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UKbride Member Request 12 Mar 2019

First dance

My other half is nervous about the first dance as he's not comfortable with dancing at all! He's even considering scrapping it all together any advice? Thank you!

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

My other half doesn't dance either, so we are smooching to Louis Armstrong it's a wonderful world

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

Do something crazy! We made it fun by a 30 second slow dance and then the music changed to Katy Perry Swish swish song so we done popular floss dance, within a minute all the adults and the kids joined in! Was Fab!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

My husband didnt like it either so we asked all to come to the floor and dance. Not just us on our own.

Louise Jackson
Louise Jackson 13 Mar 2019

We have scrapped it too xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

lol well you could just have everyone dancing around you? The wedding party

Senga Milroy
Senga Milroy 13 Mar 2019

Why don't you just ask everyone onto the dance floor at the same time so that he feels less self conscious and have very slow music that he doesn't have to move to much to . We're having Roulle ... I get to love you . Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

We were like this so we had our parents join us almost straight away, then grndparents and everyone else. Tbh you dont notice that everyone is around you xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

We've scrapped it, we don't feel we have to do it. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

We were like this! Both of us were soooo nervous but i can honestly say that there could have been thousands there or no one at all and i wouldn't have noticed, in that moment it was just me and my new husband...enjoy it! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

Get everyone to dance with you.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

My husband is not a dancer, so our 'first dance' was in the bouncy castle to House of Pain 'Jump Around'! Not for everyone, I know, but we had a blast!

Hazel Chapman
Hazel Chapman 13 Mar 2019

We have decided to skip it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

We didn't have a first dance, because my husband is not happy with being on display. He had a good old boogie later on in the evening though.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I teach first dance some get family or best man bridesmaid. Children to join them . And on some occasions I have been thete and taught everyone a simple dance and one where you change partners so every one gets to dance with bride and groom and it's a great icebreaker.

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 13 Mar 2019

I felt exactly the same about the first dance as the thought of everyone watching me was terrifying! However, it turned out to be one of my favourite moments of the day - a chance for the two of us to just be with each and get lost in romance of the day.

If he really is struggling you could dance for 30 seconds alone and then ask the DJ to invite everyone else onto the dancefloor with you but I would personally try and keep it just the two of you as it will be one of the only moments you have alone during the day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

We've decided to play Mario Kart instead as we both don't dance and we enjoy playing games and this way we can have tournaments after

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

Have some people already clued in to join you after a short time so he feels confident he’s not on display for the whole 4 mins

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

Have some people already clued in to join you after a short time so he feels confident he’s not on display for the whole 4 mins

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

We are planning on about 30seconds as just us and then already told bridesmaids to drag their other half to start dancing. He's got two left feet and I value my toes. Lol. You don't have to have a dance, maybe play a game instead - 'who is...?' etc

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

If you don’t want to do it, don’t. We’ve shot plenty of weddings where there’s not been one. Just make sure you tell your DJ or band to get everyone on the dance floor as it does kick start the dancing.

Kerry Bowers
Kerry Bowers 13 Mar 2019

Bin it off just be happy and comfortable on your day x

Catherine Wright
Catherine Wright 13 Mar 2019

My h2b doesn’t want a first dance as claims he can’t dance lol. I’m not bothered to be honest. Ours won’t totally be a traditional wedding reception anyway x

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 13 Mar 2019

We literally danced for 30 seconds if that and then we popped a balloon which was full of balloons then everyone joined in! Get something to distract him x

Charlotte Brown
Charlotte Brown 13 Mar 2019

Not in a million years. I’ve told mine if he is nervous go take a class to get a little
Confidence. It’s a once in a life time experience for both of you in my eyes

Vikki Howe
Vikki Howe 13 Mar 2019

We weren't going to bother but the string quartet we pulled in off the street to play for us started playing the Game of Thrones theme and dancing occurred. It was fun!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I've been to a few weddings where they only did about 30 seconds - 1 minute on their own before inviting others to join them on the dance floor. Less time for embarrassment of being stared at x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

Neither of us are dancers and I was ill up untill the wedding day so didn't have time to practice we were going to scrap it but in the end the band asked everyone else to join in after less than a minute as we wernt comfortable dancing alone

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

Unless you have your heart set on it, is there really an issue scrapping it? I don't plan to do one

Becca Simpson
Becca Simpson 13 Mar 2019

I’d go for the 30 seconds on your own then get everyone up. Weddings I’ve been to with no first dance struggled to get the party going

Louise Newson
Louise Newson 13 Mar 2019

Unless you desperatly want to do it i would scrap it, if he is uncomfortable with it why have the stress.x

Kayleigh Hulse
Kayleigh Hulse 13 Mar 2019

My hubby was exactly the same, didn't want one, said he couldn't dance. We did the first verse then invited everyone up to join us. He loved it and now whatever party we go to I can't stop him dancing 😂

Kimberley Joyce
Kimberley Joyce 13 Mar 2019

We're thinking of getting all of our wedding party up including parents to that the attention isn't all on us lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Mar 2019

Ypu just need to enjoy your beautiful day, you can have a smoochy on when he has had a few, no stress, be happy cxx

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