Courtney Taylor
Courtney Taylor 28 Dec 2018

I need some advice

I'm wondering if anyone can give me and my fiancé advice on how to plan a lesbian wedding it's a little confusing due to the fact one of us wants to wear a dress the other doesn't and we're wondering who should walk down the Isle and how does it work with brides maids and grooms men? Any thoughts or opinions?

Shauna McIlhennon
Shauna McIlhennon 28 Dec 2018

I'm marrying my partner in 2020. We are having bridesmaids and bridesmen. The men will act as ushers, walk the mums down and that. We are walking down the aisle separately. My partner is staying in venue night before so she will walk down 1st and I will wait in car until she's out of sight

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Everything is basically the same except the fact you’re the same gender. If one of you doesn’t want to wear a dress then the other one can. Personally I’d let the person wearing the dress walk down the isle but it’s personal preference. You can have bridesmaids and groomsmen if you like. It’s entirely up to you. You can have whatever you want. Civil ceremonies are pretty much whatever you want. As long as you have the money to pay for it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

It's the same as a heterosexual wedding except you're both the same sex. There are no rules that say you both have to wear dresses, or that you can't have men in your bridal party. Sit with your fiancee and talk about what you want. There are wedding timelines online that can be used as a guide

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Me and my wife had 3 bridesmaids each, and 1 best man who acted for us both and had the rings. She walked down the aisle with her dad and bridesmaids first then I walked down with mine .. it's all about how you want to do it and what works for you.. We both wore dresses. We both stayed in the venue and the manager brought us out the rooms strategically so we didn't see each other until we got to the front x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Just do whatever you both feel most comfortable with. Have a look at for inspiration.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Hey lovely, me and my wife got married in September, she wore a suit and I wore a dress because that’s how we are more comfortable. If I’m completely honest, our wedding was absolutely no different to a straight wedding! We chatted about what we wanted and I really wanted my dad to walk me down the isle and my wife didn’t want that big show, so she waited for me just like a man would. But it’s completely up to you, chat with each other about what you want, you can both walk down separate or you can walk in together, or one of you can wait at the front, whatever you feel most comfortable with! If you have any questions you can private message me, I absolutely loved every second of wedding planning and am happy to help you with any questions! Congrats on getting engaged and Most importantly make sure you relax and enjoy planning! X

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 28 Dec 2018

My goddaughter recently got married. Her partner wore a dress and walked down the aisle with her father and my goddaughter was in a suit waiting for her exactly as a bride and groom would do

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

I recommend having a look at LGBTQ Equality Weddings and the hashtag #youdontneedtoaskhere where you'll find suppliers and ideas

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Do whatever you want. Walk down together. Walk down separately with whoever is closest to you. Walk down with your friends. Any wedding nowadays can throw convention out of the window without needing labels. Do what you want and enjoy x

Abbey Flint
Abbey Flint 28 Dec 2018

I don't have personal experience however a lesbian couple I know got married last year and they walked down together which I thought was lovely, at the end of the day do whatever you and your fiancée will be happy with, it's your day to cherish x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Feel free to visit our blog and suppliers directory for lots of inspiration and contacts!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Our view - there are no specific traditions, so pick and choose what you want or would like to do

Alexandra L'Oiseau
Alexandra L'Oiseau 28 Dec 2018

I’m a bridesmaid in a same sex wedding. Both the girls have picked their own bridesmaids and also have a couple of men who they’re calling ‘brides men’ which I love. In regards to dresses, just wear what you both feel comfortable in! There are no rules, it’s both your day and do whatever you want to do and are both happy with! Maybe both of you walk down the aisle, one at a time if you both wanted to walk down the aisle, then why not! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

It's your day so make it yours why follow 'rules' as long as you are both happy with what you choose that's all that matters xx

Hanna Smitham
Hanna Smitham 28 Dec 2018

My sister got married to a man but she had a man of honour.

Laura Kate
Laura Kate 28 Dec 2018

It’s entirely up to you. Me and my fiancée are getting married in July (we’re both wearing dresses). We talked beforehand about how the ceremony will happen and we decided one will walk down the aisle then the other will after. You don’t have to do it traditionally “how a man and woman” would.
It’s just what you would feel comfortable with. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

My friend's sister married another girl and they both wore suits. Another couple I knew both wore dresses. It's just whatever you both personally are comfortable with. I think one dress and one suit would be fab! And you run your day whatever way you like! Good luck x

Suzanne Marie
Suzanne Marie 28 Dec 2018

You can literally do what you like! We are mixing it up completely. Just do what feels right for you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

Do it any way that feels right to you, I just shot a wedding where they arranged the chairs to make two aisle that merged into one, so they came down the left and right hand side aisle with their dads and then in the middle let their dads go ahead and then walked the rest of the way in together.

Amy Carr
Amy Carr 28 Dec 2018

Whatever you feel comfortable with! Whatever you want... Both wear a suit both wear a dress, both go naked? Go crazy! It's your day. Good luck and all the best for the future ❤️❤️ it will be a day you never forget!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Dec 2018

I got married in March. I wore a dress, my wife wore a suit because that's just how we're comfortable. We didn't have a massive wedding but if you want any advice DM me x

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 28 Dec 2018

I’m of the opinion that all weddings are pretty much the same to plan .. it’s two people in love wanting to commit to each other for life. Everything else is jut semantics.

Have a discussion about budget, numbers and each other’s ‘ideal’ wedding and meet in the middle.

Just remember that as long as at the end of your wedding day your married it was a successful wedding !

Kim Domican
Kim Domican 29 Dec 2018

Wear whatever you want. I've been to a lesbian wedding where both brides were escorted down the aisle by their dads. In fact one had both dad and stepdad.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Dec 2018

Do what both of you want to do. My fiancee and I are getting married in November 19 I am wearing a dress and she is wearing a suit. We both have engagement rings and I am walking down the aisle whereas she is standing up at the top. Whatever you do just make sure it is right for you. Remember it is your day so you do what will make you both happy

Ellie Hulme
Ellie Hulme 29 Dec 2018

For my sisters wedding, they walked down the aisle with the dads but one after each other. They each had a maid of honour and then the bridesmaid were 2 each from each of them (if that makes sense). The ushers were men close in their family so like the brother in laws or brothers etc.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 Dec 2018

Do it however you want. You could walk down the aisle together? Don't have to have separate bride and groom parties have a group of close friends to lead or follow you down the aisle. If you want to wear a suit and your fiancee wants a dress that's fine, a lady i know and her wife had matching dresses in different colours.

UKbride Member 30 Dec 2018

Why don't you both walk down the aisle? ??

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 30 Dec 2018

just do what feels right for you you can do almost anything these day you could both wear dresses or one and you can both walk down the ailse just one get there earlier so you don't see each other x

Carrie Moore
Carrie Moore 30 Dec 2018

I went to my friends wedding and she and her now-wife entered through the opposite sides of the church! It was magical as they both made their grand entrance together without seeing each other first (only down side- it gets tearful for everyone as it's so sweet and your make up may be ruined💖)

Jessica Bateman
Jessica Bateman 2 Jan 2019

Why don’t you both walk down together, or both walk down with your dads one at a time.

Alex Perkins
Alex Perkins 7 Jan 2019

Do whatever makes you both feel comfortable! It’s your wedding! You can both come in at the same time from the sides if you like! Congratulations to you and your partner btw x


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