UKbride Member Request 26 Jan 2019

Change to a destination wedding

Hi everyone. I wondered if you had any advice or recommendations. My fiancé and I have booked our venue and a few other things and paid the non-refundable deposits. However we are just becoming so stressed by it all, have already had to move the date once and realised we still probably can’t afford it. We are thinking of cancelling it all and losing some money and then going to Rome instead! It will be much cheaper and we both realised that what’s more important to us is just having those few special close people in attendance (guest list was a nightmare). Has anyone else done this? Has anyone arranged a wedding in Rome and have recommendations of which company to use? We want to have our ceremony in the Caracalla wedding hall followed by a laid back dinner in either a hotel or just hire out a nice restaurant. Any ideas would be so welcome! Thank you xx

Francesca Maden
Francesca Maden 27 Jan 2019

It’s all about you and your partner expressing your love! Rome is a beautiful place and if that’ll make you happy, then do so.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jan 2019

Sounds wonderful .

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UKbride Administrator 28 Jan 2019

Bronwyn Spencer
Bronwyn Spencer 28 Jan 2019

We had a date for a massive family wedding and have now gone the other direction and cancelled everything for a registry office and family party. We had issues to why we did it but what we wanted was a intimate family just us! 💙

Nicki Sheppard
Nicki Sheppard 28 Jan 2019

We took 5 guests to Iceland then had a party 6 weeks later. Best decision we made. Nobody was surprised by our decision & the scenery was stunning. It’s about you two & celebrating your love, do what feels right for you. Not sure about the legals in Italy so worth researching this beforehand.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jan 2019

You clearly want to go to Rome, take the hit on the deposits and do it.
If you are questioning your decisions now it will only continue to develop and will only lead to disappointment.
Rome is magical, so many romantic restaurants and accommodation with rooftop views.
We had our big day planned and due to circumstances we changed it and brought it forward. Done it at Christmas when all family about, had registry then meal with Christmas party! Still had first dance etc was amazing. It was the best decision ever!!! Don’t waste your money! It’s your love that counts and will be a day to remember regardless of where you are. Good luck x

Devan Cresswell
Devan Cresswell 28 Jan 2019

While it’s your day and you should do what you really want. I would say that can you afford to lose the deposits? Will taking the loss of deposits into account as well as the costs of the Rome wedding make it cheaper, the same or more. That’s what I would be looking at first personally before making any final decisions

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jan 2019

Cant imagine doing it rome will be any easier... Just take some time to get some perspective of why you are getting married in the first place and what us actually important to you

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jan 2019

We managed to arrange a full Catholic wedding ceremony in Palma Majorca, and none of us speak Spanish! There were 9 of us, best decision we ever made. We went to an amazing restaurant overlooking the bay for pur wedding meal.
You wake up the day after your wedding and you're on honeymoon! Google translate and the internet helped us through without the expense of a wedding planner. I remember the relief I felt when we made the decision to go away to get married. I've seen brides stress about napkins not being the right colour and that helped me keep perspective on why we were getting married. I didn't fancy shelling out thousands, for people to moan that they didn't like the food, venue too far, and all the other details that guests complain about! If I had the chance to do it all again, I wouldn't change a thing xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jan 2019

The less you spend the longer your marriage! Do what's right by you and not everyone else xx

Elizabeth Tooke
Elizabeth Tooke 28 Jan 2019

Do what you feel is right for you. Do you have quid co? If not take a look into it as you can get some good deals on there. Check all your outgoings and see if any can be reduced xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2019

So we didnt change it to getting married abroad but we have also cancelled the huge venue and scaled it right down. Lost some money but I'm so relieved. I actually started enjoying the process rather than stressing when we'd dialed everything back! Do what feels right for you both. It shouldn't be about stress and organising. It should be about you two getting married and being happy. Do what feels right for you both!

Louise Newson
Louise Newson 29 Jan 2019

Before you make any rash decisions i would say take a couple of weeks off from the wedding planning. It can be so stressful, just take a break from it and then make your decision with a clear head. If you still want to change it and loose your deposits then do it. Good luck.xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2019

Im not doing it personally (too many family members) but a girl I work with is doing hers abroad she went with TUI and she looked like she was having a complete breeze as opposed to the nervous stress ridden wreck I was, but I do think cheaper is better once you cut out all of the unnecessary crap people tell you need you find it works out a lot cheaper anyway good luck xx

Liberty Gibbons
Liberty Gibbons 29 Jan 2019

We're getting married in New York (a package wedding), everything is included in the price, so don't have to worry or plan anything, other than the music and flowers we want. Then we're having a reception in England. SO much cheaper doing it that way, and I haven't been stressed atall x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2019

Kieren Louis Thomas This sounds amazing

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 30 Jan 2019

You have to do what's best for you and your H2B if you feel Rome is What you cruelly what and you can do it then go for it xxx

Jessica Pearce
Jessica Pearce 31 Jan 2019

I would go with what is best for you! A Rome wedding will be beautiful! All the best of luck!

Nathalie Davies
Nathalie Davies 31 Jan 2019

What’s the rush? If you can’t quite afford it yet, just enjoy your engagement, save up and have the wedding YOU want when you can afford it. Whether that be in the UK, or Rome? 😊 you could always change the date again to maybe 4 years time so you don’t lose any deposits yet and then decide. If you still want to go to Rome then fine 😊 but you don’t want to cancel and then lose money then decide you made the wrong decision xxx


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