Hey all! So basically my future sister in law who is also a bridesmaid hasn’t paid the deposit for my hen do which was due in May. My MOH has been chasing her and she has been ignoring her messaging for months but replied last week asking for the dates of the hen do again! Which she already has in the Facebook group. What should I do? I feel like she doesn’t want to be bridesmaid anymore
Ask her straight! Not fair to mess you about and she needs to be up front so you can adjust things if that is the case
Ask her what’s going on? Yes she shouldn’t be messing you guys around but maybe there is a good reason why? Like she can’t afford it but is too embarrassed to say? Or she can’t get the off work? Just because she can’t go to your hen doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid. Xx
I would invite her out for a coffee an see if there a reason behind why she hasn’t paid, mayb it’s too expensive what ever it is an she may feel embarrassed about talking about it xx or maybe she can’t sort childcare or feel she’s not ready to leave a young baby, I wouldn’t just assume she’s not interested, you don’t know what’s or if she’s going through something personal x
Sometimes I think a soon to be bride sorta forgets that other ppl have there own home lives to deal with and feel honerd to be apart of a wedding but build ups to weddings are expensive and time consuming and I know that as a working mum of two under 3s I don’t have spare time or money for others x I mean this in a polite way, just talk to her an her attitude may be positive for you but her personal situation may be that she’s struggling x
I would ring her up and just ask her if she’s still going to the hen do as you need to pay it by XXX and if she hasn’t paid by then you won’t be able to hold her place. And that you don’t want it to come to that if she is still going x
Just book it without her! She hasn’t paid the deposit which was due in may.. just assume she is not going. If she kicks up a fuss, tell her it was due in may and your very sorry but she missed the deadline.
Maybe she just doesn't have the money and is too embarrassed to say? I know I'd make excuses and avoid rather then admit I'm broke which is frequently often x
I honestly don’t think her not wanting or not being able to go to your hen do means she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid, that’s a tad dramatic. Have a heart to heart with her don’t jump to conclusions.
Learning from personal experiences.. if they don't reply they aren't coming.. to the hen do that is.. leave her to be your bridesmaid but hen dos can be a bit difficult when having friends and family x
Just get intouch with her yourself have her round for coffee and chat