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UKbride Member Request 22 Mar 2019

Bridesmaids

How do people pick their bridesmaids? I have a sister who I'm very close to, a very best friend and 2 other very close friends who I would love to ask....however my husband to be has a sister. Am I obliged to ask her? I feel bad but we aren't at all close and I really dont want too many bridesmaids. Help please xx

62 Comments
Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 23 Mar 2019

I have 2 best friends and my partners sister. I don't have a sister but my partners sister has done so much so I wanted to ask her.

It's your choice at the end of the day. You don't have to make her a bridesmaid of you don't want as you can always include in the wedding another way by helping out with stuff at venue.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

No. I had only my sister and best friend as I didn't want many as the more you have he more complicated it seems to be

Claire Kennedy
Claire Kennedy 25 Mar 2019

No obliged to ask her at all. I've asked my h2b sister to do a reading

Lucy Fulton
Lucy Fulton 25 Mar 2019

I have 5 including one of my H2B sisters but he has 3 so can't have them all, it's up to you.

She could give a reading or be a witness of you still wanted to include her.

Charlotte Brown
Charlotte Brown 25 Mar 2019

No, if you want your sisters and friends thats your choice, remember it’s your wedding, yours and your husband to be

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Not obliged at all. My bridesmaids will be my older sister and younger sister. (I have 1 daughter 6 nieces on my side and 2 nieces of my partners side and have said if people one their little ones to be brides maids they have to buy their dresses, it's their choice then)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I have 2 (very old friends) and my sister as my maid of honour. H2B has two sisters. Your bridal party is your choice at the end of the day xx

Rachel Doxey
Rachel Doxey 25 Mar 2019

You don’t have to ask your h2bs sister if your not close . The only reason I asked mine is because I am very close to them .

Lou Harris
Lou Harris 25 Mar 2019

You don't need to ask her. It's your wedding 💒

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 25 Mar 2019

Not at all.. I had my best friend, 2 sisters, my cousin and my brothers step daughter who I call my niece because I’m close to all of them and I wanted them to be bridemaids. You can have whoever you want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Nope not at all - I didn’t have my brothers partner or my partners sister in law. I kept it to my friends xx

JoJo Evans
JoJo Evans 25 Mar 2019

I have 2 MOH's and 5 bridesmaids 🙈

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I haven't asked my own sister or my future hubby's, I'm having a cousin and a friend

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 25 Mar 2019

It's your choice. Have who you want.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

You don't have to... but i personally think it's nice to include both families in the wedding party

Angel Davis-Lewis
Angel Davis-Lewis 25 Mar 2019

No obligation at all especially if you don't get on to start with.

sharon finestone
sharon finestone 25 Mar 2019

Have who you want. It’s your wedding

Lynsey Britton
Lynsey Britton 25 Mar 2019

I had my sister my cousin and my 4 friends my husband has 5 sisters and I didn't ask any of them

Claire Newstead
Claire Newstead 25 Mar 2019

I have kept family out of the bridal party. I honestly don't get on with my sisters that well and my fella's sister isn't someone that I would choose. I'd love to ask one of my nieces but then I would be expected to have both.. Then our Nephew on his side... I've kept it to friends only.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

You can have who you want there’s no obligation to ask her. But if you want her to feel included in some way for your husband to be maybe you could ask her to do a reading during the ceremony?

Emily Hughes
Emily Hughes 25 Mar 2019

I have my sister as chief bridesmaid and my best friend as my MOH. I have one other friend I would like to ask. My H2B is much older than me so his sister is similar age and I don’t know her well enough to ask her so I haven’t. 🤷🏼‍♀️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

If you’re not close she’s probably not expecting to be asked

Katie Pearson
Katie Pearson 25 Mar 2019

Na. My brother's wife didn't ask me and I was fine with that!

Heather Durrant
Heather Durrant 25 Mar 2019

My brothers wife asked us to be bridesmaids we declined as she had friends and sisters and we aren’t close. I only have my two sisters and my best friend is doing a reading

Beth Whitaker
Beth Whitaker 25 Mar 2019

I decided not to ask my future sister in laws even though I’m quite close with one of them because I didn’t want loads and loads of bridesmaids with them costing so much. Neither of them minded

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 25 Mar 2019

I also had the same dilemma. A Hunger Games-style combat to the death was the ideal solution. Meant I got the strongest and most resourceful woman to be my MOH *and* provided my hen night entertainment.

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 25 Mar 2019

Discuss it with your h2b it's his wedding too. I asked my partner if he wanted his sister to be bridesmaid and even tho she wanted to be he said no. He said the bridesmaids are my choice and the groomsmen and best men are his. End of really.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

You ask who you want to ask

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I asked my h2bs sister as it’s not about the relationship we have now but the one i wish to have. It gives me a chance to get to know her too

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

It’s entirely your choice but Maybe involve her in another way like asking her to be witness ?

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 25 Mar 2019

I asked my sisters as I really wanted to share that experience with them and then asked my ohs sister as they are close and I thought it could be a good way to improve our bond and for her to be involved in our wedding. She was thrilled that I asked and is very excited about getting to meet my sisters and share this experience with them. So i would say if you want to build a relationship with her or if your h2b is close to her then ask her x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Why don't you ask your sister in law to do a reading at the wedding instead of being a bridesmaid? That way she's still included?

Danielle Ryde
Danielle Ryde 25 Mar 2019

I have 2 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls didn't want to ask my sister in law (brothers fiancee) so asked my other sister in law to be (h2bs sister) who I am close to

Kirsti Clarke
Kirsti Clarke 25 Mar 2019

I have 2 sisters, my fiancée has a sister, I asked all 3 but only 2 agreed. Including my best friends I ended up with 6 bridesmaids when I only originally wanted 3/4, would have been 7 except for my half sister not wanting to do it. Do what YOU want to do, it’s your day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

It's your wedding do what makes you happy

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had my sister (already married), my niece and my longest standing friend, who I've known since we were four.

Megan Tamplin
Megan Tamplin 25 Mar 2019

It's up to you. I have my sister in law/ my best friend is my maid of honour, my sister and 2 best friends and my daughter are my bridesmaids. You choose who you want. I'm not a bridesmaid at my brothers wedding and it's fine and I've not asked my partner's sister to be a bridesmaid either x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had my sister, two sister in law's, my husband's cousin and my friend...didn't want anyone to be left our, we also had my husband's cousin's little girl as our flower girl and then had six ushers as my husband also didn't want to leave any one out and they matched perfectly

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I'm just having my best friend as my maid of honour. I was going to have other friends but then I didn't want loads and people falling out over it and it getting too costly and stressful so just decided on the one person (apart from my mum) who I wanted with me on the morning helping me get ready and plying me with prosecco . X

Claire Bradley
Claire Bradley 25 Mar 2019

Niki Clarke
Niki Clarke 25 Mar 2019

I’d have my sister my best friend and 2 close friends if u don’t feel u want ur partners sister u don’t need to have her if u rnt close. There’s absolutely no obligation to ask ur partners sister xxx

Wilma Beaton
Wilma Beaton 25 Mar 2019

I have a moh and 4 bridesmaids. 3 best friends my cousin and my fh sister xxc

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

If you aren’t close to your partners sister then you definitely don’t need to ask her. Maybe just have a quick chat to your husband to be and make sure he understands your decision. The thing is being a bridesmaid and a bride as lovely as it is can also be quite stressful and as a bride I wanted people around me who I was close to and I could rely on so there was no awkwardness, and we could all be honest with each other about dresses, opinions etc plus people who I trusted to plan my hen, and generally make my whole wedding experience including the morning of the wedding better. I think it would have been hard if I wasn’t as close to all my bridesmaids as I am. The same went for when I was a bridesmaid at my friends wedding ️ hope this helps xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I didn't ask my sister in law, I had my 3 sisters and my niece. If I'd known my best friend back than she'd have been one as well

Hannah Newcombe
Hannah Newcombe 25 Mar 2019

If your not close why would she expect it?

Sarah Lockey
Sarah Lockey 25 Mar 2019

Have who you want. It’s your day. I’m having my sister and future step daughters xx

Ruby Urwin
Ruby Urwin 25 Mar 2019

I have my four sisters, sister in law to be and my only female cousin. I would have loved to have my friends but family came first for me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Not at all. My fiancé has a twin sister and I didn’t ask her. Your bridesmaids should be people how are special to you, have exactly what you want

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My brothers partner wasn't mine, but I am going to be hers... I think you have to choose who you want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

You chose who you like.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had my best friend as maid of honour and no one else! Couldn't be bothered with the agro!

Joanne Hayward
Joanne Hayward 25 Mar 2019

Couldn't pick, asked them all, my husband to be has 4 girl best mates who are groomsmaids and a best man, I have 5 bridesmaids, we're only planning on getting married once so sod to it! X

Hayley Wright-Mitchell
Hayley Wright-Mitchell 25 Mar 2019

I don’t think your sister in law need to be a bridesmaid, but maybe give her some sort of role on the day so she feels included.. maybe she could read a poem at the ceremony or something?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

We are having a small wedding on Greece. So I dodnt want too many bridesmaids. As it would feel like everyone was part of the wedding party and hardly any guests .. so o just have my sister and my moh and my nieces as flower girls .. my partner's sister and her boyfriend we have asked to be our witnesses so that they can still have a special part of the wedding without having to overload with bridesmaids and groomsmen xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

No you don't.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

My sisters my maid
Of honour then I have my niece , two friends I’ve known for 24 odd years , my sister in law and my very close work friend , I would of liked to ask to other people but it starts to get pricey and a bit silly with too many . I have 6 in total with three flowers girls and 2 page boys .
Who will be there when you need them? I know the people I’ve chose will always be no matter what happens x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I don’t feel
Your obliged to ask her! They are your bridesmaid so should be who ever you want

Laurisa Kerr
Laurisa Kerr 26 Mar 2019

I'm just gonna have my daughter and niece I don't have many friend and the ones I do have cant make /don't want to come to the wedding witch I don't mind

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I have a sister but didn't choose her as we aren't close, but I've chosen my fiancés sister and my best friend, I did have another friend who was supposed to be bridesmaid, including her daughters and her husband as a groomsman, but pettiness and stubbornness took over all because of the bridesmaid dress and none of them are now involved in our wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

I’ve had my best friend and one of my sisters in law (my brothers partners) as we are really close. I have another sister in law through my other brother but haven’t asked her, and 4 sisters in law to be. As much as I love them you can’t have everyone in your wedding party. As someone else commented, if you want to build a positive relationship with her, this could be an opportunity. Otherwise ask her to be involved in some other things. Ultimately though, it’s who you want sharing all those moments in your day as you get married and I couldn’t imagine it without my best friend and sister in law xx

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 26 Mar 2019

Ask who you want. I have no sisters and neither does my fiance. The original line up was my two best friends, my two youngest female cousins and my eldest cousins daughter. It has now been cut down to my two best friends (one might not make it) and my eldest cousins daughter.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Mar 2019

Can't have one without the other

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