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UKbride Member Request 18 Aug 2018

Hi! So, im trying to settle on my maid/man of honour. I have two friends...

Hi! So, im trying to settle on my maid/man of honour. I have two friends (both guys) who have always been there and in recent years we've not spoken as much, because life just gets in the way! Is it still ok to ask them? I'm really anxious they'll say no, which I know is a possibility. Maybe I just feel closer to them than they are to me? Im also worried their, historically jealous, girlfriends would object. The trouble is, I know in my gut they're the two I'd really like at my side on the day. The alternative would be 2 of my cousins which I'd probably be doing just so I had someone.

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Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 20 Aug 2018

I would ask them. If deep down that's who you want all you can do is ask and it's up to them to accept or decline. Good luck x

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UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Ask them. Go with what you want. If having them feels right then go for what would make you happy. If they decline then that's up to them, as for their girlfriends they shouldn't even figure. Good luck. X

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UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

I have 5 bridesmaids in total - my maid/man of honour is my best friend, I am closer to him than the girls and we actually lived together for a year. He said yes, and was delighted to be included. Ask them, you might be surprised.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

its your day ask your 2 male friends good luck

Lynne Banks
Lynne Banks 20 Aug 2018

Ask them, if they say no at least you know where you stand with them

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UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Ask them 100 percent i made this mistake to my best friend we hadn’t fallen out just hadn’t spoken for a while i didn’t ask her with my other maids and it was the worst mistake of my life i did how ever ask her later on and she said yes and i am so so so happy I wouldn’t have been able to do my day without her by my side! Now shes getting married and i have the honour of being her maid of honour defo ask

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UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

% ask them.. You might be surprised xx

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UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Ask them! My fiancé’s best (wo)man lives on the other side of the world in New Zealand! We’ve just been there but prior to that they hadn’t seen each other in over 6 years! She’s coming over with her husband!

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UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Emma Danielle Fitzsimmons so glad you asked me reading this makes me think of us! Less than 5 months to go ️xx

Jess Collins
Jess Collins 20 Aug 2018

I asked my aunty to be mine and I barely speak to her! What matters is the person and how you feel they will support you around and on your big day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Its not compulsory to have a man/ maid of honour. As for jealousy...you are getting married so they shouldn't see you as a threat. It's your day...do things your way x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Have who you like. My husband had a best women

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2018

Ask them. They would probably be only too delighted to do it. Just make sure to ask the girlfriends as well.

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UKbride Administrator 21 Aug 2018

Ask them go with what your heart is telling you at the end of the day it is your special day so go with what you want x

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UKbride Administrator 23 Aug 2018

Ask the people you want to have with you and if they are not going to be there for you do it alone,it feels better than faking it.

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UKbride Administrator 24 Aug 2018

Just ask them and tell them exactly what you just said above that they are the only two you would really love to have by your side on your special day. I think they’ll be really touched x

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