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UKbride Member Request 14 Jan 2019

Pushing back the wedding date and family issues

Has anyone else had to push back their wedding date? How did you guys feel? My partner has returned to study a PGCE to become a key stage 2 (7-11 year olds) teacher and I still have one more year at university. We have both been working so hard to save but everytime some other financial hurdel happens. Be are both having issues with our families as well (his don't particularly like me) and we are currently over 300miles away from each other and will be until January 2020 as our courses are in opposite ends of the country. I just feel like this wedding is never going to happen and with my mum in such poor health I'm worried the more we push it back the more likely it is she won't be able to be there. Sorry just need some comforting I guess and to know I'm not the only one going through difficult times.

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Charlotte Wright
Charlotte Wright 14 Jan 2019

Aww bless you, don't worry I'm sure everything will work out and you will get married. Maybe it'll just take some time, we have also had financial hurdles and we got through them. I'm also getting married at 2020 but in December so I have time to save for the wedding of my dreams. I hope your mum gets better soon. I hope this will comfort you and cheer you up a little. If you need anyone to talk to then I'm here to listen if need to be. :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Jan 2019

We had to keep pushing ours... my husbands ex cut access completely so had to pay to go court, then had to buy a bigger car so they could all fit... we got married eventually, but my beloved nan had died by that point... we got married under £2,000 in the end. Do what you want. If mums important to you, just have a cheap wedding, you can always redo later in a bigger style if you wish xx

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UKbride Administrator 15 Jan 2019

I had to push mine back twice. The first time because our son came along and the second due to finances. Its a little dishartening but its finally happening this year and i couldnt be happier. Im more excited about this date as i feel weve worked harder and overcome more to make it happen. Im glad we pushed ours back x

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UKbride Administrator 15 Jan 2019

You could always have a small ceremony at a town hall (I know for example that Leeds town hall does a £50 special once a month for the happy couple and two witnesses) with your mum and anyone else you really want to be there, then go for a meal. There’s always time for big celebrations later, the emotional heart of the wedding is the ceremony and if you want your Mum there you should seize the day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Jan 2019

You could always have a small ceremony at a town hall (I know for example that Leeds town hall does a £50 special once a month for the happy couple and two witnesses) with your mum and anyone else you really want to be there, then go for a meal. There’s always time for big celebrations later, the emotional heart of the wedding is the ceremony and if you want your Mum there you should seize the day.

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 15 Jan 2019

With regards to saving up it really depends what you want. You can do a wedding on a budget and you don't have to spend £20k to have a beautiful day. Having a smaller and more intimate wedding to simply celebrate your love and share a day with your nearest and dearest may be a good option for you. You don't need an expensive dress, huge letters spelling love, masses of flowers etc. - that's not what the day is about after all! Wedding venues also often offer last minute deals and better prices in quieter months which is a good way to save some money too?

It's a hard situation but it will get better! The benefits of you both studying will outweigh this short time apart and don't forget that you will have the rest of your lives to spend together. Try not to stress and just think that every week which passes is a week closer to your wedding! :-)

Jane Stephens-Lane
Jane Stephens-Lane 15 Jan 2019

We have had to push ours back twice now due to partner having cancer we have now booked a small wedding in July his year it's not wot we wanted but we will still be married and that's wot counts xxx

Allison Craig
Allison Craig 15 Jan 2019

Im getting married in 2020 too. Im a PhD student and will finish this year so have done most of the planning while studying. It is really stressful but I have managed so far. Do what you feel is right. Remember that your degree is your solid foundation to build a career on :) xx

Meghan McCrimmon
Meghan McCrimmon 15 Jan 2019

Big hugs. Maybe have a small ceremony and then save up for a big party in a few years when you’ve got jobs and a bit more disposable income?

Matilda Harding
Matilda Harding 15 Jan 2019

We're the same as I'm at university myself and not long had a baby. However when the day comes it will be/ feel more worthwhile. If he's worth it he'll be worth the wait and when the day finally comes you'll be able to look back and see what you have achieved in that time!

Savanna Green
Savanna Green 16 Jan 2019

Thank you guys for you support comment and advice xxx

Erica Trimmer
Erica Trimmer 17 Jan 2019

Both me an my partner are getting married December 2020 we live an hour away (so not as far) but still difficult. We are trying to save to move in together and the wedding which is really hard so I know exactly how you feel. I have said if we have to move the wedding back we will do (as hard as it will be) I say have a small wedding so all the family can be there then plan something a little bigger when you have a little more spare cash 😊

Jessica Bateman
Jessica Bateman 25 Jan 2019

How about having a small intimate wedding with just family and then when you can have a blessing and s big party, that why you know your mum has seen you get married. Xx

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