Kirstie Lawrence
Kirstie Lawrence 2 Jan 2019

Where to start

Where do you start? I don’t really have a mum since she left when I was a teenager and my stepmom is the best but she’s very busy. My fiancé and I work so much that we have no time for anything and it scares me that we will just be engaged for life. Literally have no idea what you’re supposed to do or what an ideal budget is! Any help would be amazing!

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Cherie Faherty
Cherie Faherty 3 Jan 2019

Do you know what kind of day you want in mind? Venue I think is a good place to start have a look at different ones and the difference is prices venue and reception etc is probably the biggest cost for most.. or go to any wedding fairs coming up always a good place to start too xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

I feel your pain! my fiance and I both work a lot, so usually the time we have together were eating tea, then getting ready for work again. We've set a side this weekend to sit for a good few hours and decide on what we want, who to invite and what we can realistically save and the time frame. I started off with buying bridal magazines / visited a few wedding fayres to get an idea of themes, suppliers and what I didn't want. I've made a scrap book of ideas and I know what venue I wanted which was a big start. just have fun with it too it's meant to be enjoyable xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Ideal budget is what you can afford, don’t overspend and get yourself in debt paying for one day.
Start by deciding the basics, date, how much you can afford, what kind of day you want and what you want from the day (other than getting married of course) who you want there, location (local or destination wedding)
You’d be surprised at how much you can get done with a little amount of time, depending on how much of a perfectionist you are, I booked my venue, cake, photographer and photo booth over the phone, didn’t even see my venue until the day of the wedding and everything else was organised in 1 or two meetings with the suppliers.
Do a lot of research, shop around and don’t be afraid to be a bit cheeky and ask for discounts, offers, extras etc or ask any friends and family for help (even if it’s little things like calling venues/suppliers getting quotes and information)
The best advice I can give is to just jump in and make a start otherwise you’ll just keep putting it off.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Go to wedding fairs and see what is available. See what you need to do and write a list. Book the venue and church first then shop around for everything else. Take your time, work out a budget. There is no need to rush booking anything, you have the rest of your lives together.

Courtney Cox
Courtney Cox 3 Jan 2019

We were engaged for 9 years and didn’t even think about a wedding until a year before we did it! There’s no pressure to do it all at once and right now, just because you are engaged. Of course you’re excited, but don’t let us stress you out to the point where you don’t enjoy planning your dream day. Have a chat about what you would both like, get as crazy as you want, then think about what’s actually important to you to have on your day. Write a list of people you couldn’t imagine not sharing the whole day with you, then you have an idea of the size of venue you’re looking for. Most let you book two years in advance, so you’ve got plenty of time plan and build everything from there 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Start with your venue and go from there! I was terrified at first but it all fell into place fairly easily. Decide what you're happy to pay for each thing and stick to it, you don't need all the extras

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

If you’re really struggling for time I’d seriously consider getting a Wedding Planner who can help with as much as possible.

Wedding fairs are great if you want to gather ideas and inspiration and meet some local suppliers.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

I'm the same, my mum lives quite far away and we have full time jobs and 3 kids under the age of 5 so pretty stretched time wise. We set a rough budget, decided we wanted a churchins ceremony so booked that, got my dress and booked a photigrapher, everything else is just ideas really. More or less got a reception venue sorTed so just need to get invites out. I would say vensues, guest list photigrapher and dressee are the big ones! Good luck. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

My first move was research what venues were available in my area within my budget. We fell in love with the first one. We then had an idea of what was included in the package and what we needed to get. That's when the wedding fairs came in but mainly I looked online tbh because of time constraints. I got an app as well that gave a breakdown of what you needed to do when as well x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

I would consider getting yourself a wedding planner someone who can dedicate the time in planning your day for you.
I would also do a mood board of all the things you would like so they have something to work from.
Also get friends involved so you have someone to talk about the wedding planning with X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Venue first get an idea of the cost for that !! The rest get yourself to one of the big wedding fayres speak to different supplier and get an idea of their prices then build your budget from there xx you will have to sacrifice constantly but I’d deffo start by looking at the type of venue you want and getting a rough idea xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Get a look at different venues, I started by going along to a bunch of wedding fayres held at venues I had been to previous weddings at to get an idea of different packages and prices. It's also a good way to meet local suppliers for everything from bridal wear to invites to flowers to table favours! I felt a bit overwhelmed when we first got engaged but going to wedding fayres helped loads and I chilled right out while planning everything!

Keisha Hull
Keisha Hull 3 Jan 2019

Find a checklist online and cross out all of the things that aren't important to you. Then with the stuff that is left write down ideally how much you would like to spend on each. Once you tally it all you'll have a better idea of what your happy with, of if the price horrifies you. Have a quick browse at general prices for things and if they are within your budget enough to get a wedding planner do so. I'm organising mine with next to no help. The checklist is always the best thing to have if you have no clue where to start.

Kristin Todd
Kristin Todd 3 Jan 2019

budget first I'd say, unless money is no option of course :)...always figure out how much you can/want to spend before looking at venues cause you run the risk of falling in love with somewhere that might be out of your price range. Then I'd sit down and make a rough guest list, doesn't have to be specific, just to get an idea of numbers. then go from there.
:) good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Here’s a rough idea on a checklist you can see what’s important to your day, and work out what budget will suit you. We were engaged for 10 years as things kept happening, putting a strain on finances. Don’t panic about time frame, even when we did start looking and booking, we had a year and a half to sort it all. xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

A lot of venues do packages with lots included so gives you less to organise as the venue does it for you x

Francine Quartey
Francine Quartey 3 Jan 2019

Start booking a venue first and then start from there. I get married July 1st next year!! Already booked venue last July
sent our invites except the dress. All we gotta do is pay the registra and the venue

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jan 2019

Look at what you would like style if dress etc flowers etc ask for old magazines on sites locally and shop around for a good deal . No such thing as a good budget it is whatever you can afford . Congratulations

Helen Sharp
Helen Sharp 4 Jan 2019

If you might have a big guest list, make a list first - most venues in the city I'm getting married in were too small for mine 🙈

Kelly Chilcott
Kelly Chilcott 6 Jan 2019

I’d definitely advise getting the BrideBook app, it gives a breakdown of estimated costs depending on your budget and has a checklist for each month leading to your wedding, it’s brilliant and free! X

Kirstie Lawrence
Kirstie Lawrence 6 Jan 2019

Thank you so much ladies!!! Really looking forward to getting started x

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 7 Jan 2019

We are saving up £200 a month for 3 years this is what we can afford without effecting our day to day living try that first how much can you set aside with getting your self stuck then find a venue you like pick a date then just start planning every thing else people are always busy but I'm sure you will get the help you need x

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