Looking for some help please as our top table is causing too much stress. Has anyone sat their parents together on the top table so my parents would be on my side and the other halves on his. The only way we can get certain people on it is on the proviso they don’t have to sit in the traditional order. Thanks
Yes mine are together. Want people to be comfortable. Do what’s right for you. There are no rules xx
Iv stresses so much over top table I got step parents on both sides but we have settled for mother and step dad of the groom my partners side and my mum and step dad my side . Best man and bridesmaids are sitting with there families xx
It was a nightmare for me to do top table. Like you said you people to be with you but it’s also your day in the end.
We’ve got 20 on ours
H2b and me in the middle then my side is MOH, her partner and then my parents
His said his best man and his partner and then grooms parents on the end like mine.
Hope this helps and good luck xxxx
I had both my parents on my side and hubby's parents were on his, we thought they would enjoy themselves better that way!
My parents sat together, my husband's parents sat together. We figured everyone wants to be by their other halves
My top table will be our wedding party. You don’t have to stick with traditions
We did it not in traditional order x
Because I have step parents in the mix we havnt put any parents on the top table just us the bridesmaids and best man that way no one gets upset about not being on there. Then only thing that’s caused any stress in my wedding is the bloody seating plan xx
I'm having a sweet heart table (me and h2b) saves the stress
Your wedding, have who ever you want on your top table. Neither me or HTB fathers are around so we will have a few extra to bulk it out. As long as you at happy
Ours is just us two 🙂
Ours is going to be just me OH and our daughter in her high chair and our son will be in a bouncer or his pram by the side of us x
You have it the way you want. Don't need to follow traditions. We aren't even having our parents on the top table!
We had a sweetheart table and it worked really well. Just my husband and I and when people made speeches they just care and stood next to us It was lovely. We got to chat and catch up with each other... it’s such a busy day and it was lovely to actually talk to each other x x x
Both of our parents are divorced but they get along so my mam and dad are sitting next to me on the top table and his next to him and step parents are sitting on a normal table with grandparents
His Gran mum Dad him me my dad mum Gran
Then we have a 2nd top table for best men bridesmaid and close friends with partners sat with them 🙂
Yeah. Mine was best man, minister and my mum and stepdad, and on the other side was the inlaws and my dad and his missus. I did t want the step parents to be split from my parents. Seated in couples is the better option.
I had my aunt & uncle on my side and his mom & partner on my husbands side. Do what feels right. Hope you have a wonderful day.
We had from left to right... grooms dad, grooms mum, my mum, groom, me, my dad, step mum, best man
We are having a sweetheart table, just us.
Yeah I sat my parents on my side and my husband's were next to him. Do whatever you want and works for you and your family so your actual day isn't stressful x
No parents at my top table. Do what YOU want x
It's your wedding, sit everyone where you want. I sat next to my mum because I wanted to and she was next to her partner
We just had us two on the top table was nice to get chance to catch up with each other and things :)
Sweetheart table for us with a mic set up next to it so people can come up to give speeches
We’re having a circle table as a top table for this reason c
We are only doing me and my other half groomsmen and bridesmaids no parents
We had ours so we had best man, my parents, me, my husband, his parents and maid of honour. It worked well and felt more comfortable this way x
We decided to not have a top table because no matter who we put on the top someone would have been offended (divorced mum with new family and step mum, dad no longer with us). We had a small table with just the bride and groom and we spent the whole night mingling around the other tables, never really sat at our table except to briefly eat
What is the traditional order? I was planning on me and h2b in the center, then next to me my daughter, my dad and my MOH then on the other side Hubby, his mum and dad and the best man is that not the norm? X
We have decided to not sit our parents on the top table so they can sit with other family. It’ll just be my H2B & me, Best man and his wife & my Maid of Honour with her partner. That means everyone sits with people they love 2 months tomorrow ️
I had my parents sit together at both my weddings. There are no set rules so you can sit folk wherever you want to.
We had a round table but my parents sat at my side hubbys next to him and my moh and best man between my mum and his dad
Have a sweetheart table. Takes all this out of the equation and you two can have a short time to talk. Once the reception starts you probably wont have any time to talk to one another.
We didn't have a top table either, most people like to see with family and friends. We had a small table just me and hubby and tables were situated in squares around the room in front of us. We had no place cards everyone sat where they wanted. No stress, no worries. It's you and h2b day enjoy it. Some people still like tradition but it causes so many issues for b2b and h2b. Have a lovely day
On ours we had
Best men, mother of groom, father of groom, our son, groom, bride, our daughter, father of bride, step mum of bride, my mum, my step dad
And that worked out ok, you can have the top table how ever you want it what works for you
We got married 2 weeks ago and just had a sweetheart table. It worked perfectly for us and our guests x
We did. I had.. left to right.. MOH, my mum, my dad, me, hubby, his mum, his dad, BM x
I had my parents my side and my hubbys parents on his side. Just thought it’s easier for people to sit next to people they know really well rather than next to someone they don’t know so well and feel awkward. They all get on fine it was just what I wanted to happen
It's your wedding, you can sit people where ever you want to!
If you wanted to make it look natural but avoid people sitting together, would putting boys on hubby side and girls on yours work? Or we are having boy, girl, boy, which naturally breaks up some tense relations without looking obvious x
I had this layout as my mum has Alzheimer’s and didn’t want my FIL to feel awkward so I had my MOH my mum my dad then my husband sat next to him and myself MIL, FIL and best man hope this helps xx
We did exactly as you want to..traditional table plan would work for very few, enjoy your day xxx
For mine we are going to have groom bride and our two kids everyone else is on normal tables and we are not doing a seating plan x
Someone will always be offended so just do what you want, who cares about tradition it's your day :)
I had my parents next to me and my husband's were next to him.
I really dont think people really know or expect top table 'tradition' anymore? Just do what is right for your situation & I'm sure none of your guests will even notice!
Im sitting my parents together forget traditions do whatever you want!