Hi everyone I'm in a bit of a situation that i don't want to be in. Me...

I had 2 maids of honour , 3 bridesmaids & 2 flower girls & 2 confetti girls ....
It's your wedding , so feel relaxed to create jobs so everyone feels included in some shape or another ....if money is tight hopefully true friends will understand as we are not made of money and don't wish to go into debt ......
They can read a poem or sing a beautiful song ,
There's no right or wrong way to do your wedding .....
It's your special day xx

I can't imagine anything remotely stressful about making someone you don't get on with, and who doesn't want to participate, be an unwilling member of your wedding party 😐 What is it you think you'll regret??

If your sister is going to refuse a bridesmaid position I would say she isn’t deserving of a maid of honour position.

Let her be her as just from that attitude think about the stress she could potentially cause.

If she or anyone kicks off say I asked her to be bridesmaid and she refused because she didn’t feel that was good enough but it’s not about her it’s about me and my future Mr or Mrs.

You'll be more stressed having her as a MoH if you have never got on as she won't have your back or help with what you want or need. I would just let her get on with it and not be involved. Ask her to do a reading if you think that would be more fitting but you need a bride squad you can rely on x

Having someone you don't get along with in your wedding party - sister or not - is a recipe for disaster. She doesn't want to be in your party anyway,from the sounds of it (or is that she wants to be MOH)?Of course,there's no law saying you can't have 2 MOH but this page is filled with stories from brides with difficult bridesmaids,and this problem is always compounded when someone has felt obligated to include someone because they're blood,despite not actually getting along. My advice would be to not have her involved so closely,and maybe look at alternative ways she can be involved

As long as you invite her to be a bridesmaid, you are doing your part. If she refuses, it's on her. You don't have to ask her to be your maid of honour just to please her.

Do you have children? Does your sister have children? I’ve got my eldest daughter as my maid of honour and my nieces and nephews as bridesmaids page boy and usher. If you have nieces and nephews say you are having your best friend and your nieces nephews as bridal party.

I wouldn't have her as my maid of honour, and if she's refusing to be a bridesmaid then just leave it at that. You've asked her to be a part of your wedding and she's refused so that's her choice.

Personally I think that’s emotional blackmail if she refuses to participate unless she is MOH and I wouldn’t allow it.

Against my better judgment I asked my sister to be bridesmaid (always had sketchy relationship, but all other siblings were involved) then 4 months before wedding she pulls out after an argument with our mother. Was left with a dress I couldn’t return, and she didn’t even come to the wedding.
Personally if she has said no to bridesmaid I’d ask if maybe she wanted to do a reading?

I don’t get along with my sister we never have but my niece is the flower girl at my wedding. My sister isn’t involved at all with the wedding she’s just coming as a guest.

Have a maid of honour and a chief bridesmaid if your sister is still not happy with that then personally I would just keep her as a guest as its your day and she is being unreasonable. Hope you have a lovely day!

I'd pick your friend.... I picked my sister thinking it would be amazing, we went to one dress shop, then nothing.... asked her to help my into my dress before the wedding.... said she would plan a hen thing, didn't, finally said she wouldn't be going to the evening, I told her not to come at all, I had no maid of honour.... no one to fit my dress properly, it truly sucked. Go with the one you want to be there. She will be there or she won't, it's your day, don't let her dictate x

Pick your friend. No obligations just because of blood, it's the relationships we (all) build that matter most x

Don’t do it!

If like me, my Sister has cut me off in the recent years (more so when dad died last year), so I've chosen my daughter & little granddaughter as bridesmaids & old school friend as Maid of Honour/Bridesmaid. My Sister never came to any social events when invited in the past ,so I knew I would be wasting my time.

Personally if you dont get on sister or not i wouldnt ask her, i have a feeling that you might well end up having more problems with her being in the wedding party rather than just a guest.

My daughter got married December last year & had 2 maids. Her bestie & her sister. Both able to tell if she was getting ott. If you want 2 maids go for it. If sister awkward ask her to be bridesmaid, if she says no, it's her choice. Whose going to be best at sorting you out on the day? Good luck & have a fantastic day.

I am having two maid of honours. No bridesmaids. There are no rules, have what you want.

I dont get on with my sister and never have so im not inviting her to my wedding. Sure it will cause a few grumps with in the family but I dint want my day ruined.

You could start out saying you're only having bridesmaids and no maid of honour. Then see who rises to the occasion. If one does step up into the role and really help you out, you can then add the title nearer the day and the evidence/actions will be hard to dispute.

Perhaps get her to be a witness rather than pushing something that doesn't need to be done. If she doesnt want to be part of the bridal party and you dont get on, you do not have to have family atall in your bridal party.

You can have whatever you want!