Helen Sharp
Helen Sharp 20 Mar 2019

Bridesmaids support?

I've seen a lot of people complaining that their maid of honour/bridesmaids aren't supporting the bride enough- what exactly do people need support with? I'm just wondering whether I should be asking mine to do more lol. Just curious to see what everyone has them doing/would like them to do?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Organise hen do x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Help the bride with ideas for wedding and buying bits xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

My bridesmaid is turning up thats it. As long as she comes to the dress fitting and hen do then that is all I want. It my weddingto organise not hers x x

Loren Gorst
Loren Gorst 21 Mar 2019

I honestly have no idea. Mine haven’t done anything I’m just happy they are standing next to me. But then I’m so laid back 😂 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

My bridesmaid didn't need to do anything. We talked about my ideas etc we planned my hen together. No expectations at all from me x x x

Leonie Rabey
Leonie Rabey 21 Mar 2019

Organise my hen do!

Janine Graham
Janine Graham 21 Mar 2019

My MOH has organised the hen do ( her choice) , has been with me to help choose my dress, i value her opinion and she was a great help. Shes also very organised and logical and has kept me grounded and pointed me in the right direction...thats all i need from her shes just perfect for the job 🤣...shes also my best friend 😍

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 21 Mar 2019

Mine organised the hen do and listened to me about any ideas etc.

Jody Pescud
Jody Pescud 21 Mar 2019

My moh is useless but that's why I love her she's my best friend and wouldn't want anyone else to do it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Emily Furmidge Danielle Williamson Jasmin Reid Shannon Phillips - You all listen to my wedding talk even though it is still 3 years away and I think that's enough for anyone

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

None of mine were involved in anything at all .x

Lauren Whymark
Lauren Whymark 21 Mar 2019

Organise hen do, then I’ve got a WhatsApp group I upload ideas to/pictures with my mum, mother in law to be and bridesmaids and they give me input- other half isn’t exactly interested in the girly touches 😅😅 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I've asked mine to help with decorations - keep an eye out for bits to use and help me make some. She'll also be organising the hen do when time for that comes. I want to ask one of the bridesmaids to sort out music and the others to help organise people on the day. Most of my to-do list gets split with the groom tho!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

There's a list of jobs that are supposed to be "expected" of your bridal party, but the truth is, all they should really do 8s show up for their dress shopping, fittings and on the day you're getting married, although most also take responsibility for planning the hen. Anything else is up to them. Your wedding is yours to plan and pay for. Most of the disagrrements happen because the bride doesn't tell her bridal party what she expects from them - if you want them to be there for your dress shopping, or help you with other wedding planning bits, then you need to tell them. Personally, I'm only expecting my MOH to turn up on the day in the dress I've picked. She volunteered for cake tasting

Gillian Maxwell
Gillian Maxwell 21 Mar 2019

I'm not having a MOH just 2 Bridesmaids my daughter and my partners Niece my daughter is arranging my hen do with help from my daughter in law . She will also be there to let me know when I need to chill and take a breath. Lol

Amy Liddle
Amy Liddle 21 Mar 2019

Mine is organising my hen weekend, helping me with choices and ideas, listening to me moan, coming to appointments and or shopping and just being there as I need her. Must say I cannot complain she doing everything right by me xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I’m confused about this too
People need to just get on with it. My MOH organised me an amazing hen do and had a say in hairstyles and dresses etc and was there to chat to. She also came over a few days before the wedding and helped with a few last minute bits but that was it...
It’s not their wedding! People just need to stop moaning & get on with it!

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 21 Mar 2019

At the moment she is just a sounding board to bounce ideas off, an ear to rant to and a shoulder to cry on. She will probably plan my hen do when the time comes and i would like to take her when my mum and i go dress shopping. She is also doing my make up as she is a proffesional make up artist.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Mine weren't expected to do anything other than come with me to get their dresses and then the alterations. Everything else was down to me and my husband.

Debbie Osborne
Debbie Osborne 21 Mar 2019

It's my wedding...I'm organising it...my MOH has bought her own dress and shoes that we chose together and will come dress shopping with me and mum...she is organising hen do...that's it...rest is up to me...it's my day I will organise it how I want it.. fiance will sort rings and cars...maybe coz I'm a control freak but it's mine and fiance making choices x

Pamela mccabe
Pamela mccabe 21 Mar 2019

Mines are turning up and organising the hen do , they came to try dresses on that’s it I haven’t asked or expected anything else from them

Kirsty Neilan
Kirsty Neilan 21 Mar 2019

Mine was my sister who lives in England (I'm in Glasgow) all she done be by my side on the day. That's all she was required to do tbh

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Maid of homers tend to organise the hen do.. and the bridesmaids just be there for you on they day, help to keep you calm and help to make things go a bit more smoothly on the day. Xx

Louise DC
Louise DC 21 Mar 2019

My MOH and Bridesmaid have organised my hen do. I go in April and have zero idea of where i'm going/what i'm doing/what i'm wearing so that's either a blessing or a curse 😂😂 other than that they've tp find their own shoes (as they're all different heights and my MOH is due 6days after my wedding 😂) they're only job is turning up to dress fitting, being happy on the morning to have their make up & hair done and have fun at my wedding 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

My MOH didn't have chores or jobs to do, she was there for opinions and helping me get dressed on the day :)
When I was a MOH though I did so much, invites, order of services (designing and printing), painted 2 custom canvases for the venue and church, sourced and bought the bridemaids shoes, made sweet trees, taxi'd the bride around the week before for all her appointments and setting up etc - although wish I hadn't bothered as her sister turned up a few weeks before and I got stripped of my MOH title and got no thanks at all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

My maid of honour kept telling me I needed to ask her to do things for me. I told her I picked her to be my maid of honour because I wanted her by my side on my big day, not because I wanted her to do things for me lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I don't know. Maybe I need to get some?

Rebecca Saunders
Rebecca Saunders 21 Mar 2019

I didn't want mine to do anything, they have their own lives they don't need to be doing things for me!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

That's just bridezillas lol. I didn't expect anything from mine, other than to be there to try on their dresses, and look beautiful on the day, which they all did. Brides expect too much these days. They expect them to organise a hen do abroad, choose cake flavours, get all excited about flowers etc... But in my opinion that's down to the bride and groom. If your bridesmaids choose to help and want to be involved then that's great Xx

Kate Fanning
Kate Fanning 21 Mar 2019

Haha I always think the same thing 😂😂 think they’re just bridezillas!

Helen Sharp
Helen Sharp 21 Mar 2019

This was my post - I'm glad most people are being sensible 😂😂😂 and I'm glad others thought those people were bridezillas 😂😂😂

Jan Hirst
Jan Hirst 21 Mar 2019

Doing everything myself tbh wouldnt want it any other way.....and I dont want a hen do so all sorted.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Mine kinda gave themselves roles, I had one organise my music (that I did ask but that's because of her contacts) and my MOH organised my hen, another organised a mendhi night for me but the others were just my support on the day which is what I wanted from them

Linda Donohue
Linda Donohue 21 Mar 2019

All everyone has to do is turn up clean and tidy and relatively sober. Enjoy organising your day yourself and feel proud when it’s perfect - which it will be 👍🏻

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I was my sister's MoH at the weekend. She had 3 other bridesmaids. We did practically nothing. I helped make up some sweets in boxes and that's it.
I'm getting married in Sept and I've organised everything so far with minimal help. If I do it myself then I can keep track of everything. Maybe I'm missing something but organising and planning a wedding is so easy. I've barely had a single stress.

Paige Warwick
Paige Warwick 21 Mar 2019

i haven’t asked mine to do anything nor do i require their support. they have their own lives lol my two bridesmaid have offered there help if i need it which is lovely but christ, i don’t get why people are pissed 😂 xxx

Adele Peebles
Adele Peebles 21 Mar 2019

Mine is there for emotional support making sure my choices are not too outrageous I have a hideous dress since lol 😆 and she’s doing my hen due and making sure I bloody get married on the day and not run lol 😆

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I can do things myself, that’s why I have no brides maid

Kayte Lowe
Kayte Lowe 21 Mar 2019

Having been a MOH twice and bridesmaid other times, I always tried to be available to talk wedding stuff as endlessly as needed. Be present for wedding fairs, dress hunting etc (even find wedding fairs to take bride too, or dress shops that stock styles you think your bride will like) . organised bridal showers, girly wedding days and hen parties.
Helped research anything bride needed, eg calling round chair cover suppliers so price comparisons can be made. Make Pinterest boards in chosen wedding themes/styles to help support the bride with inspiration.
Basically just anything to support the bride and make the experience less stressful and more fun.
Most importantly though, to always be there with a glass of wine and when all the wedding planning becomes a little much 😊

Michelle Sherratt
Michelle Sherratt 21 Mar 2019

Mine has been brilliant...she's my sister from another mister. 😍

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Mar 2019

Mine is my sister, she has a very busy life so I wouldn't expect her to do much...shes organising my hen do, shes booked a photo booth and arranged some printing for me, she also found a seamstress to help with my dress alterations...I didn't ask her to do any of that bless her, shes just so excited her big sister is getting married....and on the night before the wedding, shes sharing my suite with me, and we will have some sister time which we dont get very often. There will be tears I just know it! We are very close.

Angel Davis-Lewis
Angel Davis-Lewis 22 Mar 2019

I didn't have a maid of honour. Me and my husband sorted most out on our own my friend did us a cold buffet for the night. We were let down by the person making the cakes and the photographer and no one really took any photos either

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 22 Mar 2019

All I wanted from my MOH and Bridesmaid was to go dress shopping with me and give me some input into their own dresses. Everything else my husband and I sorted out as it was our wedding! :-)

Andie Clarke
Andie Clarke 22 Mar 2019

I didn't ask mine to do anything but both moh and bridesmaid did ask if and what I needed, organised my hen do and stepped in as mua when I hated mine. I do sometimes wonder if women chose the wrong moh or weren't close enough to begin with 🤔 mine knew me inside out and bsckwards so wouldn't need to be asked or told a level of input

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2019

My MOH's arent expected to do anything, i think i just there advice when needed and support on the day ... xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2019

My MoH has just volunteered for everything bless her! She loves crafting so she’s on it with all my favours and table decorations etc!


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