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UKbride Member Request 14 Mar 2019

Signing the Register

Need a bit of advice on the ceremony - my H2B and I decided to ask our sisters and their husbands to sign our register - my mum is now saying that it should be the best man but we have already asked! Will the best man be offended and does it look odd not to have him sign the register?

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had my aunty and my husbands nan sign our register, we wanted them both to have a small part of our wedding. So in my opinion you don’t have to stick with the traditional. I’m sure the best man won’t be offend he has a mega role in your wedding day as it is :)

Abigail Hankins
Abigail Hankins 14 Mar 2019

My husband had his brother who wasn't the best man, and I had my mum

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

You can get who you want to sign the register. Doubt the best man will be offended ... He's the best man

Kirsty Gelder
Kirsty Gelder 14 Mar 2019

Me and my h2b are having our mum's sign the register.

Nicole Gomer
Nicole Gomer 14 Mar 2019

Our mums signed ours

Lucy Glew
Lucy Glew 14 Mar 2019

It doesn’t need to be anyone specific. There’s no law on it- it can be who ever you want. We have asked our mums 🙂 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I’m having my best friend and my partner asked his brothers wife.

My sister and I signed our dads when he married my step mum.

It doesn’t matter who signs it, just as long as both are over 18 yrs old

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Your day do as you please not what others want or what others say should be done, times change and never feel bad for what others think you should do x

Laura Simmons
Laura Simmons 14 Mar 2019

I'd say have who you want. It's your wedding. Not your mum's

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

You can ask anyone to be your witness. In general, people do use their MOH and best man but it's not an assumption or a legal requirement that they are. If I remember correctly, my sister had our mum sign as her witness. I'm sure neither of these people will be bothered that you're using family members to sign

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We asked my husband's brother and my brother to sign as we wanted to include them as they were not part of the wedding party

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Doesn’t have to be your best man at all. I had my mum and mother in law sign ours as witnesses as we wanted to involve them in some way. It can be whoever you like. Don’t worry no one will be offended x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

There no rule to say who it should be, it's up to you, our minister said to choose two competent people who can sign to say they witnessed the marriage

Tracey Jeffries
Tracey Jeffries 14 Mar 2019

No - our best man was just that - the best man. I asked my brother in law as he has been a huge part of my life for ever and I wanted him to have a role to play as my sister gave me away. My husband had his brother as his witness. No rules to say who you have - other than an adult! Have who you’re happy with

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I had my grandma and my mother in law sign the register x

Catherine Wright
Catherine Wright 14 Mar 2019

You can have whoever you want to sign the register. We’re having my fiancé’s Aunty and my friend x

Clare Jane
Clare Jane 14 Mar 2019

It's completely up to you. I'm pretty sure you can only have 2 witnesses though. I had my appointment with the registrar and they said 6 people max around for the signing which is you 2, the 2 registrars and 2 witnesses. Maybe yours is different though x

Amee Goulding
Amee Goulding 14 Mar 2019

Ive got my brother and my partners brother to sign it. Its up to you x

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 14 Mar 2019

You have who you want to sign the register. There is no law stating it has to be the best man x

Katie Mallinson
Katie Mallinson 14 Mar 2019

I had my sister and mum, husband had his two brothers
Best man didn’t sign, he stood up the front with husband and did the speech that’s all

Katie Mallinson
Katie Mallinson 14 Mar 2019

I had my sister and mum, husband had his two brothers
Best man didn’t sign, he stood up the front with husband and did the speech that’s all

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

You can ask whoever you want, we had all four parents to sign ours, when my husband was best man, he didn't sign as a witness, it's your choice and no one should be offended by that

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had my sister and his brother to make sure we gave everyone a part in the wedding. You can pick who you like.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Our siblings signed ours, best man was fine with it!

Sarah Rees
Sarah Rees 14 Mar 2019

Its up to you who you have there is no real protocol. Don't listen to anyone its what you want x

Rebecca Bradley
Rebecca Bradley 14 Mar 2019

nope doesn’t have to be best man in my eyes they already have a job so we or having my oldest male friend to sign ours and sis in law to be as she isn’t a bridesmaid

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had our Mum’s sign the register but when I was MOH for my best friend, I signed the register for her.
Do what you want to do.
It’s only two signatures though, not four.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had my mum and husband's aunt sign the register. I think it's a nice way to get more people involved in the ceremony - it absolutely does not HAVE to be best man/ moh.
From our point of view, especially as my husband's mum died the year before the wedding, it's a nice thing to have some of the older family members on the paperwork, so that when they're gone we have an extra wee memory of them on the marriage certificate :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Sounds like you asked 4 people there with sisters and husbands. Only two are to sign. Its completely down to you who signs it. We had one of the ushers due to best man being under 18. and my sister did it but she was my chief bridesmaid to.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Not at all odd, none of our wedding party are our witnesses, we have a best friend and the groom's brother going to be signing ours.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I had 2 best friends as MoH and my hubbys bro was his best man but signing the register we had the best man (but because he was his brother not because he was best man) and my sister. She didn't want to be bridesmaid as she's not keen in attention but I knew I wanted her to have an important role and she was thrilled to be asked. It used to be customary for the MoH and best man to sign years ago but now a days as long as they're over 18 it doesn't matter good luck xx

Hazel Chapman
Hazel Chapman 14 Mar 2019

We are having my dad & brother and his sister & 1 of the groomsman xx

Clare Bourne
Clare Bourne 14 Mar 2019

We had my husbands brother and our friend to sign it as we wanted them involved as well xx

Jay Semmler
Jay Semmler 14 Mar 2019

My husbands best friend was his best man, his sister was a bridesmaid, his youngest brother had the rings and his other brother was our witness so everyone had a part

Sarah Lockey
Sarah Lockey 14 Mar 2019

Have whoever you want. My oh isn’t having a best man so that’s not even an option for us. It’s your wedding. Xx

Michelle Wyatt
Michelle Wyatt 14 Mar 2019

Crickey I've not even thought about this lol.. why are weddings all about "Will people be offended" jeez it's hard work pleasing everyone .. shoot me now lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had different people, my 2 best friends one was bridesmaid and the other my witness then my husbands best friend was his best mad and his uncle was his witness, it worked really well for us x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Not at all, It can be anyone you want. It’s your day, congratulations
Enjoy every minute.

Heather Hawkins
Heather Hawkins 14 Mar 2019

Best man and maid of honour... I had best man and my mum x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We didn't have our bestman sign it, was my 2 bridesmaids (my cousins) that signed it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We asked people who were not in the wedding party to sign the register, bridesmaids and best man already had a job in the day so we chose other friends to sign the register, do readings etc so we could include more people

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Not at all! We asked our remaining grandparents (one on each side) to sign it, we didn’t even tell them untill the day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Have whoever you want to have. We had our Mums sign ours x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We've asked a close friend and my sisters husband to be. We thought it was a nice way to include others who meant a lot to us in the wedding x

Kirsty Wheeler
Kirsty Wheeler 14 Mar 2019

Our mums signed the register as they were the only close family that didn't already have an important role in the wedding.. it's everyone's own preference who they want to sign xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Michelle Chelsea Wyatt just remember one thing, it's your wedding you do it YOUR way xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had our mothers sign for us. It gave them a part of the day too. Dad walked me down the aisle, his dad did a reading & the two mums signed the register as witnesses.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Our best man wasn't a witness for our wedding. I'm sure he'll be chuffed enough to be the best man!

Megan-elizabeth Forrest
Megan-elizabeth Forrest 14 Mar 2019

I am having both out moms to sign and be our witness so they have something to do x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I had my sister who was my bridesmaid and our best man, was just easier as they were both close by to save messing about. I signed my sister's as I was her bridesmaid and I also signed my brothers. My sister and I were his "bestman" after his original choice pulled out 2 weeks before the wedding! So I got signing register and standing at the alter with him and my sister got the speech.

Shakira Badwal
Shakira Badwal 14 Mar 2019

I'm pretty sure you can have who you want. We had our nan's sign it l x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Have whoever you want, we had our 2 best friends. We wanted them to have a special role too xx

Melissa Foster
Melissa Foster 14 Mar 2019

We got our mums to do ours

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We've asked maid of honour and best man, but that is my sister and h2b brother, it's your choice can have anyone

Justine Dear
Justine Dear 14 Mar 2019

Me and my husband chose our dads to co-sign our register.
It’s who you feel should is honoured to do it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

You have you want. I’ve signed my brothers and will also be signing my sisters. On neither occasion will I have a been a bridesmaid.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had our mums sign them as thought it would be a nice way to incorporate them. Wedding party weren’t bothered at not been asked. It’s typically tradition for it to be the best man and maid of honour but it doesn’t really matter xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

You can have who you like. We had my husband's aunt and uncle not the best man and my parents and not my maid of honour. Your day....do it how you like. Everybody has a blooming opinion don't they? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

No idea it was nearly 20 years ago. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

If he’s an adult he shouldn’t be offended....

Janine Graham
Janine Graham 14 Mar 2019

I have my aunt and my H2B mum x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We did mums of bride and groom to give them an important job on the day so definitely no rules on it!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Any witness can sign the register

Hayley Hockley
Hayley Hockley 14 Mar 2019

No, we will not necessarily be asking best men/bridesmaids/man of honour as we want as many loved ones to feel part of the special day so may ask others who are close to us 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I was MOH and it really didn't bother me either way! I'm sure they won't mind, especially if you tell them in advance!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We have both our dads

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I'm getting married tomorrow Its both of ours 2nd wedding..We have asked my eldest and his youngest to sign as witnesses...it has not pleased everyone but as it is our day then its nobody elses business..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

My brother in law and my H2B's aunt are signing the register, choose who you want as it's your day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

My best friend and her groom had there mothers as their witnesses. Xxx

Zoë Cansdale
Zoë Cansdale 14 Mar 2019

We have asked my sister and by h2b nephew to sign as we wanted them to be part of the day and we already have bridesmaids and a best man.

Natalie Bull
Natalie Bull 14 Mar 2019

No we had our dad's do it as we wanted them to be included in the day somewhere x

Rachael Morris
Rachael Morris 14 Mar 2019

Your wedding your rules. Don't sweat it xxx

Charlotte Stück
Charlotte Stück 14 Mar 2019

We had our two mothers sign the register.. xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

My husband and I had our moms, both our dad's weren't around so they were the people that raised us and made us who we are so it seemed fitting to us xxx

Rachel Nokes
Rachel Nokes 14 Mar 2019

We are having my sister and my sister-in-law being our witnesses

Kim Domican
Kim Domican 14 Mar 2019

As a Registrar I can tell you there are no rights and wrongs other than being able to hear the contracting words and see that it is you and H2B saying them. You only need two as there is little space to write in the register and up to the officiant to decide if it's feasible to have any more. Most frequent option in my experience is both mum's but I've seen friends, relatives and strangers pulled off the street ! Your wedding your choice.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

No!! We are having different witnesses to best man and maid of honour to involve more people we want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We had my brother and my husbands sister sign the register, thought it was a nice way to involve other people into the wedding

Dani Smith
Dani Smith 14 Mar 2019

You have whoever you want! It's not seen as a best man's Role, at least not to me!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Can be anyone you want so long as they are competent adults. Your wedding - your rules! BUT sounds like you have asked 4 people? You can only have 2

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

It's your wedding. Do what you like. You make the rules.

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 14 Mar 2019

One of my best friends is signing the register on my behalf. H2B isn't having a "best man" (he's asking my daughters to be his groomswomen) and neither of them will be old enough to sign register (they'll be 10 & 12 when we get married) so I think he's asking his mum.... Ask who ever you want - it's your wedding and if people are offended, oh well....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

We made a point of not making any family, friends or people with parts in the wedding .... we picked 2independent people from all of them....that we had got to know as personal friends.... that had nothing to do with any of them and they also took the top table with us and hey presto no arguments between " the beloved masses" xxx Good luck Hun it's your day do what you guys want to do xxx

Jordan Alexandra
Jordan Alexandra 14 Mar 2019

We are not having best man or maid of honour. But we have chosen 1 female and 1 Male from our wedding party to sign

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

All the best andrea Andrea x

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 14 Mar 2019

You can have whoever you want, we had our mums

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Most of the time people either have the best man and maid of honour sign (that’s what we did and it was my brother and my sister in law anyways) or they choose 2 other people to sign so they have a special role. You can do whatever you like. A Best-man has a lot of duties anyway, I’m sure he won’t mind at all! Xxx

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 15 Mar 2019

Your wedding , your choice .... We had my husband's brother & my witness .... Love sarah xxxx

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 15 Mar 2019

Your wedding , your choice .... We had my husband's brother & my witness .... Love sarah xxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

At our wedding we had my husbands brother and my best friend to sign the register. The best man wasn’t offended in the slightest.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

We had our two mothers sign the register x

sieanne pilling
sieanne pilling 15 Mar 2019

Have whoever you want. He has a role in the wedding already so why not give someone else a role.

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 15 Mar 2019

Your wedding , your choice .... We had my husband's brother & my witness .... Love sarah xxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

Michelle, your mum's spot on. It doesn't matter how hard you try or what you do, you'll never never please everyone. I said to my son and his fiancee " it's your day, never mind trying to please everybody else, please yourselves, you're the two who it's all about"

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 16 Mar 2019

You can have whoever you want sign the register. It doesn't have to be the best man, he already has a role.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Mar 2019

I had my stepdad and stepmum as they have both played a big part in my life and therefore wanted them to play a part

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2019

Tradition is that the best man and chief bridesmaid sign the register, as far as I know. So it is perhaps untraditional. I’ve never heard of 4 witnesses being needed, only 2. So perhaps, if you want to change to have the best man sign, you could explain you weren’t aware of the tradition and select your sister who I assume will be your chief bridesmaid (usually the oldest one of one you’re closest to emotionally) and the best man instead. I doubt the husbands would care as they’ll usually be happy so long as their wives are!

Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 19 Mar 2019

It does not matter it's up to you I am having my dad and my partners mum.

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