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UKbride Member Request 12 Mar 2019

Bridesmaid hair and make up!

How do you put forward the idea of your bridesmaids paying for their own hair and make up? Is that’s standard procedure? I will happily pay for their dresses but I really begrudge paying for hair and make up too when some of them are more than capable to do it themselves because they’re so good at it. I would be having my hair and make up done, so I just tell them I’m having mine done and I can get an idea of prices for them if needs be? Help!!

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I will be paying for my bridesmaids as I asked them to be my bridesmaid. So In my mind that includes hairs, makeup, dress shoes etc

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for my bridesmaids hair because I wanted them all the same, but I told them I'd be getting my make up done and if they wanted it done too then I'd let her know & how much she charges etc. Was never an issue.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I just told my bridesmaids straight. I paid for my bridesmaids hair. But it was up to them whether they wanted their make up done and if so they paid and they bought their own dresses because they were all different to their own style. They were all happy about it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for mine. It meant we knew their make up would last and they wouldn't have to touch it up. They also felt confident and happy and stunning, which shows in my photos and videos. I got lucky, the amazing lady that did our make up (and our hair and my mum's make-up) was reasonably priced xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I asked mine to do their own makeup as everyone has their own specific style and none of us would have been comfortable with someone doing it, I paid for hair though

Devan Cresswell
Devan Cresswell 12 Mar 2019

I’m paying for their dress but will ask them to pay shoes, hair and make up (the older ones anyway)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for my bridesmaids to have their hair done as I don't think it's fair if they can't afford it or aren't as good at it , but they did their own make up (I did my own). I'd give them the option to pay for their own make up or do their own maybe

Kayleigh Hulse
Kayleigh Hulse 12 Mar 2019

I paid for my bridesmaid too. The day should be relaxing and enjoyable for them too not them worrying about not looking right for you on your big day. My sister was my bridesmaid and it was so special having her share that with me xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for their dresses and said if they want hair and make up they would need to cover it. They expected it actually which was a relief but I’m sure they would understand I certainly didn’t expect the bride to cover hair and make up when I was a bridesmaid. Buying my dress was enough so I covered anything else I wanted doing x

Olivia Skiplorne
Olivia Skiplorne 12 Mar 2019

I gave them the option to have hair and makeup (paid by them) or to do their own. No way am I paying for it, we’ve paid for everything else.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for everything for my bridesmaids as it was my wedding and I asked them to be a part of my day.
From dress, shoes, hair & make up the lot

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

If you ask them to pay for their dresses then I don't think you can specify a particular dress, you should only give guidance, such as colour and length. Remember, it's not your money to spend if you ask them to do this. Wed2B have dresses from £69.99. As for hair and make up, if professional isn't a requirement (again, not your money to spend) then it's probably fine to ask them to pay if they want a particular service. However, you do need to sit down with your maids and discuss it all, and be prepared for some fallout or to help if someone isn't in such a good financial position. I also feel that it's an either/or situation - so, if you don't want to pay for the dresses, perhaps pay for the make up or vice versa. Also, make sure you buy kick ass presents for your girls, and *not* jewellery to wear in your wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for my bridesmaids hair and make up, shoes and dresses. It was my choice to ask them, Therefore I wanted to pay. This is purely each individual persons choice x

Alice Langford
Alice Langford 12 Mar 2019

I was a bridesmaid and we were told by the bride “I’m having mine done. She costs this much if you guys are interested or you can do it yourselves”
Tbh we didn’t even expect the make up to be done anyways so that was fine 🙂 x

Natalie Lloyd
Natalie Lloyd 12 Mar 2019

Im paying for their hair and make up but they have offered to pay to have trials done, luckily its included in the price with who im having. However, id maybe say to them depending on how many you have etc, say you will pay for either make up or hair not both, that way then, if they feel more confident about doin their own make up or hair they can and then you pay for the other. Depends on what makeup style you/they are wanting or hair styles etc it may be easier that way.
I know its all about you as you are the bride but all your girls will wanna be able to relax with you. ☺ im sure your girls will understand xx

Jessica Hay
Jessica Hay 12 Mar 2019

I’m paying for everything for my bridesmaids because I asked them to be part of the bridal party.
It means all our hair and make up will be perfect on the day and I want them to be pampered on the morning of the wedding too 🙂 xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for their dresses and makeup but I did their hair (I'm a trained hair stylist). I don't think any of my bridesmaids would have minded doing their own makeup or hair, but I wanted them to feel special and have a lovely morning us all getting ready together so it was more my choice to have it done. Plus I had asked them to be bridesmaids and I didn't want them paying anything. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

At the end of the day it’s YOUR big day. If they are special enough to be your bridesmaids I’m sure they’d understand. Weddings are far from cheap, and there’s only so much you can do. We’ve had to postpone ours due to my partner not being well enough to work so finances are tight. But we will pay necessities, any extras will be their choice

Katy Brown
Katy Brown 12 Mar 2019

I paid for the dresses, hair and makeup and they bought their shoes

Paige Warwick
Paige Warwick 12 Mar 2019

i have offered my bridesmaid to pay for their own hair and make up and i’m happy for them to have whatever they want done to their hair and their make up. they are happy to pay for themselves. i’m paying for their dresses but i’m also going to tell them to go out and buy themselves a pair of shoes that they’ll be comfy in xxx

Megan Tamplin
Megan Tamplin 12 Mar 2019

I just asked them to. Also they are buying their own shoes. I'm buying their dress jewellery etc. Mine were fine with it x

Hannah McKay
Hannah McKay 12 Mar 2019

I think the way you have worded your post is a bit odd... begrudging to pay for something for your best friends/relatives who you have asked to be bridesmaids?
I get everyone is on a budget for the wedding, but there are definitely ways of putting things. I would personally be asking the salon/makeup artist for any deals they can do for all of you. And then if it’s completely out of budget for you to cover it all, I would be offering to pay half? Or pay for the hair and they pay for their makeup? Bridesmaids usually put a lot of money, time and effort into your hen party too remember x

Tasha Hodgson
Tasha Hodgson 12 Mar 2019

I had paid for dresses hair make up and naild and asked them.to pay for a bag and shoes. I picked to ask them

Cinzia Pilbeam
Cinzia Pilbeam 12 Mar 2019

Would you pay your boss to go to work? No. So why would your bridesmaids pay for their own hair and makeup.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Kelly Bramley do you follow these? There's some right questions on here!

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 12 Mar 2019

We said from the start that we're not paying for shoes and make up. However if we can get a deal on a mua to involve bridesmaids that isnt to much then we may change and do that lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I just told them they could do their hair and make up however they wanted. We had paid for their dresses and shoes and no one seemed to begrudge doing their own hair and make up. I do think that has to be the compromise though, if you don't want to pay, you can't then be 'bossy' about how they have their hair and make up done.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I'll be paying for my bridesmaids hair and makeup. I want to make sure everyone feels pampered, beautiful and also have matching hairstyles. I'll consult with them about styles etc but at the end of the day you asked them to be your bridesmaids. This is one reason why people need to consider how many bridesmaids they're going to have, if you haven't spoken to them in the last month then are they close enough to you to be your bridesmaids??

Eilidh Grant
Eilidh Grant 12 Mar 2019

I’m having a friend do the make up for us all, to keep cost down. And I’ll get a couple hair dressers for the hair. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

My best friend asked if we wanted ours done & how much it would cost, 3 of us & motb took her up on it & 1 didn’t. I was so pleased I did, there was no problem whatsoever about paying x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

My best friend had us all go to the local boots (5 mins from her venue) where we all got make up done at whichever counter we wanted and it was free

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 12 Mar 2019

I just said to my bridemaids that they could do their hair and make up however. But I was getting a hair dresser and make up artist and that they could use them but would have to pay for them selves. They were all happy with that and went ahead x

Debbie Watt
Debbie Watt 12 Mar 2019

My bridesmaids bought their dresses and shoes but I paid for their hair..and got one of the bridesmaids who was really good at makeup to do makeup x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

As a bridesmaid, I've never assumed that the bride would pay for my hair or makeup. I'm not paying for it for my own bridesmaids either, because I'm doing my own, and I've told them they can have their hair and makeup however they feel comfortable, and tbh we'll all probably just help each other out on the morning of the wedding if need be. I would pay for them if I wanted them all to match and it would require professional input, though.

Janine Graham
Janine Graham 12 Mar 2019

Mine have all offered to pay for their own although im very lucky as 2 of my daughters are hairdressers x

Leonie Rabey
Leonie Rabey 12 Mar 2019

I think as long as your open and honest from the start there's no harm in asking them, if they don't have the money they can always ask to do their own, I will be paying for my bridesmaids as I don't want it to be an expense for them but I also would not expect it from anyone if they asked me to be bridesmaid.

Clare Jane
Clare Jane 12 Mar 2019

If you're asking them to be bridesmaid then why expect them to pay for it? They didn't ask to be part of your day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

My friend just said her budget didn’t stretch and that was more than okay xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Tell them when you ask them.

If you've already asked them then ask them what they plan on doing for hair/makeup. Just say you need to let your mua know numbers but make sure they're aware they're paying

Sinead Jenkins
Sinead Jenkins 12 Mar 2019

I paid for dresses, bags,hair, make up they bought their shoes and trials xx

Adele Peebles
Adele Peebles 12 Mar 2019

I sat with my bridesmaid explained i am paying a fortune already for the wedding could we compromise on things I only have one bridesmaid and she is so hard to style so I asked if she could pay for her dress and because she is doing that I am paying for hair to be done as a treat but we both said we didn’t want a make up artist as she knows her own makeup style and me too but if I bought the dress she would have had to pay for her hair and make up instead xx

Kayleigh Moulding
Kayleigh Moulding 12 Mar 2019

I told mine that if they wanted to do their own make up they could otherwise they’d have to pay and I’ve booked them in at the hairdressers but their paying for that too.its costing me enough for dresses,shoes,gifts for the morning(gowns slippers etc) and their main gifts so they totally understand but my parents will probably pay for them anyway(my twin and cousin)

Tegan Richards
Tegan Richards 12 Mar 2019

I offered to pay for hair but my budget wouldn’t stretch to make up but they both said it was fine as they would rather do their make up themselves anyway xx

Karolina Kozak
Karolina Kozak 12 Mar 2019

I will be paying for mine.

Hayley Parsons
Hayley Parsons 12 Mar 2019

Some people have to work to a budget, friends should understand that. I wasnt even going to get my own hair and make up done because we are so tight for money..but decided I had to. I explained to my maids i really cudnt afford theirs too and i was happy to arrange and get prices etc. They were more than understanding and happy to pay for themselves. X

Tracey Beet
Tracey Beet 12 Mar 2019

I'm paying for my junior bridesmaids dresses,ect..but just said I wouldn't be paying for their hair because we are on a budget & it would just cost so much.Not only that but I'm not to fussed on how they have their hair as I want them to feel comfortable for the day so luckily my maid of honour is good with hair so she is doing my bridesmaids.My mom is paying for her own hair,& I will be doing her makeup.I've bought my maid of honours dress but same again I'm not paying for hair or makeup because it's money we don't have

Abbie Hunter
Abbie Hunter 12 Mar 2019

I said that I couldn't afford it for everyone, we've agreed that we will do our make up together and if they want their hair done they can pay because I'm not really fussy and they need to be comfortable with how they look on the day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for everything but make up, said they were welcome to book in with the make up artist if they wanted but all were fine with that and did their own...tbh they were all more concerned with making sure i was happy, calm and relaxed on the morning of the wedding than anything else and im sure bridesmaid will be the same xx

Alex Kynaston
Alex Kynaston 12 Mar 2019

I would just send a generic message to everyone saying: I’m getting my hair and makeup done before the wedding by (whoever), if anyone wants to book on it’s £_ for hair and £_ for makeup xx

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 12 Mar 2019

I have bought the dresses but they are paying for their own hair/makeup as if they were guests rather than bridesmaids they would still be having their hair/makeup done

Joanne Hayward
Joanne Hayward 12 Mar 2019

For my friends wedding we did ourselves, have fun and do some trial evenings before hand :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

No bridesmaids here. So nope. I think everyone should come to the wedding wearing whatever clothes they want. Same for hair and make up. I'm not going to make my friends wears dresses and colours they don't like because it may look nice on a posed pretend picture. Not me sorry. The key is for everyone to feel pretty and comfortable in their own right.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

When I asked my friends to be my bridesmaids I was completely honest and told them I would love them to be a part of the day but my budget was tight and I would obviously pay for flowers but they would have to pay for their own dresses (at a maximum budget agreed by all) and their hair/make up or do it themselves. They were all absolutely fine about it and didn’t really expect anything else xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I'd just chat with your bridesmaids - I was maid of honour at my best friends wedding and she paid for the hair and make up and the dresses. However we paid for the shoes, bags and nails and she paid to attend her own hen party. I'm getting married next and I'm going to do the same. If your a bunch of close friends agree how you spread the costs and when they get married accept you'll pay for your own hair and make up. Alternatively let them choose if they do or do not want professional hair make up and nails. If your happy for them to do there own let them know that so it's completely there choice if they choose to pay professionals or not xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Just ask them. I had a very tight budget so paid towards the dresses and my girls were absolutely fine with sorting Their hair and make up out however they liked.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Just tell them you can’t afford it. I did!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

If you're expecting them to have it done I'd say you should pay, but it doesn't sound like that is the case, in which case surely they can pay!?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I would say just speak to them about it I’m sure they will understand but don’t be bossy about how you want their hair and makeup. Xxx

Amanda Jenkins
Amanda Jenkins 12 Mar 2019

After being pestered for years to get married so they could be a bridesmaid lol, I agreed to pay for dresses (8 bridesmaids) as I knew what colour we wanted and I've been flexible on style as they all have different body shapes/sizes and styles, however we've compromised on the older ones being experienced enough to sort out their own hair and make up, I cant justify paying for dress/shoes/hair/makeup/pampering and gifts, and that's without the cost of the actual wedding, it can get ridiculously out of hand and I dont think anybody should expect anything, we all work hard for a living

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

You quite simply don’t ask them. Don’t understand brides that can’t afford/ don’t want to pay for the essentials. Surely you want them to feel good about themselves on the day. I only had 2 bridesmaids as I wanted to ensure I could afford to pay for everything they needed. My opinion anyway...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I had my hair done but did my own make up and my bridesmaid was happy to do her own make up and hair x

Jade Danielle
Jade Danielle 12 Mar 2019

All of the comments saying "I paid for everything, why should they have to pay, etc" Well hey, how lucky for you that you have money for that! Not everyone can afford stuff like that! Some brides can barely afford to get their own hair or makeup done let alone cover the cost of everything for bridesmaids as well. So what then? Anyone who isn't fortune enough to be rolling in cash to splurge isn't allowed to get married and have bridesmaids?!? If your friends are genuine and know your situation they should absolutely understand if you can't afford to pay for them. I would never assume or expect the bride to pay for everything just because she asked me to be a bridesmaid. The only thing I think is wrong is expecting them to have their hair and makeup professionally done if you want them to pay for it. If they're paying then it's their choice if they want to have it done or to do it themselves.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I'm doing my own make up, and I'm happy to do my bridesmaids if they want. If your local to aylesbury, Buckinghamshire I might be able to help xx

Elissa Solomon
Elissa Solomon 12 Mar 2019

Bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses (both are very capable of doing own makeup) and one has even offered to do mine! 👌🏽
I just told them the truth. Said i couldn't afford to pay for everything so they would need to get their own dresses. I asked them to look for things they like but im also looking and i will have the final say. Im keeping a very open dialogue with them about it and im not expecting them to pay 100s for a dress. Which they are cool with and it helps they're my sisters and my sister asked the same of us last year at her wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for everything if you ask them to be bridesmaid then you should already know that you pay for everything I paid for dress shoes jewellery hair makeup nails and tan

Hayley Wright-Mitchell
Hayley Wright-Mitchell 12 Mar 2019

I had 6 bridesmaids, I let them design their own dresses, and sort out their own hair and makeup, as I didn’t want the stress of some people disagreeing with what I wanted them to wear. I provided the fabric and we all agreed mermaid dresses, but they all designed their own neck lines. Same with hair and makeup: I gave them the style that I wanted and they made their own arrangements. I dunno if it’s culture (afro-caribbean) why it was natural for them to pay for their own stuff, but I think giving them to creative freedom helps it to be less of a financial burden. All of my girls had custom made dresses and were happy with what they got.

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Tor Allport
Tor Allport 12 Mar 2019

I had a hair stylist and make up artist to do me and said to my mum and sister (moh and only adult bridesmaid) I could give them the prices if they wanted theirs done. But we ended up paying as we had the finances after all. But they were more than happy to pay in fact they didnt expect me to pay. I got the bridesmaid dresses and their shoes (younger ones had foot jewellery instead of shoes)

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Paloma Kreischer

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I paid for dresses, hair , flowers, we didn't have make up done x

Joanne Evans
Joanne Evans 12 Mar 2019

I paid for all of it, as I'd asked them to be bridesmaids. Dress, shoes, hair , accessories. Everyone did their own make up. But I provided the eyeshadows etc to match the colours. But when I was a bridesmaid I had to pay for my own hair

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I clearly have amazing bridesmaids... they offered to pay for their own dresses but I said I would and they said they’d pay for their own hair and makeup too... your bridesmaids should be your closest friends or family so it shouldn’t be a difficult conversation to have. I haven’t ‘employed’ these people, they are not my slaves... these are my close friends who cried when I asked them and who love me and understand that I am limited as to how much I can afford... equally I love them and care more that they are by my side as supposed to looking and wearing exactly what I want, so I’m being very flexible, not demanding anything and we are having a blast picking dresses etc...

Ruth Heggie
Ruth Heggie 12 Mar 2019

I'm paying for dresses, shoes and jewellery... my bridesmaids offered to pay for their own hair and make-up but I will pay deposits ..c

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I'm doing dresses, hair and make up and any hair accessories but I've told them they need to get their own shoes so they're comfy as I would like them in flats x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Personally I paid for my maid of honours dress, shoes, hair and makeup and a room for 2 nights to stay at the hotel (we got married a couple hours away from home, and I had no bridesmaids) and I paid for my mother’s hair and makeup too. I feel if you’re wanting someone to be your bridesmaid you should pay for most of the expenses. But what I’d say is if you don’t want them to have professional hair and makeup done then you don’t need to pay for it if they want it. If they choose to have it done they can pay for it out of their own choice. Xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I asked mine and paid for everything. I’ve been asked and had to pay for the pleasure 250.00 dress, 60.00 for hair and make up. She also booked me a nail appointment which I refused to go to.

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Give them the option to do it themselves or they can pay to have it done, every time I've been a bridesmaid I've done my own and if doesn't bother me at all x

Rebecca Bailey
Rebecca Bailey 12 Mar 2019

I'm paying for their hair and make up, they are paying for their dresses :)

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I had 5 bridesmaids and whilst I wanted to pay for hair n make up on top of dresses, flowers and accessories in the end i couldn't afford the extra £1000 it was going to cost me, I explained this to them and said we could do make up n hair ourselves or they could pay the professionals if able to and wanting it done by them. My girls where amazing and understanding and agreed to try n do it themselves and on the day I had a few pay for their hair as it was easier. If you have a good bunch of friends who are understanding of the costs and your open and honest with them it should be fine x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Me and my bridesmaids agreed that I would buy dresses, alterations and pay for hair to be done but their shoes and make up were down to them as they all having it slightly different. I wanted to pay for all of it but they wouldn’t let me

Emily Mash
Emily Mash 12 Mar 2019

I’ll just be buying dresses and nothing else. If you want it a certain way then you’ll need it done for them though

Laura Furnival
Laura Furnival 12 Mar 2019

I asked my bridesmaids if they wanted theirs done or wanted to do it themselves as they are good at doing it too, and some actually wanted to do their own but I offered.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I didn't have bridesmaids but I did send my makeup artist to my in-laws after mum and I were done, I thought it was nice to include them in the "getting ready" process even though they were in a different house. I've never heard of anyone not paying for that but you do you! I'd just be concerned that their look ends up different to what you want. You can't make someone pay and then dictate how it's done so depends what you wanna sacrifice

Nichola Latham
Nichola Latham 12 Mar 2019

My bridesmaids earn more money than I do so I told them they will need to buy their own dresses etc as I can’t afford everything.

Shirl Hughes
Shirl Hughes 12 Mar 2019

You ask the. To be bridesmaids to be by your side on the biggest day of your life. It's an honour to be asked so yes you can ask them to buy their dresses and even specific requirements as I have as for hair and makeup if they can do a great job them why on earth pay for it to be done !! The day is about you and your groom nothing more xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I gave them the option and made it clear it was at their own cost and what the cost would be if they wanted it done. Nobody had an issue and everyone is having their make up done :)

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Tell them you’ve booked your hair and make up, and you can add them on for £xxx get them to let you know if they want booked in too... I haven’t paid for my bridesmaids and they fully understand xx

Katie Dury
Katie Dury 12 Mar 2019

My bridesmaid is my daughter, she is good at makeup so I asked her to do mine x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I have payed for my bridesmaid dresses, shoes and hair pieces as a thank you gift anything else I’ve asked to either arrange or pay for themselves.

They are very appreciative of what has already been given to them, if you mean that much to them it shouldn’t matter xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I just told mine i was getting mine done and if theyd like theirs done they can get it done while im having mine at xx price, or that if they would rather find someone else to do it theyre welcome too have them over too do it at mine :) xx

Tracy Bailey
Tracy Bailey 12 Mar 2019

I've paid for dresses and am paying for hair, but I can't afford make up aswell. I only have 2 bridesmaids and 1 said she's happy to do her own make up. I paid for my maid of honour's make up trial and she's paying for hers on the day. I did ask beforehand if a) they'd like it done and b) if they could pay for it. I've got enough to pay for or I would've happily covered it all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

The bridal party should be your closest friends or family so it shouldn’t be a difficult conversation to have. I’m going to be a bridesmaid for my best friend next month and we are buying our own shoes and paying for our make up. The bride has paid for the dresses and will also pay for our hair. She hasn’t got an endless supply of money (who has) and I’m honoured to have been asked so quite happy to pay it ️

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I never paid for my BM's hair or make up... they did there own at the house where we were getting ready... we didn't wear much make up so didn't want to look like drag queens...

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

My bridesmaids are paying a bit toward their dresses. I then simply said I can't afford everyone's hair and make up. I'm paying for their hair, but said to them if they wanted their make up done, they would need to pay for it. My bridesmaids are very close friends of mine and understood - they've decided to do each others!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

Do what you can afford! It's your day so do what's best for you. If they don't understand then they can't be very good friends

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UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I gave them the choice of either getting their hair done and paying for it themselves or do their own hair. I don’t believe in expecting your bridesmaids to have their hair done professionally if they have to fork out for it.
We had a budget wedding so money was tight for us, I would have loved to pay for my bridesmaids hair but just wasn’t possible. My bridesmaids were my best friends and I chose them for that reason because they completely understood my situation.
Good luck for your big day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I gave them options if wanted hair n make up doing and the prices n most wanted one or other or both doing . I said I couldn't pay it as bought dresses which were expensive

Katie Pearson
Katie Pearson 12 Mar 2019

I just sent them all a text saying so I've got your dress you pick whatever you want for shoes. As for hair and make up I'm going to pay for your hair but make up I'll let you sort that out yourself... My sister has offered to do the eye make up for them. Then it's optional for them. If your near a department store they can get make up done for free.

I've been bridesmaid loads and mostly paid for either hair or make up (sometimes both)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

I gave my bridesmaids the choice. If they wanted to hair their hair and make up done then they could pay for it but I was happy for them to do it themselves if they wanted to. My sister has said the same she gets married later this year, I will be paying to have my hair done but I’m going to do my own make up

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

My neighbour did my hair as a gift and my sister did my make up, if you can't afford it then you can't afford it

Cath Evans
Cath Evans 12 Mar 2019

I sent a picture of the hair style I liked (easy for everyone to do!) and said there will be a hairdresser but you don’t have to use her if your happy doing it yourself as she’s £25 each x
I ended up getting a huge tax rebate two weeks before the wedding so paid for all the girls hair as a surprise x but everyone did their own makeup x

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 12 Mar 2019

My girls are paying for their own dresses. My MoH is a pro make up artist so she is doing mine and her own for free and i'm sure she'd do my other bridesmaids if they asked her nicely. Haven't even thought about hair, see if there is anything left in the budget.

Kerry Bowers
Kerry Bowers 12 Mar 2019

" I just tell them I’m having mine done and I can get an idea of prices for them if needs be? " ..... this sound absolutely fine have a little meal out with them all for a catch up go through bits and pieces about your big day then just add it I wouldn't be offended at all xx

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 12 Mar 2019

You don’t have to pay for everything, simple as that!

Years ago bridesmaid did their own make up

State side they have to pay for their own dresses and shoes

Just let them know that you are having your hair and make up done and you have enquires about costs and give them the option

My daughter was my bridesmaid, she actually offered to pay for her hair and make up knowing that I had already paid £300 plus on her dress and then the shoes to go with it

Do what is best for your budget, there is no right or wrong answer to this one
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Sarah Pretious
Sarah Pretious 12 Mar 2019

I’m paying for the dresses for my bridesmaids but my sister and niece are two of mine and my best friend the other and they definitely won’t let me pay for everything

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Mar 2019

as maid of honour I happily offered to pay

Tash Wilson
Tash Wilson 12 Mar 2019

Kelly Carroll

Lauren Nother
Lauren Nother 12 Mar 2019

I said I’d pay for hair or make up can’t afford both and they were all fine with it. Went fine. Don’t sweat it hair and make up easily sorted. Some just paid to have their eye make up done then they done their own base. Really wouldn’t worry about it. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I paid for hair and make up for my bridemaids along with their dresses. The only thing they had to pay for was their shoes. I also told them if they wanted a spray tan or nails they could pay for them as not a request I had made but personal choice. I think I was being fair. I understand everyone's budgets are different though xXx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I told to my bridesmaids that I would be paying for everything I was dictating style wise. So I paid for dresses and hair and then said they could buy whichever shoes they felt comfy in (heels or flat) and makeup to be done as they felt comfortable. I had a makeup artist do my makeup and eyelashes and so she was available should they wish to book her and have it done. A couple chose to, a couple chose not to as prefer doing their own makeup anyway. My bridesmaids all respected and cared so much for me on my day that one of my bridesmaids asked me at about 9pm (after having her hair up in a pinned twisty bun thing since about 11am) if she let her hair down! ️ Love her heart for asking my permission bless her (of course she totally didn't have to but wanted to check first haha)! Your bridesmaids will usually always be so happy to do what you want on the day (within sensical reason of course). xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

At the end of the day, your bridesmaids are your best friends so you should just be able to ask them ️ I said that our budget didn't stretch to having everyone's make up done, but if they wanted to treat themselves then I could pass on the price list, but I would be equally happy for them to do it themselves

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I literally just said “Are you guys happy to do your own hair and makeup?” And that was that! I don’t think you should have to pay if you can’t afford, you ask them to be your bridesmaids because you love them and that in itself is an honour. Mine were all happy to sort their own hair and makeup because they know about our budget etc.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I had 3 adult bridesmaids and my daughter I paid for their hair including my mum's (which was jusy a blow dry) and my older sister who wasn't a bridesmaid as she didn't want to be but I wanted her part of the day I fekt because I wanted their hair a certain up style (which they were consulted on) I'd pay. Make up was different. They all wear Make up daily and can do it so I asked if they were happy with that which they were. I mentioned if they wanted it done for them how much it would be an in the end they all paid to have it done. I don't wear Make up really so wanted someone who.knew what they were doing to do it for me x

Cheryl Jackson
Cheryl Jackson 13 Mar 2019

I dont understand why so many brides think its a bad thing to not pay for these things?!? Personally if ur telling them what shoes/ hairstyle/makeup they have to wear then id pay for them but if ur letting them do what they want then i dont see the issue.
My bridesmaids had already organised there own without me saying anything. The way we looked at it is that they would have had there hair and makeup done if they were a guest plus new shoes and a new dress so rlly ive saved them money by buying them a dress 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I get that people say that you asked them you should pay. But it’s 2019. I paid for my bridesmaids dresses. I went to a designer retail outlet and paid around £30 for each dress. They all wanted to pick their own shoes. They got a bag of gifts from ted baker compact mirrors, to soap and glory bundles depending on their personal style (boots 3 for 2). I just said that I’ve had my hair and make up provided as presents from siblings (which is true). But if they wanted to have their hair and make up done my beautician friend will be on hand and these are her proposed prices. Explained they’re all beautiful girls who know how to do their own hair and make up but that is an option should they want it. Some are particular and did their own and some were more than happy to pay for it themselves. Don’t get upset or offended by the people who have paid for everything themselves. That’s lovely and very generous. I personally have never once had my dress, shoes, hair, make up etc paid for me and I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times - I didn’t even know it was a thing that brides paid for them. Half my maids who I paid for dresses for tried to pay me back and I wouldn’t take it. One of them asked if I wanted the dress back as I had paid for it. I said no it was hers. She however is very talented and the following Christmas I received a teddy bear made from her bridesmaid dress!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2019

I paid for hair and dresses but make up is a really personal thing so I just gave them the price if they wanted it done professionally or if they wanted to do it themselves they could do that too

Lisa Evans
Lisa Evans 14 Mar 2019

I'm not paying for a mua or hairdresser for myself, so theres no chance I'm paying for everyone else lol.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

Wow. The comments on here are unreal. My BF asked me if we would mind paying for our own and we didnt care at all! Why should it all fall onto the bride? Not being funny, i didn't want anyone who has never done my make up before doing it anyway. Wtf. Shitty friends if they cant be understanding of your situation.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

I wonder how many people who say yo should pay had one or more kids when they married. How dare you look down your nose? Ever thought some people have budget weddings costing as little as possible as they are simply marrying because they are in love??:

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Mar 2019

I’d get the quotes first and then ask them if they’d like their hair and/or make up professionally done for £x and £x.

Your friends wouldn’t mind that I’m sure. And some may even prefer to do their own.

Have a lovely wedding day.

Hayley Marden
Hayley Marden 19 Mar 2019

I'm paying for dresses hair and makeup but it's up to you. They are paying for trails I just explained with the budget I cant do everything. Sit them down and talk to them I am sure they will understand

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