UKbride Member Request 13 Mar 2019

Hello there! Ok so I'm struggling a bit with my bridal party. I have chosen...

Hello there! Ok so I'm struggling a bit with my bridal party. I have chosen to have my two sisters, my daughter and my sister in law and i feel like I need a maid of honor, however I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by asking one not the other (sister). Has anyone else been in this situation or similar? Any advice welcome lol thank you in advance xx

Tina Davidson
Tina Davidson 13 Mar 2019

Are both sisters older than you or both younger, as if it was me and one was older I’d ask that sister tonbe maids of honor. You could ask one to be maid of honor and one to be chief bridesmaid or put one in charge of the Hen night if your having one or to save any hurt ask your daughter maybe?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I’m having three bridesmaid plus my two daughters as flower girls. My bridesmaids asked me who was maid of honour and I said no one, I’m not choosing a ‘favourite’ friend. They’re all happy with that. It’s your wedding, do what makes you happy x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

It's a big honour to be a bridesmaid so anyone who gets offended and needs an extra elevated status as maid of honour needs to re-examine their priorities. Personally I don't think maid of honour is a must for a wedding so I wouldn't pick one

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 14 Mar 2019

You don’t have to have a maid of honour, you can keep them all as bridesmaids and just assign them different jobs

I only had one bridesmaid, glad I had her on the day, turned out my veil was so long, I couldn’t walk with it down on carpet as it pulled my backwards, she was there to carry it for me

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

I had 4 bridesmaids, and didn't have a maid of honour. Traditionally, it would be the maid of honour to sign the wedding register, but we had had our mum's do that....

Ami Dixon-Smith
Ami Dixon-Smith 15 Mar 2019

I was completly extra and had a maid of honour and a man of honour. They’re sharing the role with planning stuff and helping out on the day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

I had my bestie sign the register with me. My sister did a reading. We didn't fix labels as such. It worked for a very small wedding (50 guests)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Mar 2019

In the last few weddings I've been to which had multiple bridesmaids, I wasn't aware who was MOH, or even if there was one. It's honestly not important to anyone else, so perhaps don't name one at all and avoid any awkwardness.

Rebecca Hartley
Rebecca Hartley 16 Mar 2019

I have 5 bridesmaids and I’ve decided not to have a maid of honour just assign them different jobs xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2019

Why label people? They’re just all bridesmaids. If you want one of them to sign the register then that’s fine, give the other a different job.

Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 19 Mar 2019

I'm not having a maid of honour only 3 bridesmaids they are all equal in my eyes and don't like th idea of labelling one more important.


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