My MOH doesn't like my H2B and I have no idea why, he's just very opinionated and doesn't always agree with her, he's never been rude though. It's really bothering me because she works with one of his friends and started saying that I'm too good for him and that she doesn't think our personalities match. I don't like confrontation but when she decides that she wants to do a speech and her idea of being nice is "I'll just talk about how amazing you are and how you're too good for him" which I replied "well that's just rude" and now I'm just worried about if she does say something because I don't want drama why can't she just be happy. It's actually making me feel like not having her as a bridesmaid if she can't be happy for my relationship ????
Y is she making a speech? Just tell her no way.
why is she doing a speech? just have father, groom and best man as is tradition then problem solved.
Sometimes people just clash & don’t get on this sounds like the case here.
I think she’s winding you up with the speech thing but tell her to reign it in.
Sounds like jealousy I wouldn’t have her do it it’s your dream day don’t let her spoil it good luck x
Just tell her that your only having parents and you and or h2b doing speeches as you don’t want to eat into the rest of the day with speeches but that you appreciate her wanting to do one xx
My cousin sent me a message saying she didn't think my marriage was going to work ( because h2b and I had one argument ) and that she was only going to attend for the sake of it ( bearing in mind she's on wedding 4 and he husband was sleeping with someone else on their wedding day
So guess what she's no longer invited to my wedding and no longer in my life
Only have people round you who are positive and tell her to keep her distance x
Good luck x
Her opinion on your h2b is her opinion she shouldn't be slagging him off to people you love him and you get on clearly as your getting married she obviously doesn't care about your feelings else she wouldn't be so horrible. Not everyone gets on so people just grate but he makes you happy and she should be happy about that.
If she can't be happy for you then ditch her!! It's yours and your H2B day. If she can't be nice then she doesn't deserve to be there! X
Tell her MOH don't make speeches. He is your choice not hers. Tell her that if she doesn't wish to be part of the wedding then she is heading in the right direction.
It’s not her place to be making comments about your H2B. She can have an opinion but slagging him off to other people is crossing the line. If I heard my MOH doing that I would remove her. She’s not being supportive at all. I’d tell her to wind her neck in, she’s not making a speech and she needs to start accepting your choice and being supportive.
Hi tell her you want to stick to traditions as far as the speeches go if she doesn't like it that's her hard luck :)
Usually when friends are so vocal it is because they think they are looking out for you, however you are happy and are marrying the man of your dreams, so probably best to sit down with her and explain that you’re happy and he is the one for you no matter what she thinks and to respect you and your wedding by keeping her opinions to herself! It’s your big day and I’m sure she wouldn’t do anything to ruin it! Just make sure you communicate with her, communication is key xx
When myself and my partner got together nearly everyone said we’d never last and weren’t suited. We get married in 60 days. Prove her wrong and live your own lives, she will look a right idiot if she slags him off at your wedding
She doesn't need to do a speech. If I was you, I would tell her that as your MOH she should be happy for you, even if she doesn't see eye to eye with your h2b and that if she can't be happy for you, why did she agree to be MOH.
I’d ask her why she dislikes him so much. Maybe there is an underlying issue that you can maybe resolve?
Cut her from the wedding!! Why would you want someone at your wedding who is trying to put you off marrying the person you love? Let alone being a big part of the day.....
If your MOH can't find anything nice to say about you and your H2B being together on this one day of yours then tell her if she can't say anything nice to either not say anything and leave speeches to others or to step down. It's no secret that my sister and my H2B have had a bad start and didn't get on but they have both moved on and make an effort. My sister is my bridesmaid along with my other sister. If she wanted to do a speech I wouldn't be uncomfortable i would feel quite honoured .. despite their bad history I fully trust that there is no way she would put a damper on my day... (You should be feeling secure about your choices of people to support you) not everyone has to be happy with your partner choice but I believe they should still support and celebrate your day with you. YOU choose your partner ... Not others. A wedding day is a day of all your loved ones and family coming together and supporting a big step forward in your future ...
Tell her where to stick her speech. If my maid of honour did that to me and my partner shed find her head stuffed so far down the nearest toilet..... Tell her to quit being a jelous bitch and grow up or she doesn't bloody come to the wedding.
I think she's being very unfair to u and h2b not to mention selfish. Tell her u don't have time for her to fit in a speech n if she pushes keep ur foot down (n u could always add 'since u can't think of any anythin nice to say anyway wats the point'). Remember it's ur day, n when u think about it some brides are a total nightmare with demands so don't feel bad about simply laying down some doe's and dont's as well, i definitely would not let her have a speech and I would tell her if she is going to continue to slate ur h2b u will give her position to someone else, someone who will b happy to stand beside u as u say ur vows and who will b happy for u both xxx
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