I'm hoping someone might be able to help. How can I tell my mum that someone she fell out with 15 years ago is coming to the wedding? I have never really had much of a relationship with my mum & i'm really struggling to find a way to say this person is coming, any suggestions? x
Oh this is so hard. I think just saying it outright, might seem harsh but its better to just get it out there...In my opinion.
She would need to understand it is your wedding and you can invite who you want. It is quite easy to avoid each other on the day
So sorry you are in this situation! x
Do you need to tell her? You could just say nothing and make sure they are seated well apart. It's up to your mum to manage her own behaviour on the day.
If the subject comes up in conversation then tell her but if not then don’t go stressing about it. It’s not your problem who’s talking to who. Just enjoy your day x
If you really not very close just bring it up in casual conversation next time you see or talk to her, if she has an issue you just tell her it’s your day and you’re inviting who you like. I’d also make sure to that no drama is acceptable at a wedding and if she has a problem with it she doesn’t have to come! May be harsh but it’s YOUR DAY
I had to do something similar with a relative and I told them 'I'm letting you know out of respect *** will be at the wedding, I hope you can respect our decision to invite them and you won't let it ruin our day. You don't have to speak to them but I think it's important you are forewarned." This was respected and they understood my choice. This also stopped any anxiety I had about the day.
just tell her out right and explain if she had any care for you should would deal with it after all its your day not hers xx