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UKbride Member Request 4 Jul 2018

Another question around invitations - We have now had our wedding confirmed...

Another question around invitations - We have now had our wedding confirmed in Jamaica and our nearest and dearest are booked to join us. We are having a dilemma about how to word the UK party invites - do we open the invitation to Jamaica up to everyone knowing that most won't come. Or do we just invite them to the UK party and say we are getting married in Jamaica? There's a couple of family members not talking and I know if I open it up this specific family member would just come to jamaica to spite the other - which is a situation I want to avoid! At the moment one is coming to Jamaica and can't make UK party so plan to invite the other to the UK party and not Jamaica. Do I do a special invite for that one person and not mention Jamaica or do I not invite all and see if anyone asks if they can come? Also regards RSVP's and timings - is a year in advance for an after wedding party too soon? I guess if I open Jamaica invite to everyone ( apart from above person!) the earlier the better? And how far in advance of the party do I request RSVPS's - the hotel only need to know numbers 4 weeks in advance but we need to know earlier regards budgeting and paying etc. Help!!!

12 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 4 Jul 2018

Hi Just invite them for the UK party :)

Hollie Clifford
Holly Clifford 5 Jul 2018

Only invite the closest people to Jamaica and then everyone else to a party in the uk x

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 5 Jul 2018

I am also getting married in Jamaica. April 2020.
We haven’t excluded anyone but did online invites first to put the feelers out. Just giving people basic details like date, resort and estimated price and worded it to say “Please don’t feel obliged to travel, if you can’t make it we understand and look forward to celebrating with you at our UK reception”

We then sent wedding invitations to close family and those who’d already confirmed online.
Everyone else will get an invite to the UK party about 6 months before but for now I’m concentrating on the Jamaican bit.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I got married in the dominican republic last month. Invited everyone informally and told them their would be a party back in the UK so no one was missing out. On the invites we wrote 'following our ceremony in the dominican republic we would like to invite you to....... it was the best thing we every done 2 people came across you meet holiday friends while you are their and it's all about you and not worrying about everyone else's day :) have a wonderful wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

We are getting married in 20 days in Italy. We have only invited our closest family to this and let everyone else know that this was our plan and we hope they respect our decision. We are then having a post-wedding reception back home and are sending invites for this this week letting people know we will be married in a private ceremony and inviting them to the party afterwards. We got our invites on zazzle and there are some great ideas on there for post-wedding celebration wording for invitations x hope this helps xx

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 5 Jul 2018

My sister got married in the Dominican in March, they just invited parents, siblings and neices/nephews and everyone else they just said it was an evening reception back in the UK.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I never understand some of these "questions"! You are grown women who are living in the adult world...yet nobody seems to think for themselves! Surely you and your fiance can make a decision yourself rather than asking the advice of complete strangers!!!!!! I worry about the human race sometimes

Michelle Ashbrook
Michelle Ashbrook 5 Jul 2018

I would just do UK party xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

Invite only the people you and your fiancé actually want to come to Jamaica. Invite everyone else to the party. That way no one is in any doubt.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

Have an amazing time! Jamaica is a fabulous place. I can’t wait to go back! X

Charlotte Ward
Charlotte Ward 5 Jul 2018

I think you should invite literally everyone you know to Jamaica.. then you will be able to tell who your real friends are as they will make the effort to be there for your special day..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

My cousin is getting married abroad and keeping it very very small and intimate. They are then having a party/wedding reception when they get back. They sent invites saying
It's a wedding party!
Mr & Mrs... invite you to celebrate their marriage on... at...
We were happy with that as recipients of that invite and was nice and clear.

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