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UKbride Member Request 9 Aug 2018

So I’m in a bit of stress. I’m getting married October this year. I’m ...

So I’m in a bit of stress. I’m getting married October this year. I’m just starting to have regrets about my dress choice. I think my dress is so pretty, it’s just it quite a big princess style dress and feel like I’m going to be so uncomfortable and find it difficult to move and even sit it. I just don’t know what to do? I don’t really have time or money to change my dress. I just wish I spent longer looking at dresses. I don’t know if it’s just me stressing because I always overthink about everything.

23 Comments
Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 9 Aug 2018

You must of liked it when you first picked it or you wouldn't of choose it x why don't you try it on again and try sitting if you really don't have the money to change you will just have to try deal with it x you probably won't have much time to sit down anyway x

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 9 Aug 2018

I agree with Becky. My wedding was a few weeks ago and I barely managed to sit down at all, just a short time when I ate.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

I wouldn’t stress about it I get married in two weeks I had a moment we’re I thought my dress woz this an that but I went for my final fittin an fell in love u won’t be sittin down much ul have guests to greet an u will be on ya feet more than ya bum I wouldn’t change now if u like it then stick to it gunna cost u more money an stress good luck xx

Sara Hughes
Sara Hughes 10 Aug 2018

I got married a few weeks ago and I only really sat down to eat. Just enjoy the reason why you picked it in the first place and try not to over think it. Hope you have an amazing day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

When I tried dresses on I spent time sitting in them just to see, when you go for your next fitting try sitting and I’m sure it’ll ease your worries! You’ll be too busy celebrating and dancing for too much sitting! Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

I got married last Dec. I worried about my dress too. On the day I loved it. It's a big princess style dress and I likes that because I could move, dance and sit, eat and breathe. I managed fine. When I went to my last fitting I fell back in love with my dress. Good luck x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

I had the same issue, I chose my dress and loved it as the lady in the shop recommended it based on my look and figure, but TRUST ME! Once you put it on for your day I fell in love with it again and it was perfect, and I hardly sat down all night and didn’t notice it! Don’t worry or stress about it you will have a wonderful day xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

I think you need to trust your initial decision. You liked it at the time. Sometimes looking at more just adds to the confusion. I think you’re just having last minute nerves. Plus if it’s really pretty and a big princess style - it’s probably the only time you’ll get to wear a dress like that?! So enjoy it. You’ll look spectacular I’m sure

Michelle Rew
Michelle Rew 10 Aug 2018

I'm getting married in 4 weeks and had an episode a few weeks back doubting my dress, I personally think it's just overthinking stresses. Once I tried it on again I loved it. Give yourself a couple more weeks focusing on other stuff and try it on again. Have to say I haven't even thought about the sitting down part lol. I've been a neurotic stress-head for the past 6 months, month to go and I'm finally excited again and can't wait - there's got to be a point where the worrying stops and reality of the fact that you are marrying your best friend hits you. It's one day, a really important day, but one that will fly by so quickly, enjoy it xx

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 10 Aug 2018

Wear that for the vows ..... & change into a going away dress like I did for dancing in & being able to move & relax for the evening .....

Sarah Kenyon
Sarah Kenyon 10 Aug 2018

I thought the same with my dress a couple of weeks before the wedding but iam so glad I stuck with it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

Possibly stressing, I did the same thing. Try it on again and see how you feel

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

Have a chat with a seamstress. They may be able to snip out some of the netting underneath to reduce volume without losing the shape and design. It's the simplest alteration so shouldn't be very expensive at all. :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

Try the dress on again to remind urself what it looks like on. If your still not sure try speaking to the owner of the shop where u got the dress from and see if she would let u exchange it for a dress of the same price xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

Is there some underskirt that could come out to make it less poofy? This might make it easier in general. I'm only 2 weeks away from my wedding and still haven't tried on my dress with it actually fitting. We just have to tell ourselves it will turn out right in the end.

Josslynne Masters
Josslynne Masters 10 Aug 2018

I had a little wobble a couple of months before my wedding. My dress had arrived a size smaller than it was supposed to be, I’m only tiny so didn’t have much room to move in it so comfort was a massive worry to me. Once I’d had a couple of dress fittings nearer the date of the wedding I remembered why I picked that dress in the first place! As for moving and being comfortable; I ended up with a MASSIVE ring of blisters all the way around my waist from wearing it all day (it looked like a magicians saw in half trick gone wrong) but on the day I hardly noticed. The adrenaline (and wine) took over and I danced the night away!
Don’t fret about your dress wobble, just make sure you have lots of lovely accessories so it all comes together on the day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

I think all us girlies stress about this...I loved mine at the start then changed my mind as there are so many beautiful dresses out there, but after a fitting you know the reason why you chose it in the first place...Ha ha I’m only tiny and haven’t given a thought about sitting in it....I think a time must come nearer the time when the stress dies down and we can all start to get excited about the day, it will go so quick x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Aug 2018

I had a big princess dress, wasn’t easy to sit, I had to really lift the skirt to do so but I didn’t care, I loved it and wouldn’t have changed it for anything. I wasn’t at all uncomfortable, just had to lift the skirt to walk around lol

Sammie Mulhearn
Sammie Mulhearn 11 Aug 2018

You could always try and high street store like John Lewis, marks and Spencer’s of chi chi London is a great website for another evening dress. Get married and have your pictures in the princess and then change into a different move comfortable dress for the reception and meal

Jade Hodgson
Jade Hodgson 14 Aug 2018

Its one day
And yes it means you're a bit slower and in my dress at 27 degrees I was boiling
But it didn't put a dampener on my day at all.. Its one day where you can be princess and not look craZy for rocking a huge ball gown so bloody well go for it!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Aug 2018

I had a very big dress but had a hoop underneath so it wasn’t even touching my legs so it was really comfortable. Although I was pretty drunk so probably can’t remember properly! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Aug 2018

I was 38 weeks pregnant at my wedding and had a big dress, as soon as we'd done the main part and a bit of the reception I changed into something lighter, the photos had all been taken mainly so it didn't matter and no one cared, alot of people get changed on their wedding day (dress included lol) If you can, buy a cheap, light dress that's pretty but easy to wear, then if you do get fed up with your main dress you can just get changed :) I also took also change of shoes, 38 weeks pregnant and stilettos for hours got a bit much! But even without being pregnant you just might need a cheap comfy pair of shoes to change into after standing for so long. Good luck!

Kirsty Berry
Kirsty Berry 20 Aug 2018

Do you have funds to buy a seperate more casual dress for the reception?
Like a knee lenth white elegant dress?

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