Tracey Hardy
Tracey Hardy 23 Oct 2018

It’s both of our second time around marriage. I feel we shouldn’t go big...

It’s both of our second time around marriage. I feel we shouldn’t go big as we’re both older but everyone keeps telling me to go for it! What are your thoughts please?

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Andrea Allison
Andrea Allison 23 Oct 2018

We will be 54 and 55 when we get married in August. Both been married before. Our wedding is panning out over 4 weeks.
Getting married in a castle ground with a small reception and a boat trip. Then onto our honeymoon for two weeks. Then having a huge evening reception week later.
It's your day, do whatever you want.

Abbey Lawson
Abbey Lawson 23 Oct 2018

I've never understood why people would go any smaller because it's not their first wedding xx

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 23 Oct 2018

You can do anything you like. Small/ big, or lots of ice cream!!! 😍

Kirsty Lea
Kirsty Lea 23 Oct 2018

Do what makes you happy 💕 xxx

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 23 Oct 2018

Whatever makes you both happy! Makes no difference if it your 1st 2nd or 5th!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

I’m getting married for second time and we are doing what we want and it’s going to be fairly big . Do what u want xx

Rebecca Sullivan
Rebecca Sullivan 23 Oct 2018

Do whatever makes you happy. Second time round for us too and we are having the wedding we want blow what anyone else thinks

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

Age doesn’t matter.. you should totally do what you both want! It’s my second marriage too, and we’re doing it exactly the way we want it perfect opportunity to have the wedding you actually *want* whether that’s big or small! X

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 23 Oct 2018

We are both 2nd marriages and we are having exactly what we want. Church, wedding dress, suit hire, reception fireworks etc etc do what ever you want as it’s your day xx

Belinda Ann Welbourne
Belinda Anne Bingley 23 Oct 2018

Go big it's your day, this was us 5 weeks ago both of us nearly 50 yrs old and 2nd marriages but why should that make a difference we spent over £20, 000 and had the most magical day ever x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

Have to agree with everyone else, do what you both want. My wedding next June is the 1st time for both of us, we're just keeping it simple cos of finances, but also we want it that way 🤗

Jenn Lea
Jenn Lea 23 Oct 2018

I would say nobody else’s opinion counts but you & your husband to be.
My fiancé’s Nanna said and I quote “if it’s not in a church, it’s not a wedding” well I never!
I respect my elders, absolutely but what a statement to make.
We are conducting our wedding as we see fit for US. If there are people that disagree or dislike our wedding celebrations then we shall let them lay with them. As it is about us. We don’t wish to upset anyone but it is about the union of us initially then our families as whole to come together xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

Go for it. I married my husband in May this year. It was second time around for both of us.. we both turned 40 last year but we didn't feel at all like we shouldn't make it the best day ever. We hired an amazing venue, had the big dress and everything we wanted just the way we wanted it.

Just because it's your second time it doesn't make it any less special. It doesn't change the sentiment. The reason behind wanting to marry someone is no less significant than the first time round... in many ways it's more special.

Do it... Go for it!

Make it what you want it to be and don't let anyone tell you to rein it in because you've done it once before.

Beth Collicott
Beth Collicott 23 Oct 2018

We are in our 40's and are doing EXACTLY what we want. For us that is different from most, small outside wedding with only 13 people, no parents or siblings, just our kids and close friends. Some people don't agree but I don't care in the slightest!! Our wedding, our rules 😁👌

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

It was my second marriage, my first one was registry office and pub hall but this time I went big, whole venue for the day, sit down meal and yes the big dress. I loved ever minute of it. I'd say go for it.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

Go for it, just because your older and wiser doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have the wedding you dream of...We just had our dream wedding and a full blown ceremony and reception this Saturday and we’re in our 50’s, life’s too short to worry about what others think x

Mark Humphreys
Mark Humphreys 23 Oct 2018

2nd time for both of us also and both older, we're going big why not we're allowed to feel beautiful not matter what age we are or of we've been married 10 times before xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

Do What makes you happy. It's mine and my finder's 2nd wedding & we are doing exactly what we want.... having the venue of our dreams but keeping the guests to a more select group of people who are involved and frequently in our lives now. We aren't inviting people of the sake of it, those 'fringe' people can come to the evening . Do What makes you both happy - Good luck!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

It's your day ignore everyone else and do what feels right for you both. Also if you want a big day go for it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

I was 57 and my husband 63. Have a look at Scottish Wedding Directory p183 and see our magical day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

It’s my 2nd time and his first . I want big so big is what we are doing . Age is irrelevant, 2nd time you are more mature and it feels right

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 23 Oct 2018

Go for it ,
Why are you not allowed
to have a Special day ??......
It's only a number , stay young at heart don't be dictated to ....
Enjoy yourself why not ?!!
Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

I was 52 and my husband was 55 years old. Initially was going to be a registry office wedding (husband was divorced), then a blessing in Church and ended up being a full church wedding . Loved every minute of our day. Made even more special as my husband died last year from the cancer he was suffering with when we got married. Go for whatever makes you two happy, you’ll never regret it.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Oct 2018

We had our wedding in a hotel with all the works..both in our 40/50 .go for it if u want.xx

Alexandra L'Oiseau
Alexandra L'Oiseau 23 Oct 2018

Do what YOU want xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Oct 2018

I'm 63 and my fiancé is 65 we are having a registry office wedding in May. I'm not wearing a white or cream dress but my dress is long but a nice colour we only having at least 10 people and in June as I have some family in Suffolk We will be having celebration party for them, also later in the year (September) we are going to invite all of our friends and family to a celebration party. So do what you both want if it's a big wedding go for or a quiet wedding then go for that too. One of my friends elope in Gretna green and no body knew that they got married until they said x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Oct 2018

Do whatever you want to do!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Oct 2018

The way I am looking it for me and my fiance is that it may be 2nd marriages for both of us but it's a 1st marriage for us and why shouldn't we have a wedding to share with our friends and family. It's our day not our previous partners so we are celebrating it our way.
Our Day
Our Way.
We will be 58 & 56 when we get married next May.
Good luck

Theresa Lee
Theresa Lee 28 Oct 2018

It's second time for both me and h2b. He had big white wedding 1st time, I had very small informal wedding. We decided to have big white wedding this time.
It's your big day have it how you want, not others peoples. Just make sure you make it personalised for both of you to enjoy. If you want small then do that. Enjoy.

Sam Diyan
Sam Diyan 28 Oct 2018

I'm a third time around bride, my mum doesn't think I should wear a wedding dress but I'm going to anyway, I have brought my dress and can't wait to wear it and feel like s princess again, even at the age of 45 (when I marry) the dress in the photo is not the one I chose but the style is

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Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 31 Oct 2018

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable but don't be held back simply because it's your second marriage. The day is a celebration of yours and your partner's love so go as big or as small as you want!

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 21 Nov 2018

do what makes you and your h2b happy xx

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