Kirstine Blackwell
Kirstine Blackwell 20 Mar 2019

Bands v giving notice ! What’s the difference ?

Can anyone explain the difference between bands being read and giving notice? I’m getting married in church and the bands are being read there, but I’m told I also have to “give notice” at a registry office to make the wedding legal. Can anyone confirm this and explain what I have to do in plain English, I’m getting so confused. I’m getting married on the 3rd August. So I need to get this sorted x thanks

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I never needed to give notice ,. Unless my vicar done it for me , bands were read X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Bans

Kayleigh Dunsby
Kayleigh Dunsby 21 Mar 2019

I'm getting married in a church to and I'm glad you have asked this as I'm confused to they don't make it simple do they !? X

Amanda Mapplebeck
Amanda Mapplebeck 21 Mar 2019

Bans have to be read at your local church and at the church your getting married at if different, you only give notice if your been married at a hotel, registry office, etc. Hope that helps

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I didn’t think you had to give notice if you were getting married in church just have your bands read.
All you do to give notice is make an appointment at the registry office and they ask you a serious of questions such as where are you getting married, your partners name/work etc.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Having the bans read in a church is the same as a notice of marriage in a registry office so u shouldn't have to do both! I didn't

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

So in order for anyone to have a civil ceremony (non religious) in the UK, you must register your intent to marry. This needs to be I think at around 3 months before the wedding (not 100% in that time frame but for arguments sake). This means you make an appointment to simply go to the registry office and answer a few questions about each other. It's to check it's not a sham wedding. Your intent to marry is also posted on a register which allows anyone who may know you are unlawfully getting married to declare so.

Admittedly I am unsure what protocol is with church weddings.

Jeni Blanshard
Jeni Blanshard 21 Mar 2019

I’m getting married in a Catholic Church and I have had to give notice but no bans are being read. I think it depends on the church, the priest/vicar and the area xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I think you have to confirm at registry of so they can put your and your husband 2 be names on the wall so it’s all legal this is what we got told any way x and they ask you questions separate as well x just ring registry office up they will help you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I rang my local registry office team to ask them, as we are getting married in churvh, and they said I had to give notice through them, otherwise it wouldn't be a legally binding marriage. Sounds different to other people's comments though...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Give notice is going to answer questions about each other and id to be given also its for the public to see and they can disagree with i getting married

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Depends on the church I would speak to the priest to confirm x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I got married in a catholic church, i think banns are more of the tradition in the church and giving notice at the registry is the legal side of it all. We didnt need out banns read and the preist was very clear that without the license (blue slip as he kept reffering to it as) we couldnt get married...if you are unsure, speak to your preist x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I was married in a church and had to give notice at the registry office. I can't remember if we had banns read...
Make an appointment at the registry office, you and your fiancé will have to answer questions about each other to make sure it's not a scam wedding

vicki taylor
vicki taylor 21 Mar 2019

I’m getting married on 1st June and we have been told by the church we need to give notice of marriage to the registry office as well and then take the forms from the registers office to the church in order to be able to get married.

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 21 Mar 2019

We were gonna get married in a church until we changed our mind. The priest said we didn’t have to go through the registry office as he was allowed to legalise the marriage so all depends on the church itself. Worth an ask x

Devan Cresswell
Devan Cresswell 21 Mar 2019

This is from my local council page (May be different for others) http://www.coventry.gov.uk/info/161/ceremonies/516/marriages/5 but it basically says that if your getting married in CofE and bands are read then no notice needed but if your getting married in any other religious building then you need to give notice. I would ring the registry office and just ask, there’s no harm in checking with them

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I got married in church had my banns read but didn't have to give notice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I got married in church in October and we only had to have our banns read, your vicor should explain everything xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I believe if you are getting married in with the church of England then the vicar does this for you with reading your banns 3 Sunday's in the 3 months leading up to your wedding (so you need enough time for this to happen) they are read out in the church you are marrying and your local parish if different. If its Catholic or civil ceremony you need to give notice at your registry office. At least 8-10 weeks before but no more than 12 months. Hope this helps xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Religious marriage ceremonies (England and Wales only)

The Church of England and the Church in Wales are allowed to register a marriage at the same time as performing the religious ceremony.

You won't have to give notice of the marriage to the Register Office unless you or your partner are a non-EEA national. If this is the case, you will need to give 28 days notice to the Register Office.

So if getting married Church of England or Wales you don’t give notice just do the bands- if not church or England you have to give notice - if you’re not sure check with register office x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

If your getting married in a church no notice is needed, as the church officiates, that's what I was told, my banns were read in two churches, the church people who read them signed the marriage certificate and that was it... X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Registry Office wedding = Give notice, Church = Banns.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I think it's that you need to fill these forms in and register your marriage 🤔

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Bethany Hardcastle
Bethany Hardcastle 21 Mar 2019

Ring register office tell them your planing on getting married and the date them make an appointment with them it needs to be more than 3 months before the wedding you will need to take some I'd with you ask them on phone what you need to bring at first they talk to you together to get all your details and see id then they will speak to you separately to make sure you are both legal to marry they just ask general questions like your partner birthday and if you have kids there birthdays and full names that kind of stuff then she will call both of you in where you have to sign a few things then your done it's really easy x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Bans only at my church

Natasha Mavin
Natasha Mavin 21 Mar 2019

i get married in a church and was told we had to give notice. We get married in august and gave notice at the registry office yesterday! We just had to answer a few questions about eachother. This is to get the legal documents and marriage certificate so our marriage is legal. Thw church has asked us to take them in once we have recieved them and they will keep them in our file til the day of the wedding x

Rachel Doxey
Rachel Doxey 21 Mar 2019

You have to tell the register office that you are getting married . If your church doesn’t have a register then you need to book one to attend. The register is just the legal side of things . The Bans is a traditional biblical thing to announce that there will be a marriage between two people giving notice to the church and essentially God as well

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 21 Mar 2019

This is the kind of thing you should be discussing with the vicar who's conducting the ceremony. Understanding what the rules and procedures are is an important part of your wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Giving notice is required by law to get married as it check that you can legally marry.

Banns are read in church in case there is a moral or religious objection to the wedding

Jennifer Charlton
Jennifer Charlton 21 Mar 2019

Your vicar/priest will not marry you without the forms u need to book an appointment with the registry office to get registered they will tell u what you need to being.... its £35 each

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Banns are read for Church of England ceremonies and are the equivalent of giving notice. If it's any other type of ceremony (religious or not) then it's a legal requirement to give notice at the registry office a certain amount of time before your marriage. Important to do or the marriage isn't legal. We also had to have our banns read in the parish we live in and the parish we got married in (where I'm originally from).

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Usually if it’s a C of E church you don’t need to give notice if it’s any other church or venue you do

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

I'm getting married in a church out my area. Got do banns at my local church but didn't say I got go reg office as well xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

If it was a c of e church you don't need to give notice at the register office.

If it's a Catholic church then you do have to give notice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/living-together-marriage-and-civil-partnership/getting-married/ There's a section on here about legalising religious marriage ceremonies but it may also differ depending on your area

Sarah Sharpe
Sarah Sharpe 21 Mar 2019

I got married in a different parish so needed special permission and had to give notice in my parish also. Your vicar will tell you exactly what you need t do, as will a phone call to the registry office xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Church of England ceremonies are legally binding, like in a registry office. Catholic and other church ceremonies are not and require a registrar to be there for the signing of the marriage certificate. Therefore if you are getting married thru CofE then you only need bans reading thru church, any other religious ceremony requires you legally to do both!

Gilly Carey
Gilly Carey 21 Mar 2019

They are banns not bands.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

We got married with a registrar at our chosen venue, we had to BOTH give notice to the local registrars (& be interviewed) as well as have our bands read by our local church.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

We got married in a C of E church last June and didn't have to give notice, just had our banns read. We had to do it twice though, once at our local church and again at the church we married in (we'd just moved, but had ties to the church we married in due to our parents living in the parish) if it wasn't a church we had ties to then we wouldve had to give notice as well :)

Heather Durrant
Heather Durrant 21 Mar 2019

It’s the same, if you have banns read in church it covers the legal

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 21 Mar 2019

You don’t have to give notice unless special circumstances. Reading of the banns is sufficient unless a prior marriage has occurred or you are marrying in a different parish to where you live

Charlotte Stück
Charlotte Stück 21 Mar 2019

We had banns read in church and didn’t need to give notice or have anything to do with the registry office?! Xx

Katie Dury
Katie Dury 21 Mar 2019

I’m getting married in a Methodist church in May. It is a legal requirement to give notice to the registry office. You ring them, make an appointment and after 28 days they send you the certificates to give to the church.

Katie Dury
Katie Dury 21 Mar 2019

It does cost money also.

Monique Layne
Monique Layne 21 Mar 2019

Only need my banns read in church no other mention of getting in contact with the registry office

Rebeeca Black
Rebeeca Black 21 Mar 2019

If ur getting married in a church of england church then u don't need to give notice as I have just checked because I was a little unsure myself and I am getting married in JUNE x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

We got married in church and didn't have to go to the registry office. We just had our banns read, 3 sundays running, which ideally u shud attend at least 1 x

Kate Fanning
Kate Fanning 21 Mar 2019

Roman Catholic you have to register the marriage as there is no reading of banns. For C of E churches the reading of the banns is your notice effectively so you don’t need to give notice separately

Diane Barley
Diane Barley 21 Mar 2019

Your vicor/priest should tell you if you need to give notice

Michelle Croxford
Michelle Croxford 21 Mar 2019

You only give notice if having civil ceremony
If getting married in a church the vicar/ priest does it.x

Louise Newson
Louise Newson 21 Mar 2019

Do they mean getting the marriage licence?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Please know it’s called ‘banns’ not ‘bands’.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2019

Just your banns being read, that is giving notice in C of E. Most churches legalise the marriage for you. Good be different for different religions though. Ring your registry office and ask them, they'll tell you if you need to or not xx

Brogan Moore
Brogan Moore 21 Mar 2019

Go to the registry office and tell them you want to give notice. They will want documents from you - passports, birth certificates etc. They will tell you what they need. You’ll also have to pay for your marriage license. You then make an appointment and your fiancé will both need to go to the appointment with all your docs etc and answer some questions about each other and sign some forms. They’ll ask you about music and vows etc as well so you need to know what you want

Brogan Moore
Brogan Moore 21 Mar 2019

Go to the registry office and tell them you want to give notice. They will want documents from you - passports, birth certificates etc. They will tell you what they need. You’ll also have to pay for your marriage license. You then make an appointment and your fiancé will both need to go to the appointment with all your docs etc and answer some questions about each other and sign some forms. They’ll ask you about music and vows etc as well so you need to know what you want

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Mar 2019

The church will do the legal part

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Mar 2019

Go to church and tell them you want to get married. If they agree to marry you then just let them guide you through the process.

helen bavister
helen bavister 22 Mar 2019

If you’re getting married in church u don’t need to do anything at a registry office. The banns are read 4 Sunday’s before the wedding date. Signing the register makes it legal

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Mar 2019

That would be 'banns' then...duh.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Mar 2019

Essentially "giving notice" is done for legal reasons, to give people a chance to contest it if they have a lawful reason (like one of the betrothed already being married). Traditionally this was done by reading the Banns in church, back when church was an essential meeting point in a town or community. Nowadays less people go to church, and there are a lot more weddings taking place at non-church venues, so register offices publish "notices" of intent to marry in a book available for anyone to view instead. If you have been advised to do both by the church, then I would. If it was someone else who said you should do both, then check with the church in question

Christine Davies
Christine Davies 24 Mar 2019

Bands being read is part of a preceremony bit to my knowledge and the notice bit is where they ask around prior to the wedding to see if there is anyone in the area that would dispute the married hun. Hope this helps xx

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