I'm feeling a bit stressed about my wedding. Last year I attended two of my cousin's wedding and all anyone could talk about at the first wedding was what the next wedding would be like and all anyone spoke about at the last wedding was how it compared to the first. I have recently found out that two of my other cousins have gotten engaged and are planning to get married next summer and i am getting married next May, I have already booked my venue for this date and can not change it whereas they have not booked a venue yet. I am now stressed that all anyone will talk about at my wedding is the other weddings that are to come and compare our weddings to each other. I feel it is a bit unfair of my cousins to get married so close to my wedding date as they have both been engaged less than a month whereas I have been engaged almost 2 years. However, they are both in their early thirties whereas I am in my early twenties so the rest of the family feel their weddings should get first priority! any advice on how I don't let this dampen my enjoyment of my wedding.
As long as they're not getting married on the same day as you it shouldn't matter ️
Just focus on your wedding and enjoy your day, what does it matter what other people think? The main thing is that you and your new hubby enjoy it! Stop stressing over it!
If this is what your worrying about then your missing the point of getting married... 🤦🏻♀️
Have your day how you want it it's not a competition. If all they can talk about is other weddings on everyone's big day don't invite them it cuts all the falseties out.
This is ridiculous - you're more worried about other people than having the day you want, and as for saying it's unfair of your cousins to get married in the summer of the same year as you? Get a grip. If they booked the same date as you knowing when your wedding is that would be unfair, but essentially blocking off the entire summer is absolutely ridiculous. If this is your main worry and concern, I think your extremely lucky.
Wedding is for you and your partner not anyone else
We have 3 family weddings all with in months of each other and we all are so happy and excited helping each other plan and doing things together, everyone's wedding is different and it's about you and your new husband ... Relax and enjoy
People always compare weddings but they won't say it to you unless it's to say yours is better! It's not unfair of anyone to get married months after you and not their fault you chose or needed a long engagement and they don't. You're getting married to the best person you know and get to love them the rest of your life, being the best or only shouldn't matter and it'll all be about you on your day even if your cousin was getting married the next day. Everyone will be there to celebrate you.
You can't block book a wedding year and there is no law that says people have to wait a certain amount of time to get married once they're engaged.
You focus on your wedding, it will be gone in a flash and you won't even remember anyone talking about your cousins wedding.
Good luck to you and your husband to be!
No wedding is ever going to be like yours. As long as you enjoy your day and have what you want, why worry what other ppl think? This could actually be a good opportunity for you to share the excitement of wedding planning with your cousins. Embrace it, negativity and resentment eat away at the soul. x
Just enjoy your day. If you have everything you want then it will be perfect for you dispite what anyone else thinks.. the main point of the wedding is you and the groom no one else
its your day have it how you like if all they can do is judge then they need to grow up xxx
Enjoy your day and remember it is exactly that. If people want to talk and judge let them, everyone has their opinions.
Big deal they are getting married the same year. Not the same day. People always talk about everyone, and anything. As long as you do it the way you and yer hubby to be want it then all the haters. Your never going to please everyone. And you only live once.... Jeez. Its you and ur partners day the only thing you should be worrying about is if he shows up and you don't fall down the aisle That's my worries x
Why are you worrying about everyone else's wedding and how it's going to be and then moaning about people doing exactly the same 🤦️ concentrate on your day and enjoy your wedding forget about anyone else's weddings.
My cousin got engaged before me, but my other half and I have just booked our wedding date. My family is little bit like that too. Not the comparing, but it will be discussed. I’m not going to let it worry me or bother me. It’s about family and friends coming together and enjoy the day, not just about the venue or how much was spent on it.
Why shouldn't they get married the same year as you? It's your day, not your year! People will compare regardless. Who the hell cares? Your wedding should be about the beginning of your marriage, not being the only important person all bloody year.
Just enjoy your big day its not about anyone else or what anyone has to say ... I got married last year and all that mattered to me was my wife i wouldn't of cared about anythin else .... Little things that ur worrying about dont matter. .
Wow okay if this is what you’re worrying about then I think you’re missing the point of getting married. Get over it, everyone else’s opinions shouldn’t matter. It’s about joining together with your partner not the attention of others
Can't believe what I just read 😂
You can't control when other people book their weddings, if someone told you to book yours at a certain time so it wasn't too close to theirs you'd be pretty mad! Focus on the main reason for having a wedding...marrying the love of your life! Ignore any negativity that's just people being stupid
why are you bothered? are you marrying the person you want to marry? are you in love with the venue and planning it to what you want? weddings aren't about comparisons and if people compare then whatever. just be happy in your decisions and don't worry about what other people do. on the flip side of it why should other people not get married because you are?weddings are about happy times not jealousy and outdoing each other.
My cousin an I got married with 4 months of each other. Mine was first..... I was so happy for her that I couldn’t care less that we were so close together. Actually I don’t think either of us gave it a thought. Enjoy your day and enjoy their day.
Charlotte Fry what’s your thought on this ? Alice Plowman ? Emma Louise ? 🤣
On your wedding day all that matters is you and your partner get married. It doesn’t matter if other people are getting married the very next day.
The wedding day is just a day .. marriage should hopefully be for the rest of your life.
I mean the wedding car I hired wouldn’t start on our wedding day so we ended up with a completely different car .. 🤷🏼♀️ what will be will be.
I dont know about your family dynamic, but my family are literally NEVER all together in one place. So if we had 3 weddings in a year, yes, we would be talking about the next/last one at some point during the day or evening, purely because it's another occasion that we will all be together again, and thats exciting for us!
Nobody will be watching you walk down the isle and be thinking about how your cousin will look in her dress etc. Enjoy the day with your husband and stop worrying about remaining the focus of everyone's attention.
You honestly won’t care on the day. I was oblivious to anyone and everyone’s conversations I was literally just enjoying the best day of my life. X
So sick of reading these kind of posts. People are allowed to get married... Nearly everyone gets married. This is not your year, or month or even week. It is one day where you marry your partner. I'm getting married in May and have 7 other weddings to go to this year and I don't resent that one bit, I'm happy and excited for every wedding. If you're upset that someone else getting married the same year may overshadow your wedding then you are probably getting married for the wrong reasons!! Get a grip!
Seems like you need a bit of a reality check.
Enjoy your day celebrating a union with the one you love, and when it's your cousins turn, enjoy their day and be happy for them... If you can't maybe you shouldn't be going to their weddings..
The rest of your family feel their weddings should get priority 😡
Whoever said that is a dick.
But don’t even worry the whole point is you and your partner share a day where you get married to the ones you love. If someone says anything, you just say that!
Hunny, you are getting married to the man you love. I wouldn't worry about what anyone else thinks of your wedding, it is your day and as long as you and your husband to be have the best day of your lives I wouldn't even ponder about what your cousins weddings will be like or what anyone thinks of yours! Enjoy it hunny
It's not up to you when other people get married, I honestly think it sounds a bit selfish. You should be happy for them, like they are for you. Concentrate on your own wedding and don't let little things bug you otherwise youll just get really stressed.
I'd try getting a life and not caring about other people's opinions
Seems a little immature, just focus on your wedding and worry about you two you'll have a Fab day
Tbh, on the day you won’t have any time to take notice of what’s going on around you.. Just focus on what makes the two of you happy!
Honestly don't let it get to you. Me and my 4 sister's all got married within 3 years of each other. We were all super excited for each other and No one mentioned the others wedding until their day. You are getting married to the man you love you should be focusing on that
For crying out loud people get married every day, and it should be special for that couple as they make a commitment to each other. It's not a competitive event, and it's only the most important thing in *your* world, not every other guest's; life doesn't stop just because you want your Sparkly Unicorn Princess day in the spotlight. Are you actually mature enough to be getting married in the first place?
Also, is a "Wedding Year" a thing now? Good God 🙄
🙈 this is ridiculous,why are you worrying about everyone else and what they are upto, just concentrate on marrying your partner and what you 2 want!.
Your wedding, you choose how and what you want. Do not be dictated to by those outside, are they paying for it?. Bollox to what they think this is your beautiful day, they will have theirs. Enjoy YOUR day xx
Clearly the other weddings weren’t all that good for people to sit around making comparisons, rather than drinking and dancing who cares what anyone thinks have your wedding how you like it and enjoy the god damn day!
Surely this is a wind up??
It's your day, plan it to be how you want it to be, people are always gonna compare and contrast, but if it's the way you want, who cares??
Perhaps you should have a word with them and ask them to move their weddings! 🤣
If you’re really worried about this you’re probably not mature enough to get married yet!
Dont worry bout there weddings only ur own .Everybody has different taste ..
Just enjoy planning your wedding, be happy for your other family members that are getting married. My sister and I got engaged to our now husbands within a week of each other, I got married in the November, my sister the following June, we were so happy for each other and became so much closer having fun helping each other plan our special days! I couldn’t care less if other people compared our weddings! I got married in a beautiful barn and then we all had a great time partying the night away with our family, my sister got married in church then on to a stunning country house to again party the night away, we made sure each other’s weddings were days to cherish for each other. Give your self a shake, everyone else should not be putting their lives on hold for you 🤦️
Your getting married to be with the person u love not to prove anything to anyone so why worry what people say as it doesn’t matter,as for your cousins getting married you should be happy for them!!my mum got married same year as me and I absolutely loved helping her plan hers as she did mine,
I don’t know why people get married if they just worry about how guests see their day or worry about what they will talk about. People talk about weddings and things they are looking forward to and harshly compare weddings they’ve been too. It’s life. U should concentrate on marrying your h2b and be happy.
Doesn't matter what anyone thinks its your day your dream. Its how you want your wedding day to be. It's stressful enough without worrying about others. All weddings are different. Everyone has there own ideas. Just enjoy your dream day. X
It happens at every wedding no matter the time between them. Get over it and your self and enjoy the start of your marriage it’s not just a wedding!
'My wedding' and no mention of what the other half feels. People really do get very wrapped up in just a day.
Id enjoy ur year filled with weddings including your own. What a lovely yr for ur families
This is ridiculous. Let people get married when they want if you don't like it cancel your wedding. Priorities are clearly wrong anyway if tgat what you're worried about. My sister gets married 3 months after me. I couldn't be happier for her. I don't care if propoe discuss our weddings or compare them. Least they are excited for us.
Does it really matter in the long run? Have your wedding when and how you like. Who cares what anyone else thinks!!!
UR are showing ur age here very immature if this is all that u have to worry about... who cares what people will or won't be discussing. Who are u to dictate to ur cousins when they should get married... organise ur day to suit u don't compete with those that have been or will be... it's ur day if the stress has set in about this minor thing u are getting married for all the wrong reasons and u will loose sight of what's important u and ur groom.
Your wedding day is about you and your fiancé having your special day and becoming man and wife... not about trying to out-do the previous or the next wedding you go to. Our wedding was done on a budget. I made all my decorations myself, bought my dress in a bridal sale and cut costs everywhere I could.. but we still had the best day... because it was our day, the way we wanted it. Be happy and stop fretting about outdoing others or you'll turn an amazing experience into a very stressful one!
I think you should enjoy this time while you're planning your wedding. You and your cousins could help each other 😊 I'm getting married in June, a gd friend of mine is getting married in September. We've had so much fun helping and giving each other advice and tips on everything. It's been great having her (aswell as my fiance, other close friends & family, of course) to chat to and meet up with to talk all things wedding when our men are fed up hearing about all the girly things 🤗💕 Just look forward to your big day 💍
If you're worried about what people will say don't invite them. People who give a shit about you will in no way judge your wedding. Have the wedding you want with the people you want.
Why do I feel like these posts are made up by the page to annoy us? And on a Friday as well!
But if it's legit - what they said 👆🏼
So fed up of seeing one of these posts again!! Just concentrate on your own wedding, no 2 weddings are ever the same! One of our friends who got engaged after us are getting married like 4 weeks before us and have the same colour theme, I’m not bothered in the slightest! Just be happy for your family getting married...jeez! 🤦️
I don't understand this whole competition thing. My family will compare probably more than any other family. Exam results who has baby's first ect all a competition to the elder levels. I got engaged a month after my cousin were getting married in the same year. We're using the same photographer because they liked her when I recommended. The dresses might be from the same designer. They have never been mad that were doing the same year, I'm not mad they are using my photographer. Both weddings will be amazing and both weddings will be totally different because we are different people. We don't care what people think because it's us getting married. I would be happy with a registry office and him but we don't see our families often so creating a chance to get everyone together is important. Getting it twice in one year even more exciting!
I get this time can be crazy. But this is soooo superficial in the big plan. Don’t sweat it. People will always have opinions, just enjoy your time and the process. You got this!
Your missing the point! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says about your wedding as long as you enjoy it. And as for them stealing your thunder by getting married close to you, I'm sure they are focusing on their day not yours, just enjoy your day for what it is and with your husband.x
Wow that’s a very selfish outlook to have - are your mature enough to get married??
My advice would be stop caring what everyone else thinks or does. Plan your wedding the way you want it to be and enjoy the day. Let your cousins plan their weddings the way they want them. The most important people are the bride and groom and as long as you have the perfect day it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks
I wouldn't worry about other peoples opinions, u paid for the day if they are so bothered about oh its not this then tell them to pay for it, as for weddings of your cousins i think just being excited together wil be nicer, everyone has weddings at different times i doubt they deliberately wanna shadow yours..be happy for eachother xx
What other people think and do is none of your business. People are allowed to get married anytime they choose. People don't need to be considerate of other people's wedding that they happen to know or are related too. Not to be mean. But shake yourself!
It's not about the venue...the food...the dress...the people...it's about marrying the one you love and making that commitment...I'm planning my wedding at the moment and could not care less what anyone except me and my fiance want...I don't care if no one else likes my dress, the food, the venue...I'm marrying the man for me..the day is for us...get a grip!!!
Why do people worry about this stuff?
Who cares?
I got married in March.
Then attended a family wedding in April which was stunning.
Then attended a cousin's wedding in July which was also stunning.
All I cared about on my wedding day was marrying my husband. Did not care about anyone else or what they thought.
And I was very much looking forward to the two weddings that came after ours. Two weddings I could attend and be relaxed about because they weren't my weddings to stress about!
Be happy, let them be happy and get over yourself
Just wow! Maybe you should reevaluate why you’re getting married! 🤦️
Sorry but completely self centered to think no one else should get married after you 🙄
Regarding people comparing? Who gives a f**k if they do, all that should matter to you is that your marrying the love of your life and you are having the day you want.
The more I read posts like this I wonder if people just married for the attention they can get!! The meaning of marriage seems to be getting forgotten about 🙄🙄🙄
Really?! A) don’t invite such people b) if you feel it’s a competition or you have priority to get married- you’re doing it for the wrong reason! For goodness sake- get real!
As someone who’s in their early twenties, all I’m gonna say is I think you need to grow up a little bit because you are 100% missing the point of getting married. It’s not so that you have a day that’s all about you, it’s so you can marry someone you love 🙄
If people wanna talk about how your wedding compares to a different one then that’s what they’re going to do, because they have small minds. Stop being a selfish brat and think about the important things 🤷🏻♀️
Right I'm sorry but I'm sick to the back teeth of seeing these posts.... Your day is yours and theirs will be theirs end of story. A wedding is about celebrating your love and marriage not for you to show off and be "the best" your day will be amazing because its yours x
If you dnt like peoples comments. Keep your opinions to yourself. Just be happy for yourself and your family. Life is short enough.
It shouldn’t matter what anyone thinks or says or how anyone feels other than you and your partner. All that matters is what you and your partner want for the day and the vows you are taking. The amount of posts I see about how much people spend and all the stress people go to. I think your missing the point of what a wedding is actually about 🙄
Do what you both want to do and don't worry about the opinion of others
It’s because it’s all they have to talk about. I really wouldn’t worry to much. You will be so happy on the day you won’t notice xx
It's a bit selfish, my best friend is getting married 7 months after me and my partner's cousin around 7 months before and I couldn't be more excited. If people want to compare then let them. Getting married isn't about outdoing others, it's about marrying the person you love. Maybe you should have a little word with yourself and find something to stress about that is actually important. Harsh but true.
Bet your day will be fantastic. You are marrying the man of your dreams. Please focus on that, it's not all about who spent the most, it's about wonderful memories.xx
If you worrying this much about it wedding planning will not be easy for you. The day is about the two of you and your love for each other so what if other people are getting married two of my friends got married in the same year and me one being the weekend before my own and I really didn’t worry about people comparing them and actually used it to our advantage and we all helped each other out so I think you need to re-evaluate the priorities
Hey! Listen your wedding day is about you and your partner and trust me on the day you won’t even notice or care what people are talking about! If your friends and family want to judge your wedding day let them carry on, it won’t dampen your day at all! It will be the most amazing experience and you can do all in your power to make it perfect for everyone else but everyone has their own idea of what a wedding should be and you can never keep everyone happy..... so that being said just make yourselves happy! Unfortunately it’s not up to you when your cousins get married, some people like a long engagement and others just want to do it quickly and it doesn’t matter to them how close it is to yours, it’s their special day and let them do it whenever they like! So my advice is relax, enjoy planning and enjoy your wedding because it’s going to be such a whirlwind you do not want to regret stressing about things that eventually really don’t matter!
Niki Clarke another one 😂
My brother had set a date for his wedding and then i announced our wedding for a week after his, this was no problem for anyone. My bro got married here, then him and his new wife came to our wedding in Antigua for their honeymoon, it was a fantastic few weeks of sharing the celebrations, id do it all again, just the same if i could. You need to chill and enjoy :) x
Haha Jamie how ridiculous is this!
Why do you care how your wedding compares to anyone elses? Your wedding is about you and your new hubby and your love for each other, it's not about pleasing anyone else. Don't worry what anyone else thinks - it really doesn't matter.
I swear these posts are made up
I can see what you are saying and i completely understand, however, if thats the case id just think, sod it i am doin everything my way and know that even if people do compare you know you had the best day of your life and you and your hubby are happy. If you know thats how your family behave, give them a wedding to talk about ☺
The only thing that matters is you having the day you want. You can’t please everyone! My cousin gets married 3 weeks after me and so a third of our guest list will be going. A third. Not exactly many people to worry about!
😂😂😂😂 Ffs what an idiot.
They are entitled to their day as much as you are. Get over it.
Why don't you cancel your wedding and just go abroad, just you/husband/kids if you have any, then you don't have to worry about anyone else and what they'll be talking about
Oh dear stop stressing about nothing and getting yourself worked up. Who cares
Don't give a dam it's you and Ryan's day and believe me come the day you'll be on cloud nine xx
Just don’t invite any of your family 😂
Well said
Are you wanting a wedding or a marriage? Seriously get over yourself. I know I sound harsh but the world does not revolve around you, grow up! If this is getting you stressed then maybe you’re not as committed to a marriage as you should be.
Focus on having an amazing day and don’t worry about anyone else. It’s your special day. If they get married first or a month later it doesn’t matter, just have what you want and if people compare then people compare, we’re only human
What a lovely wife you will make 🤪
another person worrying about what other people will think of their wedding rather than being excited about the rest of your life with your partner.
As long as you have a great day what does it matter what others might be saying? How silly
Get over yourself maybe?
My best friend and I got married and we’re each other’s maid of honours within three months of each other and it was amazing. We both had very different days that were special to us and our partners with most of the same guests. Did they compare? Probably? Did we care? No! We were too busy having fun and being happy for each other 🤷️
Harriet, here for the comments...
You shouldn't care about anyone else's wedding or what comments are said about any weddings, just relax and enjoy yours
Invite the few who are genuinely pleased you are getting married. If you do you won't have to worry about bad minded people.
Wow. I think you need a bit of a reality check, it's a wedding day, not year. Why can't you be happy for your cousins and their engagements at the same time as planning your own? You're much further ahead in the planning process too, with your venue booked etc. Seriously, get a grip and grow up.
I would advise that you focus on the person you are marrying and the vows you will be making to each other. This will make your day so much more special for you both.
Seriously it’s about you and your other half no one else I’ll be blunt with you fuck what anyone else thinks it is your day not theirs x
Advice: call it all off and go and get married in a registry office, then maybe go out for something nice to eat after. If the pomp and ceremony mean more to you than getting married to the one you love there is something seriously wrong. Spend the extra money on a nice holiday
Your wedding day is to celebrate the love of you and you OH it doesn't matter what anyone thinks/says. Your day to share with people you love and it'll be fabulous as will your cousins maybe get involved with the planning and the excitement and you'll feel a bit better
Could of got married a year and a half ago or stop being a many bi... and enjoy the day for what it will be . your wedding day is certainly not about what others talk about but about you and your soon to be husband. If you are that bothered about irrelevant unimportant things , I don't think you should get married, call it off tons will talk about that and you will then be centre of attention again. Good luck
Me and my best friend got engaged on the same weekend and it was so exciting. I married last year her this year does she care I got married first even though we got engaged 24 hours apart no! Everyone compares weddings of course they do. Personally my wedding will be the best ever as it was my day and it was everything we wanted, been to a wedding on a budget and had an amazing time. Weddings are weddings are you should be happy for that couple!
I would say that people will talk about what they will and you will make yourself ill if you worry about it. Accept that you have no control over what people say/do. Instead, I would focus on your day and how you and your partner want it to go. Of course, giving special consideration to your parents/ significant relatives/friends that you absolutely have to have there. But once you strip it all back to what the whole day is actually about and what that means to you: a celebration of your love for each other and a public declaration of your commitment to each other (and to God, if you’re religious) then it really doesn’t matter what anyone else is planning/doing. Most of all, enjoy the day. Soak every aspect of it up. Cherish it. Revel in it, even. That way, it will always be special for you both. Enjoy your other family weddings for what they are- their way of celebrating. Every wedding I’ve ever been to has been entirely different- a reflection of the couples themselves. Good luck and enjoy your special day. It will be wonderful. X
Your getting married to the man of your dreams, all that should matter is you too.... not who’s getting married next. Block everything out and enjoy YOUR day weddings are not a competition.
So what if they talk about the other wedding, thats what family do. They will still be there on the day for you. To be honest, if i was spoken to about this issue as you clearly have done to the rest of your family, i would tell you that you sound like a spoiled madam and that their weddings take priority.
Is this a page about brides supporting each other or brides to slate each other? I definitely joined this page for support and I don't think I this lady has asked anything that should have offended anyone... not once has she said it's her day year or month... simply asked how she could enjoy her day without everyone comparing weddings... when you're on a budget of course you worry about what other people might think we're only human!
I don't agree with most of these comments, yeah she should be supportive of her cousins getting married but why has everyone got to put this lady down so much!
My advice to this lady would be to remind everyone who attends how special this day is for the bride and groom and to thank them all for being a part of your special day.
If their a guest at your wedding then I'm sure they will appreciate every last detail about your wedding, also remind yourself that planning a wedding is special and exciting for every bride so your cousins are only acting how any other women would planning a wedding xx
The fact that you’ve been engaged longer than them is no one else’s problem but your own
It sounds like those people talking about the next wedding etc. aren't people you should bother inviting! don't worry about anyone else, you do you
It's your and your loves day. Not competition ! Who cares as long as you two are happy!
Don't stress remember it's yours and your partners day. Don't think about your cousins or peoples views as all that matters is you have the best day ever with you husband to be.
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