Jan Hirst
Jan Hirst 18 Jul 2018

Getting married next year in August....am I the only one who doesn't want a...

Getting married next year in August....am I the only one who doesn't want a hen night? Never been one for big girlie nights out and I don't see why I should start now I'm in my 50s just cos its expected.

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Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 18 Jul 2018

I'm stuck as well got to really be in the mood I don't feel like having one but all my friends and family want me to I'm thinking spa weekend x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 18 Jul 2018

Hi I just cancelled mine because no one is happy with what I want I am not a drinker and don't want a night just drinking :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I got married just over 2 weeks ago, I didn’t have a hen do. Too many people to try to please so thought it was easier not to have one, also hate being centre of attention, the wedding was enough for me

Katie Louise
Katie Louise 19 Jul 2018

I get married a week on Saturday and not having a hen do, I am also 25 weeks when i get married😍so just going to have a chilled night with my bridesmaids, Nana and mother in law the night before. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I went away for the weekend with just my mum, was perfect for me

Lisa Brooks
Lisa Brooks 19 Jul 2018

I went bowling and for a nice meal for my hen night x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

Maybe go for a meal with friends and family xxx

Emma Herbert
Emma Herbert 19 Jul 2018

I don't want one either

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

Not at all! I don't drink, a night out on the town is my version of a living nightmare. I'd much rather a spa day or something relaxing :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I’m mid fifties too, my bestie organised afternoon tea in her garden with lots of champagne, just my closest friends and I had the best time x

Pam Ryan
Pam Ryan 19 Jul 2018

What about a meal with those closest to you?!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I'm not having one. I don't want a night out, I'd rather go to a spa then get some food

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

My mams in her 50s. Got married 3 years ago. We went to Blackpool 🤣

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I went to the rugby for mine!

Janine Graham
Janine Graham 19 Jul 2018

Im getting married next August too...its really difficult because im 47 and have a huge difference in ages of people that want to come..younger ones want a wild weekend, older ones want a meal and a few drinks...im not a drinker ( 2 or 3 max) ...so obviously cant please everyone! But have come to the conclusion that its "my" day/night and everyone will either have to go with my plans or not come at all...although ive still yet to decide 😆...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I'm hosting a bbq for my friends as my hen party as I didn't want one but my fiancé is going away for a stag weekend so I thought, why not have a bbq and invite a load of people?! They are all bringing food and drink and I am really looking forward to it! Don't feel like you need one, the reasons behind them are only a few decades old anyway and didn't exactly promote a feminist sensibility so you do what you want and if that is nothing, as long as you're happy :)

Rebecca Child
Rebecca Child 19 Jul 2018

I'm not having one, not even a super low key one but I also don't have any bridesmaids/moh 🙂

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 19 Jul 2018

We get married in 21days.. & have no desire for stag or hen.. its awkward cause my bridesmaids have children or live miles away. & not got other friends to ask, so propubly just have cake out with our families.. h2b has family coming from Abu Dhabi so good time to meet them b4 big day... My h2b is 50 & i am 47, my first hen do wash a disaster so really not fussed about doing that again..

Nicole Winter
Nicole Winter 19 Jul 2018

I went to my favourite restaurant with some close family and friends then afterwards just went home. I'm not one for big nights out round town. It's what I wanted and if no one liked what I wanted to do for my hen then they was not invite. At the end of the day it's about you and what you want to do 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I didn't have a hen night, myself h2b, bridesmaids, best women and witnesses all went for a meal. Then ended at the wedding venue to have a run through of the walk down the isle

Samantha Holden
Samantha Holden 19 Jul 2018

having a midweek overnight get together with my closest couple of friends with my fiance. paintballing meal out couple of drinks

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I’m not having a hen night - although tbh I’m having a totally non traditional wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

Why not go for a spa day?

Cheryl Jackson
Cheryl Jackson 19 Jul 2018

If you dont want one dont have one, but also it doesn’t need to be what ppl think of as a traditional hen. You could do something that you enjoy doing with ur bridal party or close friends. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I went for lunch with a few friends. At 44 i didn't want a boozy night. You do what you want to do, it is your day.

Eleanor Welsh
Eleanor Welsh 19 Jul 2018

My fiancé and I aren't getting married until next year, but neither of us want a big hen or stag do (and we're 24, just neither of us like nights out) instead, we're planning on just having a nice joint meal with friends and family beforehand 😊 it's your day, so do it the way you want to!

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 19 Jul 2018

It's actually a legal requirement. The 1956 Ceremonial Matrimonial Procedures Act (Page 93, Clause 95b, paragraph ii) clearly states:
"All betrothed women are legally obliged to attend a strictly gender-segregated pre-matrimonial communal event of no less than 7 hours. A minimum of 45 units of alcohol (73 if said alcohol is Lambrini) must be consumed. Said woman shall also wear a veil made from Tesco carrier bags and a poly-satin sash stating 'Bride-to-be', or 'Im a virgin, honest' and must carry an inflatable willy of no less than 40 inches (length) and 30 inches (girth) at all times. Failure to adhere to these rules will result in annulment of said marriage, or, in event of multiple failures to conform, death."

Sorry, but them's the rules :(

Tracy Baker
Tracy Baker 19 Jul 2018

Getting married in 7 weeks I’m not having one h2b isn’t shaving a stag do ether, so your not alone x

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 19 Jul 2018

You don’t have to have a night out, you could have a spa day or something! It’s ment to be something you enjoy! But you don’t have to have one xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

Hen do doesn't have to be a big drunken night out. I went glamping, sat around having a few drinks and a laugh with a bbq, did go ape and went out for a nice meal then back to the glamping site to chill. Was more amazing than I ever expected and no hangovers

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I went for afternoon tea with everyone as I was 6 months pregnant we had a brill time xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I went to the theatre and for food with some friends, it can be what ever you want it to be or nothing at all, it doesn’t have to be a big boozy night out!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

My sis-in-law/matron of honour organised mine... pottery painting (with tea and cake) in the morning, light lunch and spa afternoon then a nice fancy meal. There was some prosecco and a 'Mr & Mrs' style quiz but nothing crazy. It was perfect.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

My work friends are desperate to take me out - but not for wild parties just to enjoy spending time. It’s an excuse to go out and socialise and celebrate. I think a meal or afternoon tea or just a few friendly drinks in the pub. We also don’t drink haha- think my fiancé’s stag is gonna be top golf or bowling or something.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I'm the same I'm not a big drinker never been one for girly night out i want a spa day I just want to relax.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I was worried about it because I have been suffering from anxiety. My friends organised a lovely couple of nights in a house with hot tub and sauna so I could relax and we went out for a meal one night and played games the other. It was a nice excuse to spend time together.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I am hoping to do a spa day or something similar, I'm not interested in a pub crawl and I have a few people a little older so wouldn't want to come if I did that. Spa day/weekend sounds perfect to me!!

Emily Dawe
Emily Dawe 19 Jul 2018

My mums hen we went to a comedy show, and did room escapes in bath. Rented a house and just had a few drinks at home. Doesn't have to be a trash up

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

A hen night doesn’t have to be a wild night out - I’m planning a meal out, a few cocktails afterwards & hop on the last train home! I’ve also banned all penis-related memorabilia! No inflatable willes, no willy straws.... i just think its tacky lol.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

If your not one for big girly nights out, why don’t you just go out for a meal? Or a spa day or something. There are lots of things you can do for hen party’s with out having the ‘Girly night out’ bit. Xx

Sarah Saunders
Sarah Saunders 19 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids are doing my hen im onlt having one not 2 or three but i worry that when i invite people they wont come, 😞 at first i didnt want one but now im like full spa and party .... its only hen im having and only gonna get married once .. i want it to be a blast .. u may change your mind but u can just have an afternoon tea ? X

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 19 Jul 2018

You don't have to have one, but you could always do something that you'll enjoy rather than a big girly night. I did a mini-cruise to Bruges, my sister did a spa day/night and my sil did a weekend at a private house and hired entertainment in (afternoon tea, a 3 course meal, 20s style makeover) and we just played silly games. Do whatever you enjoy x

Jody Marie
Jody Marie 19 Jul 2018

I’m not going drinking, I’m going to opt for something simple like spa day 💙

Shakira Badwal
Shakira Badwal 19 Jul 2018

I got married last year and I didn't have a hen night. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

when we got married neither of us went out for stag/hen do's nobody questioned us about it they just accepted it as we don't go out for those sort of nights

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I’m 32 and I didn’t want a lot of fuss just a drink or a meal somewhere. Nothing restricting.

Amanda Glennie
Amanda Glennie 19 Jul 2018

I'm getting married in 4 weeks and I haven't had one! It's your wedding if you don't want one don't have one x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

My hen night is just going to be going out for dinner with my friends. I'm not one for drinking either.
I think my sister is planning a spa day for her hen night. It doesn't need to be a booze filled crazy night with a tacky tiara and penis shaped straws lol

Julia Sweetman
Julia Sweetman 19 Jul 2018

You don’t need a big girls night out. My girlies did me a homemade afternoon tea, vintage crafts, games and dinner. It was perfect. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I didn’t have one either. Just went out for a family meal with h2b as he didn’t want a stag do either!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I’m not having one , im Indian and my h2b is half Italian and half English, so im adding a bit of Indian , I’m having a henna party instead of hen. Still be drinking

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

I get married Saturday and I didn't have one . I don't have a MoH as I have all little bridesmaids . Myself and o/h went out for a meal with some of his work mates and their partners x

Michelle Ashbrook
Michelle Ashbrook 19 Jul 2018

Go for a nice meal with a few close friends that'd what I am doing x

Natalie Casey
Natalie Casey 19 Jul 2018

I’m not having a proper hen do, but probably will just have a nice meal out with my mum and sisters or maybe afternoon tea. I’m almost 23 but just not one for crazy nights out 😂

Loralie Davies
Loralie Davies 19 Jul 2018

I had 2 nights in a Air BnB with my friends,we did Jewellery making work shop (in which we made proper silver charms each made 2,then my maids put one each on a charm bracelet for me on) we went to the beach,dinner and played a few games (Mr Mrs with Video recorded responses from future hubs) it's a great excuse to have a nice time with your friends! I banned all willy and L plates and it was such so nice to spend time with my friends and talk about the wedding! The actual day will go so fast you probably won't get to see your friends much and what with saving and planning in the lead up,you will probably hang out with your friends less than usual!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2018

You don’t have to have one. I initially wasn’t planning on having one, but my sister (moh) organised afternoon tea at the Mayfair with my nearest and dearest and it was fabulous. We went on to a wine bar after but it wasn’t a wild night. I’m so glad we did it. Perhaps go for a meal with your closest ladies.

sarah carwshaw
sarah carwshaw 19 Jul 2018

I went to a log cabin with a close friend and close family! Had drinks in the cabin and hot tub.. Nice relaxing weekend away

Clare Dickson
Clare Dickson 19 Jul 2018

Having afternoon tea so lil ones can join us x

Hazel Chapman
Hazel Chapman 20 Jul 2018

I really don’t want one so we’ve compromised & have agreed on just a nice meal for really close friends/family & maybe an afternoon tea for the older family I.e mums & great gran xx

Gwyneth Bland
Gwyneth Bland 20 Jul 2018

I will probably be having a few friends round for a Coffee Evening or ask them to bring non alcholic drinks.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Jul 2018

I just went out with friends for all you can eat chinese

Catriona Rollason
Catriona Rollason 23 Jul 2018

I definitely do not want a big hen party :) in fact if I can escape the whole thing I might try to!

Dina Gregory
Dina Gregory 28 Jul 2018

i'm doing something in the day with my daughter and other children (prob cinema and afternoon tea) then night time people what to go clubbing or a show but not all people who would come on hen would want clubbing so im thinking bingo or meal and maybe go clubbing after as wont cost as much for drink in bingo or pub and by the time we get to night club wont need much drink so can have a laugh and do dancing (my favorite things to do on a night out) my hen my choice me and my partner dont want strippers and told people that. my partner is doing something in the day with my sons and other kids etc and then nightclubbing on the night x

Lauren Doak
Lauren Doak 30 Jul 2018

It’s your big day! Don’t go with wedding ‘norms’ if it isn’t your norm - you’ll have an amazing day no matter what!!

Jessica Bateman
Jessica Bateman 7 Aug 2018

I wonted a meal and a couple of drinks! Oh no my sister is planning something big.

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