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UKbride Member Request 22 Mar 2019

Need some advice who have you had as your MOH I was going to have my best...

Need some advice who have you had as your MOH I was going to have my best friend but my thinks I'm making a huge mistake and should have my sister

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Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 23 Mar 2019

I'm not having a MOH everyone is equal in my eyes so all are bridesmaids. Can always have 2 MOH your sister and friend and share out duties.

Chloé Alexander
Chloé Alexander 25 Mar 2019

I’m having my older cousin as my Matron of honour and my little sister as Chief bridesmaid. Both then have a “title”. I can give them both tasks I need help with as well, more hands on deck!☺️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Same as above. Got my two. Sisters and my bestie. All are equal and no need for the title x

Joanna Fair
Joanna Fair 25 Mar 2019

I'm not having one just 3 bridesmaids 👍

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had my sister but wish I would have had my best friend

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I’m having both my sister and best friend as I couldn’t pick ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

You don't need to have a MOH at all. Might be simpler to keep all the BM's on the same level for now?

Emma Hine
Emma Hine 25 Mar 2019

I'm having my best friend as MOH and my 20yr old daughter as chief bridesmaid, my best mate is in Canada and coming over a few days before the wedding so my daughter will probs help me with alot of stuff x

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 25 Mar 2019

I chose one of my sisters to be chief bridesmaid as out of all my bridesmaids she is the one whose shown most inyerest and yet she lives furthest away 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I have my sister but totally see the desire to choos best mate. Ignore what others think and do what you want

Katy Robertson
Katy Robertson 25 Mar 2019

I just have 2 adult BMs and a couple of kids, non of them have titles. And I have arranged everything with the help of H2B. BMs were not included in any decisions.

Hannah Read
Hannah Read 25 Mar 2019

I'm not having one just my 3 nieces and daughter as bridesmaids 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I have 3 adult bridesmaids and none of them are being my maid of honor. I see it as why should 1 person have so much responsibility when they could all have the same responsibilities

Victoria Poyner
Victoria Poyner 25 Mar 2019

I’m having two my sister and my best friend 😍👍🏼

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I'm having my brother, and no bridesmaids. I'm closer to him than anyone, so it was a no brainer! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Choose the person you can rely on the most to help you out leading up to the day ️ they need to be your confidante and someone who is good in a crisis!

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 25 Mar 2019

My best friend was my MOH as I have 2 sisters and it wouldn’t have been fair. Although all my bridemaids and MOH has all the same responsibilities so they didn’t feel as if my MOH was to make al the choices x

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 25 Mar 2019

I had my best friend. I don't have a sister tho. It's your choice at the end of the day so go with what makes you happy x

Emily Hughes
Emily Hughes 25 Mar 2019

My best friend of 18 years is being my MOH. my sister is chief bridesmaid.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I don’t have one there both just bridesmaids

Carol Wilde
Carol Wilde 25 Mar 2019

I had 9 moh

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had one of my best friends my sister was a bridesmaid. She didn’t mind though. Talk to your sister about it. I’m sure she will just want you to be happy xxx

Emma Anstee
Emma Anstee 25 Mar 2019

My best friend is my MOH and I'm only having my daughter as my bridesmaid.

Zoe Marie White
Zoe Marie White 25 Mar 2019

I don't have one- am just having my two best friends both as bridesmaids :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Moh is married and cheif bridesmaid is not and are the lead person

Elissa Solomon
Elissa Solomon 25 Mar 2019

Traditionally its supposed to be your sisters who are MOH and CB but if you dont have sisters then whoever you choose. I only have 2 sisters so im not having a MOH they're just gunna be normal bridesmaids.

Amee Goulding
Amee Goulding 25 Mar 2019

I didnt have a MOH i had 2 bridesmaids and deligated jobs evenly.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had my cousin as MOH, then I had my sister and 2 best friends as bridesmaids

Chantal Campbell
Chantal Campbell 25 Mar 2019

Have whoever's you want it's your wedding. I'm having my best friend and my fiance is having his best friend as his best man. Have a lovely day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Best friend is moh sister and oldest friend are bridesmaid. It’s all down to your preference xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My MOH is my sister in law,I don't have a sister or a best friend and she's just the right woman for the job then my daughters are bridesmaids x

Lucy Fulton
Lucy Fulton 25 Mar 2019

I'm having my sister and friend as a bridesmaid but it is up to you :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

my step-sister was my MOH. We've never been closeclose as our parents were married after we were! We met when we were well in our twenties, so never had a real 'sister' relationship but good friends. I chose her instead of my best friend for two reasons - one, she's the only "sister" figure I have, being an only child, & two, she's the most organised & reliable person I know!

Rebecca Bradley
Rebecca Bradley 25 Mar 2019

my MOH is my sister because she is, and always will be, my first point of call for anything best friend is bridesmaid with her daughter

Heather Durrant
Heather Durrant 25 Mar 2019

I am just having both sisters and they are sorting between themselves x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I'm gonna sound like a broken record but...neither. I don't think MOH are necessary, it's a big honour to be a bridesmaid so no one needs the extra elevated status because it makes the other bridesmaids seem less significant

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My only advice would be to really think through who is the person that will care the most? Help you with your planning, be there at the end of the phone if you’re having a dilemma, organise your hen party, helping you choose your hen party outfits, the one who will be honest with your ideas but who is also their for you when you go knicker shopping! The one that you can send screenshots to at any given time of the day/night and you know they’ll reply at their earliest convenience! If your best friend is this kind of person then yes, ask her to be your MOH, but if she’s not and your sister ticks all of the boxes then choose your sister. I hope this helps.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I chose my sister as MOH - honestly the best choice in my opinion x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

In the end this person is simply your witness to sign the register. With modern times they are given a lot more duties as we become more americanised and to be honest I picked the person I knew I could count on

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My sister

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I’m not having one. I have four adult bridesmaids, one is my sister, one my best friend and two who are my closest friends who I’ve know all my life. They are all important to me so choosing one is just not what I want to do xx

Julia Blissett
Julia Blissett 25 Mar 2019

Iv just got two bridesmaids as my maid of honour can’t make wedding due to being ill and didn’t feel anyone else lived up to the title

Bethany Hardcastle
Bethany Hardcastle 25 Mar 2019

I didn't have bridesmaids or maid of honour couldn't really afford it tbh but I would of had my sister also if one of them is married you could have a matron of honor and other one maid of honour x

Hayley Wright-Mitchell
Hayley Wright-Mitchell 25 Mar 2019

I had 2- my sister and my sister in law (my hubby’s twin’s wife). My sister was studying abroad and so wasn’t around for most of the planning process, but as she’s my only sister I felt she should play that role. My sister in law was amazing help during the planning process and we grew so close over the course of mine and hubby’s relationship.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Honestly I’d say have whoever you think will be the most support to you. It’s easy to get caught up in worrying who’s right for the role but I’m sure whoever you don’t chose will understand. I didn’t even have my sister as a bridesmaid as she wasn’t sure if she was moving abroad and I don’t think she minded as she was still included in everything x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Have them both
Share responsibilities as one might get offended then again your day your choice xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Have both my best friend and sister. Sister is the MOH and bestie is chief bridesmaid

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

Have both

Ruth Heggie
Ruth Heggie 25 Mar 2019

My oldest sister... then 4 best friends as bridesmaids... I have 4 sisters so for me this was the fairest way.

Stacey Gill
Stacey Gill 25 Mar 2019

My maid of honour knew she was going to be my maid of honour before I even asked her. I literally phoned her the day I got engaged and she scream, "omfg I'm going to be your maid of honour" only because I told her this before I was seeing anyone years ago lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

There are lots of traditions and traditionalists when it comes to weddings. I think you use the ‘rules’ as a rough guide. If your heart is saying your best friend should be your maid of honour then she should be. I know everyone says this and it is your day, make choices that are right for you and your partner xx

Debbie Osborne
Debbie Osborne 25 Mar 2019

its your wedding....have who YOU want...no one else's business x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I had my sister xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

I'll have my sister

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My best friend was going to be but let me down and didn't even come to my wedding and then never even congratulated us so I confronted her and she got nasty we haven't spoken in 2 years. I had my sister and I wish I'd asked her in the beginning she did a gr8 job and did a speech wish made me cry xxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Mar 2019

My sister and best friend shared it xxx

Charlotte Ward
Charlotte Ward 26 Mar 2019

Don’t have one xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Mar 2019

Have both !! My sister has chosen both me and her best friend and we have shared the maid of honor responsibility. I understand how importan my sister best friend is so was more than happy to share the role x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Mar 2019

My Maid of honour is my mum and my chief bridesmaid is my niece..xx I also have 4 bridesmaids and a bridesman..xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Mar 2019

I am having my friend who i have been friends with for 18yrs she like a sister to me.

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