I’m having a long weekend hen party at this caravan site. We are hiring 3 caravans. All been booked and paid for.One of my sister in laws have been stealing money from jobs . She moved in with my other sister in law and stole over £300 off them. Now I’m worried she be stealing off my friends . I can’t not invite her as it cause so arguments . My h2b says says have to deal with that situation when and IF it comes. But it won’t be nice for me to deal with this on my hen party and my friends . I don’t want to cancel as not all of us will get all our money back . But it’s making me feel I don’t want to go. I pray to god she don’t steal . And it’s all ifs and buts. But if she can steal from her jobs , off family she don’t care who she will steal from.
Sorry to say if I can't trust someone I couldn't have them with me, you shouldn't be fearfull of her stealing from everyone on your important weekend/day
Hi I would not have her there :)
Tell the people sharing with her to put their valuables in their travel suitcases with little locks on. Then their items and money is safe, no one has to tip toe around, saves any confrontation and embarassment and you can still enjoy yourselves without having to worry. It's unlikely she'll be on her own at any point anyway with it being a fun filled weekend for your hen do. Good luck!
Totally not invite her to this .....
Instead do something on a 1:1 somewhere else instead so no rejection ,
Just not allowing her to come & steal off all your friends .....
Huge dilemma , so feel for you !!
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Love Sarah xx
its your hen do i wouldnt invite her and i wouldnt have her at the wedding either if you have a house i wouldnt let her in the door better safe than sorry if you do invite her let her stay in your caravan with the other sisters in law so if anything does missing its family not the embarrassment having to deal with friends good luck
I agree, if you can’t un-invite then tell the rest of the party what’s going on, that way they are aware and can lock away their belongings!
You would rather risk her stealing from your friends than cause an argument by telling her not to come?
I’ve been in group situations where things have been pinched, people get drunk and leave cash etc lying around. When it goes missing you can’t prove who’s done it and it upsets everyone.
Ultimately this one person could spoil your whole hen experience, even if she doesn’t steal you will be on edge watching her. I’d tell her she can’t come.
U invite her. Tell her the reason. Alternatively let her know you will be telling all your friends not to leave bags, purses, valuables unattended as she is a thief with no morals if she comes....
Absolutely tell her she’s not coming because of her behaviour. Criminal behaviour. Nope.
If you want her to still be there then you need to sit her down and have a very blunt conversation telling her you will not tolerate her stealing from.anybody and if you find out she has you will call the police on her.
I would also tell the rest of the hen party to make sure they do not leave anything lieing about or unattended.
Good luck and try and enjoy x
Your H2b should be understanding and want what's best for you
Oh this sad i do feel for you but i must agree i would not have her there either could not have the worry of having to think about what she is up too all tbe time and also the embarrassing situation when you have to let others know to be mindful of their belongings.
I think she needs to gain your trust before you allow her to be part of your celebrations x good luck
I think you are going to have to have a word with her if she absolutely has to come. And obviously an embarrassing warning to your friends. Or bite the bullet and insist she isn't coming because she can't be trusted. You are right if she can steal from family, a friend of a friend isn't going to mean anything to her.
I would probably have a big “security” talk with the whole group while she is present before you go, make her feel uncomfortable, but warning your friends too x
I’d ask her to not come and just explain it. She won’t like it but it’s not fair on your other guests and the girls on the hen do. Everyone will be worried about their possessions. You need to be relaxed and not worrying.
If someone invited me somewhere and added "watch your belongings because you know who is a thief" i wouldn't go. And if she does steal something off one of your friends, how will you feel? People are spending their money and time to be with you to celebrate....they deserve better. And as for the thief....well if you are going around stealing then these are the consequences!!
Personally I wouldn't have her there but if she needs to then warn the other people to keep their items on them or locked away. Good luck x
I definitely would not want to share with her so if others found out I'm sure they would be the same. Don't invite simple as no need for stress your there to enjoy yourself
I would speak to her and give her the option of not coming, or coming and you will have to tell everyone staying in her caravan what she has done. Its her choice then.
Id warn others to keep valubles within eye sight or on them at all times, not to bring tablets or cameras or carry cash and only have clothes and wash stuffs in suitcases also keep a padlock on suitcases at all times.
I'd be bloody furious if a thief was on a weekend away with me just because you don't want an argument 😮 Why on earth do think you can't invite her? Her own behaviour means she's blown her opportunity to be part of this. Grow a set and let her know.
Make sure the people in the caravans know this - have a quiet word to warn them to keep money on them at all times z
Definitely would be telling her to do one. No way on this earth I'd invite her. It's not fair on your friends.
She wouldn't be coming if it was me.
Imagine the argument if she stole from one of your friends though, I don't imagine they'd take it very well then they'd see her again at the wedding and possible kick off again
Nope..she wouldn't be coming, I wouldn't have such a person around my friends, just imagine the fall out when she steals on your hen party, a once in life time event!!! Ruined!! Yes, they'll be a fall out, but the moral high ground is a harder climb but with a much lovelier view. Good luck and don't delay telling her. Xx
The people need to be wolves
Think it's unreasonable of anyone to make you invite someone who you know is a criminal.
Why don't you take a lock box and some envelopes and ask people to put cash in it, only you have key and don't let her in it. Atleast that way no one has to know and you don't have to explain and make everyone uncomfortable. Caravans don't have the highest secruity anyway, so can be explained as better safe than sorry. If she steals an item a quick bag search should find it again, and can then be dealt with?! If I were her and you told me you were going yo warn people I'd be far too embarrassed to come, so she might drop out anyway. But then the damage is done between her and the rest of your hens for life, will that make for an awkward wedding. Good luck xx
I'd certainly un invite her and also tell her the reason and I'd also maybe speak her ask her why she doing it and maybe get her some help if that's sort of case
If it was just her job I’d want to give her the benefit of the doubt but the fact it’s family as well would worry me too. Has she got some financial problems and sees no other option? Maybe you could have a quiet word with the rest of the guests to keep valuables on them but I would feel worried x
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