I’m feeling really overwhelmed by the whole budget side of things! Me and my H2B will be paying for it ourselves as our family’s aren’t in a position to help, and I set a budget of around 10k but after seeing the prices of everything that looking more and more unlikely! Has anyone just thought that it’s too much to spend on one day and just gone to a registry office? .. im just worried either way that I’ll regret it.. i just keep thinking it’s all about the life after the marrige and I don’t want to start with a load of debt. I dunno. Thoughts and opinions? Either way I think I’ll be making the wrong choice, I’ve always dreamed of a beautiful white wedding and I know I’ll be sad that I can’t have that but I think I need to be more realistic, it’s only a day after all.. has anyone got any family or friends who have spent a load on a wedding and regretted it or the other way and just done a registry office and regretted not having the big white wedding?
Choosing an off peak day and time of year could save you a lot And where you can make stuff yourself or get family to help you make stuff. We are in the Same position but can’t help thinking the Dept can be payed off but the memories of your day last forever.
We’re in the same position, we have decided to book our wedding ceremony at a registry office. I’m ordering the wedding cake from m&s and we’re going to decorate it ourselves. We’ll also be trying to save on other things too. I’ve always dreamt of a beautiful white wedding too but with the current situation I’m just happy that we’re still getting married. Expensive wedding venue or a registry office wedding you still get the same outcome. In our opinion with us doing things ourselves it makes it more special and meaningful to us if that makes sense? As long as we have each other and our loved ones there to celebrate our marriage that’s all that matters 😊
I've been thinking the same thing it's a lot of money just for one day
My best tip that I found saved us money, was by getting married later in the day. By the time we arrived at the reception after the ceremony it was near 4pm and we invited our evening guest at 6pm. We had a BBQ cooking from 4.30pm til 7.30pm, then had bacon sandwiches bought out for snack at 10pm. Only feeding people once is a great way to save.
Extra bonus is a lovely chilled out morning and time for photos before the ceremony.
Hi - we are in the same boat budget wise, we originally set a budget of 10k, which after looking at everything we raised to 12k, but it's totally doable, depending on what timescale you want to get married in. We will have been engaged for a year and 9 months by the time we get married, and my brother in law was over 2 years because of their budget :) If you want to get married sooner, shrink your budget. We have went for off season to keep costs down, and getting married mid week would reduce your costs again. There are definitely things you can do to keep on a budget :)
Go to wedding fayres they usually offer deals on
We’ve been planning our wedding for almost a year and would have cost us about £15k ... We started experiencing problems with the venue so when we got our deposit back we decided to do our own thing and now we’re heading to a registry office in Edinburgh with 15 family members/friends... blessing in disguise, more suited to us as a couple and going to cost us about a third of what the big showy wedding would have cost. No regrets! X
Exactly why mine is reg office. I have kept actually below my budget meaning we have extra money towards our honey moon and mini moon instead. I’m still so excited for our wedding with it being registry office ! couldn’t justify spending thousands when we have a home
To renovate xx
I struggled with this 2 but none of my partners family r coming long story but I have now decided on a registry office with close family then a reception later in the evening with family and friends in a community hall not what I wanted but ive gone for a full proper wedding dress and aslong as ur family and friends r there and u married the man u love them that's all that should matter ur wedding is what u make it weather u spend 10.000 or 1000 the outcome is still the same u had a great day and ended up with the man of ur dreams and gone from miss to Mrs and get to spend the rest of Your life in love so do what u need to do dnt get yaself in debt when just the simple things can mean just as much
So we still had a church wedding, however at 1pm in the afternoon as that instantly halves the budget because you don't have to feed people twice we just went to a pub afterwards, had a disco, a buffet and then chip butties later on! If you have a good set of friends and family it will be perfect, we had an amazing time and everybody loved our wedding, everybody was relaxed, no stress and just had a great time. It cost us about 3k. X
We are in the same position... and with 4 children between us it looks more and more likely it's gonna have to be a small wedding which in one way makes me sad but I'll still be marrying my best friend
I always dreamt of a big princess lavish wedding and I provisionally booked my local golf club but fell pregnant with my son and we postponed it. Me and my husband spoke about it and decided we couldn't afford my dream wedding so we got married at a registry office and had our reception at our rugby club my mil made the cake for us I bought my wedding dress in the sale and my bridesmaids dresses of eBay my mil friend did my flowers and we did alot of the decorations ourselves and I couldn't of imagined my day any better it was a dream and everything I wanted. Guess what I'm trying to say is you can have your big dream wedding and make it look expensive but you don't have to pay the price tag my wedding cost us £3000 altogether
There’s ways of cutting corners. We kept it all on one place so no need for any fancy cars etc. Pull a favour with the cake and get a friend to make it. We had artificial flowers due to cost and allergies. Dress came from one of those warehouses and not a bridal shop and had a friend do the alterations. We had Kendal mint cake as wedding favours, they were really reasonable. Favour boxes and invites I made myself. Bridesmaids dresses were from quiz in the sale. Check out hotels that are also business centres. That’s how we got a bargain deal. Do you really need matching suits for the groomsmen? Or can they wear what they have already and get a really nice suit for the groom? Think quirky and you can save a lot. Photographer? Some do it by the hour or enter into a competition (that’s how we got a bargain!). There may be a local art student who might do it on the cheap for you? Just keep thinking outside the box. As soon as you search for anything bridal then the prices shoot through the roof. Try looking for stuff that isn’t traditionally wedding. Good luck!
It is doable- we got married last year and all in was about 10-11k. We had a church and a hotel. It was beautiful. There are ways to save on certain items- found fb really good for that. Good luck
I had a 10k budget and we managed by making sure we had who we wanted there .. not bowing to pressure of having plus ones if we couldn’t afford it .. a good tip is if your venue has packages, anything you don’t use they can usually re negotiate .. so could save that way .. use connections you have .. friends of family etc to help .. my florist was mother in laws friend, my husbands cousin played our ceremony music for us .. we didn’t use the cars from the package or the dj and a few other bits from the venue so we managed to save a bit there too .. I almost decided to just go get married at a place I didn’t love because it was cheaper .. but it wouldn’t have been the wedding I had spent my life dreaming of so I did what I had to do to make it work! Things can seem daunting but you’ll manage! And you might be surprised.. my husbands family and my family did manage to help us toward our wedding and by doing things ourselves like save the dates, etc we saved money too and it was the best day of my life! Exactly how I always pictured it!
You want to look back and remember the love and happiness .. not remember what you wanted and didn’t have .. it can absolutely be done! Xx
Remember it is one day - but it’s a memory you will cherish for a lifetime.
10K is definitely doable if you are willing to do some things yourself (invites table decs). Look into false flowers rather than real as they can look amazing and cost a fraction of the price. Or if you really want real go for more Leafy arrangements. I didn’t have any “flowers” in mine as I went for a green wild garden theme.
If you can manage to save some of the money and borrow the rest on a good loan payment term then I think you should have the wedding you wish for.
I had the big wedding for £3500 - it's possible! Look for second hand dresses, consider a hog roast rather than a sit down meal, do your own flowers and cake :)
We just got married on the last Wednesday of January, we didn't want to waste money on one day so we went to bath registry office, as it's the prettiest one near us, had all our immediate family with us for the ceremony and pics after and we then spent the rest of the day just the two of us at an amazing hotel where we had a suite with private terrace and hot tub. It was the best day we could have asked for. We had amazing sunshine and the hot tub made up for the cold of January. We were having an evening do on the following Saturday but that hot postponed from the snow so still got that to look forward too. Both of us our glad we did it separate and celebrated our wedding day our way. It was perfect for us
There's a site you can go on and ask businesses for quotes you and up getting much cheaper prices than you get going straight to sources
Can save a lot by booking in the same year of your wedding. currently shopping around for a venue and have noticed this
There's a lot in-between expensive venue and registry office,we are having our wedding in a hotel in the winter on a Saturday for 50 people for a price of £1,700! The whole wedding will cost about 6k and I was hoping it would be 5k tbh but we've been saving and will continue to save so we can manage it without going into debt. I wouldn't go into debt for a wedding or spend 10k personally and I would also be happy with a registry office wedding if it was all we could afford. You need to work it into your budget and that usually starts with finding a cheaper venue and work from that but it can be done,cut corners where you can buy off the shelves wedding cakes, don't bother with favours etc x
Me and my husband choose a church we didn't have a fee for and hired dresses suits ect and did food our self's and hired a room for cheep full decorates with a paying bar plus we got married on afternoon so we didn't have to do two meals hope this helps x
Depends on the kind of wedding your after me and my partner managed to do a whole wedding including my dress and all the extras for 150 guests for just over 5K it can be done we get married in 7 weeks xx
We've a budget of 7.5k, currently under budget. Depends on number of guests, venue, food costs, diy ect. Many things can be done to reduce the cost. Couldnt imagine spending that much on a wedding x
I’m the same. Venue is booked and is being paid for. But everything else I’m pooping myself trying to pay for. Was looking at the menu yesterday with my partner and I wasn’t getting excited at all 😞 just stressed.
I’m sure it’ll all work out but I get it. It’s so expensive and you just want to give up but honestly, whatever one you decide it’ll be perfect and you won’t regret it x
We had the a lovely day for £6k. You really don't need to spend loads. Our venue including food was £2018...the majority of places I looked at were £6k and that was just venue hire! Everyone commented about how gorgeous our venue and food was...you really don't have to spend loads to get something wonderful. Good luck!
You’ll be amazed at where you can cut corners by doing a little DIY! We’ve saved a fortune on favours, centre pieces, hair pieces for the bridesmaids and myself, dresses, everything! I found my dress for only £160 full retail price! eBay has been my best friend for wedding planning 😊 x
We have managed to do our wedding for around 11,000 this includes church reception food clothes etc just look around for deals consider a different venue for your reception. We have gone with a rugby club and spent some money getting a decorator in to make it look special xxx
Ours was only about £2500 with everything apart from honeymoon it was perfect and not on a budget there is no need to spend a fortune
I’ve just done my wedding and not doing big wedding. In total my wedding going to cost 2.5k for 150 guests we aren’t doing the wedding breakfast just doing a big party at the end and I can’t wait as yeah I would have loved the white wedding but the thought of cost and we have lost important people recently so it put us in perspective that doesn’t need to be big just the right people xx
We had a church wedding and village hall country reception. We had buffet food by tesco catering our cake was made by a cake maker and our bar was stocked by us and free. We spent nowhere near 10grand was more like 7-8 it can be done just have to look at what u can save money on x
I had a lovely wedding day with a registrar within Howden Park Centre, photos at Linlithgow Palace, had lovely wedding dress and a reception at the Beancross and don’t regret anything about it and the most expensive part was my dress and didn’t spend more than £3000. Can be done on a budget x
I'm spending 3k on everything - its doable but that's likely because there'll only be 30 of us maximum.
Ok church weddings are cheaper than a hotel and about the same as a registrars. You can cut out the wedding breakfast and just have a meal at the reception in a hotel ... this cuts meal costs in half! Shop about for photographers not all charge ungodly sums! Consider cheaper invites and get 2nd hand bridesmaids dresses or just find some nice ones in a high street shop not a bridal boutique. I had a big 200 guest wedding for 2500 ... 3 course meal, dj, evening buffet at a hotel after a church wedding. The church already had flowers so didnt need to pay for them the hotel linens were fine and they provided the meal and buffet for us. Found a young club dj who cut us a deal (50 for the night!) And tge photographer was only there for wedding and we did cake pics on arrival to hotel. Had friends with posh cars drive me and maids (they were going anyway!) It can be done.
We have a lovely location, hog roast with sides (vegan and dietary restrictions food). Ceremony and reception, all fees, dresses suits etc for under £5k that's with 100 adult guests and 20kids
Ours will be in a reg office with just 18 guests and then a sit down meal. We decided to spend all our money on a 3 week honeymoon instead. We felt that it should be about us making memories with our family and close friends and not inviting people for the sake of it
We spent £1500 in total for our day (lucky our registry office is a beautiful old listed building), we had an amazing day and cherished every second of it. It's not the cost of the wedding that makes me marriage work, 4 years later we still have great memories of the day and aren't in a stack of debt to put pressure on us now x
Someone i know spent 25k on their wedding and it lasted several months - So now they are paying for a wedding but divorced. Not saying this will happen to you put throws a different view at it. We cancelled everything and have gone with a registry office and family meal of up to 20 people and I'm really looking forward to just enjoying the day rather than stressing that it's 5 months away. Good luck
I've been to a massively expensive wedding and a wedding a lot more informal and 'cheaper' I'll be honest. It depends on the people there! The cheaper wedding was unreal! Haven't danced and laughed like it in ages. Please do what is right for you. It is amazing because it's your day no matter how much it is
Our whole wedding cost less than £4000. I made a lot of my own things like invites, table decs, flowers, second hand dresses are amazing prices xx
We got married with 12 guests and us on a Thursday. Having it in the week made it cheaper and tbh, the whole point of getting married is to marry the person you love not get yourself into debt so everyone else can get drunk at your expense. Your not marrying your friends or your granny’s neighbour, you’re marrying the man you want to be with and that is what’s important!
We did everything inside £6k. Church wedding - set by C of E so should be about £600
Function room at a golf club £150
Catering - afternoon tea and hotpot for the evening - £1500
Chair covers - £50
suit hire - £650
Bridesmaid dresses and flower girl dress - £200 (I had 5 and 1 flower girl)
Honeymoon - £1,800
My dress was a bargain at £100
Cake made by 2 friends - £120
Dj and band - £400 band did the Dj bit to.
Photographer - £495
Then just a couple of accessories. MIL did the table decs and footed the cost of the invites to. We went to the range and eBay so she didn't spend a fortune anyway.
It is just one day in my opinion but people have different tastes I guess to. I didn't have a big fancy hotel but you know what it didn't matter. The photos look stunning!
Your getting married because you love each other and know that you belong together not to have an extravagant day and entertain everyone else your day is about you two so whatever you can afford or not is irrelevant just get married the way you want to and then you will regret nothing x
We are paying for it all ourselves, and trying to keep costs down, calling in favours from all our friends and family. We’re having a buffet at the reception, and then rather than a hog roast, in the evening my brother in law to be is cooking a load of pork. Also having it during the week as this has reduced the cost. The only thing I won’t compromise on is the church, that’s a very important one for me (not that I’m massively religious, more of family connections) other than that, it is about you and your other half!
We're having the ceremony and after all in one place and are doing it all back to front! Having most guests for the ceremony and then cake, bubbly, first dance (with the pianist who is playing for the ceremony) and the speeches. Then most people will go home and there'll be a small sit down for family later although we could reduce that again having a buffet style. My dress is from ebay and bridesmaids from Amazon.
My wedding only cost 1000 pounds to me it's not really about the day it's what comes after it that counts the life and commitment to each other your day will be lovely no matter the price tag hun xx
2k for ours and it’s going to be just as good as anyone’s. Don’t put pressure on yourself.
When you start looking you'll start finding things cheaper for e.g m s do foam tiers for cakes so u only need 1 real cake tier which is a massive save x
We had a registry office and them a reception in a local restaurant then night do in a social club. Cost less than 2k and it was the best ever day. Everyone commented on how it was set up and dressed.
We have decided to book our civic center and have the ceremony there then go to a venue with just close family have a meal and invite every one else for a evening reception , we've managed to get everything really cheap and the way I see it I still get to have a beautiful day but we aren't starting married life in debt xxx
I spent a fortune and really don’t regret it (but both parents did contribute a lot too). But I really don’t regret it, money comes and goes but memories and our wedding video/photos last a life time. But I do think that if we didn’t already own our own home and if it had financially been a choice I’d have chosen our home. Again, so many memories made and being made there. So it does depend on everyone’s situation.
We had a beautiful big wedding for £5k we got a fantastic deal through a hotel by getting married on a Friday & booking 6 months advance so managed to knock the price down really shopped around & got a deal on dj photographer & dress etc sometimes you’ve just got to be cheeky you don’t ask you don’t get x
We had a beautiful wedding in a county house hotel, wasn't huge, 60 daytime and about 100 night time, lots of extras etc and it didn't cost us anywhere near that. Choose a weekday if at all possible, out venue was literally half the price, as were a lot of our vendors, even mid August.
I got married in a lovely hotel. On the river. Was lush.
Had a big dress (but cheap). Lots of personal touches like ferror rocher tower, photo booth, sweet trolley
Really shopped around for everything. Disco, flowers & photographer only a few hundred each.
Didn't do suits for men in bridal party. Personalised matching ties and they wore their own suits.
Only invited very close f&f to whole day but more to evening as it didnt cost much at all for evening
Was well under £10K
We didn't want to spend loads... we are getting married at the registry office then using a social club for venue. We are still having ushers and bridesmaids, wedding cars and other things. If I have been able to make it I have. We have roughly spent under 4000 on every thing. I get married this June x
Look for smaller independant venues, or places that are just starting out. We've managed to book an amazing venue on 3rd August this year that was a quarter of the price of other local venues for the same day.
We set a budget of £10,000 but we will be comfortably under £8000 and we will have absolutely everything we can wish for
I had a wonderful day for £4000. X
We got married 2 weeks ago and had the whole day at a hotel, they were amazing and made it my dream day. Hotels are a great option and most will provide a lot of things for you
Mine and my hubbies wedding cost us less than 2k that was everything even down to minor things, we had a registry office wedding and it was beautiful and our reception was in his father's army TA centre of all places but our guests didn't have to worry about parking they could leave their cars over night for free and best of all it cost £25 to hire it! In my opinion it's certainly not about the cost that goes into the wedding, it's about celebrating the day with your loved ones and your new hubby! You can transform any place into what you want it to be for you guys and it doesn't have to cost the earth! Good luck and congratulations! Enjoy! X
We’ve brought our wedding forward due to a close family member being very unwell. So instead of 8 months, we’ve had 5 weeks to plan and pay meaning the budget is very tight. We got all clothes and shoes from ASOS and Topshop sales after Christmas at less than £300. My dress is JJ’s House (on-line) costing £250, and is 100% nicer than the identical £1500 dress I tried on in a bridal shop. I made all of the decor myself, paper roses, Pom poms, chalkboards etc. We’ve had some family pay for bits (very lucky in that respect) but we’ve only spent £1500. We’re having a church service and the local social club next Thursday and I am so excited. Once I got planning I honestly was not bothered about where or how much it was, I just can’t wait to have all of my loved ones there and marry my one and only!
Ours is costing £4000 for sit down meal and reception registry was £350 dress and everything else will round it up to about £6000 but you don't need to spend a fortune to make it special x
We get married in April and our coatings is looking at around £3500-£4000 it is possible to have a nice wedding on a budget!
I was in the same situation and we decided to meet in the middle and go for a budget as we can but still have a day to remember.
I got my dress from a lady who sells dresses from a bridal shop that haven’t sold for £190 and got bridesmaid dresses in the sale from ASOS for £20 each and made all the invites myself which was no more that £100 we cut our guest list down to just close friends and family. It’s possible! I didnt want to regret not having a nice do either. It’s all working out good so far, we can’t wait xxx
I had a church wedding and ours was still under £6k. Had a street party theme in the village hall along from the church, open bar (from a booze cruise), massive buffet and hog roast, amazing photographer, made to measure suits from a holiday in Asia and flowers etc too. Don't be afraid to accept help and keep an eye on amazon, ebay and the marketplace for decorations. I've also seen deals on Groupon too.
I might not get any agreement here but I personally wouldn’t spend that amount on 1 day. I know it means everything to have the perfect day but honestly do we really need to pay that amount to wed the man in our lives. For me I want to get married and don’t want to spend a fortune. I’d rather a cheaper wedding and a family holiday. But that’s me. It doesn’t have to cost the earth, after all it’s about you getting married.
It’s not worth getting in to debt over. There are ways you can have your dream day without getting into debt over. I would start by working out your guest list and looking at venues as venues and food are the most expensive part.
Ask yourselves questions like are there ways of making this cheaper? There could be package deals where you have the ceremony and evening in the same place. You could save on wedding transport if you can get ready at the venue and don’t have to go anywhere else. Do you need a sit down meal or will a buffet be ok? Could you serve canapés instead of starters and then have a main and pudding?
With regards to the dress wed2b do nice wedding and bridesmaid dresses that are reasonably priced.
A lot of supermarkets now do wedding cakes that you can decorate yourself.
Some of my friends have saved on the cost of flowers by making their own paper ones and using alternative decoration for centrepieces such as candles (you could look on Pinterest for ideas). Their weddings venues have look equally beautiful by doing this.
You could also make your own invitations or use a free online template and then you just need to pay for paper and envelopes.
We didn’t have a videographer but asked a friend to record ours and it’s all that we need as a memory. We are going to edit it ourselves.
We decided to spend a little bit more on a photographer by not having this as that’s one thing we didn’t want to be disappointed with. Just make sure you see their work first.
Also booking thing off season is always a way to save as well. Just be conscious if you have any friends or family that are teachers as they would only be able to attend weekends or week days in the school holidays.
Look for the venues that do special packages. We got a winter wedding package which is half the price as one at the same place in the summer.
look at package offers. ive recently booked our venue which was 3995 for 100 guests and includes, venue hire for ceremony, meal, canapes, buffet disco, drinks reception, room hire, chair and table covers and loads more! also friends and family are contributing with 'gifts' such as cake, photobooth etc...
I’ve managed to a hotel wedding, with our honeymoon for £7500. We’ve DIY’d a LOT of stuff, but it is doable!! Search around. Look for deals and good luck. xXx
We got officially married at the registry office with just two witnesses a few days before, then had a ‘proper’ wedding day where our friend married us 😊 that saved £500 on a registrar itself! We still had a three course meal, and evening disco with buffet, was less than 10k!!
You just have to be smart and willing to look around. We did all our own decorations, but we had a florist. We even had a photo booth and led dance floor for the evening. It can be done! We had our wedding on a Friday, which brought the cost down. My dress was £600, my bridesmaids dresses were £30 each (I had six of them!), cake (which we weren’t going to have have!) was £300. It doesn’t have to be expensive if you’re willing to be a bit patient and shop around. It would have been £2000 less but we upped our day guests by 15, so had a marquee to be more comfortable in space. And don’t be put off by a registry, some are really lovely venues! It’s what you make of it, and at the end of the day, it’s about you getting married, don’t get wrapped up in it being perfect in the eyes of everyone else either, rather than about the two of you ❤️
We're in the EXACT same position :/
Shop around for everything. Look for deals with hotels. Get married nearer end of year when photographers etc are quiet and they will be glad of the business. A wedding doesn't have to cost the earth. We did it for @£5k and that was everything, 50 day guest's and another 50 at night.
I had an expensive one. Deffo not worth it IMHO. I'd do barefoot on a beach if I could go back! Much more me.
Our budget is 2500. We can’t afford to go over it. We are having the reception at home and I found my perfect dress 2nd hand!
Look around wait for offers on venues etc choose a weekday instead and then look for offers on all other things too xx
Me and my partner are getting married in a registry office and my after do will be at our local working men’s club but I’m not really bothered about having fancy expensive things I just want to get married and have a nice dress 😂
We went to the registry office with immediate family and had a dinner at a local pub! It was at Christmas when family around, went to a Christmas party night before other guests arrived, had the dance floor to ourselves for first dance, cut the cake etc it was magic! We had a 10k wedding planned also, and with a baby on the way we changed our minds. Honestly don’t regret it one bit, it was beautiful and everyone else agreed. Can’t believe we were even considering spending such money. We had photographer and did a shoot so got some amazing pictures! It’s about your love remember, not showing everyone else how much money you can blitz in one day!
I had the most most amazing wedding! Register office and a beautiful sit down meal and evening buffet at a hotel.. cost about 8k and worth every penny.. would never regret spending it and made sure I had an amazing photographer to capture memories. Do what you can afford! Good luck x
We got married at the registery office with family & close friends (limited capacity) & then invited all of our guests to meet us at the reception venue straight after. We had a disco & a hot & cold buffet. Cost around £5k for the whole day & it was perfect
Yes 10k is too much to spend on one day, unless you can genuinely afford not to question the amount. If you have to ask, then it is too much.
If you love the person you are marrying then it will be the most special day of your life no matter how much you spend.
We spent about £2k including the honeymoon, and it was wonderful.
Our budget is currently around £8000.00 & still growing ... A huge help was I won my Wedding Dress C
We are paying max 4g on our wedding, we have 3 kids and would rather go on a family holiday then get into debt. We saved like mad, we are having local reg office, then 3 course sit down meal n disco for evening are biggest expensive item was day n night venue which is £1600 everything is from Amazon or eBay u have to shop around, his 3 piece suit is Debenhams £177 my dress from a local wedding dress shop £400 in the sale.
We had a registry office wedding, 40 of our closest friends and family and then had the sit down meal and night do in a hotel. Think it cost us £150 for the registry office, saved us £500 not having to pay the registrar to come out. And it was next to where hubby proposed so we had pictures in the gardens around it. I got my dress in the sale, I was lucky it was the exact dress I'd fallen in love with at £200 All in for alterations and hoop instead of £700 for dress alone. We didn't have "groomsmen" but asked all male siblings if they wanted to be in suits would they pay for their own (controversial I know but I left that choice to them and wouldn't have been upset had they said no!) Only had 1 adult bridesmaid as I didn't see the point and she was only to keep the 2 baby bridesmaids under control or I'd have not bothered. You could hire a student from a local college to do your photographs. Luckily my friend has a media degree so she offered to do them as our wedding gift. Cake from m&s and I decorated it myself. Didn't bother with chair covers or lots of center pieces, made table numbers myself.... You can do a lot of very little if you get creative and don't need to do the same things everyone else does the only thing I was actually bothered about was my husband actually being at the alter and us both saying I do, I'd have happily done it in jeans and a t-shirt!!
We got married in october. We just had a registry office wedding, followed by a pizza and salad buffet in a local pub. Spent around £1500 on everything not including the honeymoon (which was our gift from my mother in law) and genuinely wouldn't have changed a thing.
I made literally everything i could myself and decided really early on that I really didn't want to pay out for a fancy sit down meal id probably not eat (I was right I ate 1 slice of pizza all day). We don't eat cake so we had a cheese stack which then became the evening food with a few boxes of crackers, fruit etc.
Everyone commented on how nice it was to be so relaxed and just be able to enjoy themselves compared to how uptight they felt at more formal weddings.
We've started our marriage with no wedding related debt at all. And our biggest single expense was the registry office at £267. Don't regret not spending more on it at all ... but I'd love to be able to do it all over again just like we did before xx
Mate my budget is £4K. It’s totally possible. Just look for cheaper things. Just cos it’s your wedding doesn’t mean you have to break the bank. Cut some costs. You won’t really notice much on the day since you’ll be getting married and you’ll just be overjoyed that you’ve come that far with your partner. Honestly, you don’t need to have the fanciest, most expensive wedding to have an amazing day. Loads of people always say “I wish I hadn’t spent that much on this or that” cos you can use the money after your wedding for stuff you want/need or save it for the future.
The most important thing is the fact you’re marrying your partner and you love each other. Weddings shouldn’t be an excuse to show off how much money you have, who cares what other people think? Some people might be judgy but at the end of they day they ain’t paying for it and they’re getting a free meal and party, so they can save their judgement for behind closed doors when the wedding is over.
Do your own flowers and decorations. Consider a Chinese supplier (i got a gorgeous dress for £80!) or a second hand dress shop. Ask friends for help! Best thing I ever did was swallowing my pride and asking for help with making/planning/sorting out. Look a church halls and stuff. There are some really lovely ones that also provide catering. Ours cost £650 for the hall, chair covers, a drink on arrival and a hot buffet for 60 people! It can be done!
And at the end of the day, just enjoy the planning and the day. You don't want to spend the whole time worrying about money! You won't enjoy it at all.
I had legal ceremony in USA, 2nd one here with family & friends 70day ,120 evening .... 2 dresses for me £6000 for EVERYTHING
We did our whole wedding for just under 8k with our honeymoon included! That was 3 courses for 50 people plus buffet for 80 at night! It can be done
Browse Facebook marketplace, DIY bride groups, sellmywedding, for tons of second hand goodies. It is possible, definitely.
I would happily registry office it all the way! Had 2 dreams in 1 night. And amazing cheap wedding that we thoroughly enjoyed then dreamt of paying out a fortune and EVERYTHING was going wrong. Partner is still set on a wedding in greece though. Hahaha #cantwin . . . Good luck and congrats! It is all really just one day OF THE REST OF YOUR LIVES. So dont go into unnecessary debt!
Eloping with a few immediate family members to Bali. I really don't see the point in wasting so much money.
10k is a lot! You can do it for a lot less than that if you shop around for everything. Without having to go to a registry office.
I did registry office 1st time around and immediately regretted it. I am about to marry for the second time and this time I'm having the church, the dress etc etc. We have managed to keep it to just on £10K but I have made a lot of things myself invitations, flowers etc and ebay has become my friend lol You can have the white wedding on a budget. Shop online for bridesmaids dresses JJ's House etc, WED2BE for a wedding dress under £600. You can do it just shop around and be prepared to do a lot yourself which I have found has been great fun xx
I refuse to spend upwards of 20k on one day. We’re are still having a church wedding followed by a marquee reception for over 100 guests. Got my bridesmaids, flower girl dresses, groom & best man suits and cake from M&S. if you budget right, you don’t need to go over. Ours is coming in under 10k. Good luck!! X
I wouldn't dream of spending 10k on 1 day I think we all dream of having a big white wedding when we are kids but then we realise how much that costs we have waited 6 years so far I know what I want but also that I don't want debt from it so I'm going to do a Groupon wedding so I will get near enough everything I want for no more than 3k which is what I'm comfortable with
I got married in December at a really nice hotel on a budget, the set menu starting at £37 we got the Xmas menu instead for £19 including tea and coffee. We booked 10weeks before the wedding so paid £300 for room and deal which included wedding suite, place cards, menu and seating plan. Bought bridesmaid dresses from eBay. Had freinds do the flowers for wedding gift. Had a trainee photographer do the pics for £50 he was brill.
One of my freinds had every one to the church, just the wedding party to the wedding breakfast ( Of about 20) then everyone else to the party after which was a buffet and disco. You can do it on a budget its just finding out a plan. Good luck x
I always said it's the marriage that's important, not the wedding. You can still have a lovely white wedding in a registry office. There are some lovely registry office buildings too! You might just have to think a bit creatively. I'm sure your day will be perfect whichever you decide.
I wanted a registry office wedding, nice outfits each, just us and daughters plus both mums & dads.. then a kfc or something after all the day was about us.. groom said no, spent £32,750 on our wedding after 15 years together and got divorced 6 months later.. within 1 year we were both married and divorced.. it’s over rated, enjoy the day but the meaning really is only about you 2 and the amount of money you spend is irrelevant, if you make it about money then you’re catering to a stereotype of what you think it should be and keeping up with friends who’ve married.. it’s about you and the groom, Christ does it matter if you get married in a paper bag as long as you’re together?
We thought it would be cheaper going abroad but it wouldn't have been for our family's etc. Then shipping costs etc was funny money. I budgeted for 10k Too and the crazy thing is, if I can get this place that I've seen I can get my whole wedding everything for under that. I'm so happy with it. And feel much more at ease now. Ive planned since my engagement in September and made myself ill. My dad told me step away and leave the planning. That's what I did and now it's all falling into place. Don't put too much stress on it. Big deep breaths x
A church service is around £600-700 it is the reception that costs the money.. have a beautiful ceremony then save on reception .. the reception is really basically just to feed everyone anyway
We’re doing it for less than 10k as we’re self funding!
We spend around £300.00 for everything my dress was only £30! We had a lovely ceremony at our local registry office and went for a family meal afterwards. Such a lovely day and no stress or continuing to save to pay off debt. Good luck with whatever you decide to do! xXx
By time ive done id have paid under 4k and im getting married in registry office and weddding breakfast and night do at an hotel wat does weddings u van still wear the white wedding dress
33 years ago we married, but could neither afford, or if truth be told, want a big wedding. We went the registry office with just family and a few very close friends. The wedding ring was £45 and we catered for ourselves back at our house. We’re still very much in love and I’ve never regretted anything about our special day. You do what’s right for you, if you love each other, a fancy wedding won’t make the slightest difference and on the plus side, you’ll have spare cash for your house and honeymoon. Good luck!
Am I right in thinking that legislation is changing so you can get married where you want, it doesn't have to be at a licensed venue?
If that's the case I wish we had waited. Our wedding is going to be wonderful, I am super excited, but I feel so selfish and guilty over how much it is costing. It's just a party! We've put deposits down etc now but wish I had know then what I know now...
DIY venues seem like they ought to be cheaper but it's amazing how much you can spend on the things you don't realise you need to hire.
I’ve managed to plan my wedding for £4,000 xx
Consider saving the money first and then booking a late availability date if a venue you like offers a deal. That way you might get your dream venue at a price you can afford. We saved 40% on our base price for our dream venue by booking a date that was just under 12 months away.
Along the way you could be making centre pieces/ invitations/ some decorations etc... You can provide home made sweetie table/ photo booth (using an old camera/ a large photo frame (consider spray painting it) and buying cheap props.
£10K is an amazing budget if you think smart about how you can save money.
Try to enjoy it. I hope you manage to have the wedding of your dreams x
Being married is about the marriage and strong bond between two people not the wedding. Whatever you do on your big day will be special because of who you’re with 💕
I booked my ceremony at a hotel and outfits and food all in its come in just under 3k, for 50 day guests and 80 evening including the 50 and then me and my h2b too x
We went to Gretna Green. 7 guests and a wonderful day! Highly recommend it; no day is worth more than £10k! X
Do what you can afford, we went over budget by more than double but we loved it, wouldn’t change a thing but wouldn’t have done if we couldn’t have paid for it, we were very lucky we had some savings
The how should never be a factor, it's always the why. Spend £100 or £25,000 the end result is the same - you'll be a married couple. My wedding is next year in a registry office overlooking the coast followed by afternoon tea for immediate family and 1 friend plus partner each with an evening disco and buffet for everyone else in a venue that is free to hire and I can decorate myself xx
We’ve got our wedding on sat 25th May. Didn’t want to spend loads but still wanted a nice day. We’ve managed to book an awesome place for the ceremony and then having the reception at a local social club. I got my outfit online and saved loads. We are decorating the hall ourselves and I bought the decos in dribs and drabs over the last year from China (Ali express is an awesome site) we are having a hog roast and cheese and crackers, disco, photo booth, balloon displays and have spent no more the £3000. After the hog roast the most expensive thing was the ceremony venue at £500. It’s certainly doable on a lesser budget and we don’t feel like we’ve scrimped at all. It helps we are getting married at 4pm so have cut out the formal meal!
No joke, We bought our wedding on Groupon for £3,000! 70 people, 3 course dinner, drinks package for each guest, champagne and canapes reception, and table centrepiece all in! 100 people in the evebing with buffet, Plus 2 rooms the night before the wedding! And the location is beautiful, so I would suggest having a look on there! :) xx
2.5K that also included a 2 week inclusive holiday in Cyprus for 3.
We got married in a historic Scotland castle (£400) had a reception in the local rugby club (£50), buffet from m and s and Sainsbury’s, I didn’t bother with posh cars but had a cake and flowers made including my dress and rings it was under £2500, we didn’t have the money for a lavish affair but it was still an awesome day, it’s not about how much you spend it’s about each other and spending time with family and friends
I'm getting married legally at a registry office to cut costs and then I found a venue that has done a lot of vow renwals so they don't have a license but are still willing to let us have our "white wedding" in front of friends and family and then change the room round for the reception. All it's cost is the registry office fees and £200 for the venue. This way you get your beautiful ceremony without the extortionate price tag. Also, it means that one of our closest friends is going to be conducting the ceremony (as we'll already be legally married), making it more special.The most expensive part has been the buffet.
I didn’t read all of your post...sorry! I stopped at it’s looking more and more unlikely that 10k won’t cover it. I don’t know you and you can discard this post and I won’t be offended. All I would say is ask yourself these questions, and then decide what YOU and your H2B want:
1. Is it going to make our lives better
2.Does anyone care if it costs £200 or £200000?
3. What would you do with the money if you did it on a budget?
4. Does anyone else get to live your life?
5. Shall I keep going? That question was for me, not you! In effect all I’m saying is, you and your husband to be are more than one day! It’s a huge amount of money...do what you feel is right! Nobody is going to criticise you because you saved your money and spent it on something you want. To be honest, those that do are not worth an invite! All too often now we are pushed and shamed into doing “the big day” but at whose cost?! All I’m trying to say. very long-windedky, is that you have to do what is right for you 2! Best of luck. Xx
I saw this the other day https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/bazaar-brides/a22085716/couples-who-have-expensive-weddings-are-more-likely-to-get-divorced/
Shop around for your reception venue and haggle. Ours was a well known hotel chain that is a popular venue so they make out like it's all or nothing. They said that even though we were having a sit down meal for 120 at 5pm we had to have an evening buffet for 75% of guests served at 8pm. We threatened to walk. Most of our guests were travelling so that would also be sixtysh b&b rooms lost also. We managed to negotiate bacon butties served at 11pm for free if we guaranteed at least 50 rooms booked...which we did easily. After a few drinks the butties went down really well and everyone said how much better it was than a Buffett that no touches. Also booked a singer that dj'd inbetween which saved us a lot too. Ask around and be prepared to negotiate.
Also churches aren't necessarily more expensive so if it means a lot to you spend on the things that are important. Skip favours on tables, make your own invites etc and you will save a ton without anyone really noticing.
It is a lot to spend on one day but it's all relative, if that's a budget you can afford then go for it, I would say don't get yourself in to debt to pay for it though cos you would regret that. Were on a budget of 3k so if realistically you can't afford 10, you can still have a lovely wedding. It's not 10k or a registry office, there is an in between.xx
No use in getting into debt but completely understand wanting the wedding of your dreams!
Try writing a realistic budget and doing some research.
Book off peak times, limit the amount of guests bridal party.
There’s some wedding dress shops that are beautiful and sell for under £500! I had mine from somewhere else but asked for discount and they gave me 20% off!
There’s also a site online that sells wedding invitations 80p each! Cheaper than making them. You an still have a beautiful wedding with a few adjustments!
Congratulations on your engagement, wishing you a long and happy future together 💖
We was the same we just couldn’t afford to get married here so we are getting married in Cyprus all together with 2 weeks in Cyprus it’s cost us 3500ish
We spent around 12k and to be honest looking back I would definitely of done a registry office I don’t regret the wedding we had, we didn’t get into any debt as everything was paid before hand and saved for but looking back it could of gone on so much more than 1 day with a lot of people we haven’t seen since our wedding day x
Mine came to around 2 grand! all eBay, church and always price match!! One hall was 650 so I looked around for more and got a hall for 350! Church was donations, my dress was 100 second hand (it was the dress I wanted!)
I have something similar, me and my H2B are paying for ours and we’ve just bought our first house on the HTB so although I originally said £10k I realised that there was no way I could put that into a wedding when it’s needed elsewhere, I had a huge adult tantrum and insisted if I couldn’t have my dream I was eloping but have instead decided on an intimate wedding by cutting the guest to less than half and going with a venue that offers small weddings the budget has now gone from £13k to £5.5k and the best thing is it’s still the same quality as before just smaller (now in a boutique hotel with only 8 bedrooms) you can still get a beautiful wedding but I think you need to concentrate on quality over quantity - my dream was a 18th century barn with 100 guests
We are paying for our own £2000 things from eBay and shopping around for best deals
Doesn't have to cost thousands. Family and friends could all bring food for a buffet. You can relax and have a loving inspiring fun time of celebration with all the guests feeling they really played a part on giving you a time to remember.
Married in reg office. 28 years of wonderful but not perfect marriage til death did us part. Would not change a thing( cept his early death). Marriage is 2 people and their love.
We are having a beautiful exclusive wedding house which is ours for the 2 days. Having 50 guests sit down and 70 on the evening. Not scrimping or cutting things out its going to be beautiful and all for £5.000 tgeres no such thing as not being able to do it just dont goover the top. I was married very young and it was all for everybody else. I didnt enjoy the day at all. This time its about us and still beautiful.
Lyndsey just remember what ever you decide be it a registry office or whatever will be fine with everyone who wants to share in your happiness.
Dont get into debt for one day. Its reallt not worth the worry. X
We set our date for three years away to allow ourselves time to save as we both agreed that we wanted to do it the way we really wanted instead of doing things a different way to save money. I'll always remember my mum saying that she regretted not having the wedding she wanted as she couldn't afford the wedding she wanted. Sadly she died young so she never had the choice to have a dream wedding. So for us we decided that it was important to do it the way we really wanted ❤
Maybe a Thurs wedding that brings prices down by alot. At the end of the day it's up to you to and if you want a registry and meal after then that's still perfect for you to and then you have more money for honeymoon
We get married on a Friday. Done invitations etc myself, most decorations myself. Roping in family to help set up night before. Do have a company in to do chair covers and sashes. Making own cake (can buy 3 tiers from M&S for about £100 with a plain decoration. Just add your own ribbon etc. Hunt about for dress, find something you like and buy second hand or even discontinued line. Haggle with venues for prices. Our is about £4500-£5000. All paid for by ourselves. It can be done for as cheap or expensive as you want. Do your research and compare prices and service. Friends have spent less than £2k and another was nearly £20k.
I'm in the same position me and my Fiancee r trying to stick to budget by cutting down on things or finding ways to save money like instead of a band we are having a dj just do what is right for you's as some of the costs surprised me also ask family and friends if they know anyone that can provide some of the things you are looking for like a photographer etc can be cheaper