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UKbride Member Request 23 Mar 2019

First dance

Has anyone or is anyone doing a choreographed routine rather than the traditional first dance? I hate the idea of everyone watching an awkward shuffle for 3mins if it needs to be watched id like to make it worth watching, any thoughts? How would we go about this?

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Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 24 Mar 2019

We are just having a first dance and inviting people to join us. I don't see the point in paying for lessons or making it unique as it's not us we want simple dancing. Everyone is different thou its whatever you would prefer.

Rebecca Bailey
Rebecca Bailey 25 Mar 2019

We are planning to get a few lessons just so we can do more than shuffle around like you said!

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 25 Mar 2019

We had a full routine, had a professional dance teacher teach us

All went tits up on the day, hadn’t taken into consideration how big my dress was to dance in. Lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I can dance but my husband can’t so I ‘choreographed’ a very simple, repeating dance that we practised a few times before the big day so that he wouldn’t feel awkward

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UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

We're not doing the first dance thing anymore, but when we were initially planning to, I wanted to do the Cha Cha Slide 🤣

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I’ve seen a few choreographed dances and some have been great but others have seemed awkward and the execution hasn’t been great... like they haven’t quite managed to make it work.

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UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I’m a dancer so I choreographed a small routine for my husband and I to do. It really wasn’t anything spectacular but i think it was a bit more interesting to watch! I know though that there are people who offer lessons for weddings and will choreograph something for you if you need it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

We went for a choreographed dance in the end. I’ve danced since I was 3 but my husband never has. He was the one who wanted a choreographed routine, I wasn’t bothered. We had 1 min of a slow dance followed but 1 min of a more up beat song and then dragged everyone on the dance floor to join us for the rest. I asked a friend to choreograph it for me to save me the added stress.
The most important thing is that you do what is right for you and what you feel comfortable with. It’s your day and your happiness is what matters the most. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My sister in law and her husband had a choreographed routine and it was absolutely brilliant. It was a total surprise, only her parents knew about it. Everybody loved it! If you have the opportunity and a willing fiance I would say go for it!

Shauna McIlhennon
Shauna McIlhennon 25 Mar 2019

My sister in law is a dance teacher and is teaching us a routine. Just search for local dance schools or teachers in your area

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 25 Mar 2019

We had a choreographed dance as I hated the thought of the awkward shuffle. We found a dance teacher who choreographed the routine for us and we went every week for about 6 months to get it perfect for the day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

We had a choreographed dance as I didn't want to just shuffle and got this fab photo

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Emily Mash
Emily Mash 25 Mar 2019

We’re going to do a routine

Laura Mellor
Laura Mellor 25 Mar 2019

Personally I didn’t actually care what people thought of our first dance, to us it was a golden opportunity to have 3 minutes to ourselves in an otherwise very busy day! We didn’t have any amazing dance moves but we did cherish those few minutes holding each other, kissing and yes probably shuffling around 😂 the day is taken up with so many other things, we made the most of those few minutes together, do what makes you happy not your guests x

Jamie Bicknell
Jamie Bicknell 25 Mar 2019

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My husband and I took lessons and did a Viennese Waltz to Annie's Song

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Have an upbeat song and then it's not an awkward slow dance

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UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Neither. I don't think it 'needs' to be done

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UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

My sister had about a minute for ed sheerens perfect then went in with your the one that I want by grease....how they hell they managed to twist that together I got no idea...but they did...it was actually a surprise for us all, we weren't expecting it and only the best man knew about it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

We did a s i isef to dance and my hisband never has and so he really lacked confidence - hes definitely not a natural dancer. There was a local teacher whose business is choreographing wedding dances and we went to her.

https://youtu.be/KuDYdDTuUww

Samantha Price
Samantha Price 26 Mar 2019

We had Morecambe and Wise ‘bring me sunshine’ and started a slow dance and then went into a Morecambe and Wise style routine, we made it up ourselves, nothing too complicated and people seemed to laugh.

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UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

It wasn’t a choreographed dance as such but me and my hubby did practice a little a few days before the wedding as we had a bit of an upbeat style song rather than the traditional slow dance.

Michelle Memerton
Michelle Memerton 26 Mar 2019

We wanted to do a choreographed piece with all of our bridesmaids and groomsmen but a lot of them don’t want to participate (social anxiety) so we’re rethinking it. Personally, I think I’d rather pay a group of professionals to do the dance and maybe have us join in at the end

Andrea Allison
Andrea Allison 26 Mar 2019

I can dance so my h2b decided to take up lessons. He's done 5 now and I'm amazed how well he's doing. Will put a routine together ourselves. Try Groupon, that's where we got a fab deal from Ceroc

Jodie Spindler
Jodie Spindler 26 Mar 2019

We're doing a slow dance then breaking out into a routine 😂 crip walk and maybe the whip whip nae nae with bridesmaids and groommens join in we wanted something different

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Have dance lessons without telling anyone and let it be a surprise. It doesn’t have to be a silly dance could be a nice romantic one

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Learn a few moves, gain some rhythm - fine.
Fully choreographed routine is just cringe. Honestly it’s like watching kids trying to perform a dance they learned in the playground. It’s not fun for anyone watching. 🤢

Tracy Bailey
Tracy Bailey 26 Mar 2019

This is one of the reasons we're not doing a first dance 😖 We'd just feel awkward so have scrapped it altogether 😄

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

We started off to celine Dion then halfway switched to a haven holiday dance when about 20 of our friends joined in. It was brilliant

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

We got the dj to bring people in partway through the dance rather than shuffling for the whole song

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

We did as my husband felt exactly the same as you we did an hour and half with a choreographer then just practised at home when kids went to bed so was perfect for big day xx good luck

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I dreaded my first dance so told the do to prompt everyone else onto the dance floor after about the first 20 seconds. I thought no one would come up to dance but the dance floor filled within seconds. It totally put me at ease.

sieanne pilling
sieanne pilling 26 Mar 2019

https://youtu.be/htZzx3-0vx0

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

We have a friend who is a dancer, she choreographed a lovely but simple routine for us which was easy to learn and looked amazing. We had so much fun practising it together and it was a great thing to do together.

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