on the sunday with a bank holiday monday the day after that way we would get the cheaper rates and people can travel home on the Monday ready for work on the tuesday. That maybe something to think about?? Either way if you give notice people will come. Xx
We're getting married on a Monday in August this year, but got engaged in Feb this year so it was short notice as well as a weekday but if people want to be there, they will be there. All 80 guests we invited are attending :)
I did a Thursday as had to bring my wedding forward due to my dad being given months to live
It was perfect every guest made it and booked the next day off then it was the weekend for a lot of them
Our wedding was a Friday and we had no problems all the people we wanted there turned up x
If you're a teacher or teaching assistant you would lose a days pay , so it's not always because they don't care or want to be there . Can't just book holidays in term time
i got married on a wednesday and it was great! nobody moaned that we know of only 2 people didnt turn up who said they were coming but i wasnt confident they would turn up anyway! if they want to be at your wedding then they will be there no matter what day it is on! do what is best for you
We got married on a Friday in Las Vegas. 24 guests made it, out of 100. It was the best day i could've possibly imagine.
My friends are doing the Thursday before good Friday works really well for everyone if they want to be there they will xx
As long as you don’t have any teacher/teaching assistants/anyone working at a school on your guest list then I’m sure people will book the holiday day! Teachers can’t request days off and its not them being awkward it’s simply just the rules I’m afraid xx
I had a Sunday wedding everyone was fine with it it was a fab day .
As long as you give people enough notice it should be fine. I’m getting married on a Sunday in July next year. I’m sending the invites out just after Christmas this year so everyone has time to book there holidays. If people want to attend they’ll do what they can to be there
I’m getting married on a Wednesday... so far no complaints 🙏🏻🙏🏻
We got married on a Thursday last year, we gave guests nearly 2 years notice, so.e were unable to attend but those that did made it into a long weekend we had a fabtastic day and as far as Im aware no-one moaned about the day x
We got married on a Sunday, I had a panic right before invited went out that people might not want to take the Monday off. Of the people who didn’t come, not one of them said it was because of it being a Sunday! It’s your day, anyone who doesn’t want to make the effort isn’t going to be missed you’ll be having such a fab time anyway! X
We are getting married on a Friday in October 2021. I have only had one comment to do with children but I think it might fall in the half term or the last day of the school term. Like everybody else has commented, if they want to be there they will be! X
We’re on a Thursday. So much cheaper! One of my favourite sayings is ‘those who mind don’t matter but those who matter don’t mind’, it’s your day have what you want
Agree with the main responses above, only extra thing to think about are people that can't take weekdays off i.e. teachers. We were looking at Thursday's and Friday's originally but 8 of my partners close family were teachers! X
Glad to see lots of positive comments, just on the other side though - as a teacher it would be very unlikely I would get time off to attend a weekday wedding. Having said that, I would still happily send best wishes to the couple despite having to decline an invite! I get that its cheaper on those days and do not expect people to base their date around when I can attend! Good luck to you with your planning.
If people want to be ther they will be, close friends and family should definitely make an effort x
We did a Friday, guests all attended no problem and only had to take one day off because they were already off the next day. Xx
I'm going to my friends wedding in the middle of the week
Tying it in with having some time off work and wouldn't miss it for the world
As long as people get plenty of notice they shouldnt have a problem getting holidays to suit the date...n if they moan about it being through the wk they dont have to go xx
We’re getting married on a Monday in the summer holidays, my mums a teaching assistant and wouldn’t otherwise be able to get off work through the week. However it’s no more expensive it being in the summer hols, still the weekday discount so it’s a win win for us. We sent our save the dates out majorly early though to give plenty of notice!!
We got married on Thursday and everyone invited came we gave them lots of notice
My wedding is going to be on a Tuesday and to be honest, if people want to be there they will. If not, not a problem. Our friends and family appreciate we are on a budget and in return we appreciate not everyone can make it. Just enjoy your day xx
I can say that last year I attend a Thursday wedding and later this year I'm attending a wedding on a Sunday. I think if you give enough notice to your guests they shouldn't have anything to moan about and if they do would you really want them there. It's your day and you have to do what's best for yourselves. Xx
We get married 3 weeks today, on a Tuesday. It was cheaper and easier. My MOH is a school teacher, so it had to be in the Easter holidays anyway, which makes it a bit different. But even then, we’ve had a few say no because they’re on holiday. It’s inevitable that some won’t/can’t come and the ones who desperately want to be there will make it work
I went to a Wednesday wedding last year and it was fab! There will always be some people who can't get the day off work, teachers or not, so i don't necessarily agree with 'if they want to be there they will'. My day off was only granted as I'd only just started the job so they honoured it as a holiday already booked prior to starting, if not it would have been refused due to minimum staffing levels. I would have made the evening either way though, so bear that in mind. You might not get everyone you want in the day but people should be able to make the evening
I've never heard anyone moan about a weekday wedding either x
My wedding is a Sunday (I know not quite a weekday but still!) so far everyone we’ve spoken to has booked the following day off work/not going to school and most are staying at the hotel too! No one seemed bothered and all said what a great idea doing it a Sunday and in November as nice and cheap and gives something to celebrate when the weather 💩 it’s your wedding. Do it your way. If people miss it that’s their problem not yours ❤️
Min was on a Wednesday in august and half the people who was invited and said they would come didn't turn up but the important people was there so that's all that matters
I got married on a Wednesday in May.. My youngest brother couldn’t come because he had his GCSE exams.. Besides him, I had a few family members who didn’t attend but to be honest I’m not that close with them.. My nearest and dearest for sure attended. If it’s that important to them, and if you give enough notice, they will attend.
We got married 2 years ago on a Wednesday in August all our invited guested attended we had an amazing day xx
Five months before our wedding our venue cancelled on us so we had to find somewhere quick and instead of getting married on the Friday which was also our two year anniversary, we had to move it to the Wednesday. If they want to be there they will make the effort and you'll be giving them loads of notice so they have no excuse xxx
I had my wedding on a Monday as it was alot cheaper. With enough notice your family and friends will book it off. I was shocked the amount of people who booked 2 days off work even the friends and family who travelled an hour down just for the evening! If they care, they'll come.
Mine will be on a Friday, everyone who matters will come with the exception of one of my friends who is a teacher but he is trying to get the time off. If enough time is given people who want to come will make it so.
I got married on a Friday, no issues. As long as people have enough notice if they want to come they Will sort out time off.
Ours is a Thursday in the September that year, originally we wanted the Friday but it was literally double the price. Dont stress your guests will understand
If people wanted to be at your wedding and share your special day they would book the day or two days off work. Give them plenty of notice and if they don’t come more cake for you 😅💖
We got Married on a Friday. Most people we invited attended. Noone moaned that I'm aware of. Our theory was is we mattered enough to people they would attend, if not we probably didn't need them at the wedding z
Im getting married on a Thursday, i found a few guests say "oh ill book a day of then" but i say if they can't make an effort to come then its their miss not mine xxx
Mine was on a Monday. Had a few people say they couldn't come but the majority were there. So glad I didn't spend an extra 2k just for a weekend wedding!
My brother had a weekday wedding. As long as people have lots of notice they just book it off work. He did his in school holidays though.
I got wed on a friday
Well I'm getting married on a Monday and have had no complains from any of the guests at all as a matter of fact they are looking forward to the big day as well as me and my fiancé are x
Me and my partner are getting married on a Monday as it was the cheapest day. We are very tight for cash. However we have booked it for October half term and the price wasn’t any higher for a week later or earlier when it’s not half term. Have a look at half terms as this might make it easier for your guests to come