Lucy Timms
Lucy Timms 13 Jul 2018

Has anyone asked their bridesmaids to pay for anything? I.e shoes etc? Thanks x

Has anyone asked their bridesmaids to pay for anything? I.e shoes etc? Thanks x

55 Comments
Deborah King
Deborah King 13 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids are paying for dress and shoes and I am paying for make up and hair before the wedding xxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I’m paying for my bridesmaids dresses and shoes but they’ve kindly agreed to cover the cost of their own make up and hair xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

We bought dresses and are paying for flowers. They are arranging their own shoes and paying for hair, if they want it done.

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 13 Jul 2018

Mine are buying their own shoes but I’m not forcing them to wear the same as they are long dresses. I’d rather they get their own that they will wear again. I’ve only specified the colour.

Georgie-May Lancashire
Georgie-May Lancashire 13 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids are paying for their shoes

Charlotte Priest
Charlotte Priest 13 Jul 2018

I've bought the dresses and jewellery but they are sorting their own shoes as they are long dresses x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids offered to pay for their own outfits and we're doing our own hair and makeup on the day, all in the name of keeping costs down!

Carolyn Thomas
Carolyn Thomas 13 Jul 2018

Ive paid for the dresses, shoes, jewellery and hair combs. They are doing their own make up.

Sara Hughes
Sara Hughes 13 Jul 2018

I've paid for dresses they are paying for shoes hair and make up if they wanted it done which they do

Abi Owen
Abi Owen 13 Jul 2018

They paid for their rooms in the hotel overnight but I paid for everything else X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Shoes and makeup apart from family bridesmaids are just paying for shoes

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I paid for everything other than the shoes they all had slightly different as dresses were to the floor so shoes couldn't be seen and some wanted heels some wanted sandals so let them decide what they'd be most comfortable in x

Alaska-Lily Morrison
Alaska-Lily Morrison 13 Jul 2018

Mine paid for their make up and all of them wanted to buy their dresses which was lovely. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I was recently a bridesmaid and the bride asked us to pay for our dresses and our shoes. She paid for our bouquets but tbf I don’t blame her for asking us to buy our dresses weddings cost enough as it is x

Michelle Newton
Michelle Newton 13 Jul 2018

I’ve asked mine to pay for any alterations on their dresses and they are buying their own shoes. We are on a budget 😊

Tasha Hodgson
Tasha Hodgson 13 Jul 2018

I'm paying for make up, hair and dresses and then because dresses are to the floor I have said they pay for whatever shoes they want and their hotel room for the night xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I paid for everything. Only thing I didn't buy was jewellery because she had a gorgeous set that colour matched perfectly. Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids are paying for their shoes, alterations and makeup if they wanted it. We're covering the dress, flowers, hair, accessories and the stay the night before x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Mine are paying hair and makeup if they want it and buying own shoes x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Alanna May
Alanna May 13 Jul 2018

Yes.
We bought their dresses but have asked them to get their own shoes and accesories. This way we could spend more on the dress and then they can personalise it.
As long as what they are expected to pay for is clear when you ask them it is fine. Perhaps write a card with what you want from them and what you will do for them?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Ive paid for dresses, accessories, jewellery hair and make up. My bridesmaids offered to buy there own shoes and i have asked if they would pay for trials for hair and make up. Xx

Ellen Blossom
Ellen Blossom 13 Jul 2018

They are paying for their dress and shoes, so they can do what they wish with them afterwards. We're paying for hair, make up, flowers and any accessories they'd like. Xx

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 13 Jul 2018

Yeah my maids of honours are buying their shoes and doing their own hairs. My brides maids are my step daughters so other half is putting up their dress money etc

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I am paying for dresses, getting their hair up and make up. Have asked them if they would mind getting their shoes (mainly as hoping for floor length dresses and then they can choose shoes they are comfy in, I will just say colour) & asked if they will pay for alterations if they need any.

Hayley Parsons
Hayley Parsons 13 Jul 2018

I'll be paying for dresses and any accessories, have told them they can wear whatever shoes they want as they will be covered anyway - So that way its up to them if they want to buy new ones etc. Hotel for the night etc I've offered them n said they obviously dont have to stay but if they want to they will have to pay like all the other guests - you have a million and one things to pay for no BM should expect everything x

Sabrina Massimo
Sabrina Massimo 13 Jul 2018

We are paying for everything as I asked them to be my bridesmaids so I feel it’s for us to pay for. They are paying for their rooms for the hotel but that’s all xxx

Natasha Luck
Natasha Luck 13 Jul 2018

I paid for dresses, hair and make up, they paid for their accessories and nails x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I bought all dresses, flowers, bags, shoes, paid for hair, jewellery, and bought them all silk dressing gowns to wear when getting ready, all i asked then to pay for was any alterations, needed and if they wanted their own make up done to pay for their own but they had the option x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Mine are getting their own shoes. I said I don’t mind what they are.. flat, heels, shoes they already have, trainers. I don’t mind as long as they are comfy. They have floor length dresses so won’t see them anyway

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Shoes and jewellery. Want her to be comfortable in her shoes,and the only requirement for jewellery is silver with a clear stone and also she can get something to her taste

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids have paid for their dresses and shoes, however I ensured I chose dresses of reasonable price, so each bridesmaid has paid £40 for dress and shoes! I have then bought them each a necklace and bracelet set to say thank you and wear on the day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I didn't but I did set budgets and state if they wanted something over that budget they would have to pay the difference. In the end they all bought their own shoes and wouldn't take the money off of me for them xx

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 13 Jul 2018

We've bought dresses and all the girls are buying their own shoes I'll buy the jewellery and accessories and where having our hair and make up all done by one of my BMs. I have been buying little bits and pieces as presents for their boxes as gifts including team bride outfits foe getting in x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I ask mine to dress themselves with a particular color

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

Just their own shoes, that way they can choose something they are comfy in and can hopefully wear again

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

My girls paid half for their dresses and paid for the hair and hotel rooms x

Laura West
Laura West 13 Jul 2018

I will be paying for dresses but will get them to buy shoes and accessories :)
However when I was a bridesmaid last year I paid for everything

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

When I was my sisters bridesmaid she bought the dress and I bought shoes, accessories etc plus hair and make up, she didn’t dictate what style or anything on hair, shoes etc x

Michelle Ashbrook
Michelle Ashbrook 13 Jul 2018

I have asked to pay for thier dresses we are doing the rest x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I asked them to get their shoes but I did everything else x

Ceri Poulton
Ceri Poulton 13 Jul 2018

My maids are buying their own shoes and bags. I’m paying for dresses. I was going to ask a friend to do make up but I think they’re chipping in to get a professional in to do theirs xxx

Steph Lister
Steph Lister 13 Jul 2018

I've paid for hair for both of mine make up for one cause my other wants to do her own make up and will be buying their dresses I have asked them to buy their own shoes and accessories x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

I paid for dresses hair makeup nails and hair accessories. I only asked them to buy shoes as they all wanted different styles. They were fine with that x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

we payed for all of our bridesmaids dresses and bestmen kilts! if you want a specific dress or tartan then i dont think you can expect them to pay for a dress or tartan that they might not want! we paid for all of our bridesmaids jewellery which was given to them as a thank you gift and to wear on the day! we all did our own/each others hair and makeup! we had floor length dresses on so nobody would have been able to see our shoes, i didnt expect for my bridesmaids to buy a pair of shoes just for the wedding but to wear a comfortable pair that they already had!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jul 2018

If you want them to wear very specific shoes and accessories then you should pay. If you are happy for them to wear any pair of shoes but for example just specify that they should be nude or black or whatever then the bridesmaid can either use a pair she has or choose to buy a new pair.
Same goes for accessories, if for example you want them in pearl type jewellery just ask them if they have anything. I think it's ice for each bridesmaids personality to come out a little.

Hair and make up should be paid for by you or if you don't want to pay just ask them to do their own. I think it depends how much you want them looking a certain way x

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 13 Jul 2018

Personally i havent. Ive done dress, shoes, hair, makeup, jewellery, hair piece. (But they were all mine and moh choices) But i have been moh for a friend where i have paid for everything exept the dress. Myself and bridesmaids paid for hair, makeup, hair piece, shoes, and jewellery. Makeup and hair were obviously their choice as was hair piece (But we negotiated that cos the original was going to cost £30 per bridesmaid and we wouldn't have worn it again - ended up paying £6 for something very similar)

I would say if your not paying you need to be lenient on prices and styles. If your paying have what you want (within reason - no one who is a good friend wants their friends to be uncomfortable) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2018

make up which was optional and asked them to wear sandals, they wore what they already had xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2018

Not my bridesmaids as their dresses were quite heap. But groomsmen have had to buy their own shoes

Jamie Turner
Jamie Turner 14 Jul 2018

I'm going to pay for their dresses for them x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2018

Heather Durrant
Heather Durrant 15 Jul 2018

They can buy their own shoes but we will cover dress hair and make up

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Jul 2018

We paid for everything for groomsmen & bridesmaids including shoes, hair, make up, alterations & accessories as we had an overseas wedding we did not feel it right they had to pay for anything as were already spending extra money to fly out to our wedding location etc

Kelsey Todd
Kelsey Todd 15 Jul 2018

My bridesmaids are paying for everything themselves apart from their food. I told them that this would be the case when I asked them and that I wouldn't be offended if they said no because of it, they were all happy to do this and were more excited about the fact they were a bridesmaid at my wedding :) it's up to you what they pay for and it's up to them whether they'll stay as a bridesmaid or just be a guest :) x

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 16 Jul 2018

They paying to have there nails done that’s it x

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