UKbride Member Request 2 Nov 2018

Has anyone else had post-wedding blues? I got married 3 weeks ago and am...

Has anyone else had post-wedding blues? I got married 3 weeks ago and am utterly thrilled to be with the love of my life but with the focus having been on the wedding for the last 2 years I now feel slightly... deflated and a bit blue as it's all over and went unbelievably fast! I've heard that this is an incredibly normal reaction but I'm feeling really down and incredibly emotional. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over this and feel better? I don't want my lovely new husband to feel that it's any reflection on him but I just can't seem to snap out of this :-(

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 2 Nov 2018

You could make a scrap book with your wedding cards or a photo album with the photos guests have taken. Otherwise it sounds like you need to arrange a nice day out with you and your husband to give you something to look forward to.

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 2 Nov 2018

It's been 3 weeks for me too and I am starting my next project...redecorating our house 😂 whilst still doing some wedding stuff like sorting our photos out and doing thank you cards etc. The aim is to keep busy so you don't getting the post wedding blues!

Cathy McBrearty
Cathy McBrearty 2 Nov 2018

We got married in July and I felt the exact same. I stayed in all the wedding groups I had joined, so that I could offer advice to other B2B. You still have lots of post wedding things to do, like choosing photo albums, writing thank you cards etc. Once that is all done, set yourself a new project to focus on xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

Start planning wedding number 2!
I felt the same after my wedding a year ago so i had a chat with hubby and said how much i wanted to do it again so we decided to renew our vows for our 10th wedding anniversary and do it all over again. That instantly cheeres me up. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

Yes its horrible i got married in May just gone and still feel blue about it i really really want to renew our vows in 10 years time sp we can do it again lol xx

Amy Orourke
Amy Orourke 2 Nov 2018

I felt exactly the same I couldn’t stop crying or feeling down. Obsessing over the day too and all the details. I am now 6 weeks today down and starting to feel much better so give it some time 😬 xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

I got married last week...and do not miss the planning at all
I have 6month old twins to keep me busy!! Maybe you could find a new hobby?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

We got married in April and I was lucky enough to have a second wedding at home in August to look forward to. Now that it is all over I am glad but now comes the blues of paying them off and constantly being asked “when are you having a baby?” This makes me more emotional than anything because I would love to say when but until it happens I just have to smile awkwardly and carry on with the conversation.

Charlotte Ward
Charlotte Ward 2 Nov 2018

Isn't that when you start trying for a baby, or doing up the house?

Joanne Oliver
Joanne Oliver 2 Nov 2018

I got married in August and feel like it went so quickly.. I don't really remember much of it.. It didn't help I had a bad infection in my ankle.. Already told my husband we will be renewing our vows at 10years!!!!

Lucy Timms
Lucy Timms 2 Nov 2018


Rebecca Taylor
Rebecca Taylor 2 Nov 2018

YES! We got married and went straight on honeymoon, got back and literally felt so depressed. Then felt sad for feeling blue because we just had the most amazing time! Start making future plans together, re watch videos/photos... re live it. <3

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

I got married almost 5 months ago now and I think your feelings are quite normal. I too felt the same for a few weeks after, I think because you've been planning for so long and the day goes by so quickly it feels as though you've missed it, even though it was an amazing day ️
You have lots to look forward too though, your wedding album pics to choose. Pictures the guests have taken, your thank you cards to write and looking back at the pictures will make all the moments you perhaps may have forgotten throughout the day come flooding back. ️
Enjoy time with your husband and perhaps go on a couple of date nights or a day out to take your mind off of things ️ hope your feeling better soon ️ xx

Sarah Kenyon
Sarah Kenyon 2 Nov 2018

I got married end of June and I’ve still got wedding blues I would love to do it all over again as the whole day went so fast x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

Yes! We got married in August last year, I was really down for quite a long time! Still sometimes get it now..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Nov 2018

Yes! Two years in and I still haven’t quite gotten over it!

Belinda Ann Welbourne
Belinda Anne Bingley 2 Nov 2018

Six weeks married and feel exactly same love my married life but miss all the planning and excitement want to do it all again think it's quite normal

Amy Jones
Amy Jones 3 Nov 2018

Completely normal!! I got married a year ago and had blues for around 4-5 months after. Even on our anniversary a couple of weeks ago I got a little sad that it’s been a year already 🙈

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 3 Nov 2018

Enjoy writing thank you letters as it takes ages , look at photos & video ,
Ask wedding guests to send you of any of their photos = pop them into albums otherwise they will never get done !
Enjoy gardening as therapeutic , still time to plant some spring bulbs to cheer you up next spring in pots or borders .....

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 3 Nov 2018

Start working on your relationship ,
like spring bulbs need stuff to grow ...
Sat mornings we swop our next weekly diaries with each other , Monday nites with our cheap cinema insider card we watch films , Friday nite is date night ....
Also keep up with girlfriends as good to keep a balance , Tuesday nites each week I visit a girlfriend ......
Start saving , my hobby is travel as I have an Aussie travel bug = if you ever want tips on locating bargain flights I can help !!
Loads of love to you Sarah xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Nov 2018

No..get a grip and get a life 🤦‍️🤦‍️

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 5 Nov 2018

Firstly, Emma - when someone is clearly in emotional distress comments such as yours are just spiteful. If you don't have anything constructive to say I would suggest refraining from saying anything at all.

For the person who posted this - I completely understand your feelings and it is perfectly normal to feel this way. You have been focusing on this event for a few years now and it's natural to feel sad that it's over and be at a loss as to what to do with your time now that the day has happened. You are not alone!

My advice would be to not taint your amazing wedding day by thinking about how sad you are it's over. Remember all the amazing things that happened and how happy you felt and what fantastic memories you both have. This was a celebration of your love and the most important thing is that you married the love of your life! That's something to be awed about not sad about.

It's time to look ahead now, not back, and think of all the amazing memories you have yet to make and the wonderful married life you can build with your lovely new husband.

By all means be sad that your big day has gone but don't let it spoil your future happiness and your new marriage. Afterall, the wedding was just one day and your marriage will be for life!

Good luck and be strong - you will get through this and in a few weeks/months you will only remember the amazing time you had and how happy you are in your new married life!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2018

Yes! We have the house and the kids already so 2 weeks ago we got this little guy who is a cute distraction!

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Ophelia Beatrice Lyon
Ophelia Beatrice Lyon 8 Nov 2018

I’m so worried about this, it’s over two years away and I’m already stressed out of my mind and it’s one day and I’m thinking of anyway to make it last longer..👀


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